@AlluringSiren
13 Years
A question for all the virguys
See for me I couldn't explain it to someone else. For me I know when I find them
Who told you that crap that we are looking for perfection?
Posted by Loveorlust
Almost all astrological sites say Virgo men look for perfection... I've heard this a lot and believe it!!! Boom is this inaccurate?
It is innacurate, very innacurate.
These are just a few statements that i have read online......
He'll take his own precious time about finding a love object, because he's as critical and painstaking in the selec?_tion of a woman as he is in his eating, grooming, health and work habits.
If your heart is set on a Virgo man, you'd better brush up your thinking cap and wear it when he's around. Virgos hate ignorance, stupidity and sloppy thinking almost as much as they hate dirt and vulgarity, and that's a lot. The girl who snares the Virgo heart had better be smartly dressed with a sizable brain under her neat hair style and you'll notice I said neat hair style . Virgos look for women who are clean in body and mind, and who dress well, but not in flashy extremes of fashion.
You have to be aware of what he is feeling because if he's hurt he may withdraw inside himself and shut you out. Women who are hurt by this won't fare well with a man born at this time of year.
If you are hurt by something he's done you need only tell him and he'll correct it and be empathetic and compassionate. Virgo men like women who express what they feel. They are turned off by women who hold their feelings in and let things fester.
with regards to the above statement's the latter seems quite contadictory with regards to the fact that you will shut yourself out if you're hurt, however you expect your mate to express her feelings?? i had this problem with a virgo man intercommunication was weak.
His woman has to be clean and dress well. He inspects any thing in details besides being a perfectionist, so you could be lying in your bikini with a perfect figure and he can suddenly comments you about your big feet. If you gain 2 pounds, he may comment that you are getting too fat.
The Virgo man looks for the women in his life much like the horse breeder looks for a future champion. He wants good sturdy stock, nice teeth not stained - good intellect, strong hands to hold the plow... Even when he is awestruck by beauty and intelligencehe'll manage to find a flaw or two to dwell on - problem areas like a disturbing lack of knowledge in Greek history or legs with cellulite.
Before going out with this kind
of guy, look at yourself head to toe in the mirror and ask yourself
if you are really and entirely ready. Unless he dates a model, then
he will have less comments.
it seems quite apparent that is is a necessity
for virgo men that their potential mate must accquire physical and intelluctal attrib
attributes these qualities are imperative in a female and that virgo men seek out these indubitable qualities in their quest for PERFECTION in a partner?
so are you stating that the above statements are wholly falsified?
Surely you must have some perception of your ideal woman?
Please elaborate i am intrigued.
@Loveorlust
i acknowledge that.
@Ixion1
Sound's to me like you are sensible young man. However are there certain preferences that you require?
Do you later pick out flaws that you looked past in the beginning and start to criticize once you get comfortable?
I agree with the statements of the virgo men. even those with strong virgo placements/planets, close to the rising/moon or personal planets look/seek for a woman who is NOT perfect.
Why would a virgo man or virgo dominant trait want a PERFECT woman? there is nothing to help/aid/assist/partner with when perfection is already achieved.
But they usually do like to have an intelligent partner.
@unlimitedinfiniti
That's good to know coming from a virguy, can you elaborate on the latter part though for me please?
How do you beleive you boast this knowledge? is this speaking from a virgo point of view or perhaps you have/had a virgo partner?
It seems quite evident through these astrologers statement's that virgo men seek out the PERFECT female. Also how is perfection already achieved ?
Posted by AlluringSirenHow do you beleive you boast this knowledge? is this speaking from a virgo point of view or perhaps you have/had a virgo partner?
It seems quite evident through these astrologers statement's that virgo men seek out the PERFECT female. Also how is perfection already achieved ?
Lol sorry if it sounds like a boast. I can seem really opinionated. And, I could be wrong; i'd be happy to be wrong. jus' something i noticed. There's no such thing as perfection anyway.
Not at all, I am scrutinizing your comment just inquiring as to how you have come to this conclusion? I appreciate your input.
Perfection is a "depth" thing, it's not "ethereal" for Virgos.
Their idea of finding a perfect partner is how your personality mesh with his, how your life style and habits align with his, how your goals, ambitions, morals, values, and outlook in life align with his, and how COMPATIBLE are you with him. If the answer is, "very compatible," then you're the perfect mate.
