Crazy Virgo got me all sprung! Help :(

Posted by nakae

I miss her, and I know we can make things work although it'll be difficult. I really believe she's my soul mate, and it doesn't matter how many times we've broken up I still want what we have, and I know she's a great person. Just not so good in the girlfriend departement. But I know one day, she'll be more than I've ever wanted. Do I let this one die or wait and see.

To me it seems she does not feel the same way as you do for her, and that... is dangerous.

Tread cautiously, my advice is to let it go.

what the? how in the hell did yall get that she was uninterested in him? 😛


She's always told me that she get over her relationships fast, and she's always the dumper. But we've broken up like 3 to 4 times and each time she's come back after some time away. Or will text me something like I'm dropping off your key after 7 days of not talking.


sounds like one of my VF friends. she has a beau of about 10 yrs that she has had an on-again-off-again sexship with. when she's not signing his praises, she speaks ill of him with respect to his lack of responsiveness/attentiveness to her needs.

this man who is "never" there for her has a key to her home "for emergencies." yet he lives 45 min away and a good friend lives down the street.

she "helps" him with his business/investments. this is her means of having a constant "in" and virgos way of always being/feeling needed.

throughout the sexship, she has slept with numerous men. just as your virgo gave that vague confirmation, my friend wanted to let her buddy know that she was desirable and had possibly acted on those desires. a rational woman doesn't kiss and tell but hey, virgos in love are anything but.

she wants a commitment. he knows she wants a commitment. he's not giving it to her so she engages in this psychotic on-off-yes-no tug of war. when things are great, she's happy. but the moment she wants more, if she doesn't get it, leave. only for her to return again after the typical virgo cooling off period.

she doesn't want to let him go, but i'm not even sure she wants to be with him. he just a constant. she will not ask for her key back. they key/business/investments are symbolic of her attachment. she wants him to recognize how "helpful" she is i guess.


Not even 40 minutes later, I get a text saying that She cares about me more than I know... but that we werent' progressing.


translation: where's my ring bitch?!



you're an aqua and she's cold? that whole, not answering the phone thing...classic. you might want to reflect on your own actions a bit.




are you still in love with ex = need 4 reassurance

yr lack of commitment = break-ups

vulnerability/loneliness = get back together

anger/control/petty manipulation = the clothes, contact after the break-up, "go under my shirt"



she wants more, give her more or you'll be doing this forever.

You stated that you're 14 years senior to her but you're the one playing games. That right there is where you messed up. I personally don't like playing games. I suggest you leave her alone because you're not going to give her stability. Also this statement caught my eye: "My ex thinks I'm secretly in love with my ex of 14 years. Which I'm not. I love this person for what they meant to me and have a great friendship and nothing more. My ex on the other hand talks to her ex and will talk to this person in my house. WTF??" So what if your ex talk to her ex in your house? You seem a little jealous.

Tubbyscubby: Thanks for your reply, and some great insights as well. I don't know what other commitment I can give other than offering my hand in marriage. Which I had, albeit hastily. Aquarians = commitment phobe. Bought the ring, that's how sure I was that this woman was it for me. Offered it to her, she wore it for four whole days and gave it back saying it didn't "feel" like hers. So of course now I'm totally gun shy. And the way things are right now, there's no way that that's even an option. Today was especially hard, since Sundays are "our" days and it's still fresh as all this came crashing just last Sunday...again 🙂

I'm hopeful that we can come to some understanding, because right now I just feel all out of whack and somewhat numb.

InternationalTease: I agree, that I need to and have started looking into my own headspace to sort out the mind-games. I'm not proud of some things, and agree 100% that I'm the other half of what went wrong. Right now, taking time away to get a better perspective and to start healing. I'm actually not a jealous person at all. But usually when my spidey senses kick in and tell me something just ain't right. It just ain't right.

Thanks again everyone, it truly is much appreciated. Have a great week ahead!

she's immature and wasting your time. leave her be. i can't stand people who call it quits then go running back.

something your asking her if she was done with her break means that she's done this often and having quite a few virgo fem friends who play this game, you're better off without.

she'll wanna run back eventually. doesn't mean you have to let her.

^something about

You should never boil a cabbage twice.

Sorry that wasn't overly helpful but it sounds to me like she's not convinced by your relationship, and as you drag your heels, she may run the other way. I would do your best to limit contact and give her space - you may be surprised by her return, but I wouldn't count on it. Sorry. Virgo's generally have to be 100% certain.