Do Virgo types tend to discard nice people?

I have an ex boyfriend and we broke up in January of last year, and still dealt with each other until about May or June. He graduated from college in May and didn't know where he??d end up; he ended up finding a job in his home town (two hours away). In June I came clean about how I had missed him and would like to try again if I go to grad school in the area (we live in the South). He didn't say anything and told me he had to go as a friend was waiting, so I took that as a —no.?? And proceeded to try to get over him, I then decided I was going to go to grad school in California (I'm originally from there) and had told a friend of his that, and that he and I weren't on speaking terms, I don't know what happened. About a week after I saw his friend he all of a sudden he deleted me off of facebook. I then called him to see if I said anything about him out of the way and if I did I apologize. When I called he answered the phone and hung up. I called again and he did the same thing. I didn't contact him at all and for a while but I did decide to send him an email around my birthday saying (early July) I wasn't happy with his behavior and that it was making me want to move more. Again I didn't hear from him, and lo and behold at the end of July (when he was in town) he comes by my apartment. My roommate saw him and I was out, but my car was in front of my apartment, and my room light was on so he probably thought I was home. I then text him the next day to tell him that I knew he came by and if he needed to talk to me let me know in case he lost my number. No answer from him. So no contact for a while, I text him and said —hey, how are you stranger— in late Aug, and again no response.

So again I didn't talk to him at all??_I heard he was dating a girl in his area that was a friend of his. I called him (and left a message) to say that I heard about that and I wanted to know how he and the job was, I hoped we could be civil, and that I was coming into town the next week (my nephew goes to college in the same area that he lives in, which is two hours away from our university). I also sent a facebook request saying I hoped he was ok, and that the job was going well, and that again at the very least we could be civil. He denied me.

Now I fully understand it's his facebook, and it's obvious he doesn't want to deal with me (I??ve tried a few times, and won't try again). But what I don't understand is why he would be this cold when I was a good girlfriend, and flat out a good person; he even said I was. He also said we were incompatible as friends because I'm too serious lol. I was out of all the people he knows (including his parents) the only one that gave him a birthday present, plus I was encouraging when he had something bad happen, for instance his car window was smashed in, and I asked if he was ok and that I'm sorry it happened. Or if he got a bad test on a grade I used to send a text saying I hoped he was ok, and that he??d do well next time. I also gave him a graduation present in May. I know we broke up, and he doesn't have to add me on facebook, but I am a true Cancer in the sense I do hold on, but not romantically??_I have an 11th house Venus, plus I have a Mars/Uranus aspect that's conjunct both my Asc and Sun??_so staying friends/friendly with ALL my exes is something I do. I care very deeply for them, but I??ll NEVER go back.

So I'm just asking knowing that he and I didn't end on bad terms, I was a good girlfriend, cared very deeply for him, would tell him he was a great guy (his dad is an alcoholic and would call him a piece of crap and worthless), and he??d say he wasn't used to hearing nice things, I just don't understand why he can't even be civil with me. In the end I didn't want to get back together, I broke up with him (he's a true Aquarian??_cares for his friends so much lol, and he couldn't make time for me), he used to say that he was starting to need or depend on me and he can't be vulnerable, and that is why he would try to find flaws in me (I thought that was an excuse). But I was willing to be friends (or friendly) with him, and then he??d just say he can't be friends with me because it's awkward. Are Virgo influenced people like this, so I'm not really sure where he's coming from this (other than he could be thinking I'm still trying to pursue a relationship). Thanks, and sorry for being SOOOO long.

He's a: Cap rising with: Aqua Sun, Virgo Moon, Pisces Mer, Cap Venus, Aries Mars, Pisces Jup, Sag Saturn, Sag Uranus, Cap Neptune, and Scorp Pluto. Dob 2/16/87 at 5:08 am in Charleston, SC.

