Can Virgo Guys pretend to love you?

............ I'm a private person but can be very outgoing at times so no personality or confidence issues for me. I'm quite bold. It's just tht this feeling for someone so far away hasn't been felt by me ever before.. Crazy me, I know!!

The thing is could he be faking it all and just pretending to be 'possessive' about me? I've never been with a Virgo guy before so I don't know how they work! Was in a relationship with a Scorpio and then a Taurus who both were great guys but suffocated me to death with their jealousy and suspicion that I had to get away from them..

Why would he waste his money calling me if he's not a little genuine about 'liking me', coz I think Virgos are quite stingy or rather thrifty people. So can anyone suggest what this all could be. I would like any suggestions even if you guys think it is all in the air..I'm tough and I can handle set-backs and bounce back again, no probs..after all I'm a Scorpio!!

You sound about 16. Ever dated anyone before? - StringsAttached I'm 30 and in case you haven't noticed my write up above, I have been with a Scorpio guy before who was like 6 years older and we were together Like 2 years till he became obsessively obsessive about everything I did and said. He even used to go into these strange gloomy moods and then pick a fight for no reason. Very educated and a well-respected guy he was but when it came to us he acted like a child. I was so tired I told him to leave me alone (in a tactful manner coz I knew he never wld)! Well, I managed after A LONG ebate but he still says 'hi' to me IF I ever happen to cross paths with him (which I try to avoid at all costs)

The second one (serious relationship) was with a Taurus guy who was worse off then the first in jealousy department!! He too ws well-respected and 7 years older but he acted so scary if I happened to even smile at a shopkeeper that I would think he would definitely hit him or create a BIG scene rite there at the spot! I loved him but he was always following me and spying on me, calling me to check if I was indeed at the place I said I would be at!! It was too much and again (after 1 and a half year!) we broke off. He always had this thing that I think he wanted me to get pregnant (though he would always say otherwise) coz he would insist that we should be a family and use no protection , etc... Of-course to which I always said no..although I did so once or twice to please him. We even got engaged officially and he insisted I wore the ring to ward off other men..again I did so coz I really loved him. But then a final fiasco infront of my dad and I couldn't take it anymore. he made a huge scene and I was embarrassed so bad I cld NEVER forgive him even though he cried for days after ( you wouldn't believe seeing a tough guy like him whining and crying!) But I told him we were through.He didn't take it that well but he realized that he had hurt me bad so he backed off a little at a time. This was about 5 months ago. Haven't seen him since.

So you see, I have been in controlling relationships before and this one seems like an escape..kinda coz it's not actually face to face.. maybe!!??

yeah, he could be jack the ripper for all I know! I've seen too many movies to believe people are without motives!!

Either he's a loner, or he wants a romance thingy without any 'stringsAttached'!!

Maybe the thrill of being loved, cared for and thought about gives him satisfaction that he lacks in a REAL relationship! For all I know he could be in bed with another girl while he's saying those things to me!! (though his shyness makes me doubt he's in a relationship at present) plus even the times he calls me, he's just gotten off from work so he won't possibly have time to call me while being with another, ....maybe...who knows...men can be very subtle and devilish sometimes...even women for that matter...I'm not biased!!

Thanks StringAttached! I know all this and I know I need to 'wake up', really! True, since this whole episode might be actually making ME cared for and loved rather than the other way round!!

Hmmm, I gotta be very careful about this whole thing. I need to kick myself in the butt for being so stupid and naive! The human-trafficking thing got me all sobered up..honestly da thought had come to my mind....

So now I shldn't take his calls then? or shall I tell him out-right to LEAVE ME ALONE!!? Here it is where I'm kinda confused as to how to 'break-up' with him!

Any ideas, gentlemen?!

Hmm, I agree with you guys, he might be a total fake but he didn't say he' hop on a jet and come see me tomorrow' either...He said that if what he's feeling continues for a longer period he would come over..Now it could be that he's saying tht just to get a kick out of the whole thing! or it could be tht he doesn't intend to come over since he's quite shy as I see it in his looks and the way he speaks and types... don't know..

Whateva the reason , I don't think this will never work out even if it were all true..It simply can't...I didn't hv relationship working here face to face let alone one that all crazy internety!! Darn, I'm hopeless when it comes to witnessing some polite decency in men( a rare trait I must say though!) 🙂

I'm always careful not to be overly stupid and trusting so I didn't give him details...I don't know...I think I'll see what happens...he seems a nice guy so if he stops calling me himself that would be fine by me...he does the calling so getting into my pants is outta question since we are far apart..geographically..

