Bit miffed

Heya.... I'll try to make this as brief as possible.... A couple months ago I received a friend request from an old school friend turns out he's a virgo...

Fast forward he asked to meet for a drink so I obliged.... Turns out I was his first crush apparently, who knew—....
So anyhoo he asks for my number I give it thinking its all innocent considering he lives with a woman and has two small children?... We have another couple coffees and then he makes a move on me....

Since then he has made a couple love song style CDs for me and has bought a gift for me...

I am miffed to say the least I thought we could be friends but I think he has other plans.... Essentially what I am asking is how does one proceed from here?.... I have made it clear that we can only be friends but can a guy and girl really be friends if one of you is interested in the other more than just friends?.

That old first crush pick up line...The biggest lies that actually work on women, who doesn't want to be crushed on.

Tell the woman he's burning cds for you, I can guarantee you he will be gone LOL, what a douche, no don't do that but I would if I were you.

Delete him from your great life because truly he doesn't deserve your friendship, he's just looking for some gullible ass.

Thanks Tiki.... I think I should just cease all contact... I don't feel comfortable talking to him even though I haven't done anything wrong it just doesn't sit well with me.... I really thought Virgos were loyal and family orientated.... Bit disappointed really.... I thought he was a good guy.... Sigh....

This man clearly isn`t happy about his life, its best to cease all contact instead of getting dragged into his messy life.

Yep your right ... I did say that I feel it's for the best if we remain facebook friends only and dissist in spending any real time together to which he replied that that would be boring.... This was a couple weeks ago after the incident.... He said that maybe we should just have a break——, that it would only be a pause to cool off but not goodbye.... I haven't responded.... This was two weeks ago....oh and I did on a number of occasions suggest that maybe we just shouldn't be friends also to which he added that our connection is too strong now for that.... What the—?...

I didn't think I could be friends with this guy but I was at least willing to give it a try... My stance on the friends debate has changed over the years... Along with maturity comes wisdom... You just need to know where to set boundaries and limits if that makes sense?.

Posted by kitty69
I didn't think I could be friends with this guy but I was at least willing to give it a try... My stance on the friends debate has changed over the years... Along with maturity comes wisdom... You just need to know where to set boundaries and limits if that makes sense?.

I would be miffed too! I think everyone has said it before me, but, nobody needs this sort of rubbish in their lives.
You obviously have a great life, and a true friend wouldn't be playing stupid games with you or your time... he's looking for a way in and in my opinion is a low quality person -
I say ditch him! =)

Thanx darlin Wagtail... I see your from sunny straya like me hehe..... What your all saying just reiterates what I was debating.... This guy I thought was a lovely person but clearly I've been wearing rose coloured glasses for in essence a good man wouldn't disrespect his partner by trying it on with me.... Sad really.... I had more faith in him than was warranted....

Go 'Straya!=P
It's so disappointing when someone blatantly fails to live up to expectations! Not even expectations really...
you are just thinking of a nice basic friendship, and he has the cheek to angle for something else not so on the up and up!
I find it offensive when my own values are sort of lowered just by association with that sort of guy...
So I get ya!

I do have a fabulous life and friends and hope you do too... I'm glad you get me... It's just that you spend a lifetime trying to figure out whom to trust and let in and just when you think you've got it sorted a situation like this presents itself and you find yourself in a quandary...,hmmmmmm....doesn't bode well for me.... Don't care for surprises too much...

Well, stick to your guns and back yourself,
'cos no one else will!
If you aren't comfortable with the situation etc it's in your best interests to walk away... basically look after yourself first and foremost.
You have a lifetime of strong, reliable connections as you say, so they are far more worthwhile for you...

Thanks for your kind words.... And yes I know what needs to be done at this juncture... Life will go on as we know it... :0)

You sound like you have it together, good luck though =)Enjoy your day!

Thank you and you... :0)

It appears that you are bright and have your shit together ... so what reason was there to come in here and ask a dumb question? ... as if you are ignorant and have no clue what transpired?

So, since you actually aren't that stupid .... this thread must be in place because you wanted to boast about being hit on, as in .... look at me, I'm fabulous

Boast ... I think not... I am neither fickle nor vain but merely wanted others perspectives and take on my situation. I was asking what others would do given said situation that is all...

Posted by kitty69

My stance on the friends debate has changed over the years... Along with maturity comes wisdom... You just need to know where to set boundaries and limits if that makes sense?

And again .......


.... since that is YOUR counsel to give to another, it becomes obvious in that your only intention in making this thread is for attention, considering you didn't need perspective.


My advise to you would be to address your own issue, which is a need for attention

I just went back and read your history .... you're a manipulating Scorpio = typical of your kind.


So, I change my entire stance here .... you likely were flirting with a taken man with intentions of fucking with him.

It's interesting to note that you have done a complete 360 based solely on me being a scorpio....

Cheers Geminicandle... I have hade a few dalliances with her over the years... Whilst I can an do appreciate constructive criticism a personal attack on my character I cannot abhor and moreover won't entertain it especially when the information presented is fictitious.....

True xygeneration ...