I'm a: Cancer rising with" Cancer Sun, Cap Moon, Leo Mer, Taurus Venus, Cancer Mars, Aqua Jup, Scorp Saturn, Sag Uranus, Cap Neptune, and Scorp Pluto. Dob 7/3/85 at 5:34 am in Bellflower, Ca.

you seem to have left something out btwn the last conversation and telling his friend that you weren't on speaking terms... you also left out why you broke up - I don't think a Virgo would just up and disregard someone who is a good hearted, genuine person as those people are rare to come by indeed! So, he must have seen something in you that made you not worthy!!

:/ yeah, right... because I didn't respond to your last PM Vistas—

They wouldn't suddenly turn their back without reason is what I'm saying! She is leaving something out...

or maybe not...

He didn't 'walk over her', they broke up in Jan and from what it sounds to me, until he graduated, they saw each other on campus and he was being cordial. Upon his departure he distanced himself, although cordial in the last conversation she mentioned (from her depiction, he just didn't answer her question). No mention of another conversation, no mention of harsh words, no mention of anything suggesting that they were not on speaking terms, yet she portrayed it as such to a friend of his - maybe he was busy, maybe he was thinking it over. In the end, maybe it was nothing more than her saying that they were not on speaking terms and that in itself was enough to make him think ill of her as it was a slight to his character given that he had not considered anything of the sort.

My Virgo would indeed say "if that's the way you feel..." and turn his back! Without more info, sounds to me to be exactly like that!

You are right he is an Aqua Sun, he didn't want a long distance relationship (and told me), which is why I told him if I happen to go to school in the area I wanted to try again. He knew I was moving to California when we were dating, in fact I had told him I was intending on moving. We were more than cordial, we were taking a class together so saw each other and still talked and dealt with each other about three days a week. When we were still dealing with each other during the time we were taking the class together I had made a random comment that I think he should stay in our universities area (which again is two hours away from where he is now), and then he added that I was the one moving to San Francisco. I am ok with us not being together, but I wasn't sure why he just cut me off. I know especially according to an Aqua that I deff can be emotional and clingy, but I do also know that my benefits outweigh my negatives. I begun to really care for him (not just romantically), especially knowing all about his family (his dad was an alcoholic, would get drunk and then tell him he's worthless, and his mom wasn't there and would party all the time). Even when we were dating I had said to him I would continue to care about him even if we end, I'm not the type to bail on people. When I start caring for someone, (friend or otherwise) I'm there for the long haul.

I do know other Virgo influenced and even Aqua influenced people, and I'VE never seen this behavior before. We were cordial until he graduated, we had a class together and still dealt with each other and even ended up making out soon before he graduated. He actually stopped talking to me prior to when he graduated (in May). We made plans to hang out before he graduated (we knew mutual people) and when I was seeing if he was available for all of us to hang out he didn't answer. Later that night I saw him, and he told me he didn't want to have feelings for anyone, and that he wasn't sure why he didn't answer the phone. That is also the same night we saw each other and said we were better off friends. We ended up making out and being affectionate, and he told me I was amazing, and that he wasn't used to hearing someone say nice things about him. Then he went to go get food with a friend and was going to find me after, while I was talking to another friend of mine, and then he left. I did text him but he didn't respond.

I do agree that he has moved on, and like I said Cancers do cling to the past, but I'm the type of person that doesn't cling to a relationship, I cling to the person. I look at it as if I can find a reason to share my body, soul or time with you I certainly can find a reason to be civil and friendly with you and want to genuinely know how you are even if it's not in a romantic sense. And care about your well being. I know other Virgo influenced people, and they tend to stay "friendly" especially if someone didn't wrong them, and are in general nice. And I do know Aqua??s tend to deff stay friends with exes. I did nothing wrong, and that's why I was wondering why at the very least he couldn't be civil towards me. Even if he is with someone, certainly you still care about someone and wonder how they are. Even if you don't go back.

