Need advice.

Hey everyone. I was hoping to get advice aimed at some of you Taurus ladies. But happy to hear any SERIOUS advice anyone has to lend….

Please bear with me on this long post…

So I am a Capricorn male. To the T. I rarely date and constantly adventure and spend enough time alone that'd i've really found and know myself, causing some of the colder aspects of my personality to be nearly abolished. I'm more emotionally open. I try to not let work overwhelm my life. I enjoy taking risks to show myself how intuitive I can be.

As stated, I usually don't date. I'm frequently flirted with, but I'm more than willing to reply to the exchange by saying something completely ridiculous. I’m never mean.

I believe in my intuitivity enough that I've never seen anything in these girls. I've never felt bad with these sabotages. I never approach strange women, without a sign from them first…

I enjoy being single, I enjoy my freedom, unchained and undirected. But I would give all this up for a serious emotionally-connected long lasting relationship that I would fight tooth&nail for to never have it end. So let's move on to said girl.

So I'm not the hugest astrology buff. I'm too rational, that I understand that there's way more to a personality than their natal chart.

I actually ended a relationship with someone that couldn't look past it. But there's too much accuracy in it to deny it's not completely useful.

I'm was not all too familiar with Taurus’ until a few days ago. I met a girl at a family event (I know her sister). I actually saw a picture of her a few years back and I thought she was a goddess with true beauty. Something I rarely find.

Not being aware how Taurus’ in generalities “behave”. When we met I thought she was cold. I didn't see it in her that she was at all interested until the next day. For whatever the reason she warmed up quick.

That night we ended up talking a bit, holding hands and staring into each other’s eyes. I didn't feel we needed to be chatty. Just that we could sit close together and intuitively know each other. I tried to keep it light with the kissing, no tongue and light kissing on the neck. I told her I wouldn't sleep with her. I put her to bed. Then I went to bed. She pulls me out of bed, then we continue some more. As the kissing was getting a little more heavier It ends up being a little too rough on me for I am a basic sexual creature. So I put her back to bed.

I should mention there's a bit of an age difference, she's younger and starting her career. Her career is taking her overseas. And it's a huge opportunity. And I am a bird cage. A boat anchor. I couldn't dream of caging this girl.

And this was (besides my personal issues) why i refused sex.

I CAN NOT do a LDR. There is no way.

So that morning I woke up early hoping to sneakily jet back home with my 3 hours sleep. Secretly wanting not to see her. But fortunately that didn't happen and we said our goodbyes.

So without really knowing each other. There is no denying there is an unspoken connection. She can look right into me and my heart pounds.

The day after I get home, I look into Taurus’ attributes. And it was one of the most intense and scary feelings I can ever remember experiencing.

All I'm reading is completely confirmed by just being close and “feeling” this girl with just a few dozen words being said. I'm sick to my stomach.

So maybe I just put that all into writing to hear it out loud so to say. To get it off my chest. So to be less emotional about what I need to do and make a sober and clear decision. Maybe I've already decided what I'm going to do. I feel in pieces at the moment.

I can't do a long distance relationship. I can't be too involved in her life to compromise her career.

I guess my question is this: can I slowly make this work? Make contact. Just a random email once in awhile? Just to get to know her better and have her in my life? Or does this all sound like humongous pitfall and I should leave her be?

Life changes quickly and sometimes unexpectedly. If she found someone else, and we weren't too serious I can suck it up. I can say that I wouldn't be jealous.

Well. Wow. Long post is long.

Thanks for listening. 73’s.

I don't see anything wrong with pursuing something with someone that impacted you so greatly. I believe it is when you meet someone and are impacted by them, it is for a reason. To not call, search for her, I believe would be the end of it. Bc what the hell kind of woman wants such an encounter with a man and he not even call? Gtfo

I'm always curious as to why you wanted to leave secretly and not see her before you go? Makes zero sense to me so please elaborate

Sounds like you are cockblocking yourself. On another note, being patient with sex is nice of you, hopefully she took that in a way of respect and not rejection.

Dude. Move on. That's the rational move.

Posted by Mered1th
Dude. Move on. That's the rational move.

Why should he move on— He was obviously impacted by this lady!

I say, fight for it.

Your lives are pulling you both in different directions. I agree with you LD doesn't work unless you already have a solid foundation. But that doesn't mean you can't keep getting to know her as a friend.

If your able to handle it then explore where this may lead you... Taurus is into the slow and steady build anyways.

Thanks for the replies.

@wildflower

Haha. Chicken blocking. I've never heard that term before. Hilarious.

But yeah it a appears to be a case of chicken blocking. A self defense mechanism if you will.

But I agree it's extremely hard to unjustify these feelings.

@Mered1th

I agree that's the most rational move. But I'm in a state of irrational anxiety driven wonderment atm. I'm thinking I need to abandon the rationale.

@LadyNeptune

Thank you. I've taken that to heart. I was hoping to hear reconfirmation that this can happen slowly.