Thoughts?

My Chart:

Zodiac : Tropical Placidus Orb : 0
Sun Virgo 7°03' Ascendant Scorpio 4°10'
Moon Capricorn 3°11' II Sagittarius 2°29'
Mercury Virgo 22°16' R III Capricorn 6°10'
Venus Leo 20°34' IV Aquarius 12°47'
Mars Taurus 29°36' V Pisces 15°59'
Jupiter Leo 2°34' VI Aries 12°52'
Saturn Capricorn 19°09' R VII Taurus 4°10'
Uranus Capricorn 5°41' R VIII Gemini 2°29'
Neptune Capricorn 11°57' R IX Cancer 6°10'
Pluto Scorpio 15°21' Midheaven Leo 12°47'
Lilith Sagittarius 3°23' XI Virgo 15°59'
Asc node Aquarius 7°03' XII Libra 12°52'


His Chart:

Zodiac : Tropical Placidus Orb : 0
Sun Taurus 17°24' Ascendant Aquarius 16°28'
Moon Taurus 10°16' II Pisces 29°15'
Mercury Taurus 1°23' III Taurus 4°31'
Venus Gemini 13°58' IV Gemini 1°33'
Mars Capricorn 17°35' V Gemini 24°37'
Jupiter Pisces 16°40' VI Cancer 17°55'
Saturn Sagittarius 7°50' R VII Leo 16°28'
Uranus Sagittarius 21°40' R VIII Virgo 29°15'
Neptune Capricorn 5°34' R IX Scorpio 4°31'
Pluto Scorpio 5°38' R Midheaven Sagittarius 1°33'
Lilith Gemini 7°52' XI Sagittarius 24°37'
Asc node Aries 29°55' XII Capricorn 17°55'


What does this relationship look like? There's a back story, but I'd love an outsider's perspective without that first. Thanks in advance!

Well how are you now with each other? What is the struggle?

First off, I really appreciate your response! We're on good terms. We were engaged. We have a 2 year old. He has a wandering eye, and I suspected he was cheating. He denied it. That was a lie. He got a girl pregnant from it. The intelligent thing to do would be to run. I broke up with him in May. I've always said if you cheat once, you'll cheat again, and he knew that was my biggest stipulation. It's always been very hard for me to trust anyone. He's my first and only relationship (etc) because of this. He wants a second chance. Can someone like this change?

Thank you. I appreciate your opinion, and am going to stick to it. I don't think I would ever be able to trust him again anyway. How could I?

@OP- Of I came on here saying I had a kid and now my man is cheating or is not enjoying fatherhood. What would you tell me?

@virgocapri- I am so sorry to hear that.

Well can you tell me what made you have a kid with him, you guys were a couple how long and moved in together when? When did you notice things changing?

I am pretty sure he was in fact doing something behind your back while you were together, hence another child. So he is baby daddy of two different woman..YOu need to take care of your son or daughter and move away, and raise this kid on your own, do not bring him around only when necessary. Don't get back with him..

@OP- I don't mean to sound bitter but I don't have the experience with the whole kid situation and a absentminded and possibly a disrespectful baby dad.
Maybe one of these great people who have kids and experienced this can give you better advice, but I would totally just focus on you and kiddo...

I completely agree and understand. He could sell ice to an eskimo. He's quite the charmer. Always talks a good game, says what you want to hear, but his actions mean the most. Now here's the terrible part. I had never had sex, and it was essentially rape. Now, I don't want to think of it that way, because it's really hard for me to stomach that, but that's how it started. I have an amazing child from it, and would not take that back for the world. We became a couple after that. After I found out I was pregnant- which was right away. I told him I was moving (to another state), and he could come with me or not. He's never lived outside of one town his entire life. I told him I didn't need him and it was his choice. He decided to quit his job and move with me without hesitation. I noticed a difference when my child was almost one. I tried to push him away. I was rude to him. I think I feel a lot of bitterness towards him. I don't think there is ever a reason to cheat, regardless of the situation.

What's the deal with the Venus in Gems?

LOL.

Their charts are aligned like a match made in heaven.

This is the third (cheating) thread so far with the VIG.

"People with Venus in Gemini tend to be very flirtatious. They love getting around, meeting new people, and having lots of small talk. They are usually very witty with a quick sense of humor. They enjoy friendships that are light, easy, carefree but mentally stimulating. They are not the best at making or keeping commitments. They can be flighty and flaky when it comes to relationships. They love learning things about people and experimenting and they often have many different types of friends and lovers. They love the art of communication and are often great writers."
source:
http://astrophilosophy.tumblr.com/post/49112687980/venus-in-gemini

I have no clue. I keep seeing Venus in Gemini and cheating. I'm not sure if it's astrology, morals, or both? It is a strange coincidence if nothing else..

Noted. I know he needs to get out of my life. He's not a good person. We're very compatible, which is the unfortunate part. He's just not a good person.