And I have to say (not defensively lol) I have moved on (from the romance...not him as a person though), I don't know why staying in contact with someone means you automatically aren't over them. I have a Gemini ex who cheated on me big time...and I actually walked his dog the other day. He was a SUCKY boyfriend, but good guy. Just couldn't stay faithful AT ALL, so I keep him in my life because he is a good guy at the end of the day. Same with a Pisces ex, another Gemini ex, a Taurus ex, and my other exes (not too many btw lol) I have. If I can be in contact with someone, I want to be...not all the time but just to see if they are ok.

I do know Virgo's have to have a reason for them to just change and cut someone off, he had no reason to be that way towards me. And then to randomly stop by apartment when he was in town after cutting me off the way he did was very strange. We have good placements, even for civility which is why I am taking this hard, his Venus and Asc are Conjunct his Moon...and we have two grand trines (1 in water with my Sun, his Pluto in Scorp, and his Mercury in Pisces), 1 in earth with my Venus in Taurus, his Moon in Virgo, and my Moon in Cap.

I should add that he and I didn't communicate from the point of when we talked in June and I told him how I felt, and that I was thinking of grad school in the South to when I saw his friend, and said I was sorry for not hanging out as much as I could have (as in the spring semester), and that I was moving in August after graduation to California, and that we weren't on speaking terms. I thought he and I weren't on speaking terms because he wasn't really talking to me other than that phone call (which he said he didn't know who it was as he had a new number, and called me back??_so by default that was not speaking to me). So I don't think I did anything out of the way off the bat, but perhaps I did.

Oh P.S. if someone can't see the placements here they are:

His Asc is in Cap, mine is in Cancer
His Sun is in Aqua (1st), mine is in Cancer (1st)
His Moon is in Virgo (8th), mine is in Cap (7th)
His Mer is in Pisces (3rd), mine is in Leo (2nd)
His Venus is in Cap (12th), mine is in Taurus (11th)
His Mars is in Aries (3rd), mine is in Cancer (1st)
His Jup in Pisces, mine in Aqua
His Saturn in Sag, mine in Scorp
His Uran in Sag, mine in Sag
His Nep in Cap, mine in Cap
His Pluto in Scorp, mine in Scorp

Carribean you are right...

I was wanting to shy away from the whole I'm a victim he used me stance, at the end of the day I did what I did and contacted him. I know I should just move on. It's hard, I guess I can't fathom why can't someone be civil even if they don't want someone. I know I'm a nice person, and it's kinda like at the end of the day I wasn't even worth being civil to.

He told me he doesn't stay friends with exes, and then up and readded another ex to facebook (she's a little less curvy than myself, but full hispanic) not long ago an ex he dated three years ago that cheated on him like 4 times, and then after they broke up she found someone three days later that she is still with 2.5 years later and engaged to. And its kinda like I'm not even worth being facebook friends with.

He can even add random people, my friend who he never met added him (I think she added him in like Aug, and I'll be honest she's really attractive, white, and less curvy then myself (I'm a typical Cancer with big boobs, and am african american and mexican...plus we live in the south) so that might have something to do with it) and he accepted (and has NEVER tried to talk to her)...but he denied me, someone who he knows and slept with and I did nothing). I guess that's what I'm not admitting is hurting me, that I'm not even worth being facebook friends with.

Thank you for the kind words, I have always had trouble with being "too available" but I'm not sure what that means. I guess I don't understand why you have to hide if you're into someone or play games and "run." I'm the simple type, I like you, you like me and that is enough, why play games. Likewise if you don't like me tell me. I'm not a mind reader, and I'd rather someone tell me they hate me than just ignore me.

This is a learning point. You are right, that is why he added them, I do remember something he said a while ago (like in December) about he wants what he can't have. He chucked it up to being drunk at the time. It's hard, I'm the type of person that if someone is nice to me even if I don't want a relationship I'll be nice back, but tell them we are JUST friends. So it's beyond me why anyone would treat someone cruely or not be above board in their dealings with others (even if don't like someone as a person you tell them), it just seems disrespectful to be that way to me.

