tdang
@tdang
7 Years
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Taurus Sun Gemini Moon
Calm down. He's not ghosting. He's legitimately busy and in another country. Don't let that be an excuse for NO communication bc the busiest of people still maintain personal relationships. Just try to be mindful of the situation and don't push, but do remind him you will make time for him too when hes free. Trust him and go with the flow. If he says he only has eyes for you, i think he's being genuine so try to take it for what it is. Try not to overcomplicate things bc for me anyway, in romance, I understand that it is work, but if it becomes overly complicated, I'll back off to tend to my own life.
Posted by tdang
So is this guy being flaky? I'm a Taurus Sun Scorpio moon so I do tend to overthink things and think of the worst case scenario. It's a long distance thing, but he had reassured me before that he wasn't interested in any other women and that he really, really liked me. Except it's so soon after our last long term relationships (mine ended in March as did his) that we both agreed to take things slow. Saw him finally in person in June and we had a great time, it was pretty chill and we were able to see all of SF since it was his first time. But since the trip he's been replying less, although the messages are still just as affectionate and thoughtful. And it's been nearly a week since he last talked to me. Is he being flaky or trying to ghost me?? I know he's super busy with work right now too but that was never a problem before. The last night of the trip he said he did like me and want to see me again, that I should come up to him next - lives in Canada and I'm in California. Pretty confused but don't yet have the horrible gut wrenching feeling until I start to overthink it and read too many forums lmao.
Also he reminded me that he has to pay me back for our AirBNB. I'm assuming if he was trying to ghost he would've done so by now.
There's reciprocation on the part of him saying, "I have to pay you back". If I were you I'd respond, "Thanks for paying me back. How?" (is he gonna pay cash and hand it to you next time you see him? Are you going to give him your Paypal info?" etc). I'd wait until he does pay you back until I agree to meet up with him. He may be the type of man that is a "user" and/or has the woman pay "her way". If he pays you back; good. He's a man with non financial issues and proving himself to you that he has the funds to pay you back.
LDRs are NOT for me, but if you're used to them and you love to travel; go for it. Invite HIM to visit you in Califas and see if he does. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by tdang
So is this guy being flaky? I'm a Taurus Sun Scorpio moon so I do tend to overthink things and think of the worst case scenario. It's a long distance thing, but he had reassured me before that he wasn't interested in any other women and that he really, really liked me. Except it's so soon after our last long term relationships (mine ended in March as did his) that we both agreed to take things slow. Saw him finally in person in June and we had a great time, it was pretty chill and we were able to see all of SF since it was his first time. But since the trip he's been replying less, although the messages are still just as affectionate and thoughtful. And it's been nearly a week since he last talked to me. Is he being flaky or trying to ghost me?? I know he's super busy with work right now too but that was never a problem before. The last night of the trip he said he did like me and want to see me again, that I should come up to him next - lives in Canada and I'm in California. Pretty confused but don't yet have the horrible gut wrenching feeling until I start to overthink it and read too many forums lmao.
Also he reminded me that he has to pay me back for our AirBNB. I'm assuming if he was trying to ghost he would've done so by now.
There's reciprocation on the part of him saying, "I have to pay you back". If I were you I'd respond, "Thanks for paying me back. How?" (is he gonna pay cash and hand it to you next time you see him? Are you going to give him your Paypal info?" etc). I'd wait until he does pay you back until I agree to meet up with him. He may be the type of man that is a "user" and/or has the woman pay "her way". If he pays you back; good. He's a man with non financial issues and proving himself to you that he has the funds to pay you back.
LDRs are NOT for me, but if you're used to them and you love to travel; go for it. Invite HIM to visit you in Califas and see if he does. Good luck.
cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
He doesn't seem to have any financial issues, it was more so we would just get so caught up during the day that we would forget to go to the bank. I mentioned paypal or just paying me back in person the next time we saw each other to avoid fees and whatnot, but he never replied. There's also a bit of an age difference, he's 32 and I'm 21. Don't know if this is just a line, (he says he doesn't play games) but how young I was bothered him less because he was so enamored by my wit/how smart I was etc.
