When the bull disappears into his/her little world

So, what do you guys do when you're doing the "cold" business or just going off into your own bull world? Do you guys observe your significant others from a distance or wipe all memory clean until you're ready to come back? Do you just get knee deep into a bunch of things until you're ready to keel over?

Curious virgo being a curious virgo 😛

Also, this is completely off topic,

I think is this leo transmit, moon business, but I've been feeling extra loveable (I didn't realize it at first until I noticed that I've been daydreaming like a little school girl) and all I've been thinking about besides extra cuddle time is cooking for my taurus guy, giving him a shoulder rub, and giving him all kinds of extra tender care. And I mean, I'm really considering surprising him with pancakes (because I had a dream I made him pancakes, so I must do it now). I mean, I have my venus in leo (and other leo stuff going on) so I'm probably affected pretty well. But this is venus stuff too, and you guys are all about venus.

So now, semi-back on topic, have you bulls been feeling differently lately?

Mmm, I'd say neither. Cold isn't in my vocabulary unless I am met with it or I am extremely angry or hurt. What I DO require is a bit of space on occasion to just bumble about. I will withdraw to an extent but it's a bit like a mental siesta. A way to recharge. I just want to get away and sit at the lake during sunset, go to the woods and note the way the light is dappled in the trees, hunt for anything of interest. Watch fire flicker or read. Take a long hot bath with candles burning. Toss on some of my moldy oldies and sing my heart out. Dance and burn off energy. Buzz off to the antique shop and take my time sifting through things. Just me time. It doesn't mean my care is any less, just that I require that to take care of myself. Then I'm ready once more to dive back in full throttle.

Ah, and most definitely make him pancakes. 🙂

Lol, sometimes I can cut myself off too, but it only really lasts for a few days or so compared to a guy disappearing for like... a week.

I need to find my own lady cave.

It'd be numerous rooms full of food because all of the bullettes are invited.

And we can discuss men... or joke about them. Whichever makes us feel better lol.

DEAL!

Posted by Candeh15
So, what do you guys do when you're doing the "cold" business or just going off into your own bull world? Do you guys observe your significant others from a distance or wipe all memory clean until you're ready to come back? Do you just get knee deep into a bunch of things until you're ready to keel over?

Curious virgo being a curious virgo 😛

what's his chart?

maybe there are other signs/houses/placements that are influencing this behavior?

i agree that taurus can hyper-focus but for me personally, other aspects of my chart drive my need for alone time.

Here's his chart tubby. He's all bull with a little bit of air in between lol


Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Taurus 8.08
Moon Aquarius 2.59
Mercury Taurus 28.27
Venus Taurus 14.13
Mars Gemini 29.33
Jupiter Gemini 9.00
Saturn Capricorn 13.54 R
Uranus Capricorn 5.11 R
Neptune Capricorn 12.20 R
Pluto Scorpio 13.58 R
Lilith Libra 8.52
Asc node Pisces 2.44


This thread was more in general, but I admit there will probably always be an undertone of "What the hell is my bull doing and how can I figure it out without going into hyper over-analytical virgo mode."

Oh my....he's very plutonion,and that's the problem.
He needs plenty of solitude,and that does not mean anything against you,or the family members he disappears from.
It's who he is,and you'll have to understand and accept that about him.
I have a good dose of this,and it isn't the easiest thing to be.

Also,he probably has a hard time expressing his emotions with his moon square his mercury and venus.even though they are out of orb I find it still has an affect.

Thanks a lot for the insight, Bella. I was beginning to notice more and more that he can become a very solitary person, especially after spending time together. For example, I'll spend nearly a full day with him, and then I wouldn't really hear from him for a few days. There are times when this bothered me and times when it didn't because I would also need a couple of days to myself. I am becoming more used to it; at first I would become really worried and anxious whenever he just went off into his own space because you see so many girls go through the same thing with guys and they are gone for good. However, he would always come back. He often apologizes for going MIA, and while it can be exasperating, I respect him a lot for apologizing.

I mentioned in the other thread that this taurus openly admits to his faults and admitted that he never did it on purpose, or meant any harm. So, it's just a matter of me keeping a cool head whenever he gets this way and busying myself. I wouldn't be with him still if I hadn't learned to deal with it over time lol.

And his expression of emotion is primarily physical and very subtle. If I wasn't crazy observant, most things would fly past me and I would probably be more upset about it. Like, I'll notice the way he'll look at me and it'd be different than just a casual glance. Lucky for him, or I guess unlucky, I also have a hard time expressing anything because I'm pretty reserved, but it's probably easier for me than it is for him. I often have to remind myself of his little expressive moments so I don't forget that he is expressing himself in his own weird way lol.

