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Taurus Mixed Signal
Posted by RaptorWhere are you from?
I have this long distance relationship with this taurus (4 hours drive) we met for 4 times and everything is so like fantasy thing in 3 months relationship. She has been single for 3 years (just having some casual sex in between) and after having met me we fall hard for each other
Then the LDR continues because of her study, with more intense case, we have to survived 7 hours difference timezone, this phase is really make us grew distant. We fought almost everyday because she most likely will abandoned me while she s being there with her friends.
But we still love this relationship and try to hold on til one day she tell me she couldnt do more. The love has gone away since i m shutting out myself for 5 days (she dont do anything to search for me because she is with her friend) i knew this is my fault but i cant stand to feel jealous over her friend (which is she showed some sexual interested) and feel like she always prioritizing her friends over me. Ouch and she also feel like im being over clingy but she knew it s also because of her acts before she fly abroad - pampering me so much and make me holding on to her like nobody else exists in this whole world. And before i can realize we have 7 hours difference timezone, pop, it s happened and i lost my sanity control haha and i admit i ve been so bad for us
And we fight over her bad influence friends (doing weeds, drinking, clubbing which she didnt do while being in our country) and for now, we have been in 3 no contact phases (which are always broken because she search for me) she dont want me to leave her alone, but when we talk, i dont like it because i still have the love for her while she just wanted to be friend (and we can go back having the same relationship as before when we meet on this August - with physical touches and all) because she cant stand the LDR (we have to do this for 2 years more). Our relationship is going distant because she shut her emotional out and this 4rd phase of no contact, she promised she wouldnt contact me for any reason anymore because i said (for every nc) i want to have some space to move on from our breakup before i can get to be friend with her again
I dont really understand why she is doing like this, search for me but when we talk, she doesnt show so much interest to talk to me, but still wanted me in her life, perhaps its because she dont like changes, this is so exhausting like im only the one who is excited over this relationship, but i dont know what should i do after this NC phase, i dont know if its better to leave her for ever, or befriending her again with no love interest or whatever because our end mission for this relationship is not matching. She wouldnt do anything anymore for this relationship, just hoping me to try my best to woo her again, im trying but its hard since she doesnt show any interest and perhaps it s because i still expecting her to love me back like before.
Sorry for the long post, but i really need some enlightment why this taurus behaving like this and what should i do ? I am a cancer and perhaps i already know what i should do, calm down, dont be clingy, neutralize my feeling first, but im also eager to understand this mixed signals, if anybody can help? Thank you so much!
You said a four hour drive yet seven hour time difference. Then you said she flew somewhere with a seven hour time difference.
You sound like you're from a culture who likes to control women.
How old are you?
You've only met four times? This is NOT a relationship. As you say in your first section, it's a fantasy. It's all in your head.
If things are like this now, how do you think it will be for the next two years?
Have you given this ANY logical or reasoned thought? No I didn't think so.
Did you discuss a realistic plan with her for the next two years? It doesn't sound like you did.
It sounds like you were a 'fling' before she went away. Now she can't get rid of you.
Cancer male. Emotionally manipulative.
I am a cancer girl, hope you re not having a gender's bias 🙂 we are having vacations together even we met only for 4 times, but once is for a week time, so she already said she love me, calling me baby and said i love you, i miss you all, and also said her priority changed since she s having me in her life. She even said her life would be meaningless if i am not there for her. We even planned on living together (she said like this before i am doing 5 days no contact to give ourself time to relax - before all the things changes)
We re living in the same country with the LDR term, same country but diff state (4 hours drive) and she fly abroad, made the LDR gone more crazy with 7 hours diff timezone (different country), so this is when all things gone apart. I knew i ve been reacting so bad because i m always wanted the best for her, and perhaps we really cant live apart for this long and this distance.
She said she is not going to do clubbing, drinking, stoning and all if i was there with her, you know, taurus is mostly preferred to just cuddling at home rather than going out, if im not mistaken?
