Virgos... explain LOVE please

What the hell is love?

I don't understand emotions and love baffles me.
Is there any logic to it... at all—

I always hear people relate their stories and I can never relate.
I always hear " Oh when you are in love, you will know it" yet... I honestly have not felt any different in my relationships...

My understanding is limited to wanting the best for someone else, so much so that you are willing to go out of your way for them.

Well if it can't be explained... how am I supposed to "know"...

I've lost it several times

1 Libra
1 Aries
1 Virgo
2 Scorpios

It only depressed me for a few minutes with the Virgal, and this is light depression I'm talking about.

Until you feel different levels of Love and types of love.
Emotions are more than love.
Sometimes, they are indescribable and the ability to know the difference between what feels "good, happy, free, open" from what is "not so good/bad, doesn't make you just smile and restricted for many or one reason, and guarded" well, these are all love too, just not the "higher" levels of love that are available to the world when you find that other individual that you "just feel" that with an it does not have to "make sense" it is what it is......it just is!

Once hurt/pain is felt, it is not so easy to let someone in to those levels again, just like burning yourself on the oven, you are not gonna do it on purpose or allow it again if it is within you control or abilities.......thus, work to be done on a individual level.

Did that help?

Errr... I have felt the same about all my past girlfriends, no difference really...

Your thesis looks plausible though.

Cajun ... is this about the cappy girl — I saw on the cap board that she's avoiding you. If thats not the case, then I'm sorry.

Anyway, Evan right, love cannot be explained BUT it can be understood. Like you, I've never been in love either -- however, I've felt the energy of love. I've have the sort of thing that enables me to feel others emotions, so when I'm out somewhere and I near a couple, I can feel the energy -- whether its positive or negative.

Energy plays a huge role in 'love' emotions. Falling for someone can come at the most crazy/ most arkward times and the most unrealistic times too.

For example: You meet a girl and fall madly in love with her -- afterwards, you find out that her homeland is millions of miles away from where you live and she will have to go back home soon. Does it make a relationship with that person impossible? perhaps, but can you control falling in love with them? No 🙂

This is a journey most of us who seek love go on, it can be delightful or jading. Depending on how you approach.

If you look for love in a string of relationships then being jaded as you grow older comes with the territory because you continue on the same path. However, if you take a step back and look at what you need and want out of a relationship, it can be delightful exploring the possiblities.

"you may learn it when you lose it..."

so true that it gave me goosebumps

why are you so concerned with knowing what love is anyway? hmm...well there's no universal definition of love. it means something different to many people. and it's up to you to figure out what that is to you, rather than asking people on an opinion board to explain it.

hehe, it's cute, isn't it? 😛

cajunspirit, i really don't think it's possible to understand love through other people talking (or writing) about it. the opposite is actually true. once you have seen it, felt it, and experienced it...you'll be able to relate, because only then will it make sense, in it's nonsensical way.

I was hoping other Virgos could explain their "feelings" or more their understanding of this thing called love.

I was hoping other Virgos could explain their "feelings" or more their understanding of this thing called love.
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Ya- other virgos please TRY!!!

Let me describe about a "VIRGO LOVE"..

1. It is when the virgo feels really bad, worried, insecure when you are away and yet does not admit when you come back, he loves u. He will pretend as if it made no difference for him when you are back, but, you can really FEEL that he was in pain w/o you..

2. It is when he gets angry for small, silly things - you did not care for him,
ie. ignoring him unintentionally while you were really busy doing your hair for a little longer on Sunday mornin he wanted to share with you..

3. He will copy you, follow you, pick up your style , words, colors, friends, family and before you know it, your heart will be stolen by him in subtle ways!!!However, he will act as if he did nothing and it was all YOUR FAULT making him FALL in love.

4. He will try to get away from you, he will hide, keep himself busy yet noticing your every move,action,no action, intensions with his beautiful eyes and will SUPER ANALYZE YOU!!! He will know you more than you know yourself.

