Date with a Virgo

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Hello Virgos,

So, I'm an aquarius female, and went on a date with a Virgo (male) last Wednesday. We went to highschool together, and reconnected via good ole social media. I was a bit nervous, I hate dating, but all in all...it went well. Conversation flowed, beer flowed... it was fun. He sent me a text the next morning at 8am and a few more times throughout the day, and we agreed that it was fun and we should go out again. We texted a bit on Friday. I hadn't heard from him over the weekend, so I sent him a text yesterday, asking how his weekend was and Mothers Day, he responded, and I told him how mine was... and thats it.

I don't have much experience with Virgos, so I don't really know what to expect, but am beginning to think that perhaps he was just being nice about going out again, and that I blew it somehow on our date.I'm cutting my losses with this one, but would just like some incite.
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I sent him a text yesterday, asking how his weekend was and Mothers Day, he responded, and I told him how mine was... and thats it.



So..between yesterday and today, the world ended right?

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I'm cutting my losses with this one, but would just like some incite.



1. We won't tolerate people who spell "insight" as "incite"
2. We won't tolerate people who don't have their own life going on and would cut us off because we dared live ours.
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Hello lady :-)

No, it has not ended, I'm just unfamiliar with Virgos and just want some "insight" with them. I love learning about people and their behavior(s), especially those that I'm not very familiar with. It's only been a week, so my purpose of posting this, is simply to gain some knowledge, and to anticipate certain behaviors I guess.

Yes, I am totally aware of the proper grammar and spelling, he and I laughed about this on our date, and though I misspelled "insight" I am sure to proof read my texts to him. That was an easy one to figure out either way. He is the first male that actually sent grammatically correct texts, which I appreciated. I'm not a fan of short hand text lingo.

Let me clarify, what I meant by "cutting my losses" with this one, is that I'm fine with whatever happens or doesn't, I'm not expecting anything. I say this, only because in the past, I have gotten excited about things, and have been disappointed. So, it's more of a mental thing, then me actually cutting him out or dismissing him.
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Yes, and Virgo... I must clue you in, if you and I plan on being friends here :-) Applying your own tone to someone's post, can most often then not, be counterproductive.

I'm not freaking out here ma'm, I just would like a Virgo to throw a bone my way. You are correct, surprising for an Aqua, but there is an interesting element that comes into play with me, I have a Cancer moon. So, I'm not has detached and aloof as one may think.

I have both of those things, that's a start.

He was very open with me right from the start. I think I may have been sitting down all of 5-minutes before he told me he has a daughter, and lives 2 houses down from her mother, whom he is still really good friends with. However, he wanted to make it clear to me that the break up with them was mutual, that they both realized they were just best friends and didn't have romantic feelings for one another. I liked the fact that he was a straight shooter. I don't like people to beat around the bush or candy coat things. I'm a big girl, tell it like it is.
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(Posting this here as well. Since you have 2 of the same threads, figured it should be in both. )


You are cutting your losses because you had a brief text conversation? One thing I have learned over the years that I have dated/been involved with Virgos, is you need patience and if you don't have that, yes cut your losses. Did you try to continue the conversation? Some guys do not like to text just FYI. You guys just reconnected again and it's been what a week since your date? Virgos take time to absorb and digest, just like we do Aqua. There are many similarities between Virgo and Aqua, keep that in mind. But other things will play a part as well, upbringing, life experiences, just to name a few.

The going out again, did you guys plan anything specific or was it more of we should do this again? I think you are being rash in deciding to cut your losses (it hasn't even been a week!), but if you really are the impatient type then it is for the best.
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Sorry but I AM calling your BS, you are freaking out. I myself am an Aqua and see what you posted in your OP and then changed what you said when others chimed in, to conform and convince others that what you posted originally is not what you meant to come across.

You say you don't expect anything, right after saying he needs to throw you a bone.. contradictions left and right. Why does he need to throw you anything? It's been a WEEK! Calm down, and let it go where it may. If you truly want things to go anywhere.. breath, have patience and most importantly be yourself. No games, no bullshit. They won't put up with it 🙂
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No need to apologize, I am posting for opinions. I really am not freaking out though. I was asking for Virgos to throw me a bone, generally speaking (not referring to the Virgo guy), to give me "insight" on Virgo behaviors and characteristics, since I don't know any now, and have only met a few here and there.

I didn't change anything, I only clarified what was written, since it was being taken out of context. Yes, I did say I thought I blew it, which is true. Which is always a possibility... as some have found my nervous diarrhea of the mouth to be funny, and others offensive in the past.

I'm totally calm ma'm. I don't freak out over much, unless I'm hungry... then I turn "hangry" :-)
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No worries lady! I can't tell you how many times I didn't read an entire message or read it with an idea of my own already in my head... to only go back and read it, and think "what the, how did I deduce this... from that?" Sometimes what I write, doesn't always translate into what I'm thinking or am trying to communicate, so it takes me a few times :-).

I know right?! Where are the Virgos at?

Hangry...oh boy. I'm literally a different person. A good friend of mine commented on that the other day. He said that I'm literally a different person when I am hungry, and that what surprised him most, was that I was so consistent with it.
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I don't like people to beat around the bush or candy coat things. I'm a big girl, tell it like it is.



