Advice For Virgo Ex

He didn't actually tell me he saw other women his friend did. He actually got mad at his friend when he found out that he told me he had saw a few women. The women he did see didn't last with him...maybe 2 weeks each at the most.

socalgal,

I remember your story.

On the positive, he told you you blew it, and never to come around again, yet here the two of you are laughing and talking like friends the way you once were. There's a bit of progress you can be thankful for. He has moved past the incident enough to at least speak to you again.

As far as trying to make you jealous, doesn't seem like that was his intent, but it might still be too early to tell. He knows that you are a jealous person so it's possible that he could be testing you to see what your response will be. Maybe you can get a better handle on it if he were to mention something like this again to you in person.

For now, I would say just go with the flow and if the opportunity for the two of you to be together again presents itself, I hope you've learned from this, and going forward you can keep your jealousy under wraps or handle the situation in a more mature manner.

Good luck

Thanks VirgoVixxxen. When I saw him in person there were two instances where I could have shown jealousy, but didn't. One was when we were outside talking and a group of people were walking by and a girl looked at him and said "hello". I did nothing but smile at him. The other instance was when he told me he was trying to get ahold of this girl on the phone and he called her in front of me. I didn't say anything and I knew that it was just business (he was selling an item).

You're welcome and I know it's not easy because we all have our jealous moments. However, Virgos are usually not jealous people, and we abhor that trait in others, and even if we are feeling that way, our normally relaxed, calm, cool demeanor almost never gives us away. The fight, struggle, and tumultuous sea of emotions remains on the inside.

Most importantly, we can't stand outbursts of any kind, especially in public. We don't like to be embarassed and we try to avoid showy people at all costs.

As for those two situations with the girls, you should be proud of yourself. Try to stay on that path.

How do you think he will react when I bring his birthday gift? I haven't spoken to him since I saw him last week and I didn't mention his birthday.His mom died earlier this year and he usually went to her house on his birthday. I tried to get him something practical and some of his "favorite things". 🙂

I also remember your posts.He was probably irritated that his friend made his dateless life public on FB,but also as a warning that he might be meeting someone new.

I think you'd better call before popping up on his doorstop for his birthday.He'll be glad that you remembered but beyond that,you are just friends.If someone embarrassed me like that,I wouldn't stick my heart in that bear trap again.You'll always be friends but beyond that ,doubtful.Especiallay if his neighbors commented to him on what happened on his doorstep.Seriously,why not try a high energy,warm,readable,open,happy Sag or Leo??

Why do I say this,because he is still grieving over his mother and isn't emotionally there = friend zone.

Nice to hear this socalgal. I know you've been sleeping much better. 🙂