Taurus guy slooow to make a move..??

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So I was introduced to this Taurus guy 2 months ago and he seemed very sweet, friendly and so handsome and I kinda fell for him already then. After that I saw him at a bar and he was staring at me the whole evening, this intense gaze that almost made me uncomfortable but he didn't make a move. I didn't dare to make a move either which pissed me off later.....a week after he came to my work to join a meeting there and he seemed very shy to meet me and didn't say much either but later on he was staring and smiling at me from a distance. Since he didn't make a move at all after that I decided to write to him on facebook, just asking how things are going and so on. He replied after 3 whole Days and I wrote back to him but after that I haven't heard anything from him and its been a week now...what's up with this behaviour?? Was he just playing with me and pretended to be interested, or should I wait him out...?? Of course I can't forget about him now, but the situation is just weird..help!!
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OK-I got some great advice on this forum, so I am going to pass it along to you. First, make sure he is not married. Did you take a gander at his ring finger? If he is married, forget him now! He will not leave his wife, but he will not come right out and tell you that he is married. If he is not married, make sure he doesn't have a significant other (girlfriend or live in). He will not leave her either to pursue you. But he sure will let you think so. Be VERY cautious and keep your eyes and ears open.
His agenda is to get you interested in him, all the while he may just be flirting with you. Doesn't mean anything, and just when he has you close enough, he will back right off. He will disappear for weeks or months at a time. So just be prepared for that if you pursue him. Be friendly, but not flirty. Don't do or say anything about how attracted you are. Start off as just friends, and if he is single and ready to date you, take it slow and easy-because that's how he is. I'm sure he does find you attractive, that's why he's looking at you and smiling, etc...This is from personal experience too, because of my taurus, we had to start over from the beginning with new boundaries, and expectations. We are just starting over as friends, and building trust from there. Go about your life, and if he comes around, just be cool about it and be friends first.
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what's up with this behaviour?? Was he just playing with me and pretended to be interested, or should I wait him out...?? Of course I can't forget about him now, but the situation is just weird..help!!



The Earth sign pairing can be a beautiful thing....

But it can take a lifetime to get these two off the ground....

Example:
Taurus: Staring, shyly
Cappie: Staring shyly

Taurus: Moving slowly
Cappie: Moving slowly

Cappie: (cardinal) Shy Cappie makes the initial move, doesn't hear a response, has anxieties. possibly regretting the first move.
Taurus: (fixed) Shy Bull sees the FB message from Cappie, blushes, doesn't know how to repond, takes 3 days to pick and choose his words carefully, and then responds.

Cappie: Contacts the Bull
Bull: *let me see how interested you really are*....Waits patiently to be contacted again.
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If your reliable source is correct and he isn't married, or in a relationship, then he is waiting to see how interested you really are. You said you met him 2 months ago, and had a brief convo via facebook, etc..then nothing. Yep, he is just waiting you out. It's okay just to say "hi" periodically, if he never hears from you he will think you lost interest. So if you do contact him, remember, just keep it light. If he comes at you "full force" then be cautious. He will, and I repeat, he will disappear on you. He wants to see how deep you feel for him first. Then he will a) reciprocate your feelings or b) let you down with the "i can't pursue you I'm in a relationship" or something along those lines. Then you will feel foolish and humiliated. And if that does happen-tell him. Do not let him get away with that behavior. He will know right away he can't do that again, and he will adjust his behavior. Obviously I'm a pisces and we are a shy lot and it sounds like you are a shy cappie. But it seems like you want him to make the first move, he won't do it...Keep your emails, or msgs to surface stuff and whatnot, but nothing serious or emotional. Keep your feelings close to your chest right now. He's scoping you out.
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Oh, one more thing-I don't want you to think I'm an expert here-this is trial and error for me too with my taurus man. I just wanted you to know some things before you jump in head first (or heart first for that matter) It would have saved me a lot of heartache and tears if I had known some of this before I pursued something that I thought was destined for me...So I just don't want to see another woman go thru what I did, and make the same mistakes I did, because it hurts. So just hang in there, be confident, be a real lady and just be honest with him-but again, keep your feelings close you your chest for now.
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Posted by piscesgirl18
OK-I got some great advice on this forum, so I am going to pass it along to you. First, make sure he is not married. Did you take a gander at his ring finger? If he is married, forget him now! He will not leave his wife, but he will not come right out and tell you that he is married. If he is not married, make sure he doesn't have a significant other (girlfriend or live in). He will not leave her either to pursue you. But he sure will let you think so. Be VERY cautious and keep your eyes and ears open.
His agenda is to get you interested in him, all the while he may just be flirting with you. Doesn't mean anything, and just when he has you close enough, he will back right off. He will disappear for weeks or months at a time. So just be prepared for that if you pursue him. Be friendly, but not flirty. Don't do or say anything about how attracted you are. Start off as just friends, and if he is single and ready to date you, take it slow and easy-because that's how he is. I'm sure he does find you attractive, that's why he's looking at you and smiling, etc...This is from personal experience too, because of my taurus, we had to start over from the beginning with new boundaries, and expectations. We are just starting over as friends, and building trust from there. Go about your life, and if he comes around, just be cool about it and be friends first.



