Frustrated with this Virgo...

My good friend Peter is a classic male Virgo--or so it seems. Lately, I have really lost my patience with him since he has a nasty habit of placing himself in destitute positions. He is horrible with money--never saves. It got so bad that after he was fired from his job, he decided to work freelance--which is not a stable financial way to make a living--particularly in THIS economy! He has continued to be overly-optimistic and delusional by assuming that he will be paid well and in return--loses the job entirely. He had to move back home to the East Coast to live with his Mom and is sleeping on the couch. An old employer owes him a paycheck for two weeks and yet, Peter is reluctant to stand up for himself and demand that he gets paid from a job that was done last summer! This guy is 39 years old and is still the same old milk-toast, back-bone lacking guy I have known for several years. Why the hell can't you Virgo guys take a stand? Stop being so damn afraid of consequesnces, learn to be assertive! What's worse Peter likes to create excuses for those who have done him wrong! What IS THIS behavior all about? Someone please explain....isd this typical of male Virgos? Becuase just about EVERY male Virgo I have known has had some sort of weak quality. Sorry--but that's been my observation and it's always the same.

Sloane

I'll get back to you with more on this later today sloane, but for now let me just say a little tidbit and that is that I haven't really met an aggressive, go-get-em type of virgo ever. So I think Peter may be the extreme of that. He would annoy me too! The one male virgo i've been extremely close with, is not what I would call aggressive, but he is very picky and has a tendency to nag a bit, and whenever you tell him a story where you've been wronged by someone, he says, "if I were you, I'd write a letter!! That's crap" blah blah blah. lol, it's pretty funny. I shudder to think how many letters he's writing complaining about things over the course of his life. 😛

I'll come back later with more...

*been writing, I meant to say.

Surely, there must be some other Virgos out there that can comment....or are you too shy?? Come on Virgos! Take a stand for once.

Hi Sloane, unfortunately I am not a virgo but I do have alot of thoughts on virgo's being that I have so many of them in my life. I believe that this disposition is so incredibly riddled with a deeply rooted insecurity. Of all the other signs virgo, without doubt is bestowed with the harshest internal critic. They are presumed 'perfectionists', and from what I've gathered amongst the majority of them is that the bulk of it lies in their own introspection. This is why 'they' live behind walls, because they are extremely, extremely sensitive individuals. More so than any other sign. I would not say they are terribly innovative or resillant, and when something traumatic like losing ones livelihood, the most likely scenario would be that that person is literally eating himself up inside. Probably the best thing to do to genuinely help your friend is to offer alternatives, occasional pep talks, logic and your honesty. Generally it is an issue that only he will be able to work out himself but, your support right now might keep him afloat. It is in 'their' design to be fastidious etc but, I don't see them seeking confrontation. Maybe a good route would be to remind your friend concerning the paycheck that he deserves it, that he earned it. Take care....Aries

My experience with virgo was draining. My ex was a virgo
Loved him dearly, but drove me crazy!!!!!!!!!! A very difficult sign to understand -

Lovely Ram...
Thanks for your input. It's just that this friend of mine has made it a habit to place himself in destitution and I DID have a little pep talk with him last week via long distance phone call that he needs to understand money better and to be more realistic. Nothing is free these days! He's 39 years old for God's sake--he should be putting away some in a mutual fund or an IRA. His behavior gets me mad and I think that he's the kind of person that needs a little tough love every now and then. In addition, I just wish he would be more assertive with people who owe HIM money.

PS..
when you allow yourself to become constantly broke, it affects everyone around you--your family, friends, the landlord, credit unions--and in turn, it ruins your credit history. Peter hasn't figured this out yet!

Phoenix...
I'm still intrested in your input..