5. He will complain to you about every thing in the world and will be best at finding your faults. It is when he really makes you mad for your small mistake and later makes you laugh right before you cry, you know he LOVES you.

If you do cry, he will be so incomfortable and won't have better words or any words to say. He may sit there and watch you cry, he will "understand" you are not OK but he won't feel it. He will be confused and may just hold your hand..

6. When he gets angry, it's because his love for you is disappointed, that makes him take on to you as he does not know how to express. That's when you know, he is hurt by you. We only get hurt by the ones we love.

caprigirl,

that is the most insightful thing i have seen you say. i appoligize, i may have had you all wrong.

panandgemma

Caprigirl, that sounds completely right.

We Virgos analyse and figure out what you like.
Appreciation is No#1 to us.

So when we go out of our way to do something for you or do things the way you like, and DO NOT get acknowledged, we get very upset.

and DO NOT get acknowledged, we get very upset.
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Oh ya!

Very upset! I know...

Love? you don't or cant explain it, you feel it. When I was in love time stood still, each minute I looked into her eyes felt like hours, and if I looked into them to long i felt like I was drowning. when I was apart I ached. her touch was ecstacy, when we were together I felt right, happy, not just "smile im having a good time happy" but deep in my soul contentment! She made me feel as if I could conquer anything, acheive anything.

Even then the only real way I knew how much I was in love was when I lost it. I've been in love, truly in love twice! Once a few years before I met my wife, and once last year five years after my divorce. Neither relationship lasted long and to be honest the last one hurt so much i've been in therapy since.

the last relationship ended badly for me at least. I doubt aires girl has given me 2 seconds worth of thought since the day she said goodbye. Seems I had to many faults for a retired army ghost and psychologist to deal with.

The contentment I spoke of, I am not a big talker person, I liked it when we were together and nothing needed to be said, the quiet was not awkward.

If a virgo has done any self introspection and is "in touch" with he's emotions then he will understand that he can only take so much of being near another person without burning out, We are loners by nature and need that time to recharge. that time allows us to analyze our feelings, make some logic of the fool we may feel we become when we let our wall down and truly open up.

"He picks on my words and twists them into a negative message, which I never meant or even used the way he comes up with."

Beware, Virgos can be quite the "passive aggresive" personality and will do that twisting without knowing what is being done. depending on where he is at in his life and how he feels his life has turned out he may feel a bit angry with himself over failures of some sort and may be jealous of your success.

Virgos tend to be good housekeepers, I hate my things not being where they should be, Dont move them, use them unless I say its ok, then make damn sure you put it back where you got it. One sign of a truly depressed virgo is a messy house.

We live to serve, we want to tend to your every need, not realizing it may be smothering to you. we tend to be emotionaly unsecure, your absence makes him think your not interested. Virgos can be totally clueless to your feelings, we really have a hard time understanding emotions, its like an alien possesion, its our body but what the hell is it doing— If you love him, tell him, we or at least I don't always catch the nonverbals of love.


"Do you think that's part of virgo love or is it just a strange combination of wanting a relationship, but not wanting to give in? I'm lost."

not knowing how to give in, is more like it! If you want this man, then learn patience. You will have to learn to anticipate his moods, giving him space when you sense he needs it but letting him know your not gone.

Good luck. We can be hard to deal with but once you understand our needs you will find we make wonderful mates.

hahahahaha my virgo male... Until you truly give someone your heart.. You won't truly feel... And until you have been with someone that you can't help but tell you love them... You probably aren't in love...

Like my Virgo... Started to do lots of crap that he doesn't... LOl.. He kissed my FOOT!!!

Love is a waste of time, End of discussion
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I FULLY agree...

As far as possible do not FALL in love, because if you do, you will become good for nothing, you will not worry for career, won't be able to sleep, will be worried for no reason for that ONE PERSON ALL the time and your brother will tell you one day that he feels you are not listening to him and are getting lost into your own day dreaming world!