It's not simply the nitty, gritty, petty things that turns them off... Their thought process is way WAY deeper than that. It's the big picture that essentially concerns them and reflects on YOU as a whole - not in parts or pieces like your bad hygiene and foul mouth. If you think about this very deeply, you'll understand what I mean. For example, if you have bad hygiene and a foul mouth it says a lot about you as an individual and says a lot about your character, personality, AND life style - doesn't it? Hence, this is reflected on you when a Virgo analyzes you. They weigh whether they can cope with your issues and in the grand scheme of things, whether these habits contribute to a bigger part of you that may affect him negatively. They will assess and apply your attributes to theirs, do a compare and contrast, if the end goal does not look promising, they will find it hard to accept you and your flaws. The nitpicking at your petty flaws is their way of showing dissatisfaction and realizing that you're not a good fit, NOT because you're not perfect but simply because you're just incompatible with them.
But isn't that the case with everyone? Doesn't everyone want to find someone who they're compatible with? Yes, it is. However, the one difference between every other sign versus the Virgo is that a Virgo WILL NOT settle. While the others will gladly compromise for a lesser ideal simply for the comfort of having someone to hold and love. For a Virgo, the goal isn't to just be in a relationship for the sake of being in one, they actually do not need relationships to feel happy as they are very independent beings; that is why the criteria to be loved by a Virgo is upheld more stringently because they play for keeps so they are critical when analyzing how you will fit into their long term goals. This is then often mistaken for them seeking perfection which isn't the case, they are seeking compatibility. And frankly, finding compatibility is often way more difficult than falling in love.
So it's absolutely nothing against you when they pick on you, it's not that you aren't perfect bec
because God knows you are special the way you are. You're just not compatible with them and their needs.
Its about making her "perfect" not finding a perfect girl. We're control freaks
Posted by HungVirgo
Its about making her "perfect" not finding a perfect girl. We're control freaks
Lol
OP, my husband has virgo traits, it's the only earth in him but it's noticable. And i'm definitely imperfect.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Posted by Loveorlust
Almost all astrological sites say Virgo men look for perfection... I've heard this a lot and believe it!!! Boom is this inaccurate?
It is innacurate, very innacurate.
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Now I'm convinced you're not a real Virgo. It's "inaccurate".
Whatever dude 😛 English is only my third language and I speak 5, how many can you speak Mr Wizard? 😛
Perfection, for me, are her imperfections 😄
Much appreciation for the indepth insight of what a virgo man seeks in a potential partner. I am starting to understand the way a virgo mans mind works.
The virgo man that i nearly got involved with never criticized me once, he would look into my eyes deeply and tell me that i am perfect in every way imagineable and that i am doing all the right things.
He would shower me with affection and compliments and tell me that he never met a girl like me in his life, that i am the girl of his dreams.
Does that mean that he established that i was compatible with him—
It seems quite evident that virgo men are very picky and choosy about their lovers, and spend a great deal of time analyzing their potential mate. And they have to be absolutely certain that every single piece of the jigsaw matches before they even consider making it official.
So basically you are saying that you intentionally look for damsels in distress? damaged goods? women who are in need of fixing up??
I have also read that virgo men have a tendency to pick up women with problems and fix them up and when they have achieved that and there is nothing else for them to focus on fixing they move on to the next one?
Why would you want to make her perfect if you are not seeking perfection in the first place?
@Ixion120
Would you mind telling me what those things are please?
Suppose if those hindrances become a burden will you make a issue out of it? or allow it to manifest and slowly destroy your relationship?? with regards to the latter i am the same way too, i can not be rushed under no circumstances. I have to get to know the person in question inside out.
I have been blessed with a excellent memory people are stunned when i repeat things bck to them that they said in previous years.
Awww that is so sweet bless you.
I am seeing varied perceptions of virgo mens ideals of a mate.
For a long time, I didn't look for perfection (if that is truly what it is..) and it bit me in the ass every time.
Now, I do have high standards. I want my version of Michelle Obama, damn it! Lol. By that, I mean that I feel that I have important work and contributions to make to this world and I want a classy, loyal and loving woman who will do it with me. I want a woman that I can have represent me and my interests and not have to worry about how she comes across.
I want a woman who, if she doesn't know how to do something, freaking LEARNS. (By the way, that's not super common for some weird reason.) I want a woman who takes responsibility for her results in life as I do, so that we can work together to make this world a better place.
And it's true, we would like her to be attractive, well groomed/dressed. But we also strive for that ourselves. If we both did it together (as in a life style ), than it wouldn't be so out there, would it?
@unlimitedinfiniti
Thanks that is not a problem, we all have our own lives and matters to tend to.
Ok i hear that you want everything to be pleasant and adequate.
I was just wondering though...