Oh..since you put it that away..allow me to be equally blunt and say that...

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Yes, and Virgo... I must clue you in, if you and I plan on being friends here :-) Applying your own tone to someone's post, can most often then not, be counterproductive.
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^^This right here makes zero sense to me.

One thing you'll learn with Virgos, we aren't about the "tone" of the message. Sure, some of us will get worked up like crazy but at the end of the day, it's the message that matters to us and not the "tone". We are smart like that.

As a result, you should consider dating other sign.
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Ahhh... I may have misunderstood you lady, In your previous post, you said "You know what works? Not freaking out." I took that as you being suggestive of how I was feeling or coming across in my post.

If you guys aren't about the tone... then even better for me. Another thing we discussed on the date was how people read between the lines of texts/emails, and get worked up and sensitive about it. I told him that for that reason alone, I now put happy faces on texts and emails that I feel people may take my being to the point, as being mad about something. There are 3 people in my life now that are this way, I make an effort to email/text them as little as possible and to just pick up the phone.
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Yeah, this makes sense. I made a comment about how an old roommate of mine would leave his spit cups of chewing tabacco all around the house, and that it would drive me crazy. So, one day, I grabbed them all and put them in his car. The Virgo's response was "hmmm, passive aggressive"

Which yes, is true; however, if I felt that my roommate would not have found a bit of humor in it, I wouldn't have done it, since I'm not a huge fan of conflict.
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"Nata you were jumping to conclusions by asserting as irrefutable fact that she was freaking out in the first place...and tone does matter to me and other virgos I know a whole lot lol."

I was speaking in general Ixion though having problems with someone not getting in touch with you since yesterday..is freaking out.

About the tone..I have nothing else to say than the Virgos I know aren't about that. Like I said, Virgos will feel attacked immediately and jump on the defensive...but they usually listen to the message being said, be it right or wrong. If they don't..well, that's sad.
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Just going a little bit offtopic Aqua, it will be my last post I promise.

Ixion...

"I died for beauty, but was scarce
Adjusted in the tomb,
When one who died for truth was lain
In an adjoining room.

He questioned softly why I failed?
"For beauty," I replied.
"And I for truth, -the two are one;
We brethren are," he said.

And so, as kinsmen met a night,
We talked between the rooms,
Until the moss had reached our lips,
And covered up our names"

^^If what you say is the truth for me, if I perceive it as such...you can call me every name in the book and I won't give a fuck. I'll listen what you're actually saying.

I do understand that most people like words wrapped in satin, I don't.

It would benefit Virgos a lot more to listen to the message, even if they dismiss it. I'm thinking of my dad when saying this who cannot take criticism at all.
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"I was speaking in general Ixion though having problems with someone not getting in touch with you since yesterday..is freaking out."

I don't have a problem with him not getting in touch with me, I simply wanted to give everyone the background of what has taken place, and get some Virgo enlightenment :-)

I post on here to get everyone's opinions, they aren't all going to be the same, and that is even better for me. It allows me to see things from many different perspective, as opposed to just one or two... or even worse, just my own.

Wow, it's hot. Beer anyone?

Weird, the Virgo just texted now and invited me out tonight.
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I am currently dating an Aqua male. There's differences between Virgo males and females but since you're asking for general information I'll give what I can.

We aynalize anything and everything.

Our brain never shuts off...well except when we sleep if we can even get to sleep.

We strive for perfection in almost all things. An evolved Virgo will relaize there isn't such a thing as perfection but will strive for it anyways.

We tends to be critics but if you can understand that the intentions is to help rather than hurt then you'll know our critiques are our way of showing we care about you.

We like thinkers. Those who can think outside the box which provides stimulating conversations (our favorite especially in dating).

A lot of us are neat freaks and want our surroundings organized and clean. Now not all of us are this way...but I know I am. I think it depends on what "house", in astrology terms, then are in.

In relationships:

We want a relationship built on friendship. That takes time and requires patience.

We don't love quickly but do lust quickly and that can be an issue for many Virgos. The older we are the wiser we are to it and take our time.

We don't wear our heart on our sleeve. This causes many dating Virgo issues as they can't understand it but it's really just us protecting our hearts.

We are old fashioned when it comes to dating.

We don't like clingy, overly emotional, dramatic partners.

We like our space and that's to think. People can take that as being detached or aloof. It's not.

When we love we love fully giving it our all. You'll know when a Virgo loves you...there's no mistaking it.

To be continued...work is calling (and if there are typos be kind...I've worked 14 hrs thus far today)
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The Aqua/Virgo match up is either 100% or 0% . This depends on all kinds of things. For me/us it works but we are an older couple with many life lessons learned.

Build the friendship. Take your time. You don't have to talk everyday etc. We like people with good humor so let it shine.

Good luck. I have to go give my brain a little rest...long day.



eh i'm already over the aquarius guy i hung out with last week. 0% for meeeee
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funnily enough i just took this quiz and it said my true love is an aquarius.