Also, our trip to SF was him visiting me in CA because I'm from the Bay Area, which is why he mentioned that I'd have to go up to him next.
Posted by tdangPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by tdang
So is this guy being flaky? I'm a Taurus Sun Scorpio moon so I do tend to overthink things and think of the worst case scenario. It's a long distance thing, but he had reassured me before that he wasn't interested in any other women and that he really, really liked me. Except it's so soon after our last long term relationships (mine ended in March as did his) that we both agreed to take things slow. Saw him finally in person in June and we had a great time, it was pretty chill and we were able to see all of SF since it was his first time. But since the trip he's been replying less, although the messages are still just as affectionate and thoughtful. And it's been nearly a week since he last talked to me. Is he being flaky or trying to ghost me?? I know he's super busy with work right now too but that was never a problem before. The last night of the trip he said he did like me and want to see me again, that I should come up to him next - lives in Canada and I'm in California. Pretty confused but don't yet have the horrible gut wrenching feeling until I start to overthink it and read too many forums lmao.
Also he reminded me that he has to pay me back for our AirBNB. I'm assuming if he was trying to ghost he would've done so by now.
There's reciprocation on the part of him saying, "I have to pay you back". If I were you I'd respond, "Thanks for paying me back. How?" (is he gonna pay cash and hand it to you next time you see him? Are you going to give him your Paypal info?" etc). I'd wait until he does pay you back until I agree to meet up with him. He may be the type of man that is a "user" and/or has the woman pay "her way". If he pays you back; good. He's a man with non financial issues and proving himself to you that he has the funds to pay you back.
LDRs are NOT for me, but if you're used to them and you love to travel; go for it. Invite HIM to visit you in Califas and see if he does. Good luck.
cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
He doesn't seem to have any financial issues, it was more so we would just get so caught up during the day that we would forget to go to the bank. I mentioned paypal or just paying me back in person the next time we saw each other to avoid fees and whatnot, but he never replied. There's also a bit of an age difference, he's 32 and I'm 21. Don't know if this is just a line, (he says he doesn't play games) but how young I was bothered him less because he was so enamored by my wit/how smart I was etc.
Also, our trip to SF was him visiting me in CA because I'm from the Bay Area, which is why he mentioned that I'd have to go up to him next.click to expand
Then I'd wait until he paid me back. Now, about "the age difference" what man at the age of 32 would NOT be interested in a young chickie like yourself? Now that we've put your "age difference" aside; next is $ $ (mulah).
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
@Abby
I definitely needed that. I tend to really get into my own head, especially since I'm just so hypercritical of myself. Learning that he has a gemini moon/venus sent me into literally a whirlwind of self doubt lol. I'm sure he's busy, and he's never been bothered by "excessive" texting on my part because he knew that I liked to just keep him updated and he'd always get back to me addressing 99% of what I had texted him throughout the day. It's just never been this long without contact - normally it'd be like 36 hours max.
I definitely needed that. I tend to really get into my own head, especially since I'm just so hypercritical of myself. Learning that he has a gemini moon/venus sent me into literally a whirlwind of self doubt lol. I'm sure he's busy, and he's never been bothered by "excessive" texting on my part because he knew that I liked to just keep him updated and he'd always get back to me addressing 99% of what I had texted him throughout the day. It's just never been this long without contact - normally it'd be like 36 hours max.
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by tdangPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by tdang
So is this guy being flaky? I'm a Taurus Sun Scorpio moon so I do tend to overthink things and think of the worst case scenario. It's a long distance thing, but he had reassured me before that he wasn't interested in any other women and that he really, really liked me. Except it's so soon after our last long term relationships (mine ended in March as did his) that we both agreed to take things slow. Saw him finally in person in June and we had a great time, it was pretty chill and we were able to see all of SF since it was his first time. But since the trip he's been replying less, although the messages are still just as affectionate and thoughtful. And it's been nearly a week since he last talked to me. Is he being flaky or trying to ghost me?? I know he's super busy with work right now too but that was never a problem before. The last night of the trip he said he did like me and want to see me again, that I should come up to him next - lives in Canada and I'm in California. Pretty confused but don't yet have the horrible gut wrenching feeling until I start to overthink it and read too many forums lmao.