So i am questioning why she is friend zoning me while she needed me in her life? She wanted me only as her friend while she is really in love with me before (clearly it is not only my fantasy) She wanted me but dont want to commit, but when we re contacting, she doesnt show me any interest. Even if as a friend, she should show some interest to talk to me at least, as im thinking but it is only me who is interested to talk to her
For now, i m trying to accept the fact she is friend zoning me while she is abroad, but she did said, she definitely will search for me this August when she came back here for a holiday, and we can do everything we want unlike a friend should do - which is what left me hanging. I want a stable relationship, even if i need to wait for her in this 2 more years without having any physical touches with anybody, i would do it, because i m really commited with this relationship. She is also wanted to be loyal to me (while she is in love with me), but suddenly the feeling is gone, she said she will search for other girls for some casual sex
i guess the real problem is we really can t stand LDR, but if i wanted to make this clear, how would you suggest? I m feeling like i ve been left hanging, i maybe wanted to search for other girl, but if she suddenly wanted me back, how would i react? Or what i can expect from how she is reacting? If you really can understand my situation, im sorry if i made you confused but i m real glad for any of your opinion 🙂 thanks!
We re living in the same country with the LDR term, same country but diff state (4 hours drive) and she fly abroad, made the LDR gone more crazy with 7 hours diff timezone (different country), so this is when all things gone apart. I knew i ve been reacting so bad because i m always wanted the best for her, and perhaps we really cant live apart for this long and this distance.
She said she is not going to do clubbing, drinking, stoning and all if i was there with her, you know, taurus is mostly preferred to just cuddling at home rather than going out, if im not mistaken?
So i am questioning why she is friend zoning me while she needed me in her life? She wanted me only as her friend while she is really in love with me before (clearly it is not only my fantasy) She wanted me but dont want to commit, but when we re contacting, she doesnt show me any interest. Even if as a friend, she should show some interest to talk to me at least, as im thinking but it is only me who is interested to talk to her
For now, i m trying to accept the fact she is friend zoning me while she is abroad, but she did said, she definitely will search for me this August when she came back here for a holiday, and we can do everything we want unlike a friend should do - which is what left me hanging. I want a stable relationship, even if i need to wait for her in this 2 more years without having any physical touches with anybody, i would do it, because i m really commited with this relationship. She is also wanted to be loyal to me (while she is in love with me), but suddenly the feeling is gone, she said she will search for other girls for some casual sex
i guess the real problem is we really can t stand LDR, but if i wanted to make this clear, how would you suggest? I m feeling like i ve been left hanging, i maybe wanted to search for other girl, but if she suddenly wanted me back, how would i react? Or what i can expect from how she is reacting? If you really can understand my situation, im sorry if i made you confused but i m real glad for any of your opinion 🙂 thanks!
It's the long distance relationship.
Bad habits, monotonous pattern.
Immaturity.
She'a a Baby Bull in training wheels, the potential for loyalty and longevity is present....
Unfortunately for you right now, she's isn't there yet.
Bad habits, monotonous pattern.
Immaturity.
She'a a Baby Bull in training wheels, the potential for loyalty and longevity is present....
Unfortunately for you right now, she's isn't there yet.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
It's the long distance relationship.
Bad habits, monotonous pattern.
Immaturity.
She'a a Baby Bull in training wheels, the potential for loyalty and longevity is present....
Unfortunately for you right now, she's isn't there yet.
Lmao! Baby bull on training wheels—
Lol
Posted by Raptor
I am a cancer girl, hope you re not having a gender's bias 🙂 we are having vacations together even we met only for 4 times, but once is for a week time, so she already said she love me, calling me baby and said i love you, i miss you all, and also said her priority changed since she s having me in her life. She even said her life would be meaningless if i am not there for her. We even planned on living together (she said like this before i am doing 5 days no contact to give ourself time to relax - before all the things changes)
We re living in the same country with the LDR term, same country but diff state (4 hours drive) and she fly abroad, made the LDR gone more crazy with 7 hours diff timezone (different country), so this is when all things gone apart. I knew i ve been reacting so bad because i m always wanted the best for her, and perhaps we really cant live apart for this long and this distance.
She said she is not going to do clubbing, drinking, stoning and all if i was there with her, you know, taurus is mostly preferred to just cuddling at home rather than going out, if im not mistaken?