Why you'll love an Aquarius:

Independent yet devoted, you'll appreciate the unique approach to love Aquarius takes.
You both see love as a bit of a game, and Aquarius will challenge you until you're completely hooked.

Why an Aquarius will love you:

You're secure enough to give Aquarius tons of space - even if it means separate interests and friends.
You have the brains to keep Aquarius engaged and curious. And the passion to change the world together!



SO maybe there's some common ground between aquarius and virgo. GOOD LUCK.
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So, he invited me out last night to a comedy show. It went well, I was a bit surprised that he extended the invitation though, because he was there with 2 other guy friends, I'd think he'd want a guys night or what have you. It was fun, and his friends were easy going and easy to talk to as well. I ended up staying over, since we had been drinking, but slept on the couch. Too soon for same bed action in my book and he was a total gentleman about it.
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funnily enough i just took this quiz and it said my true love is an aquarius.

Why you'll love an Aquarius:

Independent yet devoted, you'll appreciate the unique approach to love Aquarius takes.
You both see love as a bit of a game, and Aquarius will challenge you until you're completely hooked.

Why an Aquarius will love you:

You're secure enough to give Aquarius tons of space - even if it means separate interests and friends.
You have the brains to keep Aquarius engaged and curious. And the passion to change the world together!



SO maybe there's some common ground between aquarius and virgo. GOOD LUCK.



It said that for me too.. Yeah, no thanks.
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You no love us Aqua— 😭
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OK...so I read all of this thread in this forum and the other thread in the Relationships/Astrology forum. I'm very tight and close to many male Virgos. If I showed everything you've written to them, I guarantee you they'd describe you as a pain in the ass.

Stop with the assumptions and expectations would be my first offer of insight, meaning, let the Virgo be a man. For christ sakes, if a gentleman wants to pay for the date, let him! Put your bra in a freezer and knock off the feminist bullshit.

Your "tone" and attitude would most befit a Capricorn male imo.

PS Just so you don't assume again..the night out at the comedy club with his friends wasn't a date, especially since you drove to him and drank too much and had to sleep on his couch. You didn't describe what the next morning was like either. Care to share?
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Hey LetitB! Yeah, I didn't assume the night at the comedy club was a date, but rather a friendly invitation out wth he and his friends. The morning was fine, we laughed because he said he woke up and had to remember where he was, and thought it was funny because it was his house. He gave me a hug and texted me a few times later in the day and that's how it went.

The paying thing is definitely a bad habit of mine. He has a daughter and works a few jobs, so it was more me just wanting to carry my weight a bit, and not have him pay all the time, but you're right, if he wants to pay, I should let him. I didn't really look at it from him being a man perspective. I have a Cancer Moon.
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Hey LetitB! Yeah, I didn't assume the night at the comedy club was a date, but rather a friendly invitation out wth he and his friends. The morning was fine, we laughed because he said he woke up and had to remember where he was, and thought it was funny because it was his house. He gave me a hug and texted me a few times later in the day and that's how it went.

The paying thing is definitely a bad habit of mine. He has a daughter and works a few jobs, so it was more me just wanting to carry my weight a bit, and not have him pay all the time, but you're right, if he wants to pay, I should let him. I didn't really look at it from him being a man perspective. I have a Cancer Moon.



i agree with LetitBe, even if he has a daughter and works a few jobs.....don't underestimate a Virgo man's resources, let him be a man. Stop feeling so damn sorry that he pays. It's not as if you're going to get married yet and share stuff yet. This is a DATE. Maybe it's your upbringing but i've always been brought up that a man IS the man and the woman is the woman. You seem to feel shameful for nothing. Why??
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funnily enough i just took this quiz and it said my true love is an aquarius.

Why you'll love an Aquarius:

Independent yet devoted, you'll appreciate the unique approach to love Aquarius takes.
You both see love as a bit of a game, and Aquarius will challenge you until you're completely hooked.

Why an Aquarius will love you:

You're secure enough to give Aquarius tons of space - even if it means separate interests and friends.
You have the brains to keep Aquarius engaged and curious. And the passion to change the world together!



SO maybe there's some common ground between aquarius and virgo. GOOD LUCK.



It said that for me too.. Yeah, no thanks.



You no love us Aqua— 😭



The thing is, I don't feel attracted to the men.

However, there's one exception to that rule.. and that's Justin Timberlake (Aqua sun Sag moon)😄

I really like that sun/moon combo tbh.
People I've known with this combo had such beautiful personalities
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It is such a beautiful personality isn't it? 😛 hehe
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lisbethur8: I don't feel shameful, does my wanting to pay suggest that? I'm sincerely asking. I'm that way with friends also, not just specific to guys or on dates. Like I mentioned earlier, it's a bad habit of mine. I would save so much money if I just let people pay when they offered, when I'm out with friends, family or dates. Don't get me wrong though, I do let them pay, but it's more of a turn thing.

I will make a valid effort to let him pay next time and not be so quick to pull out the cash. I guess because we were friends prior also in highschool, I am kind of approaching it as more of a friendship perhaps? With the possibility of going somewhere, rather then formal dating. No idea, I'm horrible at this stuff.