Fellow Virgos...Got a question.

When you break up with someone, or someone breaks up with you, does the ex try to get back with you after a few days/week?

I was reading another post, and it made me wonder how it was with other Virgos. I have only been stalked by one person, but I have had off the top of my head, at least 10 women who I split up with...I only broke up with 2 of them...try very hard to get back together with me. I'm talking my whole life.

Has this happened to you? Why does this happen?

Nope, actually none have tried to get back together with me although I've tried to get back together with some myself. I suppose it tells something about me as a person and it's not positive.

I've never been broken up with, but every woman I broke up with tried to comeback at some point, 2 of them stalked.

Yes. Either I broke up with them or they broke up with me. They always come back like they always do 😢

It's hard to shove them out of my life once the relationship is over cos I would never take them back even if I still love them.

Yep, I've had issue with it as well. I've ended majority of them and they always continued to linger back around somehow. My last one was the worst, restraining order and all. She still doesn't get it and has attacked or harrassed anyone that I have gone out with. You have no idea how much that sucks and I do warn the people I date about it. It's not the easiest of topics. It was odd that that while I was in court at one of the restraining orders another female walks up to me and tells me, "She isn't over you, I can see it clearly."

There ain't nothing special about me but they all say they I intrigue them somehow. I am very responsible and pretty much a perfectionist and that's a downfall of mine as well. Yeah I know it's a virgo trait. I don't try and date much but it seems as though the dates I go out on want something long term right away and it makes for an uncomfortable feeling.

I too believe in once it's over it's over and move on.

Posted by YepAnotherVirgo
Yep, I've had issue with it as well. I've ended majority of them and they always continued to linger back around somehow. My last one was the worst, restraining order and all. She still doesn't get it and has attacked or harrassed anyone that I have gone out with. You have no idea how much that sucks and I do warn the people I date about it. It's not the easiest of topics. It was odd that that while I was in court at one of the restraining orders another female walks up to me and tells me, "She isn't over you, I can see it clearly."

There ain't nothing special about me but they all say they I intrigue them somehow. I am very responsible and pretty much a perfectionist and that's a downfall of mine as well. Yeah I know it's a virgo trait. I don't try and date much but it seems as though the dates I go out on want something long term right away and it makes for an uncomfortable feeling.

I too believe in once it's over it's over and move on.

Virgos don't offer closure; hence, the person pining after you are left with a lot of "what and why" questions so they linger around having hopes and seeking for answers. If you want to set your exes free, sit them down and tell them directly why it's over. You may receive very different results.

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Posted by YepAnotherVirgo
Yep, I've had issue with it as well. I've ended majority of them and they always continued to linger back around somehow. My last one was the worst, restraining order and all. She still doesn't get it and has attacked or harrassed anyone that I have gone out with. You have no idea how much that sucks and I do warn the people I date about it. It's not the easiest of topics. It was odd that that while I was in court at one of the restraining orders another female walks up to me and tells me, "She isn't over you, I can see it clearly."

There ain't nothing special about me but they all say they I intrigue them somehow. I am very responsible and pretty much a perfectionist and that's a downfall of mine as well. Yeah I know it's a virgo trait. I don't try and date much but it seems as though the dates I go out on want something long term right away and it makes for an uncomfortable feeling.

I too believe in once it's over it's over and move on.

Virgos don't offer closure; hence, the person pining after you are left with a lot of "what and why" questions so they linger around having hopes and seeking for answers. If you want to set your exes free, sit them down and tell them directly why it's over. You may receive very different results.

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Spot on.

Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9

Posted by YepAnotherVirgo
Yep, I've had issue with it as well. I've ended majority of them and they always continued to linger back around somehow. My last one was the worst, restraining order and all. She still doesn't get it and has attacked or harrassed anyone that I have gone out with. You have no idea how much that sucks and I do warn the people I date about it. It's not the easiest of topics. It was odd that that while I was in court at one of the restraining orders another female walks up to me and tells me, "She isn't over you, I can see it clearly."

There ain't nothing special about me but they all say they I intrigue them somehow. I am very responsible and pretty much a perfectionist and that's a downfall of mine as well. Yeah I know it's a virgo trait. I don't try and date much but it seems as though the dates I go out on want something long term right away and it makes for an uncomfortable feeling.

I too believe in once it's over it's over and move on.

Virgos don't offer closure; hence, the person pining after you are left with a lot of "what and why" questions so they linger around having hopes and seeking for answers. If you want to set your exes free, sit them down and tell them directly why it's over. You may receive very different results.

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Fully agree!

Bit of cowards in that area. Sorry for the language.

Wow..somebody else used same word I did.

Well let me put it a different way, they are sneaky little bastards and can never do wrong. That's why.

I actually came in here to say something nice about Virgos.

Posted by Ixion120
Meh I call horseshit on that saying all virgos don't offer closure, when I break up I do it for real; I list out and explain my reasons very clearly, wish them the best, typically don't offer some rinky dink consolation relationship clause (we can still be friends) if we were not very good friends to begin with...and keep it moving.

Closure is something owed to a partner if you care about their humanity at all. I'm not a fan of the entire houdini disappearance act when a relationship has run its course.

Great attitude, Ixion.

The Virguys I know may have intended not burning bridges, but they did in the meanest way.

Let's say, taking out to dinner, coffee, talking about future plans and then houdini style , only to appear after 3 years telling me, if I were not important, he wouldn't contact me.

** rolling eyes **

Thanks for your generosity, buddy!

Same happened to a friend of mine. And I know the guy personally he is like a slimy, horny worm who keeps doing same to women. This guy is past age 65 and did it to my friend, 16 years his junior.

Lack of Closure is true with my experiences. This last one I told him we headed needed to talk about something and his response was that the situation was over. Yes, it isn't presently happening, but there are things that need to be resolved, misunderstandings.

Some people do not deserve closure - cheaters, abusers, etc. But if a relationship has run its natural course and you fell out of love, like, or whatever it is, you should have the tiniest propensity to explain yourself.

Just because you're okay without having the need to verbalize your stance, the other person may not. He/she may be suffering. Why would you be okay with that if you consider yourself a caring person?

I believe that if anyone have had invested time into you, whether it ended badly or not, you should give them an explanation if they seek one and ESPECIALLY if it will help them close out the chapter. If you know that it will ease their pain and allow them an easier process to let go, why wouldn't you offer that consolation to someone? It's a kind, selfless, and caring thing to do.

The problem with someone not offering closure is honestly very simple, it's a coward's way of punishing them.

Why do I know this? I used to do this when I was immature. I justified it by making myself believe that if I don't need closure, the other person shouldn't either. "It's your problem, not mine" was my mentality. I later realized how selfish that mindset was. Whether the relationship worked or not, the other person have been there for you and spent many hours, months caring for you, give them 5 minutes of your time and set them free. It's the last thing you could do for the time they've invested into you.

I can honestly tell you that I've given closure to people who I'd rather inflict pain on (not physical, but emotional). But, if I consider myself a kind and caring individual, I find it extremely selfish and spiteful not to offer closure. I remind myself of the times he dropped off soup when I was sick, bought me that puppy I wanted for months, picked me up when my car broke down and I am able to overlook the bad times, therefore, I want to help him with closure as a friend out of respect.