Also he reminded me that he has to pay me back for our AirBNB. I'm assuming if he was trying to ghost he would've done so by now.
There's reciprocation on the part of him saying, "I have to pay you back". If I were you I'd respond, "Thanks for paying me back. How?" (is he gonna pay cash and hand it to you next time you see him? Are you going to give him your Paypal info?" etc). I'd wait until he does pay you back until I agree to meet up with him. He may be the type of man that is a "user" and/or has the woman pay "her way". If he pays you back; good. He's a man with non financial issues and proving himself to you that he has the funds to pay you back.
LDRs are NOT for me, but if you're used to them and you love to travel; go for it. Invite HIM to visit you in Califas and see if he does. Good luck.
cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
He doesn't seem to have any financial issues, it was more so we would just get so caught up during the day that we would forget to go to the bank. I mentioned paypal or just paying me back in person the next time we saw each other to avoid fees and whatnot, but he never replied. There's also a bit of an age difference, he's 32 and I'm 21. Don't know if this is just a line, (he says he doesn't play games) but how young I was bothered him less because he was so enamored by my wit/how smart I was etc.
Also, our trip to SF was him visiting me in CA because I'm from the Bay Area, which is why he mentioned that I'd have to go up to him next.
Then I'd wait until he paid me back. Now, about "the age difference" what man at the age of 32 would NOT be interested in a young chickie like yourself? Now that we've put your "age difference" aside; next is $ $ (mulah).
cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Thanks babe! Yeah, I mean I'd prefer for him to pay me back in person just to avoid fees/exchange rate. He paid for basically everything else on the trip, food, drinks, etc which is why I'm not trying to nag him about him. I know he wouldn't just make off without ever paying me back. But we'd have to talk and make plans for me to see him if that is the case, and the not having talked to him in a little bit is what's throwing me off.
I have Gem moon myself and I'm dealing with with a Bull/Gem moon and we're not flaky at all once we've made up our mind about you.
If you need reassurance contact him, make plans for a meeting so you both have something to look forward to. If he tells you he's busy trust him. LDR need a good foundation. He seems to be a sweet guy, be confident. All the best!
If you need reassurance contact him, make plans for a meeting so you both have something to look forward to. If he tells you he's busy trust him. LDR need a good foundation. He seems to be a sweet guy, be confident. All the best!
Posted by waterbearer_fem
I have Gem moon myself and I'm dealing with with a Bull/Gem moon and we're not flaky at all once we've made up our mind about you.
If you need reassurance contact him, make plans for a meeting so you both have something to look forward to. If he tells you he's busy trust him. LDR need a good foundation. He seems to be a sweet guy, be confident. All the best!
Thank you! As soon as I started to get in my head, I pulled away and contacted him less. I wanted to give him space in case that's what he needed after the trip, so I'd go a couple of days before reaching out. The first time I did I got a response, but the second time not so much. I had just sent a "Hey, heard Louis the child on the radio and reminded me of you! Hope everything's going well." It had been a few days since that text and so last night I had a drunken epiphany that I shouldn't have changed how I approached him (he literally told me "never change") and so I've messaged him the same way I would've before. Lighthearted, a little sarcastic, sweet. Nothing incredibly demanding, but I have been going through some things outside of this situation and just let him know that it'd be great to hear his voice.
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by waterbearer_fem
I have Gem moon myself and I'm dealing with with a Bull/Gem moon and we're not flaky at all once we've made up our mind about you.
