Taurus Men...help!

Hey everyone!

I need help and would love some good answers about a Taurus male I'm dating.

Met him two months ago and we hit it off instantly. Going out on dates, texting talking all day (literally). Extremely affectionate (his pet name for me is sunshine and he always calls me beautiful, gorgeous, pretty.) and vocal about missing me and wanting to be around me. We make sure that we take time out to see one another on the weekends since during the week it's a little hectic with work and being a parent. He's also very generous with financial help. Always willing to help and let's me know he's there if I need him.

All is going PERFECT until one day I don't hear from him at all. We talk morning, noon and night. So I know something is up. He informed me that he would be going on trip to WI with his brother and friends. Well on the day of the trip, I didn't hear from him. No text, no calls, no updates of how is day was. Very unusual when you normally talk to a person all day. We spent time with one another the night before which makes it even more wierd that I haven't heard from him.

I'm wanting to know has he disappeared on me? Should I be just as blunt as him and don't reach out (I'm a Capricorn), or reach out to him and let him know that I'm here for him if anything is wrong. I like him a lot and I see the potential for our relationship, but I'm not one for games.

i don't know if we love consistency or if we become spoiled...maybe a bit of both lol, but any switch up in the routine is a no-no.

idk. i don't think its a thing to simply atleast let you know he made it safely, but that's just me.

Posted by busyeyes88
no disrespect if he has gone abroad on holiday surely you don't expect to hear from him and talk to him as you normally would?! You even saw him the night before the trip!!! You are sounding really really clingy and desperate. Carry on with your busy life looking after your child and once he has settled in to his holiday he will be in contact. Taurus don't like clingy people!!! He's not playing games.. He has gone on holiday with the lads.. Don't become too dependent on him which sounds as if you have become dependent on him... Give him his space and he will return.. Cling to him and he will run..

Thanks for the response. Ironically, I'm not the clingy type. The things he's doing actually cause me to run (I didn't run this time, I stayed around) I've been told that I should show way more emotion because I can be very cold and blunt. Took a different approach with dating him.

No issue with seeing him the night before the trip. We see each other every weekend, so it seems normal to me.

I agree with everything Busy said. He's on vacation... How many days has it been since you've heard from him? Plus, I think men tend to come on really strong in the beginning of courtship & that always makes me leery of their intention. It's the woman's job to pump the breaks & maintain a life of her own. Space things out. There is no need to text back & forth ALL day, EVERY day. What tends to happen is the man comes on too strong in the honeymoon/infatuation stage, the woman gets attached, by 3-6 months the man is over it & the woman is left wondering what happened.

i think as earth also we get used to routines.

my taurus friend is not really consistent at all. was extremely consistent in the beginning, slowed it all the way down, and just does as he pleases, but regardless of that...i manage to figure out the routine and still manage to have expectations. i guess it's a no win for him because even if we talk once a week and i see him every two weeks, ill expect those actions within the time frame. its like independent from everyday communication and freedom, but dependant on things within a certain time frame. i guess in a way can't shake the dependancy.

but hey, as a taurus thats yourbthing being dependable, and as caps we love having that one person we can depend on.

i guess in a way, busy is right in breaking that, although what would be left lol? we really do love consistency.

@busyeyes08 I guess I was trying to reciprocate the same thing he did for me when I went on vacation. He communicated with me a lot when i was away. But yes, I've gotten spoiled with the constant communication.

No we aren't exclusive. We're actually dating other ppl (doesn't appear that way right?). You're right, two months is short, but it's been an intense two mths (no intimacy either!)

Posted by lnana04
i don't know if we love consistency or if we become spoiled...maybe a bit of both lol, but any switch up in the routine is a no-no.

idk. i don't think its a thing to simply atleast let you know he made it safely, but that's just me.

Which is why you should never do anything that you cant continue.

@I04 I love consistentcy lol. W/o it, it's a red flag to me.

Ditto. Consistency is very important to me to.

If you aren't, i dont take you seriously

DMV, I cant quote you on this phone but YES!!! You got it...don't do what you can't continue.

he owes her no explanation yet he's been calling, texting, taking her on dates and helping financially lol.

if the two of you are not exclusive, whats the hold up? my taurus and i aren't exclusive either and i often feel that he'll throw a curve ball to remind me he doesn't owe me THAT much. in a way I feel he doesn't want exclusivity but on the flip side i feel he's upset about us not being exclusive.

why haven't the two of you taken it to the next step?

@busyeye I opened this thread to ask questions like many others have done. No harm right?

Nonetheless, he reached out to me this morning to let me know in the midst of his trip yesterday he got his phone wet and its broken. He was able to purchase a new one this morning and now the communication is back flowing

I will ask, since the thread is open now. Any do's and dont's with Taurus men while we continue to date.

I appreciate the feed back 🙂.

are you sure he reached out? why do you say this morning and not a few minutes ago? this thread hasn't been open that long.

@I04 he just got of a relationship (he let me know he wanted to see what the single life was like. Fine with me) I also knew I wasn't ready for a relationship myself so we agreed to date and have fun.

However, things have been going so great! A relationship sounds like it should be the next step, an yes we do talk about it. I guess it's just a matter of time.

@I04 I have a funny way with wording. But yes I'm positive he reached out. If I was able to post a screen shot, I definitely would lol.

@busybee & @I04 i know the relationship phase is coming. But where we're at right now works for me. I'm pretty cold. So had he not reached out to me by end of today, I would've cut him off and not thought twice about it.

if he just got out of a relationship he might really not be ready to date again, regardless of how he treats you. it can just feel good to him to do things for you but i think you should slow it down mentally and emotionally until he says he's ready, idk.

you wouldn't have cut him off. it sounds good but that's not what would have happened trust me lol.

im cold too...well, use to be. you are not this way with him because of what you've heard about yourself in the past, or because you are trying something different. you are warmer than usual because he brings it out of you. be honest with yourself in that.

@busybee & @i04 I think you're both right. I should probably slow down a bit on my emotions. An yes no sex! Sex is the last thing on my mind.

Funny you brought up the friend zone. I told him from the beginning, it's always good to start a friendship versus jumping straight into relationship. That way if things happen to go left, we can still be friends after it all.

idk. im no Taurus but i don't think there's a real friendship if any romantic interest is there. i think most of all, that's what hurts me in my situation with my taurus...the fact that we are not really friends i don't feel.

i worked with a Taurus who was best friends with a cap after they dated but they were literally best friends before for years. im not sure with the two of you dating now a real friendship could happen because that's not how your situation started, but again idk.

@busybee is he still "into you" even after letting him know you would like to slow down?

@i04 are you and you're Taurus dating or in a relationship?

I'm no relationship expert, but I enjoy hearing relationship stories with astrology involved!

girl, i don't know what we are doing.

Its been very confusing trying to figure out exactly what I want, so the most ive asked him is how do we work towards more?

i always felt my expectations would rise if i asked for a relationship, and there will be greater disappointment if the relationship doesn't run as smoothly as i feel one should. i just feel things will be even more intense than they are, and I dont really want that because i can get pretty low when disappointed, which is usually.

however i just feel this is lightweight compared to what id expect once things would get serious. i just don't really want to go "there."

tls said something i can relate to as a cap about his cancer ex. disappointment really cuts deep and affects us in ways that as time passes, is hard to recover from...nearly impossible even. when i asked to work towards more that was my way of expressing that id like to move forward but he shut it down so parts of me have been just a bit closed off since. in the very beginning i would shut it down when he'd ask for more, so i now see how he felt and see how that feels. we are just riding the waves i guess. a situation that probably had potential just wrong timing.