and I told him that I like him..

Hi everyone,

I hope you guys remember my story with the virgo; 4-5 months going out here and there like friends but not exactly friends, very rarely talking on the phone but spending time together once a week, and just 3 weeks ago first sexual interaction and everything was ambigous and I was dying to learn whats was going on and what was his intentions

so, it was our last day together before my 2 weeks travel abroad thats why i decided to tell him..anyway he would need time to process

i told him that i like him, and i didn't make a serious, jittery talk..cause i can't make such talks..and this was the first time i told someone face to face..

so, i was explaining him something else nothing related with the subject something funny and suddenly i said "and there is one last thing i should let you know; i like you" and he was shocked, smiling but he couldnt talk for a while, so i said that i just wanted to clarify my side and i wasn't waiting for explanations etc..
but he got serious and he wanted to give me explanations, the problem was he couldnt make sentences only some words were coming out of his mouth, so if i gather those words and make sentences:
- he likes hanging out with me, he likes spending time, he has feelings for me but he doesnt know, he was happy with the current situation so he never really thought about it
-so he doesn't know, so he can't promise something while he never thought about it
-he asked me several times if he was making me sad, and the last thing he wants to do is to make me sad.

I said no, I told him that i wanted him to relax a little bit. i never imagined he would be that shocked because i am already behaving in a way that it is obvious that i like him
so i told him that this is not a secret and that i am ok if he knows i like him.

so he hugged me and he told me that i shouldn't take it personally,the problem was his past relationships, he said he is a weird man he is playing computer games..i really can't understand these sentences—!
i said im ok, im happy, i explianed him i just needed to tell him, so the tension went down a litte and we said we were ok and everything is fine and he hugged me and kissed me and we stayed like that..

i wont be around for a while

i know there is nothing positive..i just need comments..what do u guys think—

Let's see, If I put myself in his shoe, I would say the following.
I might be interested in you in the past (and maybe still right now) but I thought I may not be good enough for you since I am a "weird man and playing computer games?. You might not like me (and my negative traits). You caught me off guard.

My best bet is, he is going to think about it thoroughly, whether he should accept your feeling or not. Don't try to contact him too often at this stage. If he is interested with you, He probably enter the relationship a bit slowly and cautiously. There won't be anything big from his side, and anything big from your side will only scare him.

"he asked me several times if he was making me sad, and the last thing he wants to do is to make me sad"
As childish as you want to say about me, the last thing I want to do is to make my loved one sad =). This is how I showed my love. If he is the same guy like I am, then he actually already care about you.

updating..

yeah anyway i was never contacting him too often, he is not a phone guy for sure

so i always gave him space before contacting again
and now for sure i am not going to contact him

but interestingly, he texted to me today, it has been two days that i told him about my feelings...today he just told me something very casual and ordinary nothing special,just a simple message, so we started texting eachother for a while we made some word games as usual and thats it..i wasnt expecting it though

anyway i will be abroad for two weeks, so we will be quiet far eachother which i think its a good thing and a good timing

"but interestingly, he texted to me today, it has been two days that i told him about my feelings...today he just told me something very casual and ordinary nothing special,just a simple message, so we started texting eachother for a while we made some word games as usual and thats it..i wasnt expecting it though"

🙂 I got a good vibe listening to this. Keep your cool since he is trying to keep his emotion cool too by initiating this contact. He'll come around sooner or later. Once he is comfortable with you, you are all set.

If he message you before you leave or meet you just before you leave, it shows he cares.
Big chance, he would do that, but don't expect too much if you don't want get disappointed.

Never ever think of yourself as a fool....we all express certain emotions and stuffy in our lives that sometimes, when we look back, seem a little alien and so not like us!!!!.,...at that precise monent in time you expressed how you felt...and in my book that takes 100% courage and honesty and heart stuffy! Well done Mia......enur said!!!!

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