I think , you are giving a great advise! at least it explains a lot to me 😉 regarding why my Taurus was so pushy at first and than disappeared and obviously reappeared again. However, if you can just explain me his behavior ... after another date he changed completely and right now I don't know what to do or think.. we had a date, everything went great, he was treating me right, making plans for future and was literally all over me BUT the next day he just politely canceled on me! also, he told me that im great this and that but we're rushing! My reaction was like ok, let's leave it as it is, I am not pushing you.. so after that we didn't talk for a little while. Than I contacted him, he was super happy! the next time he did call me first, now he just all quite .. I mean he doesn't make any moves. if I call him he responses immediately and seems very happy about it, but he doesn't seem taking any other actions. so what should I do? just ignore him and disappear for a month or shou
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Posted by piscesgirl18
If your reliable source is correct and he isn't married, or in a relationship, then he is waiting to see how interested you really are. You said you met him 2 months ago, and had a brief convo via facebook, etc..then nothing. Yep, he is just waiting you out. It's okay just to say "hi" periodically, if he never hears from you he will think you lost interest. So if you do contact him, remember, just keep it light. If he comes at you "full force" then be cautious. He will, and I repeat, he will disappear on you. He wants to see how deep you feel for him first. Then he will a) reciprocate your feelings or b) let you down with the "i can't pursue you I'm in a relationship" or something along those lines. Then you will feel foolish and humiliated. And if that does happen-tell him. Do not let him get away with that behavior. He will know right away he can't do that again, and he will adjust his behavior. Obviously I'm a pisces and we are a shy lot and it sounds like you are a shy cappie. But it seems like you want him to make the first move, he won't do it...Keep your emails, or msgs to surface stuff and whatnot, but nothing serious or emotional. Keep your feelings close to your chest right now. He's scoping you out.



" and just when he has you close enough, he will back right off. He will disappear for weeks or months at a time." TRUE
" If he comes at you "full force" then be cautious. He will, and I repeat, he will disappear on you. He wants to see how deep you feel for him first." TRUE! BUT WHAT SHOULD WE DO IN THIS CASE? STILL SHOW INTEREST OR DON'T CARE ATTITUDE?
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sorry, your message got cut off. I am going to assume you are saying should you ignore him, or should you continue to contact him?? Listen, this guy is going to run hot and cold on you. Yes, he most probably likes you. And is confused about his feelings. He may even have a girlfriend already. Who knows (but you won't know until you ask). This doesn't seem like it's exclusive so he may be dating others, and if he is so what? You date other people too. He politely cancelled because he wanted to see if you would get upset or angry. That would give him a reason to walk away. Of course you both had a great time on your date, he was relaxed and into you. But then he got home and thought "wow, I think I made a fool of myself and I don't want this girl thinking I'm going to marry her". Taurus men like to talk about the future because really, they want to make sure that is set in stone. No one can control the future, but taurus guys try as much as they can to control what they can. I'm sure he is happy to hear from you, he wants you to call and talk to him. He just won't do the calling. Just don't call all the time. Wait to see if he calls you every once in a while. He knows you are going to call him, so he doesn't have to put in the effort. You have to decide if that's okay with you.
Don't run a game on him. He will see right thru it and it will make him mad. He will completely shut down if he thinks you are playing him. Just be friendly (like I said above). He is testing his boundaries with you. Set your boundaries and be very clear with him what those boundaries are. And if you hold off by calling him to see if he calls, and he doesn't call...you have to decide if you are okay with that too.
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sorry, your message got cut off. I am going to assume you are saying should you ignore him, or should you continue to contact him?? Listen, this guy is going to run hot and cold on you. Yes, he most probably likes you. And is confused about his feelings. He may even have a girlfriend already. Who knows (but you won't know until you ask). This doesn't seem like it's exclusive so he may be dating others, and if he is so what? You date other people too. He politely cancelled because he wanted to see if you would get upset or angry. That would give him a reason to walk away. Of course you both had a great time on your date, he was relaxed and into you. But then he got home and thought "wow, I think I made a fool of myself and I don't want this girl thinking I'm going to marry her". Taurus men like to talk about the future because really, they want to make sure that is set in stone. No one can control the future, but taurus guys try as much as they can to control what they can. I'm sure he is happy to hear from you, he wants you to call and talk to him. He just won't do the calling. Just don't call all the time. Wait to see if he calls you every once in a while. He knows you are going to call him, so he doesn't have to put in the effort. You have to decide if that's okay with you.
Don't run a game on him. He will see right thru it and it will make him mad. He will completely shut down if he thinks you are playing him. Just be friendly (like I said above). He is testing his boundaries with you. Set your boundaries and be very clear with him what those boundaries are. And if you hold off by calling him to see if he calls, and he doesn't call...you have to decide if you are okay with that too.