So i am questioning why she is friend zoning me while she needed me in her life? She wanted me only as her friend while she is really in love with me before (clearly it is not only my fantasy) She wanted me but dont want to commit, but when we re contacting, she doesnt show me any interest. Even if as a friend, she should show some interest to talk to me at least, as im thinking but it is only me who is interested to talk to her
For now, i m trying to accept the fact she is friend zoning me while she is abroad, but she did said, she definitely will search for me this August when she came back here for a holiday, and we can do everything we want unlike a friend should do - which is what left me hanging. I want a stable relationship, even if i need to wait for her in this 2 more years without having any physical touches with anybody, i would do it, because i m really commited with this relationship. She is also wanted to be loyal to me (while she is in love with me), but suddenly the feeling is gone, she said she will search for other girls for some casual sex
i guess the real problem is we really can t stand LDR, but if i wanted to make this clear, how would you suggest? I m feeling like i ve been left hanging, i maybe wanted to search for other girl, but if she suddenly wanted me back, how would i react? Or what i can expect from how she is reacting? If you really can understand my situation, im sorry if i made you confused but i m real glad for any of your opinion 🙂 thanks!
This is a fantasy relationship that exist in your mind. It's not a Long Distance Relationship to her, to her you are friend who boosts her ego by your self-loathing obsession. She says many things but her behavior is very different than her words. She knows you are hopelessly wrapped around her finger, and she enjoys stringing you along for amusement. But you can't tell a Cancer nothing. The Cancer is in a deep fantasy from a condition called love addiction. In love addiction the love addicts gets addicted to a fantasy of a happily ever after ending with someone who is geographically or emotionally unavailable. In this case both are involved. The other girl is called the avoidant addict. The avoidant addicts keeps the love addict on a string and only gives enough to get the ego boosted. Cancers are cardinals and I respect that, you can't tell them anything. But for all the rest of you who can clearly see how very sick this OP is, she can't see. Anyway the website is SLAA.Org
Posted by TaurusBull1977Ouch the Baby Bull is so damn cute ? thank you so much for your reply, how would you suggest me to do for this while? I cant seem to let this out of my mind. At the corner of my mind and heart i m still hoping that we will work out together in the future
It's the long distance relationship.
Bad habits, monotonous pattern.
Immaturity.
She'a a Baby Bull in training wheels, the potential for loyalty and longevity is present....
Unfortunately for you right now, she's isn't there yet.
Posted by GoodtimesI would love to know how you would suggest me to do? Is it better if i stay befriending her or just let it go since you said she is just stringing me along for her ego boost? I d said i agreed with you about the cancerians ? but if i can find out how im supposed to do, i d try my best! It is just i m confused and dont know if what im doing is the best for both parties. I still think perhaps i can do better for us? (if there is any way)Posted by Raptor
I am a cancer girl, hope you re not having a gender's bias 🙂 we are having vacations together even we met only for 4 times, but once is for a week time, so she already said she love me, calling me baby and said i love you, i miss you all, and also said her priority changed since she s having me in her life. She even said her life would be meaningless if i am not there for her. We even planned on living together (she said like this before i am doing 5 days no contact to give ourself time to relax - before all the things changes)
We re living in the same country with the LDR term, same country but diff state (4 hours drive) and she fly abroad, made the LDR gone more crazy with 7 hours diff timezone (different country), so this is when all things gone apart. I knew i ve been reacting so bad because i m always wanted the best for her, and perhaps we really cant live apart for this long and this distance.
She said she is not going to do clubbing, drinking, stoning and all if i was there with her, you know, taurus is mostly preferred to just cuddling at home rather than going out, if im not mistaken?
So i am questioning why she is friend zoning me while she needed me in her life? She wanted me only as her friend while she is really in love with me before (clearly it is not only my fantasy) She wanted me but dont want to commit, but when we re contacting, she doesnt show me any interest. Even if as a friend, she should show some interest to talk to me at least, as im thinking but it is only me who is interested to talk to her
For now, i m trying to accept the fact she is friend zoning me while she is abroad, but she did said, she definitely will search for me this August when she came back here for a holiday, and we can do everything we want unlike a friend should do - which is what left me hanging. I want a stable relationship, even if i need to wait for her in this 2 more years without having any physical touches with anybody, i would do it, because i m really commited with this relationship. She is also wanted to be loyal to me (while she is in love with me), but suddenly the feeling is gone, she said she will search for other girls for some casual sex
i guess the real problem is we really can t stand LDR, but if i wanted to make this clear, how would you suggest? I m feeling like i ve been left hanging, i maybe wanted to search for other girl, but if she suddenly wanted me back, how would i react? Or what i can expect from how she is reacting? If you really can understand my situation, im sorry if i made you confused but i m real glad for any of your opinion 🙂 thanks!
