A Taurus girl needs help with a Virgo man..

I've been a lurker of this board for a while, and a recent situation with a particular Virgo man at my work has finally made me crack and make my first post!

There's a man I?m really interested in. As I said, he's a Virgo, and he's practical, smart, efficient, and all those other charming Virgo things. I'm pretty sure he's interested too ? I've found him asking questions about me, and he goes out of his way (the long way around the office) to walk by my desk, staring as he goes by.

I also catch him looking at me a lot, but whenever I look up, he looks away. 😢 His favorite thing to do is watch me from the other side of the room, but if I get up and walk over to him, he runs away!!! I've never seen a man this shy before!!

I'm having problems getting to talk to him, because he's in a higher position than I am, and I don't have the excuse to interact with him at work as I do with others "in my level", and he hardly ever goes out to social gatherings outside of work, so there's no hope there either!

This has been going on for about two months now, and it's practically driving me crazy. Are Virgo men women? Do I have to chase after him? I'm used to waiting for guys to come to me, and it's really rather confusing for me. I thought I could ask for advice from you wonderful Virgo people here.

How can I intrigue him enough to make him come to me? 😉

Thanks in advance!

"I also catch him looking at me a lot, but whenever I look up, he looks away. His favorite thing to do is watch me from the other side of the room, but if I get up and walk over to him, he runs away!!! I've never seen a man this shy before!!"

lol, i do this too! but i'm a female...i like to admire from afar, but i eventually give a nudge (i've got a fire moon and mars). so it looks like you're gonna have to make the first move, as in say something first, then let him do the rest of the work, which is chasing you. since he's in a higher position than you, why don't you ask him how to do something, but don't come off as a ditz. say you work in a lab and you're running an experiment and you're not quite sure which assay to run because the cells you're working with have a really short life-span. so you go and ask the virgo which assay you should run because...(and you explain your reason, otherwise he might think you don't like to exercise your brain/logic). now you've broken the ice, and hopefully you can start some sort of relationship before going further. don't be surprised if he's nice one minute then cold the next, it's normal. but alas, i'm not a male, so you might want some feedback from the v-males here, there's a variety of virgos here, because well, not every virgo is exactly the same. so good luck to you!

"i like to admire from afar, but i eventually give a nudge (i've got a fire moon and mars)."

Yikes - his moon is in Pisces, which makes him extra-extra shy, I think? He doesn't get a "POWER BOOST" from his moon like you do! 😢 LOL

Thanks for your reply! This gives me some insight, but perhaps the v-males will provide me with some details!!

Well, my moon is in Pisces, and I wouldn't say that I'm extra-extra shy, it's more along the lines that people usually have to start conversations with me. Now, if I have a couple drinks in me, I get real chatty... and I'm everyone's best friend.

Dont even bother. Run away while your still ahead. Typical Virgo games. Once you talk to him he will probably start the typical pull away thing and you will be on this board wondering whats wrong with him, asking for useless advice from other Virgos, waiting and hoping this guy will come around. Find a non-phsyco to court. Hes already displaying signs of rediculousness. Your going to get burned!

Woah there! I'm guessing you had a bad experience with a Virgo? I actually did too - but I'm blaming it on his immaturity and not solely on his Virgo-ness as I have several Virgo friends, and they're all very lovely people. I'd rather give this new guy a chance! LOL

I appreciate your advice though, thanks. 🙂

Runningbull, I had an awful experience with a Virgo Man and I'm a Taurus female, too. Run while you can. If you want to know more, send me an email.

Thanks, hp74! I sent you an e-mail.

Everyone is hating on the Virgos? That's not cool.

Don't worry, I still love Virgos 😭

Does Johnny do that often? :-X LOL

You wont be laughing when you get burned !.

Hmmm... thanks for the perspective, virgoandgoat!

I guess it's understandable. I did have a bad experience with a VERY immature Virgo boy (he doesn't even deserve to be called a man), and I can get where people could be put-off by dealing with people like that. I put it all on the line for that dumb Virgo, and he took it and stomped on it - and then set it on fire. And that wasn't enough for him; he had to then blow the ashes in my eyes and push me off a cliff. LOL 😢

Something like that still makes me cringe, and a bit afraid of this whole falling-for-a-new-Virgo situation... BUT - I want to be optimistic about the poor Virguy. He has nothing to do with the other moron who gives all Virgos a bad name! It's easier said than done though! I really don't want to mess up again. I don't think I could take something like that twice in a decade..

Thanks, virgoandgoat!!! That really helps. 🙂

Hi runningbull,

I came across your posting as I was searching some advice on the very same subject. I am in a very similar position with you, I am attracted to a Virgoan coworker who is not in my level, but I am getting very clear signals from him lately. Staring at me as he walks by, coming up to me out of nowhere at a company gathering, smiling and looking deep in my eyes as we chat, even attempts of touching at me casually -but in a very elegant and soft way-, yes all happened to me too. But he keeps me guessing as he sometimes do not respond to my messages -work related- and invitations. I have been thing to make a clear move to dissolve him and I even tried him couple of times already by sending him casual messages, such as "I saw you carrying a book by xxx the other day, he is my favorite author too, I would like to hear your comments on the book, since I am planning to read it next". He has never replied those messages, or made a very short comment. But he has not showed any signs of discomfort either. On the contrary, I find him more open to me now. So I am not sure if I should keep encouraging him or give myself a break, pull back and see what he would do. I am not sure because if I stop my efforts, I am afraid he might think I was not serious or that he was getting a mixed signal from me. Since we are on the same boat, I wondered what happened between you and your Virgo man? Are there any progress?

Hi dyrstr8z,
Thanks for your input, but I forgot to mention that he is not my manager or so. We both work for the same organization but out of different divisions. Not sure if that makes any difference but it would make impossible for me to pursue him if he was my manager. I have always stayed away from office romance and I have seen quite a lot of sad examples in the past.