Got it. I think, I will just stop contacting him and ignore his nice comments online... if he won't start wonder why I've got so cold and won't ask, then I don't think that there is even a point to start explaining him, where he is wrong. it's just I also want to see nice actions in return, otherwise why I have to make someone feel good and give them my positive energy..
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sorry, your message got cut off. I am going to assume you are saying should you ignore him, or should you continue to contact him?? Listen, this guy is going to run hot and cold on you. Yes, he most probably likes you. And is confused about his feelings. He may even have a girlfriend already. Who knows (but you won't know until you ask). This doesn't seem like it's exclusive so he may be dating others, and if he is so what? You date other people too. He politely cancelled because he wanted to see if you would get upset or angry. That would give him a reason to walk away. Of course you both had a great time on your date, he was relaxed and into you. But then he got home and thought "wow, I think I made a fool of myself and I don't want this girl thinking I'm going to marry her". Taurus men like to talk about the future because really, they want to make sure that is set in stone. No one can control the future, but taurus guys try as much as they can to control what they can. I'm sure he is happy to hear from you, he wants you to call and talk to him. He just won't do the calling. Just don't call all the time. Wait to see if he calls you every once in a while. He knows you are going to call him, so he doesn't have to put in the effort. You have to decide if that's okay with you.
Don't run a game on him. He will see right thru it and it will make him mad. He will completely shut down if he thinks you are playing him. Just be friendly (like I said above). He is testing his boundaries with you. Set your boundaries and be very clear with him what those boundaries are. And if you hold off by calling him to see if he calls, and he doesn't call...you have to decide if you are okay with that too.
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it's just I've being very patient and calm all this time, but it becomes hard for me lol... I want to tell him soooo much and what I think of it and etc., it doesn't mean that I'm angry, but yea I just feel like speaking up. and since he never asked, I don't feel like telling him all this on my own.. the same time he keeps on bugging me online and etc., but never makes further moves.. so for me it's like a torture either do it or don't even exist lol
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I agree with jeannegrey-His behavior is typical and you have to keep going and be patient. He will be doing exactly that same thing. Remember, being angry is different from being confused and hurt, and everyone wants to be treated with kindness, sometimes it just doesn't work that way. But again, set your boundaries and make sure he knows what those boundaries are. If you feel like speaking up then do it, but be rational and almost analytical about it. Taurus men do not like the emotional outpouring-he will bolt-but they do respond very well to a rational thought out argument regarding his actions. For example say 1) Your actions are confusing to me and then go into a brief explanation as to why they are confusing. 2) There are times when I would like to get a call from you then brief explanation, (you get the gist) He never asks because he doesn't want to get into an argument or a confrontational situation with you. He's well aware of how he is making you feel. Keep that in mind.
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I agree with jeannegrey-His behavior is typical and you have to keep going and be patient. He will be doing exactly that same thing. Remember, being angry is different from being confused and hurt, and everyone wants to be treated with kindness, sometimes it just doesn't work that way. But again, set your boundaries and make sure he knows what those boundaries are. If you feel like speaking up then do it, but be rational and almost analytical about it. Taurus men do not like the emotional outpouring-he will bolt-but they do respond very well to a rational thought out argument regarding his actions. For example say 1) Your actions are confusing to me and then go into a brief explanation as to why they are confusing. 2) There are times when I would like to get a call from you then brief explanation, (you get the gist) He never asks because he doesn't want to get into an argument or a confrontational situation with you. He's well aware of how he is making you feel. Keep that in mind.