This is a fantasy relationship that exist in your mind. It's not a Long Distance Relationship to her, to her you are friend who boosts her ego by your self-loathing obsession. She says many things but her behavior is very different than her words. She knows you are hopelessly wrapped around her finger, and she enjoys stringing you along for amusement. But you can't tell a Cancer nothing. The Cancer is in a deep fantasy from a condition called love addiction. In love addiction the love addicts gets addicted to a fantasy of a happily ever after ending with someone who is geographically or emotionally unavailable. In this case both are involved. The other girl is called the avoidant addict. The avoidant addicts keeps the love addict on a string and only gives enough to get the ego boosted. Cancers are cardinals and I respect that, you can't tell them anything. But for all the rest of you who can clearly see how very sick this OP is, she can't see. Anyway the website is SLAA.Orgclick to expand
yes, thank you for your reply! i agree with your statement, i m undoubtedly a pathetic and weak cancer, i m doing the no contact phases and do better for now but what made me still thinking is why she is always made me broke my no contact everytime when she got bad news eg from the first and third nc- her laptop got stolen and her granpa passed away, and the 2nd one is she did it on purpose, telling me she sometime think about me, needing someone who can pamper her (sober state) and did say in her drunk text - she need to be love by everyone that love her. this broke my cancer's heart of course, how can i want to let her struggling alone there with loneliness and dont feel she is loved eventhough she got some best friends, but both of them are far from her. and i can sense her loneliness and needing some love from a lover but she will be indifferent once she put her guard on, not like when she is in her vurnarable state with the neediness for love and pampering
and i dont want to do something that will make me regret it later, that s why i m still trying to understand this taurus eventhough i m being friendzoned, but i think she didnt tell me everything and what she told me isnt what she really feel, if you can suggest me, why would a taurus will do like this at first? Perhaps it is a sign she doesnt trust me or anything that change her mind to not love me anymore? i m doing the best i can and not changing anything if i dont want, if i m changing things, i knew they are the best for me though 🙂
and i dont want to do something that will make me regret it later, that s why i m still trying to understand this taurus eventhough i m being friendzoned, but i think she didnt tell me everything and what she told me isnt what she really feel, if you can suggest me, why would a taurus will do like this at first? Perhaps it is a sign she doesnt trust me or anything that change her mind to not love me anymore? i m doing the best i can and not changing anything if i dont want, if i m changing things, i knew they are the best for me though 🙂
Posted by Raptor
Ouch the Baby Bull is so damn cute ? thank you so much for your reply, how would you suggest me to do for this while? I cant seem to let this out of my mind. At the corner of my mind and heart i m still hoping that we will work out together in the future
My advice,
Don't allow room for flexibility, vagueness, or fickleness.
STICK to your guns.
This is a 'fixed' sign.
Do this....
And your Baby Bull will grow up!
Posted by TaurusBull1977Thank you so much for your reply! I would love to know if you can give some more advice on how to stick to my guns, perhaps any example i can apply when dealing with her so i can have some clues how to deal with this baby bull better. For now i am trying to go slow and make her interested again probably? She sometime seems like into me, sometime she isn't. I think the distance make us getting on to no progress at all and i need to always aware about this as you said before 🙂Posted by Raptor
Ouch the Baby Bull is so damn cute ? thank you so much for your reply, how would you suggest me to do for this while? I cant seem to let this out of my mind. At the corner of my mind and heart i m still hoping that we will work out together in the future
My advice,
Don't allow room for flexibility, vagueness, or fickleness.
STICK to your guns.
This is a 'fixed' sign.
Do this....
And your Baby Bull will grow up!click to expand
Mines been good I made no effort to reach out to mine at all since I felt iffy and he been in proper contact a few times this week not just messages and hes not been in contact at odd hours (to the other girl) at all from what I see compared to before. For now the routine is definitely is broken on that one but I am far from being ready to be convinced until I have longer to assess and see how he makes an effort with me. I've been a bit busy myself so I'm not hanging around in the hope he texts mind you. I've liked the space in between myself.
