What does Taurus man want—?

I have posted on here before and I appreciated the feedback so I figured I would reach out again.

I was dating aTaurus guy (5/11) for 4 months and he said I hurt his feelings so we broke up. I am a Taurus woman as well (4/23). He said that I did not listen and he felt like I never let him express himself. We got into a big argument and didn't speak for 6 weeks. I reached out to him to see how he was doing and to apologize. I had thought about things and I understood where he was coming from. When we were together we spent every weekend together. He cooked for me and I cooked for him. I meet his kids and his close friends and he met my kids and close friends. When we spoke we made arrangements to see each other and spend the day to talk about what happened. We went out to eat and walked through the city holding hands and talking. By the end of the night he said all the feelings came back and he had a great time as always worth me. He said I hurt him and he knows how his heart feels but he can't trust me with it. He said he needs time to heal. We started to hangout together again for the month. We slept together twice during that time. He then told me he could not get over it and he was hurting too much. He confined to call me everyday two and three times a day. That went on for a month. He got upset with me and told me he truly loves me but he's hurt. He said he has to heal at his own pace. I decided not to call him. I felt like when he was ready he would call me. A week and two days he called me and said he thought about things and wanted to work things out. He also said he would like me to go on vacation with him in September to visit his family. We meet up last week Saturday for lunch. My problem is he is not reaching out and he only reached out if he notices I haven't. I feel like he wants new to chase him because when I call he always answers and if I text he answers right away. I'm feeling like he might not really be interested anymore. What does he want? I have not limited myself to meeting other people. By the way he is on a dating site and he knows I am aware and he says he's not dating. Lol

Please I would like Taurus makes opinions. What does he want and why is he going on vacation with me to meet his family? I'm very confused.

I've posted to you before and my reply to you is the still the same

" be wary of a situation where the power has mainly shifted in his hands because he now has the power to love you or destroy you depending on his mood and you do not want that kind of experience.

For him to let you go and not even try to reach out to you during the break is also very revealing about his feelings for you. My gut says he wasn't that into you least not enough to try and reconcile which is why he let go. Do you really want a man that is willing to let you go so easily?

Make sure the doing and giving is balanced where you both are equally invested thus if he does nothing, you do nothing and the break up is official, it's over. It takes 2 to tango, 2 to make a relationship work and it can only work if he truly can be available to make it work."

I don't know if you've noticed but he's a bit immature as to how he's choosing to hold onto old hurt feelings and and at the same time passively stringing you along by coming in and out of your life, that's not how mature adults handle themselves.

Do you really want to be with a guy that deals with stress this way? Do you want a man that will come in and out of your life? Disrupting your life in a negative way? You truly have to sit back and reflect on what YOU want. It's okay to give him what he wants as long as he's meeting you half way. Is he meeting you halfway?

I suggest you allow him to heal at his own pace but not allow any of it to disrupt your peace of mind. .Let him figure out his own feelings first before you allow him back into your mental emotional headspace.

You seem like a great woman, someone he's attempting to hold onto while he's keeping his opions open to other women, don't be no fool all the while holding onto you.

Check out his moon sign if you can, that will help you in terms of figuring out his emotional nature. I think you should fall back and let him figure it out. He probably does want you to chase him especially if he picks up your calls and texts back right away. However that might get annoying after a while. Let him know how you feel and if he's still being indecisive then move on.

Thank you @Tiki33...I agree with what you said, I do think he's very immature emotionally. I am allowing him to heal at his own pace. He asked me to hangout with him and spend the weekend and I told him that he had to heal and we have to be dating to do that and he said he understands. I am very comfortable with not being with him if that's what he wants. If I allow him his space and time to heal that's when he starts to call and text me all the time. You're right about the things you said just wanted a second opinion because I know Taurus men can be difficult. Thank you

@hahasasha his moon sign is Virgo. I will definitely mention this to him and fall back. Thanks again.

Good advice here ^^^

Heal at his own pace... Heal what exactly? So you had an arguement and now he uses it to come and go as he pleases. He's on a dating site. After four months I'd expect him not to be on a dating site. Wtf is that about.

@ AgentP911I think you're misreading. He was not on a dating site when we were dating. He is on one now, which is fine with me because we are both single. He claims that I hurt his feelings because he was vulnerable and I wasn't. That's what he needs time heal with.

@busyeyes88 He is absolutely not playong me for a fool. I would like to know how he is playing me for a fool. He is not getting anything from me right now but conversation and him taking me to dinner and hangingout every now and then. I have not been intimate with him and let him know that will not be happenening while he is still hurting. I am not sitting around waiting for him. I still go on dates and meet people all the time. I am not obligated to him or anyone else. He takes me out to eat and we hang out together and have a good time together . I am fine with that. I am not hurting and I am comfortable with however he wants to handle things. By the time he is ready I might not be available. My question is why does he want me to travel with him and meet his family if he has no real intentions for me? He called me and said he wants to work things out....so I'm wondering why he isn't working...lol Just like Tikki33 said he is emotionally immature and I certanly realized that. Trust me busyeyes I like him and I enjoy his company but he absolutely is not taking me for a fool. A man is not going to spend his money taking you out to eat and hangout with him and buy you gifts every now and then just to take you for a fool. He's definitely a flake but I am no fool.

I can go back and forth all day with you about this but I wont. I by no means have a big ego. By the way busyeyes88 we never got back together we just hung out. You might be under the assumption that I have been sleeping with this guiy and carryon like we are in a relationship. I am on this thread asking because I think it's nonsense that someone that wants no ties would want me to go on vacation with him and meet his family. I wanted another opinion. The only person that totally understand where I am coming from is Tikki33. You need to read what I wrote correctly. I NEVER EVER SAID i DON'T CARE ABOUT HIM. I am not attached to him and I am clear on where I stand with him. If he believes that he has the upper hand no problem. By the way busyeye88 I did ask him and he said he loves me and he enjoys spending time with me and he would like me to go meet his parents and his aunt that raised him. He said that he has shared so much about me with them so he would like me to meet them. I came on the thread to see how other people viewed this and your view is appreciated....LMAO

@ Lust I would like for you to tell me what he is earning from me— If it's my time then so be it. I enjoy the time with him....lol By the way I am an adult and I am not trying to hide my ego. I am not pressuring him for a commitment or a longterm relationship and no place in my letter was that mentioned. I am here wanting to know what exactly is he looking for because why would he take me on vacation to meet his family in another country if he has no intentions. It's called another opinion. Everyone is entitled to their opinions but you should not try and insult me and you should also respond to the question asked or don't respond at all. Thank you.

i think you should just take him at face value.

if he is no longer interested and you are seeing other people then just take him at his word.

+1 Jeane

Just ask him. You're both adults and the only way you'll truly know what he's doing is ask him.

In one breathe he's pulling the "i'm still hurt" card and in the next breath he's pulling the "I love you--meet my family" card which all leads to you feeling confused and unsure.

Until you are clear about what he's doing I suggest not meeting up with him anymore, nor going to family gathers until you know for sure which direction he's taking you in.

You may love him, maybe he loves you but there are too many head games being played by this guy to hold onto you while he holds onto his single life/freedom. My gut says he's holding onto you just in case this or that woman doesn't work out or for when he's lonely and just need a bit of mental stimulation he calls you.

If the only time he's pursuing you is when you seem to be moving on then he has some issues b/c men--grown men don't pull these kind of stunts.

The only way he can toy with you is if you ALLOW him to.