If you need reassurance contact him, make plans for a meeting so you both have something to look forward to. If he tells you he's busy trust him. LDR need a good foundation. He seems to be a sweet guy, be confident. All the best!
He's content with what he's found (a young chickie from the USA); he can now proceed with his life as normal knowing he has you. Wouldn't you think like he does in this sense? You gotta put yourself in his shoes. I'm Piscean; meaning I pick up a little of the 11 outta of the 12 zodiac signs and this is what I sense about him. Let's hope this doesn't kill you (not hearing from him); since, you decided to put an okay to this LDR. To me, like I said before, I don't do LDRs. I want to call my man if I see a cockroach at my house and have him drive to my home within 20 minutes (just a metaphor). I want to touch the right side of my bed and feel his warm body next to me. I want to wake up w/him in the morning to kiss him good-bye while I jump in the shower myself and remind him, "To take out the blue recycle since today is TR (Thursday) for recycle day" AND actually hear him open the side gate of my home to roll out said bin. I want him to tell me, "I've made coffee for you, Babe, don't forget to turn off coffee maker" etc etc etc etc. But then again, you're not me, and I'm not you.
cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
Posted by tdangPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by waterbearer_fem
I have Gem moon myself and I'm dealing with with a Bull/Gem moon and we're not flaky at all once we've made up our mind about you.
If you need reassurance contact him, make plans for a meeting so you both have something to look forward to. If he tells you he's busy trust him. LDR need a good foundation. He seems to be a sweet guy, be confident. All the best!
He's content with what he's found (a young chickie from the USA); he can now proceed with his life as normal knowing he has you. Wouldn't you think like he does in this sense? You gotta put yourself in his shoes. I'm Piscean; meaning I pick up a little of the 11 outta of the 12 zodiac signs and this is what I sense about him. Let's hope this doesn't kill you (not hearing from him); since, you decided to put an okay to this LDR. To me, like I said before, I don't do LDRs. I want to call my man if I see a chickenroach at my house and have him drive to my home within 20 minutes (just a metaphor). I want to touch the right side of my bed and feel his warm body next to me. I want to wake up w/him in the morning to kiss him good-bye while I jump in the shower myself and remind him, "To take out the blue recycle since today is TR (Thursday) for recycle day" AND actually hear him open the side gate of my home to roll out said bin. I want him to tell me, "I've made coffee for you, Babe, don't forget to turn off coffee maker" etc etc etc etc. But then again, you're not me, and I'm not you.
cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
My last relationship was long distance-ish, I lived in Santa Barbara and he lived in LA, but that ended in me just moving in with him towards the end. I don't mind the distance right now considering we're not officially together/taking things slow and I figure with how busy our lives are going to be with him working and me in school that when we are able to see each other, it'll be great. We both LOVE traveling anyways and I nearly hopped on a plane to see him for his birthday. Even though that fell through (I missed check in lmao) he was super into how spontaneous I was. I guess I'll just have to wait it out at this point. I've never had my patience tested THIS directly lol.click to expand
I KNEW IT "We both like to travel" Good luck...done w/this topic.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by waterbearer_fem
I have Gem moon myself and I'm dealing with with a Bull/Gem moon and we're not flaky at all once we've made up our mind about you.
If you need reassurance contact him, make plans for a meeting so you both have something to look forward to. If he tells you he's busy trust him. LDR need a good foundation. He seems to be a sweet guy, be confident. All the best!
He's content with what he's found (a young chickie from the USA); he can now proceed with his life as normal knowing he has you. Wouldn't you think like he does in this sense? You gotta put yourself in his shoes. I'm Piscean; meaning I pick up a little of the 11 outta of the 12 zodiac signs and this is what I sense about him. Let's hope this doesn't kill you (not hearing from him); since, you decided to put an okay to this LDR. To me, like I said before, I don't do LDRs. I want to call my man if I see a cockroach at my house and have him drive to my home within 20 minutes (just a metaphor). I want to touch the right side of my bed and feel his warm body next to me. I want to wake up w/him in the morning to kiss him good-bye while I jump in the shower myself and remind him, "To take out the blue recycle since today is TR (Thursday) for recycle day" AND actually hear him open the side gate of my home to roll out said bin. I want him to tell me, "I've made coffee for you, Babe, don't forger to turn of coffee maker" etc etc etc etc. But then again, you're not me, and I'm not you.
cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
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I'm don't do LDRs either, I never could and it's more to it than just my physical needs are not met... but to each his own.