I think you'll do fine together, my dahlink. 😉

I hope you dont mind, Candeh. Can someone help explain what the deal is with this bull?? LOL


Zodiac in degrees 0.00
Sun Taurus 28.12
Moon Gemini 10.56
Mercury Taurus 5.50
Venus Aries 16.05
Mars Aries 16.35
Jupiter Gemini 9.55
Saturn Leo 11.13
Uranus Scorpio 8.58 R
Neptune Sagittarius 15.14 R
Pluto Libra 11.43 R
Lilith Gemini 2.55
Asc node Libra 23.58

Thanks. I would love to figure more of this stuff out.

Posted by Candeh15
Thanks a lot for the insight, Bella. I was beginning to notice more and more that he can become a very solitary person, especially after spending time together. For example, I'll spend nearly a full day with him, and then I wouldn't really hear from him for a few days. There are times when this bothered me and times when it didn't because I would also need a couple of days to myself. I am becoming more used to it; at first I would become really worried and anxious whenever he just went off into his own space because you see so many girls go through the same thing with guys and they are gone for good. However, he would always come back. He often apologizes for going MIA, and while it can be exasperating, I respect him a lot for apologizing.

I mentioned in the other thread that this taurus openly admits to his faults and admitted that he never did it on purpose, or meant any harm. So, it's just a matter of me keeping a cool head whenever he gets this way and busying myself. I wouldn't be with him still if I hadn't learned to deal with it over time lol.

And his expression of emotion is primarily physical and very subtle. If I wasn't crazy observant, most things would fly past me and I would probably be more upset about it. Like, I'll notice the way he'll look at me and it'd be different than just a casual glance. Lucky for him, or I guess unlucky, I also have a hard time expressing anything because I'm pretty reserved, but it's probably easier for me than it is for him. I often have to remind myself of his little expressive moments so I don't forget that he is expressing himself in his own weird way lol.

You know what, Candeh- your post made me realize something, I think..

Am I correct in my thinking that Bulls express their emotions best physically?? So when my Bull keeps saying that he wants to touch, hug , and other things to me.. is that the way he expresses himself best?

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Posted by Candeh15
Thanks a lot for the insight, Bella. I was beginning to notice more and more that he can become a very solitary person, especially after spending time together. For example, I'll spend nearly a full day with him, and then I wouldn't really hear from him for a few days. There are times when this bothered me and times when it didn't because I would also need a couple of days to myself. I am becoming more used to it; at first I would become really worried and anxious whenever he just went off into his own space because you see so many girls go through the same thing with guys and they are gone for good. However, he would always come back. He often apologizes for going MIA, and while it can be exasperating, I respect him a lot for apologizing.

I mentioned in the other thread that this taurus openly admits to his faults and admitted that he never did it on purpose, or meant any harm. So, it's just a matter of me keeping a cool head whenever he gets this way and busying myself. I wouldn't be with him still if I hadn't learned to deal with it over time lol.

And his expression of emotion is primarily physical and very subtle. If I wasn't crazy observant, most things would fly past me and I would probably be more upset about it. Like, I'll notice the way he'll look at me and it'd be different than just a casual glance. Lucky for him, or I guess unlucky, I also have a hard time expressing anything because I'm pretty reserved, but it's probably easier for me than it is for him. I often have to remind myself of his little expressive moments so I don't forget that he is expressing himself in his own weird way lol.

You know what, Candeh- your post made me realize something, I think..

Am I correct in my thinking that Bulls express their emotions best physically?? So when my Bull keeps saying that he wants to touch, hug , and other things to me.. is that the way he expresses himself best?

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they way i would do it. cuddle up to that someone special (my case a guy but whatever rocks your boat at night lol) kiss them around their neck. give them neck/backrubs especially after a long day (work, etc.) make them feel loved by showing them with a massage in turn making them feel better.

oh and forgot give him a cold beer. lol.

Posted by carcar19c
they way i would do it. cuddle up to that someone special (my case a guy but whatever rocks your boat at night lol) kiss them around their neck. give them neck/backrubs especially after a long day (work, etc.) make them feel loved by showing them with a massage in turn making them feel better.

Pretty much what I do all the time... beer on occasion lol.

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Posted by carcar19c
they way i would do it. cuddle up to that someone special (my case a guy but whatever rocks your boat at night lol) kiss them around their neck. give them neck/backrubs especially after a long day (work, etc.) make them feel loved by showing them with a massage in turn making them feel better.

Pretty much what I do all the time... beer on occasion lol.

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yeah, have to be careful not to hurt his liver, or turn him into a sloppy drunk.lol

I gotta add to this thread.. I know! Typical Fish trying to figure out the Bull again. I think I might have hurt his feelings. I was pretty direct in what I said and I was referred to as "buddy", which REEKED of sarcasm!

Do I just let him lay in the pasture or do I try to nudge him? He's going through a lot personally and I don't know how to help. So, I know I added to the stress (didn't mean to)but now, he's in his "disappearing" phase and I know it's more of a retreat.
How do I handle this? Thanks?