ok girls, thanks for advise ... so it is good to be straight up with Taurus, otherwise they just don't get it, right? also, what are other things that I should know about Taurus? so that it could help me to communicate with him more and on deeper level
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Well, do not lie to him. About anything. He will check your story (if he can) and if he finds any discrepancies, he will question you. then he will start to question everything. Don't try to make him jealous, he will get angry. If he is really worth it, be patient and stick it out. But also remember that you are a person too, and your feelings and thoughts are valid and worth something. So don't be a doormat, he won't respect you and will grow to resent it.
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virgo here and i've had two run-ins with taurus men back to back just last year so i'm speaking solely from how these taurus men acted. not an expert obviously but from experience... so YES, be direct and succinct with these men. even if they are into you, their way of communicating is kind of like a bull nudging grass towards your way and you have to either pick it up or throw it back at him. for example, i had just met this second taurus guy in a group outing.. we exchanged information. a couple days later he messages me saying my friend left her jacket at his place and to make sure to come get it.. we talked for a bit after that but from what i take it, that was definitely an opportunity he left there for me. at the time i was still dating the first taurus guy (but things were already on the way to the end) so i wasn't too keen on jumping at it. PLUS this guy was a model, a BEAUTIFUL man and i was sooo intimidated... but of course eventually i did, and he replied right away as if he was just waiting for me to take the bait. no wait. no delayed response time and with a straightforward answer. of course he was only in the country until his contract ended so maybe he was more no nonsense.

first taurus guy still contacts me even though i broke things off with him MONTHS ago. he literally would message me stupid questions EVERY week when i knew his intentions were to reconnect. but that was his communication style .. kinda sniffing around the grass... very persistently. we have a lot of mutual friends so i wasn't going to tell him off so i had to block him for a bit. it got super annoying. i unblocked him recently thinking maybe he would get the hint now since i hadn't been responding to him... but he STILL messages me. okay anyway.. long story short.. the taurus men in my experience are very direct once you take the bait they nudge at you. the thing is you have to actually TAKE action to either pick it up or don't.
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Hi all-I thought I would go back and reread some of my own advice to keep my head level and grounded. I have been a little busy so haven't been able to update (not like anyone asked) BUT, once again, my taurus man has disappeared, but now I know what he is doing so I can handle this better. And, I am dating others, which is a nice distraction. I do still email him about every month (six weeks) or so and if he wants to respond, he will. If he doesn't he won't. Either way, it's his choice. But I have this funny feeling that he will. When he senses I am losing interest in him, then all of a sudden, boom, there he is. Typical. Oh well, I did ask him to give me time to get myself in order and to put myself first, so he is honoring that and respecting my boundaries, and that's all I can ask of him. It is just so liberating and to be able to go back and read my advice to others just makes me feel so much better in that I know I am going down the right path. If he is ignoring me because he is upset with me, I can't do anything about that. He has to be able to tell me he is mad...I certainly can't read minds.
also, I liked TeaMint's comment, made me laugh. If you don't know about his little games and agenda, why should he know about yours. Tick Tock is right...
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I'm beyond confused about my taurus now. And I've also realized that I seem to attract the scorpio moon variety a lot. So I haven't seen him in about a month now, and two weeks ago he told me he needed to speak to me. Of course, it took him a week to call. When he finally did, I knew what it was that he was going to say- that he's not ready for a relationship yet because he has a lot going on, and he told me that he really likes me a lot and doesn't want to ruin our friendship. And I was okay with that. He seems to have dropped off the face of the planet after that. I messaged asking if he's ok, but absolute radio silence. I'm not sure why this is, given that I was okay with us being friends and didn't come on too strong or do anything weird. Nor did I behave in a way that would make him feel like he needs to ignore me. Then what's with the weird silent treatment? So, so confused.