He still needs to do more work tho to convince me he's going to give me full attention. I'm not so hearts and mushy stuff now either as I was as I don't feel it like before because of the other girl situation. He needs to earn that back not even in a game way it's literally how I feel about it inside.
I'm not weak either thanks I spent 7 years in a VRRY male dominated industry and I have no issue verbally shutting down a guy when they try to undermine me as a female in this industry. I quite like being able to have a softer side in relationships so I don't mind appearing "weak" as you say to a degree .: actually I've always excelled in various male dominated industries and my Taurus knows this and knows me through that so the chance of him thinking I'm weak isn't really of concern to me as it adds a bit of femininity if anything. He always sends me things off the internet about Cancer and Taurus and how his Aqua ex is a terrible match with Taurus and how perfect Cancers are with Bulls all the things you hate about us ironically (he actually asked me what starsign I was first before we got together !)
So whilst a Taurus female may perceive week don't assume a Taurus man thinks the same ?! All men like strong feminine women - not abrasive brash females.
He still needs to do more work tho to convince me he's going to give me full attention. I'm not so hearts and mushy stuff now either as I was as I don't feel it like before because of the other girl situation. He needs to earn that back not even in a game way it's literally how I feel about it inside.
I'm not weak either thanks I spent 7 years in a VRRY male dominated industry and I have no issue verbally shutting down a guy when they try to undermine me as a female in this industry. I quite like being able to have a softer side in relationships so I don't mind appearing "weak" as you say to a degree .: actually I've always excelled in various male dominated industries and my Taurus knows this and knows me through that so the chance of him thinking I'm weak isn't really of concern to me as it adds a bit of femininity if anything. He always sends me things off the internet about Cancer and Taurus and how his Aqua ex is a terrible match with Taurus and how perfect Cancers are with Bulls all the things you hate about us ironically (he actually asked me what starsign I was first before we got together !)
So whilst a Taurus female may perceive week don't assume a Taurus man thinks the same ?! All men like strong feminine women - not abrasive brash females.
Posted by soundsunsceneThat sounds great. Support you, strong woman.
Mines been good I made no effort to reach out to mine at all since I felt iffy and he been in proper contact a few times this week not just messages and hes not been in contact at odd hours (to the other girl) at all from what I see compared to before. For now the routine is definitely is broken on that one but I am far from being ready to be convinced until I have longer to assess and see how he makes an effort with me. I've been a bit busy myself so I'm not hanging around in the hope he texts mind you. I've liked the space in between myself.
He still needs to do more work tho to convince me he's going to give me full attention. I'm not so hearts and mushy stuff now either as I was as I don't feel it like before because of the other girl situation. He needs to earn that back not even in a game way it's literally how I feel about it inside.
I'm not weak either thanks I spent 7 years in a VRRY male dominated industry and I have no issue verbally shutting down a guy when they try to undermine me as a female in this industry. I quite like being able to have a softer side in relationships so I don't mind appearing "weak" as you say to a degree .: actually I've always excelled in various male dominated industries and my Taurus knows this and knows me through that so the chance of him thinking I'm weak isn't really of concern to me as it adds a bit of femininity if anything. He always sends me things off the internet about Cancer and Taurus and how his Aqua ex is a terrible match with Taurus and how perfect Cancers are with Bulls all the things you hate about us ironically (he actually asked me what starsign I was first before we got together !)
So whilst a Taurus female may perceive week don't assume a Taurus man thinks the same ?! All men like strong feminine women - not abrasive brash females.
Definitely agree with the last line 🙂
Hello Raptor,
This sounds very similar to my relationship with my ex who was a cancer. You sound just like him. It is truly disheartening for me to read because it brings back bad memories of when I had to break my Cancers heart and let him go. Our relationship was long distance for almost 2 years and at first it was wonderful but then it went downhill. He was very obsessed like you and I know its hard to believe but I felt smothered even though it was long distance. We broke up about 6 months in but I went back to him because he was very good at the guilt trip and I already felt bad so I DID try again.
But almost near the end of the 2 year mark I was done. The reason I let it go on for 2 years is because my ex had problems, that I wont describe unless you want me to, and I didn't want to leave him until I knew he was in a good place so that a breakup wouldn't push him over the edge. I slowly backed away from him, not checking in, ignoring, eventually not talking to him for about a whole week, and when I did contact him he got the hint (unlike you) and we broke it off for good. Was that right of me? No. I'm 20 and I have a lot of learning and growing to do and I accept that.. Even after we broke up, he said he would like to get in touch (obsessed) a year later and the year is almost up (May) so i'm preparing for that.