It just doesn't make sense to me to scare the OP bc of a notorious moon placement. We're not that bad!
I always enjoy your little stories btw!
Posted by waterbearer_femPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by waterbearer_fem
I have Gem moon myself and I'm dealing with with a Bull/Gem moon and we're not flaky at all once we've made up our mind about you.
If you need reassurance contact him, make plans for a meeting so you both have something to look forward to. If he tells you he's busy trust him. LDR need a good foundation. He seems to be a sweet guy, be confident. All the best!
He's content with what he's found (a young chickie from the USA); he can now proceed with his life as normal knowing he has you. Wouldn't you think like he does in this sense? You gotta put yourself in his shoes. I'm Piscean; meaning I pick up a little of the 11 outta of the 12 zodiac signs and this is what I sense about him. Let's hope this doesn't kill you (not hearing from him); since, you decided to put an okay to this LDR. To me, like I said before, I don't do LDRs. I want to call my man if I see a chickenroach at my house and have him drive to my home within 20 minutes (just a metaphor). I want to touch the right side of my bed and feel his warm body next to me. I want to wake up w/him in the morning to kiss him good-bye while I jump in the shower myself and remind him, "To take out the blue recycle since today is TR (Thursday) for recycle day" AND actually hear him open the side gate of my home to roll out said bin. I want him to tell me, "I've made coffee for you, Babe, don't forger to turn of coffee maker" etc etc etc etc. But then again, you're not me, and I'm not you.
cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
I'm don't do LDRs either, I never could and it's more to it than just my physical needs are not met... but to each his own.
It just doesn't make sense to me to scare the OP bc of a notorious moon placement. We're not that bad!
I always enjoy your little stories btw!click to expand
Is it safe to assume it's just a combination of being busy/a little complacent rather than him just losing interest? Most of the guys my age are easy to reach which means them ghosting is very, VERY obvious but he's very much so a "don't really like texting unless I need to."
Honestly my overly inquisitive, NEED to know mentality is going to be the end of me. I'm so sure of it.
Posted by tdangPosted by waterbearer_femPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by waterbearer_fem
I have Gem moon myself and I'm dealing with with a Bull/Gem moon and we're not flaky at all once we've made up our mind about you.
If you need reassurance contact him, make plans for a meeting so you both have something to look forward to. If he tells you he's busy trust him. LDR need a good foundation. He seems to be a sweet guy, be confident. All the best!
He's content with what he's found (a young chickie from the USA); he can now proceed with his life as normal knowing he has you. Wouldn't you think like he does in this sense? You gotta put yourself in his shoes. I'm Piscean; meaning I pick up a little of the 11 outta of the 12 zodiac signs and this is what I sense about him. Let's hope this doesn't kill you (not hearing from him); since, you decided to put an okay to this LDR. To me, like I said before, I don't do LDRs. I want to call my man if I see a chickenroach at my house and have him drive to my home within 20 minutes (just a metaphor). I want to touch the right side of my bed and feel his warm body next to me. I want to wake up w/him in the morning to kiss him good-bye while I jump in the shower myself and remind him, "To take out the blue recycle since today is TR (Thursday) for recycle day" AND actually hear him open the side gate of my home to roll out said bin. I want him to tell me, "I've made coffee for you, Babe, don't forger to turn of coffee maker" etc etc etc etc. But then again, you're not me, and I'm not you.
cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
I'm don't do LDRs either, I never could and it's more to it than just my physical needs are not met... but to each his own.