Virgo's will cut you out seemoingly suddenly and without reason.
Often theswe are the less assertive more introvert Virgos.
You did SOMETHING, he just let it boil over inside and when it spilled, he responded with action not communication.

First (opening) post ... you describe how you badgered him with calls/texts/emails ... practically the whole 2500 word limit was used talking about how you constantly blew him up, trying to get him. He tried his best to ignore you.


Second post ..... you describe how you are a good person, and can't understand why someone else cannot get that. For some reason you clearly have yourself thinking that smothering another person with emotional neediness = a good person.


Third has a comment in it that blew me away ... you said you broke up with him.




blah ...... you are clueless even about yourself if you think you broke up with him, when it was you chasing him so hard that he literally had to dodge you, just so he could have a life.

This is the main reason why people dodge Cancers in general ....

"Mature people like uncomplicated but people take their HIGHER POWER (God) for granted, so you know what they will do for you and I"

I agree here, I am actually not mentioning my belifs. But I do very strongly believe in a higher power (my God) and I do model my behavior in regards to others in that fashion. I don't believe in anything other than total honesty, even if it hurts (you can soften the truth though). You are right about me being expendible, which is ironic because at the end of the day I'm more unique, understanding, and caring than most of the people I know (hopefully that doesn't sound too arrogant lol).

As far as me having done something, I honestly can't think of a SINGLE thing I've done to him. Like I said he deleted me on facebook in late June after no contact from the last phone call we had. In the last phone call we had, I said I might go to grad school in the area and not go to California, and if I did go to school in the area I'd like to try again. I made this call in early June.

Two weeks later, I waw his friend. All we talked about were my plans after graduation (in August) to move to California, and that I wassn't doing grad school in the area. We also talked about how I was sorry that the previous semester I didn't get a chance to hang out with her, as I worked alot. And that the ex always invited me places (to hang out with them) but that I couldn't go. We also talked about hanging out over the summer, and that it wouldn't be awkward because the ex was gone. I told her I knew as we aren't on speaking terms.

And then about a week after I saw her he deleted me off of facebook. I called him to see if I did or said something out of the way (I know obviously she told him what I said...I just wasn't sure what it was that made him angry/ or if I said something out of the way that I should have kept quiet) he answered the phone and hung up. After that is when things went down hill.

Then around my birthday I sent an email that said his behavior was making me want to move more, and that he was being childish. I didn't contact him from then on, and then at the end of July (and about a week before graduation) he came by my apartment but I was out.

That is where things ended, I figured he deleted me because he was angry that I told his friend something about how we deal with each other. But either way it was deff not an excuse to hang up the phone! Especially if someone is trying to find out what the heck they did wrong, if they did anything wrong at all.

I sent him that email in early July, and he came by my place in late July when he was in town (he hadn't been in town since he graduated in May).

I suppose I should clarify...I broke up with him in January twice. And then we had our class together in which we had consistant contact and were civil, never talked about getting back together. After graduation in early May is when I started to contact him (I didn't contact him until June though). He wasn't behaving (as in dodging me P-Angel!) this way until way after our breakup, at that point I thought as we had dealt with each other all semester showed he at least could be friends.

Posted by P-Angel
This is the main reason why people dodge Cancers in general ....

Yep. That's all I'll say.

Posted by wsigaf
you'll be fine..

Awwww...

Are you a Virgo wsigaf?

Virgo types tend to discard fake/manipulative/drama queen people.


Fix'd


😛

I'm not saying names, I'm telling the types we tend to discard.

Oh a Libra eh? Cool. Just had a run-in with a Libra man at work and all I'm gonna say is - wishee washee.

To answer your question Mr. Scales, I'm a Virgo. Can't you see the beautiful Virgo symbol in my profile pic— YOU BETTA RECOGNIZE FOOL!

Yes they are. The only way I would date a Libra is if he had quite a few planets in earth. All that up in the air shit doesn't work for me. It's like - can't you just make up your mind already— LOL!!!!!

