HUSBAND

MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN SO MEAN TO ME FOR ABOUT AYEAR,BUT FOR THE LAST 8 MONTHS HE'S BEEN EVEN MEANER THAN EVER. THE LAST FEW DAYS HE'S BEEN ALL OVER ME TELLING ME HE LOVES AND HOW LUCKY HE IS TO HAVE ME AND HOW TALENTED I AM.(WE BOTH PLAY IN ABAND HE'S A GUITARIST, I'M A SINGER. I FEEL LIKE I'VE LOST MY LOVE FOR HIM. I JUST CAN'T SNAP BACK LIKE NOTHING HAS HAPPENED. HE UNSULTS ME REALLY BAD IN FRONT OF PEOPLE AND ON THE STAGE OVER THE MIC'. I THINK HE'S SEEING ME THROUGH SOME ELSES EYES. HE ALWAYS THINKS I'M FOOLING AROUND WITH ANOTHER MAN. HE'S ALWAYS BEEN A FLIRT. DOES IT SOUND LIKE HE'S BEEN CHEATING ON ME TO YOU?I'VE BEEN ACCUSED OF SCREWING SO MANY GUYS...I'VE BEEN FAITHFULL. (I DIDN'T KNOW I WAS HAVING SO MUCH FUN.)HE WANTS ANOTHER CHANCE AGAIN!! I FEEL NUMB. HIS TOUCHING ME AND TELLING EVERY 5 MINUTES HE LOVES ME, STARTS TO ERITATE ME. HIS ACTIONS SAYS HE DOESN'T. WHAT DO YOU THINK? PLEASE HELP ME. I NEED A ANSWER SOON.

KAT'

Leave him and find a real man that respects you. I have seen and lived that issue myself and I learned from it and even though I will never see her again I thank her for leaving me when I loved her the most because it made me stronger and now I am ready to give all the love. I know that she does not know the change in me but forever I will love her and be greatfull that she taught me a lesson in life that was needed for me to live a life of love. So help him and leave him. If you love him you can let him go and if he truly loves you he will do the same.
J

to be honest, it sounds to me like your husband has a mental problem. that is not "normal" behavior. he sounds like a real life dr. jekyll/mr. hyde. stay with him at your own risk. you must develop enough self-confidence to know that you are worthy of better treatment. if you don't and you stay with this man, you are only damaging yourself.

Your husband sounds like he is pulling the classic projection routine! He is accussing you of the very behavior he himself is more than likely guilty of! I've had this done to me before and that's what it came down to. He was the one guilty and was projecting his guilt on me! Sounds just like it! If you love him, talk about it and see if you can work it out. Maybe and ultimatium? Good Luck!

Yes you should leave him.
And the invest some spell check.

Ill tell you Kathi, the reason people dont leave abusive relationships is because they believe there is nothing better out there. You need to realise there is better out there, there is a whole life you can have without him. There will be another. Abusive relationships are hard to get over and the longer you stay the longer it will take to get over. Do yourself a favour and leave this guy, surely you have so much more to offer the world.

Let us know how you get on.

Kathi,
I agree with the other posts. I think you are a strong person. I think you do have talent to offer, and maybe he is jealous of that too. But I do agree that he has mental problems, and you are not going to solve them. I know. My husband is bi-polar. Not a fun situation, but what he does to handle it he has to do himself. Do yourself a favor, hun, and don't let this relationshi drain the life out of you.
I'm rooting for you!
Janie

LOL Aprilbaby! Yep, she'd sure whip some sense into this buttwipe. 🙂

Go Judy, go Judy, go, go, go Judy
You can do it
It's your birthday

lol.

I wonder whatever happened with this story.