Distance makes the heart grow fonder...

NOT for this Virgo, haha!

some people have the dumbest quotes lmfao


if dis ur quote homie dont lash out on me for saying that lmao

Posted by fourthwallbreaker
I need to touch what I like. So no.

**woops, screams and the clattering of stuff in Cajunspirit's direction*

yeah!

Booya

Posted by fourthwallbreaker

Cajunspirit...Hi5 ! So, has someone been kicked to the kerb ?

I have always kicked people to the kerb, left them behind and not lost a minute of sleep about it.

The most distraught I have been was about 3 weeks ago, when I prevented myself from being the ice cold mother I am 🙂

hmm that keanu video is pretty funny.

why do we look so young?

Distance makes the heart..... go wander.

Posted by VirgoHero
Distance makes the heart..... go wander.

interesting

Posted by tamara

Posted by VirgoHero
Distance makes the heart..... go wander.

interesting

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It's true.

Posted by sortilege85
Na, this guy looks like me

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cha! that's a totally bodacious resemblance, dude!

Posted by Jason2213

I'm a see, touch, emotion (in that order) kind of guy.

Me too.

Posted by Cajunspirit
NOT for this Virgo, haha!

I bet that you think about her constantly, though!!!!

Posted by Mars.In.Aries
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I bet that you think about her constantly, though!!!!

lol, not even close.

Even when I do, it is by choice, my choice of going against my nature. Which dictates I should move on.

lol, not even close.

Even when I do, it is by choice, my choice of going against my nature. Which dictates I should move on.

So, after a year long of an intense relationship with this girl, it's simply that easy to move on?

I wish I was a guy sometimes......

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So, after a year long of an intense relationship with this girl, it's simply that easy to move on?

I wish I was a guy sometimes......

Apart from being a guy, I am a Virgo.
Compartmentalisation is easy and inbuilt.

Separation of thoughts from feelings is easy, not to mention she is pushing me in the direction... that just makes holding on harder.

Apart from being a guy, I am a Virgo.
Compartmentalisation is easy and inbuilt.

Separation of thoughts from feelings is easy, not to mention she is pushing me in the direction... that just makes holding on harder.

Hmmm..... I understand the compartmentalization aspect that you're talking about, because it's very inbuilt into me too, and I can use it to my benefit in turbulent times. But separation from thought and feeling isn't easy to do. I think this is what some would call avoidance of emotions, but using her actions as a reason to separate your thoughts and feelings.

It goes against your analytical Virgo nature, and the need to fix the object of affection. I don't think this is easy for Virgo's to separate from. But you're smart enough to reason yourself. But then there is a complex......

My opinion is if someone is getting on your nerves long enough, eventually your heart pulls away from the relationship. Once you're heart is in the "safety zone" of not feeling the pain of a breakup, the mind will soon follow. This can be done by females as well as males, even if we are supposed to be considered the more emotional species.

Just my opinion.

That seems logical. And I agree. But majority of the time, people don't pull away, even if there are serious issues, mainly because the heart is invested. So many of my friends are doing this right now.... they will push each other's button's, fight, try to get even, work things out, be happy for a while, and then start all over again.

Logically to me, a true honest relationship is when you can build upon each other. Fight, by all means, but always keep the relationship as the main focus. Then it cannot become destructive in any way. Or detrimental for each involved.

But if your heart is able to pull away so quickly, then perhaps the heart wasn't involved in the first place. But then why be the bearer of heart ache for another person if their heart is involved?

Posted by Mars.In.Aries

Hmmm..... I understand the compartmentalization aspect that you're talking about, because it's very inbuilt into me too, and I can use it to my benefit in turbulent times. But separation from thought and feeling isn't easy to do. I think this is what some would call avoidance of emotions, but using her actions as a reason to separate your thoughts and feelings.

I have read Aries have little problems moving on, perhaps your chart affects you a bit?

It goes against your analytical Virgo nature, and the need to fix the object of affection. I don't think this is easy for Virgo's to separate from. But you're smart enough to reason yourself. But then there is a complex......

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I have a "complex" now? 😛

I have read Aries have little problems moving on, perhaps your chart affects you a bit?

We are very passionate people. I have the added benefit of having MArs in Aries, and my ascending sign being libra, which zodiacally speaking is my opposite sign. It's hard moving on when our hearts are involved, because we give it our all. Heart ache is actually exhausting, but that doesn't stop us from doing it again.

As for my compartmentalization.... that's what the Virgo is experiencing right now. My heart isn't invested, but I'm not going to play with his heart. That's part of being honest. But even when I'm looking out for his best interest, he thinks that I'm cold hearted. His retaliation? Trying to get back with his crazy ex girlfriend, who emotionally and verbally abuses him, and all of a sudden he gets fixated on wanting to fix her faults all over again.

