Curious about what to do with this Virgo man...

I'm sorry, but this is super long.

Exactly 3 months ago I met a Virgo man via a dating website. We met and everything went wonderful. Not even two weeks after we met one another and had only had two dates he asked me to move in with him. I took weeks thought things over and said yes. Prior to moving in together and dating I told him i really wanted to move to California and that there was a man in my life that was interested in that lived there. Things were intense and got that way rather quickly. We laid in bed together and talked for hours, we spent nights in and I'd fall asleep laying on top of him on the couch or he'd fall asleep with his head in my lap.

I don't care for going out to dinner and movies. I like a home life. Anyway, we almost ended things right before I moved in, but I talked him and told him I wanted a relationship with him. The only stipulation was my relationship with the guy in California had to alter. Which it did, clearly if we were 2500 miles away from one another the only way we were being physical was via text and phone. He can't do video and such (kids and what not).

After we moved in together I became what essentially the perfect housewife. I kept the house, made sure he had a hot meal everyday when he came home from work, and even washed his laundry. He essentially had no home duties seeing as I work nights and he works days. he was so appreciative of everything I did. I said thank you and the only time I really pushed him away was when it came to hugging and kissing me while I was preoccupied and emotionally. All of these things I told him would happen and he said he was willing to fight for me emotionally and such.

During this time we had a number of conversations. (We were/are an interracial couple.) He's so bull headed when it comes to certain things though. I expressed concern for having interracial children and how scary that can be as we live in the south and even today I've heard a number stories all over the country of horrible things happening to interracial couples/children. Also, we had a conversation about our futures, and my desire to be successful and his desire to be successful could hinder us having children in the next five years. Finally, we had a talk one night and he admitted to having low self esteem/confidence. I admitted I knew, but I wanted him to admit it so we could work on it together.

After about a month of living together he went on vacation for 4th of July. (He was spending time w

After about a month of living together he went on vacation for 4th of July and I went on a seperate vacation.(He was spending time with his mother and it's a really big deal for a girl to meet his mother.) I was gone much longer than him and this girl contacted him on a dating site. According to him they only talked one time and from there he decided he wanted to be with her. When I got home he treated me coldly. Didn't kiss or hug me, just treated me like crap. After we had been together for six hours and he had hurt me over and over I pulled away and he broke things off. I thought we still had time to talk things over, but he had started talking to this new girl. After I talked to him about everything he fought himself for days over who to be with and I know he only with her because he's stubborn. He's admitted since the break-up he doesn't know if he made the right decision. He also admitted he didn't know if he was with her because he was trying to get over me or if he was actually into her at this point.

He didn't kick me out after we broke up either, he kept me here even without me cleaning as often or cooking for him. He still buys my food and pays 90% of the bills. I can tell he cares about me a lot. When I smileI can see he's happy, when I'm doing well he's happier. We seem to connect so well, which now that he's with someone else that seems to scare him, but also the other night he masturbated after listening to me for almost a hour. When I came out of my room for water his door was wide open. I just don't understand at this point. He seems to love me and while this girl seems good, she doesn't encourage him to eat healthy like he wants, she doesn't encourage him to exercise like he wants, she doesn't cook for him, in fact she reminds of the two girls he was engaged to, but broke things off. he always spending money on her.

He said he didn't know if I cared, but I practically lived as his wife and I didn't see why that wasn't enough.

Also, he had some medical issues and while he does have a case he and I sit on the same moral ground. She is encouraging him to sue for malpractice and she works for a law firm which seems fishy to me. When he told me I didn't agree with suing, and the reason he hasn't sued is because of hhis same moral standings. Now he almost seems willing to stand in ground with her...I don't know if I don't trust her because she's my exes girlfriend or because there is something weird about her.

Well this is his new girlfriend encouraging him to sue. I would never encourage him to sue. I never knew the situation entirely. This new chick though, I don't know. she seems possessive/jealous. It seemed like the other day she followed us to my job pretty much to see the dynamic we had together. She then called him when he didn't pay attention to her and then started zooming in and out of traffic encouraging him to chase her. She seems confident and insecure at the same time and I'm not sure if she's encouraging him to sue to benefit her as well as him or not.

Anyway, I'm rambling in slight frustration. I would love an opinion if there is one to be had.

I mean she is also a virgo, from what I understand of Virgo women they become like the people they date. Giving them everything they want nurturing them and so on. My main problem is I felt like he wanted me to mother him verbally when I was also giving him all the physical signs. Every other guy I know said if I were with them and doing those things they'd marry me before some other man got to me.

Posted by PassionateFlame

He seems to love me and while this girl seems good, she doesn't encourage him to eat healthy like he wants, she doesn't encourage him to exercise like he wants, she doesn't cook for him, in fact she reminds of the two girls he was engaged to, but broke things off. he always spending money on her.

He said he didn't know if I cared, but I practically lived as his wife and I didn't see why that wasn't enough.

You must be fucking kidding !!!

You must be European !!!


Let me get this straight ... you move in with a guy after 3 months, talk about marriage and kids, then when he decides to put you on the back burner so he can focus on another woman ... your reaction to that is to be in competition for him?

As if he were a prize ?

The question begs to be asked: How low will you stoop to get superifical approval?

Yeah, honestly, I really like him, but on some very superficial level it's about the rejection.

Though, beyond that, I don't trust this new girl and I don't want him to get too attached and get hurt, regardless of what he did to me. (I moved in with him after a month.)

In reality I don't think he's a bad guy, I think we both made mistakes and ended a good thing too soon because he got scared it wouldn't work because I was afraid it wouldn't work. I was only afraid it wouldn't work because I was afraid I'd get hurt. He was afraid it wouldn't work because my fear made me push him away, but when I was ready he was done trying.

Maybe I'm just crazy though. If we had talked all this out we would still be together, but then again i could be making excuses for him.

I have men interested in me, but I don't want to be with them if it means I lose him for good. I had a really good thing with him up until I hurt him because I have a bad habit of sabotaging things, I just figured I had longer with him to be confident in our relationship.

this thread weirded me the fuk out

I just don't get why/how people have no dignity.

I mean ... the guy treats the girl like total fucking shit and she has no clue that she's not this piece of shit?


wtf has happened to people ——??


It's like 99% of the people have an emotional crack that they fall in without any awareness of it ... I thank my lucky stars every day that emotionally, I'm a fucking rock.