Don't know abt human-trafficking though! 😢

Besides, I'm having serious doubts that virgo-scorpio relationship really work even if he were genuine coz I need a lot of display of affection which I don't think he will be able to provide even though he's a slick talker..but his romance might be only till the sweet-talking and nothing in actual physical sense!

I think it's all coz I broke up not-too-recently with my b/f and was looking for some kinda care, and affection...and Voila...I found it on the internet...and he was all too happy to lavish me with it...almost fairy-tale style ...but how could I forget that Virgos rarely indulge in something Soul-deep?!!!

It's all stupidity to them and emotions don't mean a thing while I crave passion and sincerity.... I think I'm gonna cry ( but not before I kick my butt..in a sec)!!😢

I don't think he's Rich enough*

You are rite, Shaks, maybe he's good intentioned..but I need to remain careful till we get to know each other better...maybe this whole thing dies down on its own...who knows ..or maybe he does come over after a few months, etc.. and we feel the same chemistry as we do on the net...

Anyways, I'm not gonna run away with him at first glimpse...so he can't human-traffic me, I think..if that's wat he's after!

I think I'll give it sometime coz my intuition says he's an infatuated boy and I'll let him realize that on his own..if he's outta it..good for both of us..if he's serious then we can proceed...n still good for both of us!! 🙂

Rite Shaka, so he's from Australia! 😢 What do u think about that?!

Wat do you think abt him culture-wise? Are Aussies reliable or are they typical wolf-creek guys?!! ...that'd be scary!!😢

So Shaks, you hv a girl? Tell me how you feel for her? I mean Like you feel deeply for her or is it just a sex-thing (which is very unusual for a Virgo, I think, to only feel sexual towards someone)

Are Virgos capable of acting like pisces when infatuated or in love? Coz tht's how I feel this guy is acting rite now! 😢 don't know..!

BTW, I gotta go but will check your comments in a few hours! Thanks Shaks, and StringsAttached for all your help! Love ya guys! Bye for now!

So just coz he's an Aussie,that makes him reliable, Shaks?!

But I assure you the way he talks is just mind-blowing..gentle and refined..no bad words..no trash talk...just plain simple romantic talk...and I can sense some genuinity in his voice..now unless he's a VERY GOOD ACTOR, I don't think someone can fake that emotion in his voice..

He'd say " Gosh, ur pretty" followed by " I'm sorry for being so strait-forward", etc.. or "You drive me crazy with ur voice, etc..." followed by " Please tell me if that offends and I won't say it again"...

Now is tht an ACT? If it is then I think he deserves 50 Oscars for sure! Coz he sure does put up an amazing act!

Rite Shaks! I didn't know that 2 Virgos could go together so well! I know a young couple, married, both Virgos, and I knew them both BEFORE their marriage and seeing them I notice that the girl, who was always very outgoing has become kinda timid and quiet and lets her out-spoken hubby take over every single conversation! When I saw them first time after their marriage ( like a year later) she was a total change! He was the boss and she quietly 'obeyed'! It was an amazing site and I thought it was very difficult to 'tame' her!! 🙂 But she's always been very sweet, both after and before, and the guy is an amazing husband and provider for the family (they have a kid now!)🙂

That's great of u, Shaks, and I believe tht's the most important thing: to let people be themselves wid their individuality!

I think in the case of this Virgo couple, the guy hasn't tried to crush her individuality but it is her who is trying to subdue herself so things would go as smooth as possible in their marriage. I think she is doing tht consciously to avoid any clashes n keep him happy!

I wish you all the good luck, Shaks, really do!

fumingli_scorp - Thanks for your encouragement! It gave me a kinda positive vibe about this all. I won't ask him to stop chatting or calling me. I think I'll allow it to take it's natural course. If it indeed turns out to be real and genuine then Great, but if it doesn't, at least I won't feel any regret that I didn't give it a try..!

I think we are in a very early phase of our 'relationship' so it's still too early to pass any judgment. I've got to be patient and see what happens in the future, and like he says, If he continues to feel strongly for me for longer period of time, he would come visit, and give our relationship a step forward..! Lets' see!

Meanwhile, I'm a busy person at the moment so plenty of work to keep me occupied at work!😉 I don't think I'm in a desperate need to have a man physically next to me as yet and therefore can wait for this one easily! So I think I should sit back and relax, like Fumingli-Scorp puts it, and enjoy this long-distance relationship....it's a unique experience after all!

It could be that he's a hoax but lets' see...maybe it isn't...maybe it is! Only time can tell. Well, if it turns out to be a hoax I will come and ask for some more consolation from you guys!🙂