It just doesn't make sense to me to scare the OP bc of a notorious moon placement. We're not that bad!
I always enjoy your little stories btw!
Is it safe to assume it's just a combination of being busy/a little complacent rather than him just losing interest? Most of the guys my age are easy to reach which means them ghosting is very, VERY obvious but he's very much so a "don't really like texting unless I need to."
Honestly my overly inquisitive, NEED to know mentality is going to be the end of me. I'm so sure of it.click to expand
He's the only one who can tell you for sure. If my bull tells me he's busy with work he gets in touch less as well. No need to worry. He'll come around.
The guy already told you he doesn't like texting? He doesn't like texting. Do you talk on the phone once in a while? It's probably very important to maintain some kind of communication that works for both of you.
I know exactly what you mean by overthinking things, but I can assure you it will settle with age and experience. If you wanna talk to him, go for it. Just don't take it too far by telling him all your worst case scenarios.
Posted by tdang
Don't know if this is just a line, (he says he doesn't play games) but how young I was bothered him less because he was so enamored by my wit/how smart I was etc.
have that venus; probably one of the highest compliments I could pay a woman....I'd take him at his word....don't freak out....as time goes on, you'll need to communicate that you need more regular contact....we get distracted easily and usually have our hand in like 20 different things constantly rotating....sorta just expect to pick up where we left off when we come around, somewhat oblivious and often surprised if u mad....
Posted by MetatronPosted by tdang
Don't know if this is just a line, (he says he doesn't play games) but how young I was bothered him less because he was so enamored by my wit/how smart I was etc.
have that venus; probably one of the highest compliments I could pay a woman....I'd take him at his word....don't freak out....as time goes on, you'll need to communicate that you need more regular contact....we get distracted easily and usually have our hand in like 20 different things constantly rotating....sorta just expect to pick up where we left off when we come around, somewhat oblivious and often surprised if u mad....click to expand
I'm sure. I think my worry is just that now that I'm aware of how easily they can change their minds about something/someone, I'm worried that him thinking so highly of me could've faded away thus his communication also kinda fading. But if that were the case, I'm sure the tone in his messages would've changed too. Can't tell if it's a case of him losing interest or just being so incredibly busy and now that the trip has passed and we don't have that "wow I can't wait to see you can't wait to see you" momentum going, I can see how he'd kinda settle back into doing the other things that are taking up his attention.
Posted by waterbearer_femPosted by tdangPosted by waterbearer_femPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by waterbearer_fem
I have Gem moon myself and I'm dealing with with a Bull/Gem moon and we're not flaky at all once we've made up our mind about you.
If you need reassurance contact him, make plans for a meeting so you both have something to look forward to. If he tells you he's busy trust him. LDR need a good foundation. He seems to be a sweet guy, be confident. All the best!
He's content with what he's found (a young chickie from the USA); he can now proceed with his life as normal knowing he has you. Wouldn't you think like he does in this sense? You gotta put yourself in his shoes. I'm Piscean; meaning I pick up a little of the 11 outta of the 12 zodiac signs and this is what I sense about him. Let's hope this doesn't kill you (not hearing from him); since, you decided to put an okay to this LDR. To me, like I said before, I don't do LDRs. I want to call my man if I see a chickenroach at my house and have him drive to my home within 20 minutes (just a metaphor). I want to touch the right side of my bed and feel his warm body next to me. I want to wake up w/him in the morning to kiss him good-bye while I jump in the shower myself and remind him, "To take out the blue recycle since today is TR (Thursday) for recycle day" AND actually hear him open the side gate of my home to roll out said bin. I want him to tell me, "I've made coffee for you, Babe, don't forger to turn of coffee maker" etc etc etc etc. But then again, you're not me, and I'm not you.
cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
I'm don't do LDRs either, I never could and it's more to it than just my physical needs are not met... but to each his own.
It just doesn't make sense to me to scare the OP bc of a notorious moon placement. We're not that bad!
I always enjoy your little stories btw!