The point is you need to let it go because your taurus does not want what you want. I said all of those things that your Taurus said to you about marriage and living together and yada yada and I did mean it BUT I meant it WHEN I said it. People can change their mind. Your girl is talking about wanting to see other people. No. Respect yourself. Even when I was in my LDR and it was falling apart I never suggested anything like that nor would I ever. You will find someone new who will love you just as much as you love them and they will show you instead of just saying it and wont have you all confused and on forums. Hopefully. 🙂
This sounds very similar to my relationship with my ex who was a cancer. You sound just like him. It is truly disheartening for me to read because it brings back bad memories of when I had to break my Cancers heart and let him go. Our relationship was long distance for almost 2 years and at first it was wonderful but then it went downhill. He was very obsessed like you and I know its hard to believe but I felt smothered even though it was long distance. We broke up about 6 months in but I went back to him because he was very good at the guilt trip and I already felt bad so I DID try again.
But almost near the end of the 2 year mark I was done. The reason I let it go on for 2 years is because my ex had problems, that I wont describe unless you want me to, and I didn't want to leave him until I knew he was in a good place so that a breakup wouldn't push him over the edge. I slowly backed away from him, not checking in, ignoring, eventually not talking to him for about a whole week, and when I did contact him he got the hint (unlike you) and we broke it off for good. Was that right of me? No. I'm 20 and I have a lot of learning and growing to do and I accept that.. Even after we broke up, he said he would like to get in touch (obsessed) a year later and the year is almost up (May) so i'm preparing for that.
The point is you need to let it go because your taurus does not want what you want. I said all of those things that your Taurus said to you about marriage and living together and yada yada and I did mean it BUT I meant it WHEN I said it. People can change their mind. Your girl is talking about wanting to see other people. No. Respect yourself. Even when I was in my LDR and it was falling apart I never suggested anything like that nor would I ever. You will find someone new who will love you just as much as you love them and they will show you instead of just saying it and wont have you all confused and on forums. Hopefully. 🙂
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But we still love this relationship and try to hold on til one day she tell me she couldnt do more. The love has gone away since i m shutting out myself for 5 days (she dont do anything to search for me because she is with her friend) i knew this is my fault but i cant stand to feel jealous over her friend (which is she showed some sexual interested) and feel like she always prioritizing her friends over me. Ouch and she also feel like im being over clingy but she knew it s also because of her acts before she fly abroad - pampering me so much and make me holding on to her like nobody else exists in this whole world. And before i can realize we have 7 hours difference timezone, pop, it s happened and i lost my sanity control haha and i admit i ve been so bad for us
And we fight over her bad influence friends (doing weeds, drinking, clubbing which she didnt do while being in our country) and for now, we have been in 3 no contact phases (which are always broken because she search for me) she dont want me to leave her alone, but when we talk, i dont like it because i still have the love for her while she just wanted to be friend (and we can go back having the same relationship as before when we meet on this August - with physical touches and all) because she cant stand the LDR (we have to do this for 2 years more). Our relationship is going distant because she shut her emotional out and this 4rd phase of no contact, she promised she wouldnt contact me for any reason anymore because i said (for every nc) i want to have some space to move on from our breakup before i can get to be friend with her again
I dont really understand why she is doing like this, search for me but when we talk, she doesnt show so much interest to talk to me, but still wanted me in her life, perhaps its because she dont like changes, this is so exhausting like im only the one who is excited over this relationship, but i dont know what should i do after this NC phase, i dont know if its better to leave her for ever, or befriending her again with no love interest or whatever because our end mission for this relationship is not matching. She wouldnt do anything anymore for this relationship, just hoping me to try my best to woo her again, im trying but its hard since she doesnt show any interest and perhaps it s because i still expecting her to love me back like before.
Sorry for the long post, but i really need some enlightment why this taurus behaving like this and what should i do ? I am a cancer and perhaps i already know what i should do, calm down, dont be clingy, neutralize my feeling first, but im also eager to understand this mixed signals, if anybody can help? Thank you so much!