Virguys? ... wait a minute

So what I've been reading about Virguys regarding the 'push and pull' syndrome and what I've gathered is:

That if they like you, they disappear on you? This doesn't make sense to me. Can any Virguy elaborate please.

How weird that most of the Virguys have told these women how much they mean to them and that they are 'the one' .... and then they disappear. Some of them come back weeks later ... it just seems like strange behaviour to me.

It seems when the 'push n pull' syndrome is spoken about, a lot of Virguys on this site deny it. Yet, all the females with Virguy mates agree with what is being said. This leaves me even more confused.

~scratches head~

I've noticed i do this myself. It's like one minute i want her for the rest of my life, a few days later i'll begin to have doubts about the situation and push her away untill i've anaylzed my thoughts enough to control them.

I don't know if that's due to my virgo sun or if it's just general doubt.

Sometimes when i leave her for a few days i sit and wonder weather being with her is the best thing for ME, so i need to take time and reason to myself

Quite annoying.

I wonder if Virgo's often feel like nobody cares about them .. like their heart gets taken advantage of when THEY are in need of emotional care.

And would it be a reflection given back to them, justifiably .. however, oblivious from their awareness because they don't think that to ignore the person who loves them during the partners time of emotional need ..... is wrong.

Eventually .. would a person stop concerning themselves with caring about a person who desserts/abandons them during times of emotional need.

Karma ....

Lots of Men from other Signs will go AWOL. Honestly, sometimes us guys have to get away from you gals to get our sanity back. Boys Night Out, hunting/fishing trips, game days at the buddy's place, etc. - all serve as simple testosterone boosters and mental breaks from you more complex females.

VirGuys will withdraw when they feel overwhelmed. But, it ain't always about YOU. Once you know him well, you'll see that most times it's other issues bothering him - work, finances, long-range plans, and such that may affect you, but aren't caused by you.

I've seen plenty of Scorpios do this, too: Hole-up and mull over something until they figure it out, or decide to ignore it.

VirGuys may be more abrupt about it than others, but if He keeps coming back, he cares.

Yes, I do the push pull thing.

Relationships scare me, especially when the girl is very much into me... it's strange and creepy...

I don't know how to make sense of her emotions... nor mine...

So I push her away to test her and at the same time examine myself...
It's just natural...

Dy

I understand completely, its not usually about the female at all, or the male, which ever the s/o is, its about the person who pulls back away, they have something they need to work out, it may take hours, days, weeks, months, or even sometimes years, but until the person who pulls back works it out, well, the push towards the other s/o will not happen again, but once it does, yes, then its about what is there or what was there and if its ment to be, it will be.......

Thus

"its not about you, its about me"

But most often, individuals do not realize this and make it about the other person and what needs to "change" or "bothers/annoys" them, B>S> what you love about someone, is with a "whole" person or its not ment to be, dont "force" it if it dont "fit".

everyone needs "me" time!

Cajunspirit said :
'I don't know how to make sense of her emotions... nor mine...

So I push her away to test her and at the same time examine myself...
It's just natural...'

Just curious as to what way are you testing her?

And yes, I totally agree it's not about yourself, it's about the person doing the pushing and pulling. So women involved with Virguys, don't take it personally. Carry on with your friends and life until he's made up his mind to say 'yay or nay'.

LMAO Shaks
We know this, but we still love you.

LMAO @ SHAKS as well, wow, i dont think its quite that bad.......

Evan pretty much summarised it.

I test everyone, to see their strengths and weaknesses.

In a relationship the dedication of the woman. If she shows the slightest sign of disinterest, I will step back and inquire and test again.

Stability is core to us earth elements... the possessiveness of the Scorpio amuses us greatly in this respect

fumingli_scorp

I totally agree with learning the hard way, best way in my opinion.

We are all or nothing people, any slight sign of doubt will turn us off.
It's our way of being sure we can trust our... sigh.. sensitive feelings... with you.

We are all or nothing people, any slight sign of doubt will turn us off.
It's our way of being sure we can trust our... sigh.. sensitive feelings... with you.

I've noticed Virguys to trust the most unemotional people, the ones that will stab them in the back withput a second taught and cheat on a whim.

Then after its all said and done, they wonder what happened 😉

We don't choose... the wrong girl necessarily..

I just don't think we like making up our minds on ONE girl alone...