I fully attest, LOVE IS A WASTE OF TIME, it is just a state of mind that one needs to not let go out of control..

What is love?

I need quantative measures for it, until I see it, I DO NOT BELIEVE in it..

Tell me, what exactly is LOVE————

honestly, I think one can control whether they fall in love with someone or not. The only thing they can't control, is whether that person decides to break your trust. That is what hurts the most. breaking of trust hurts a ton cause people like to attach their feelings to trust. but if you can learn to detach your feelings from the trust you put in someone, then you won't be "hurt" when they break the trust.

it would be smart thing to do in a relationship if I were you.

Love...

Is a completely illogical & irrational emotional state, thus it cannot be explained -- especially to a Virgo!

In fact, I would say that the attempt to quantify or define love means that the subject of the inquiry is not real love...

Love, like faith, will not submit itself to Virgo analysis, which may be why we fear & dread it - even though we realize full well we need it!

even though we realize full well we need it!
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In that case, you can't say or rely more on head instead of heart, BECAUSE, love needs is heart's bussiness , head needs to retire!

Reiniba-Chan

What you speak of there is "Unconditional Love"
attaining that is.... very difficult.

Especially for the HEAD driven Virgo, whom does not trust his/her feelings

"You haven't told much about your aries. How long have you known each other? It sounds you lived together for some time."

LOL, NOT, we met online a year or so ago, met in person aug last year, dated till mid dec last year. She is 5 years older (50), puerto rican, has a Doctoriate in Psychology, retired army 20+ years as a NCO in intelligance (ghost) army's version of a CIA Spook. we Did not live together, as a matter of fact I wasn't allowed to her house since she had a son living there and didn't want to complicate things.

I know, that last part sounds like a line of bull, personally I think she's never really adjusted to being a civilian. didn't stop me for falling for her. About the time we broke up I lost a job I've had for 13 years! You can imagine what that did to my emotional state, She basically said I had to many "red flags" and that was it. never heard from her again.

"did you ever think that she might have been married and THAT's why you weren't allowed to her house"

No, I know she wasn't married, I also met her son several times and he told me a little about her, ate dinner with her where her son was a cook, She was a very strong willed, controlled person, not controlling but controlled. if that makes sense, she didn't allow herself to get caught up in other peoples drama, she simply walked away. thats what she did with me.

Hi virgs ...

Isn't it ironic that Virgos are vexed about love? Hard to know about something you never feel or express.

Isn't it ironic that Virgos are vexed about love? Hard to know about something you never feel or express.

Which is exactly my point!

ddsk,

We know these robots for long... No point wasting our precious energy.

THEY ONLY LEARN IT HARD WAY!

I also see surrender as integral to love.

I have surrendered to both my Scorpio exes...

However, that flame was doused by them not meeting my expectations.
I could not stand the privacy and secrecy all the time.

I'm a proud person who loves to show off.

My biggest problem was oft I had these high expectations. I would dream of something I wanted to happen or have a very loving passionate talk with them over the phone or messaging.

When we met in person, they simply behaved as if nothing had happened and made NO effort to make my dream happen or meet my expectations. SERIOUS turn off.

Then when I inquire they deny all the passionate things and make me feel like a fool for believing it in the first place.

I think that this concept of "Love" can have both objective qualities and subjective qualities and herein subjectivity = the feminine chthonic and objectivity = the masculine rationalism> what cha could do is liken the feminine subjective with dreams(subconscious) whereas your consciousness is within the realms of rational Masculine driven forces, Funny thing is the friggin' double standard>that's what I'm talkin' about _Pervision_ inhabits yo' dreamy subliminal states s>wellz your conscious ones > its consciousness that makes but separates the primatological/rational consciousness of homo sapiens frm the less evolved apeoid forms such as pibed Australopithicus or even less evolved primate variants such as the Gorilla and the Chimp./