Now to the fun part...how should I punish you...HMMM...let me ponder that for a little while. I need to come up with something out of this world.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
I dont think wsigaf cares too much about your dating preferences to be honest.

I don't think so either but thought I would just put it out there. I'll tell you what I don't care about - those ugly ass shades you have on. You look like a retarded version of Neo from the Matrix.

Oh please, that line is so tired Mr. Resident wise-ass. Thought you would have a more clever come back than that. I'm a beautiful Virgo girl.


The last time you started fucking with me I wanted to tell you to get rid of the last pic because it only made you look the part of retarded goofball and I wanted to suggest you try producing something that looks even remotely as good as a quarter of one of my ass cheeks, but now you come back...and with this? Fuck off.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Ohh..forgot about the fact that fugly people usually use anime pics for their profiles 😉

Now stop that. Sometimes beautiful people use anime pics for their profiles too.

Posted by 25thDecan
Oooooohhhhhh......she said you so ugly a bid shitted on your face just to cover it up! Ooooohhhh.....he said you so ugly your face is actually the bald spot where your hair put make-up and eyeliner over the face it burned in an attempt to cover up how ugly your face really is!
Ooooooooooooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh

You are terrible. You're that kid in the middle of the 3 o clock fight after school chanting "fight fight". Ha ha! No worries...I can take him.

Well I'm waiting for his stupid ass. Second time he's started bs and walked away. My face is greased, rings on all fingers and my tims are laced all the way up...where you at pussy?!!!!!

I'll say it again - you told HIS friend that you weren't on speaking terms when there was nothing otherwise you have spoken of to suggest such. YOU said it, he took it took heart and so be it; no wonder he deleted you from facebook, and, why would he speak to you after you declared such— *smh*

Posted by 25thDecan
You wear "tims" and you're a woman....mmhhhmmmm....you a "face-rider"? Gone get it....mmmm.
Sorry, having an explicit moment. OH! GIGGIDY!

Damn you take everything at face value? I've actually never owned a pair of tims. I don't know. Something about them not wanting colored folk in them...or whateva. Tell me, what woman who has to kick ass does so in heels?

Ok, gotcha.

Your sister sounds like my kind of gal. I mean, a gal's gotta do what a gal's gotta do right?

I do own a pair of black Durangos. Those would make for some good ass-kicking boots if they weren't so slippery on the bottom.

On a more random note, you don't give off that typical effeminate Virgo male vibe. Please don't take my statement the wrong way because it's not a diss. I know that behind every Virgo man's seemingly feminine aura and delicate physicality there is a spine made of steel and ice but, I just don't get that 'Mr. Softy' thing from you.

I don't take you to heart. Other people might be a little frightened of your style but not I. LOL. We are usually the opposite of how we come across. You'd be the first one cuddling with a scorp woman on a couch whispering sweet nothings in her ear. HAHAHAHAHAHAAAA!!!!!

Wow, it's that serious with the scorpettes eh?

Well as a Virgo woman, I love scorp men although they scare the hell out of me. Of all the water sign men, they are my cup o' tea. I like their strength and the protection factor.

I totally get you. Everyone does have weaknesses and for me it's just a matter of finding out what they are.

When I say 'scare' it's really about those spooky eyes those scorpios have. They can stare at you so intensely that you would believe they were burning a hole through your flesh. With scorpio guys, I always feel like they are hunting me. I'm prey. We Virgo girls usually come across as young/naieve but we're really not. We can be grown ass women but still look like that teenage damsel in distress and people will stupidly take that as us not having life experience/street smarts. It's like they just want to do all these dirty little things to you. I'm not there yet. They can have their fill with other women.

I'll level the field when I'm ready.

Yeah our alleged lack of intelligence due to our angelic faces and genuine naievete is really the seat of our power. Whoa to those who think we're just an innocent angle...

Hey stop that. My sis is a cap...and so is Michelle Obama. Nuff respect to the Cap ladies.