If your girlfreind went through a total transformation would you still accept her or would it be a problem for would you start to criticize her?
Ok so you have gone from not looking for perfection and it was a issue to seeking perfection so have you found Miss Perfect??
You have your standards set pretty high!! Michelle Obama type a show put on for the bright flashing lights of the media. I would love to see her behind closed doors im pretty sure shes like any regular woman lol. Thats understandable that you want your own first lady.
Those qualities you mentoined are very traditional, so you basically want to be one with your woman merged in harmony awww im seeing a mushy side to virgo men that supposedly are emotionally cold!!
I have noticed that virgo men are dapper and i am extremely refined that is one one the many reasons a virgo man was attracted to me.
You certainly don't ask for much Mr fussypants lol!!
I agree, mr virgo told me that "still waters run deep" refering to the way he felt about me.
@unlimitedinfiniti
A clear virgo trait analyzing the situation in every aspect weighing the pros and cons, and then coming to a conclusion, applying it and making it effective.
Hahaha I know, you'd expect high standards to go into being more accepting!
The reality is that when I was accepting, i started being distracted by silly drama, low standards and things that were not in line with who I want to be to the world. This coupled with the fact that I have absolutely no problem being alone means that if I am going to get involved, I am going to do it right. Does that make sense at all?
We are VERY emotional. But we are also practical. 🙂
When we begin to use public figures as an example of what we want in a partner our reality becomes distorted.
Posted by AlluringSirenSo basically you are saying that you intentionally look for damsels in distress? damaged goods? women who are in need of fixing up??
I have also read that virgo men have a tendency to pick up women with problems and fix them up and when they have achieved that and there is nothing else for them to focus on fixing they move on to the next one?
Why would you want to make her perfect if you are not seeking perfection in the first place?
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I never said I wasnt seeking perfection, I'm compelled by it in all areas of life.
But no I dont seek damaged women, I think thats more of a virgo woman thing to do.
What I was getting at is that, I seek women who are already as close as possible to my ideals because that way I feel like I can mold them that little bit more to be the 'perfect' version of themselves. Every woman i've been involved with, I left better than she was when I met her.
Hungvirgo, with that kind of mindset and expectations about a lover, you are simply setting up yourself for disappointment right from the beginning, its a pointless quest where the only one needing help is going to be you and just you. No functional woman is looking for somebody who can "mold them that little bit more to be the perfect version of themselves", women, and people in general just want somebody who can undertand them and accept them for who they are. The point of a functional and healthy relationship is that both people have learned to overlook certain flaws from each other, because the good points and the love for each other overpower those flaws. Healthy women are not looking for somebody who can "fix" them.
You are showing the dark and unevolved side of Virgo, the one where we secretly put ourselves in the position of martyrs, even if we dont want to admit that to ourselves.
Every healthy man deserves a healthy woman, start from that principle.
Posted by Eula
When we begin to use public figures as an example of what we want in a partner our reality becomes distorted.
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There aren't enough +1's in the universe to give to this response!
One of the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to matters of the heart is falling for "what you want that person to be" rather than "Who the person truly is".
We all have some form of an idea of what we want in a lover. However, not being realistic of what we want is where people fail.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Hungvirgo, with that kind of mindset and expectations about a lover, you are simply setting up yourself for disappointment right from the beginning, its a pointless quest where the only one needing help is going to be you and just you. No functional woman is looking for somebody who can "mold them that little bit more to be the perfect version of themselves", women, and people in general just want somebody who can undertand them and accept them for who they are. The point of a functional and healthy relationship is that both people have learned to overlook certain flaws from each other, because the good points and the love for each other overpower those flaws. Healthy women are not looking for somebody who can "fix" them.You are showing the dark and unevolved side of Virgo, the one where we secretly put ourselves in the position of martyrs, even if we dont want to admit that to ourselves.
Every healthy man deserves a healthy woman, start from that principle.
shut...up
It doesnt matter what the woman is looking for, how many women even really know what they want. Im not making myself a martyr, Im not looking for or accepting fuck ups. All women are shaped by the man in their life, its only unhealthy when done from a nagging, domineering or manipulating perspective. Someone in the relationship is going to be influencing and shaping the other, this is why virgo men often seek out older women because they dont get that from most women. Anyway as long as the influence is a positive thing and happens naturally its just part of male-female relations.
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Hey Virguys
I was just curious.......
I've heard that you men search for PERFECTION in a partner. Define the perfection that you seek and require? is it physical perfection ie Aesthetics? flawlessness? Intelligence? What is your concept of perfection in a partner? what fits in with your own internal ethics? enlighten me please.