My point is, it's not just aries that have problems with moving on. It's anyone that loves someone, and then lives the day when they realize that that love cannot be returned. That's not easy to walk away from.

I have a "complex" now? 😛

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Yes, you obviously feel superior to her since you are walking away with out any injuries. Perhaps you're just a heart breaker—?

Posted by Mars.In.Aries

We are very passionate people. I have the added benefit of having MArs in Aries, and my ascending sign being libra, which zodiacally speaking is my opposite sign. It's hard moving on when our hearts are involved, because we give it our all. Heart ache is actually exhausting, but that doesn't stop us from doing it again.

No wonder... you got a messed up chart. Susceptible to emotional blindness.

As for my compartmentalization.... that's what the Virgo is experiencing right now. My heart isn't invested, but I'm not going to play with his heart. That's part of being honest. But even when I'm looking out for his best interest, he thinks that I'm cold hearted. His retaliation? Trying to get back with his crazy ex girlfriend, who emotionally and verbally abuses him, and all of a sudden he gets fixated on wanting to fix her faults all over again.

Hmmm, he sounds messed up too lol

My point is, it's not just aries that have problems with moving on. It's anyone that loves someone, and then lives the day when they realize that that love cannot be returned. That's not easy to walk away from.

I'm past that.

I have a "complex" now? 😛

Yes, you obviously feel superior to her since you are walking away with out any injuries. Perhaps you're just a heart breaker—?

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Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat—
How did you arrive at that conclusion!?

No wonder... you got a messed up chart. Susceptible to emotional blindness.

Emotional honesty, honey..... but yes, it does blind side some people.

Hmmm, he sounds messed up too lol

That's a Virgo for you.....

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat—
How did you arrive at that conclusion!?

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It's how you're kinda coming across as. I'm not trying to be confrontational here. It just seems that you have an air of superiority because you have dealt with your break up without being emotional. Yet you have said in several other threads that you are amazed at how she has been handling the break up. Men might have on and off switches. Women don't. Maybe she is deeply hurt that you guys split, and because of your own emotional blindness, you have over looked this. Or you are misinterpreting her behavior.

She was once emotionally open with you. That has now been shut off..... most women have a hard time establishing that kind of connectivity with a man.

I work with dudes, and I knw of this about guys. When they are hurting they do one of two things..... they will shrug it off and carry onto something else, or they will pretend like it doesn't bother them.

All I am saying is that if you cliam that you have moved on this quickly, perhaps you didn't give it your all, and didn't give her a fair chance. Or maybe you really are hurting about it deep down inside, but you are talking yourself out of confronting those feelings?

I find it hard to believe that anybody doesn't reflect upon their relationship and reminisce the good, the bad, and the sexy.......

Just being honest....

Posted by Mars.In.Aries

Emotional honesty, honey..... but yes, it does blind side some people.

Your Libra rising is your weakness in love.

It's how you're kinda coming across as. I'm not trying to be confrontational here. It just seems that you have an air of superiority because you have dealt with your break up without being emotional. Yet you have said in several other threads that you are amazed at how she has been handling the break up. Men might have on and off switches. Women don't. Maybe she is deeply hurt that you guys split, and because of your own emotional blindness, you have over looked this. Or you are misinterpreting her behavior.

Ugh... this first week was emotional for me a bit.
What hurts me is that she is sending mixed signals asking me to prove myself, then rejecting me when I try to prove my love for her.

She was once emotionally open with you. That has now been shut off..... most women have a hard time establishing that kind of connectivity with a man.

She kept all her problems to herself, all her bad emotions and expected me to "fix" the problems hid away.

I work with dudes, and I knw of this about guys. When they are hurting they do one of two things..... they will shrug it off and carry onto something else, or they will pretend like it doesn't bother them.

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I'm a shrugger, excellent one at that.

All I am saying is that if you cliam that you have moved on this quickly, perhaps you didn't give it your all, and didn't give her a fair chance. Or maybe you really are hurting about it deep down inside, but you are talking yourself out of confronting those feelings?

Nope.
I always asked her, what her problems were, when I saw her disturbed.
I always asked, what she expected in the relationship, when I suspected I was not fulfilling my duties.
I always asked, what she wanted me to change, when I sensed that she was uncomfortable.

You know what her answer, always was?
"Nothing"

Then AFTER BREAKING UP, she accuses me of
"Not using my common sense"
"Not being able to read her"
AND
She tells me all the problems she had.

NOW THAT is retarded, and that led to my topic "Women want Mind Readers".

I find it hard to believe that anybody doesn't reflect upon their relationship and reminisce the good, the bad, and the sexy.......

Just being honest....

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And I appreciate the honesty.

I do reminisce, but I don't let it mess with my heart much.