Is it safe to assume it's just a combination of being busy/a little complacent rather than him just losing interest? Most of the guys my age are easy to reach which means them ghosting is very, VERY obvious but he's very much so a "don't really like texting unless I need to."
Honestly my overly inquisitive, NEED to know mentality is going to be the end of me. I'm so sure of it.
He's the only one who can tell you for sure. If my bull tells me he's busy with work he gets in touch less as well. No need to worry. He'll come around.
The guy already told you he doesn't like texting? He doesn't like texting. Do you talk on the phone once in a while? It's probably very important to maintain some kind of communication that works for both of you.
I know exactly what you mean by overthinking things, but I can assure you it will settle with age and experience. If you wanna talk to him, go for it. Just don't take it too far by telling him all your worst case scenarios.click to expand
We did talk on the phone, he'd normally be the one to call me just because his work schedule was so unpredictable. He owns a contracting business but he'd normally call say before bed or once he even called at 6AM right when he woke up. Just depends. His not liking texting didn't seem to be an issue before, but like I said in another reply, it could just also be that now that the trip has passed, we don't have that "I can't wait to see you I can't wait to see you" momentum going and he's gone back to giving the other aspects of his life attention. Which is fine. Just wish I knew for sure lol rather than think he's just totally gotten bored of me and moved on.
Posted by tdangPosted by MetatronPosted by tdang
Don't know if this is just a line, (he says he doesn't play games) but how young I was bothered him less because he was so enamored by my wit/how smart I was etc.
have that venus; probably one of the highest compliments I could pay a woman....I'd take him at his word....don't freak out....as time goes on, you'll need to communicate that you need more regular contact....we get distracted easily and usually have our hand in like 20 different things constantly rotating....sorta just expect to pick up where we left off when we come around, somewhat oblivious and often surprised if u mad....
I'm sure. I think my worry is just that now that I'm aware of how easily they can change their minds about something/someone, I'm worried that him thinking so highly of me could've faded away thus his communication also kinda fading. But if that were the case, I'm sure the tone in his messages would've changed too. Can't tell if it's a case of him losing interest or just being so incredibly busy and now that the trip has passed and we don't have that "wow I can't wait to see you can't wait to see you" momentum going, I can see how he'd kinda settle back into doing the other things that are taking up his attention.click to expand
I think you just have to watch out for the self-sabotaging effects of all the worrying. Just makes you more likely to change your approach as you have, get overly guarded, etc. Very easy to wind up battling against your own shadow, and hurt the communication with him, basically self-fulfilling those fears. You really can't know these things at this point, and you seem like you're looking for more reasons to worry, e.g. the gemini stuff. With sag/gem placements, in my personal experience, even with the suns, they may date a lot, might even be promiscuous, but most of the ones I know are very committed once they decide on a long-term partner. If they don't foresee anything concrete, probably better to find that out sooner, before you're more attached, but I've always felt personally that this axis lends itself towards lighter emotional attachment, so its more of an easy come/easy go kind of energy.
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Calm down. He's not ghosting. He's legitimately busy and in another country. Don't let that be an excuse for NO communication bc the busiest of people still maintain personal relationships. Just try to be mindful of the situation and don't push, but do remind him you will make time for him too when hes free. Trust him and go with the flow. If he says he only has eyes for you, i think he's being genuine so try to take it for what it is. Try not to overcomplicate things bc for me anyway, in romance, I understand that it is work, but if it becomes overly complicated, I'll back off to tend to my own life.
I tried reaching out just to let him know that I'm here for him if he needs it, in a very nondemanding, nonthreatening manner. But he's yet to even send me a message back. His last one said "Good morning love. Life's been hectic but good, how are you? Take me back please, real life sucks." That was a week ago though. I've yet to write him off probably because I'm incredibly stubborn which, in his case, helps him. But it's getting annoying. Why make a such a point about not playing games, about it being more than just sex, etc when I had told him that it would be fine if it were if he's just honest from the start?
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