Feeding the Aries Monster

I (27yr old Aries) began a "cya when i cya" relationship with my 24yr old Virguy personal trainer in January. He mentioned that he lived with someone but since meeting me decided to move out & was moving out within the month, he even took me to the apt to see the renovation progress. Soon after we started seeing each other and became sexual, things were good. Then they blew up!! The girlfriend found out about us, confronted him, he supposedly told her the truth about us and that was his last night there. He spent a couple nights wtih me then went on to his apt. We began spending more time together and although we were supposed to be keeping lowkey and casusal I could tell he was getting attached. I began to ask more questions - come to find out the girlfriend was a a girlfriend for 6 years, from the start of college till now, he lived in a house with her, her mother and grandmother!!! WOW!! Things changed since then, although he claimed to be over it, he appeared to be racked with guilt and loneliness to the point that it affected me & him, the fun was gone. First we went back & forth about giving him more space but then it got wierd. We would make love and the next day he would say he thinks he needs to stop being my trainer and seeing me. We talk and resolve it but it happened again. After the second time I said enuf lets just be friends and train me. Low and behold 2 days later he claims to be trying to work it out with his pisces ex-girl and can have no contact with me at all as he is being monitored, including training me.
ive handled all this in stride but know im getting pissed. i dont really believe he is subjecting himself to being "monitored" to try to get back with someone he made such strong steps to leave in the first place. I think he is overwhelmed with feelings and cant handle it so he's running & making excuses. Ive been real understanding but the Aries in me wants to tell him off, 1 for screwing up my workout and 2 for handling this (whatever the hell it is) in a way that insults my intelligence. '
Bottom line: what the HELL is his problem— and should I unleash my Aries wrath or just ignore him??

Hot Damn!! Yeah I am ALL ARIES - its disgusting!! but I do have a Virgo descendant so my spidey senses were a little funky on this one - thanks for the push. Now for the fun part. Supposedly ex-girl is monitoring his emails & so i have 3 options:

1. email
2. text message
3. letter

I could even approach him in the gym but if he tries to give me the cold shoulder I might jump on him and considering the fact that he is MAILING me the money paid the remaining sessions..........

Also it depends on the consensus here, no doubt he's a LAME an unprofessional one at that (then again it is NYSC, hee hee). Is he running from the fire in which case he gets a little pity OR is he really trying to get back with his ex and his deal with me was some wierd experiment in which case TOTAL DESSIMATION

Dangit Man you had me all worked up & rearing to go but you're right. Besides I dont chase em i replace em. Ive learned that the best thing to do is to ignore someone anyway - it kills them. Im just miffed over my workout cuz he is a good trainer and the sex scene was on point which is all i was trying to have in the first place. I def wouldnt mind the occasional pajama party so i wont kill him, i'll just ignore him and LOVE LOVE LOVE my new spotters. I know he still wants me.... poor thing

Diggin the Advice!

BTW - no i didnt truly know about the girl. he said he lived with someone and was moving out in the next couple of weeks. I didnt find out that he was with her 6 years, that she thought things were cool, etc until AFTER we got physical and he got booted out. When I confronted him about that omission of course he said "i didnt think you would talk to me if i told you". Not true, If I had known I just would have chilled until he WAS moved out cause im no Rebound. Im the girl you practice for not with!

Just the level headed thoughts i needed fish U ROCK!!! and i will of course keep you posted 😉

ok update time, i of course was completely weak to my muscular sexy fine trainer Virguy-whom i'll from this point on refer to as Lolli as in Lollipop cuz he's such a sucker UGH! Anyway the very next morn after my post Lolli phoned me & asked to train me & finish out my 3 sessions. He said he felt really bad at the way he handled things & didnt want to end on that note. i went to the gym all ready to cancel on his butt & transfer that energy. Instead I got the intense gaze they do asking me not to cancel, it wasnt about the $ $ $ , he really wanted to do it. Im a fiend so i did. The next day Friday i had lunch w/a friend who's had a # of Virguys & knows Lolli. she agreed that despite the drama it's very obvious that he likes me alot & is overwhelmed. That my Aries way of "Im fine with or without you, please believe) is uncomfotable for Virgos even though they preech space & independence. They're actually more visible & if I wanted to get to the bottom of this big test than I was gonna have to spill my guts, snot dripping, convulsing I cant live without you performance.
CHALLENGE OH HELL YEAH! so after the workout I told Lolli i must speak with him, he gave a little bit of a hard time but I looked him dead in his eyes and asked him to please not make me beg. He agreed. I got a little excited, WoW my girl was right on the money. Im a wreck so I throw back a quick shot of Patron to ease my nerves & meet Lolli. We began talking & i asked him not to continue acting this way, that I was scared to. I squeezed & squeezed until I thought i was gonna shite myself but I couldnt get a tear to fall for nothing. I kept my had down most of the time because the pain was in my throat, I just needed to concentrate. Lolly kept asking to see my face, thats when i knew he REALLY WAS looking for the breakdown. He even began telling me how much worse his ex-girl responded. All i could think was DUH she was w/you for 6 years & u come home & tell her that you dont love her anymore, you want space & you're sleeping with someone else! Sick & twisted truly, the Angry Aries Monster woke up & I wanted to knock him off his chair, the tear ducts were bone dry. This emotional competition that he needs for security is BANANAS!
basically he wants to try with her not cuz he's in love w/her but they have history, she knows him. Me getting a guy will be no prob, she needs him more. Scaredycat hiding behind his ex! 2 scared to go all the way. I was really upset though, why couldnt i cry?

Yeah I figured as much, sad but true. I think the fact that im a performing artist and couldnt cry is bothering me the most. I got the most choked up thinking about the fact that we havent perfected my thigh routine and about the 2 magnums I have left of his that I wont get to use 😢. Im traumatized over that cuz the bed action turned me into a WOMAN!!!! Dam Dam Dam - Im gonna miss that!!

Oh well, I have learned that I want to get more control of my Arian ways because in retrospect he's not the first guy who questioned my sincerity and got scared. Im never gonna be able to stroke a guys ego in the generic desperate chick way YUCK i hate obvious, BUT i can work on letting MY WAY of showing sincere emotions shine through more than the "i dont need anyone, kick rocks" Martian in me.

Thats whats special about Aries we dont usually hold grudges, can find a lesson in almost anything & good in anyone