Going to prom with virgo!

Well I have this little uncomfy situation, so virgo guy asked me to be his prom date. Later he told me he really likes me, but since there's never enough time for us to hang out or see each other, there are things Im confused about. Tomorrow is the last day to pay for prom tickets and today we met in school and he asked me what color my dress will be and well then he said talk to u later, cuz we both had to go. Do u think he bought me a ticket as well? Should I ask him? But I feel uncomfortable to do that. Whats the best way to ask? Do u think it would be common for virgo to act in such manner such as buying his date a ticket to prom or not? I need some help on this, cuz tomorrow is the last day and im worried what to do and how to act in this.

Well it sounds like he is interested in going and there is no problem in asking him.
Are you a Cancer or Scorpio or something?

What would you guess i am? 🙂

Well you asked many questions, makes it seem like you worry a lot or are uncertain.
I can not pinpoint anything, Gemini, Virgo, Scorpio and Cancer are all that come to mind.

I mean I know he's interested in going but just I feel uncomfy to ask, or in other words how to form the question or from what angle do i come. Tomorrow is the last day so I guess I have to either call him or text him online. But I think it's just not me to straightly ask him - hey so u bought me a ticket. If there's like any other way to make him tell me what's going on without having to ask it. I mean I'd pay for myself (even I'm in a bad financial situation right now) but most people in my school and outside of it say that he has to pay and there shouldnt be a question lol but still I'm not 100% sure what's going on and I don't wanna be left in embarassing situation. Are virgo guys traditional in general? Still keep those rules that man pays for a woman whenever they go..

We are traditional yes, but the paying thing sometimes has to be passed by our "Economically Wise" filter.
If he believed and saw your uncertainty he is unlikely to have bought a ticket for you.

Yeah well just basically what would be the best way to ask where I remain cool you know? It's just funny that you got it right when you thought of scorpio..wonder what makes us so special haha

The Chemistry between a Scorpio woman and Virgo man, is the strongest I know of.

You'll be cool anyhow you take it honey, just take the lead!

...You know you want to 😉

Well I'm not sure about that, I mean he asked me many times if Im excited about the prom, I told him yess! damn it i hate that I held it to the last day.

Luckily, I have something to add here, because my daughter is going to Prom (hers is Friday). She is the first Prom person in a couple generations, because I was a hippie and my older daughter took after me. (We eventually got college degrees, but didn't go through high school.)

Anyway, my younger one is the first to graduate high school and go to Prom, and her date likewise made her wait till the last minute, which I hate him for, but I'm glad he finally came through and I'm trying to sympathize - the idea was the guys had to come up with a big presentation and that's a lot of pressure. Anyway here is what I have gleaned from talking to her and her group of girls...

The guys have no idea what they are supposed to do, what they are supposed to pay for. In general they are no richer than you. Your age people are not used to dating in the old fashioned sense, so no one knows who is supposed to do what. The good thing about Virgos is that you can be very frank and honest. You can just say that you are not sure who is supposed to pay for tickets and he will be relieved you brought it up. Then you can have a frank and honest discussion about finances and who can pay what.

It won't distract from the romance of the occasion. Once all the logistics are cleared up beforehand, then you can both be free to enjoy yourselves on the day. I'm sure you will! What the others say is true, he's over the moon that you are going with him - you have the upper hand. (He will gladly pay if you want him to. I'm sure you could have a charming way of putting it.)

Best,
Athena

sorry double post. hate how when you click back it reposts. that's a bug...

Hey guys! I'm coming back again. . .So the virgo guy has bought the tickets and tells me not to worry about the dress I'll get, he says anything will look cute on me, considering it's on me LOL. He's so sweet and romantic to me, I dont get why they say virgos are cold, sarcastic and totally un-romantic. He contacts me everyday or comes up to my locker to hug me, I feel he feels bit too shy to kiss me. He's a sweet pie. Anyways there lies an issue, I dont know if I should make a big deal out of it, but it bothers me. He called me yesterday and when I asked what he'll do the next day, he said he'll go to junior prom with his friend's sister but just as friends. I got lil mad inside because this wasn't mentioned to me before when he asked me to the prom. I, however didn't say anything, but pretended to be cool since we weren't yet dating. There goes a short pause and he says: "hey Im gonna be straightforward with this. . .would you go out with me? "Meaning like would you be my girlfriend?" I was lil shocked, surprised, and excited, which covered the earlier anger about taking another girl to another prom. So I said yes and it felt awkward because we both sort of became quiet. I asked him about his trust issues he said he had awhile ago and he said: will you help me with it." So anyways, he comes up to me next day in school but doesnt mention anything about that prom or our relatioship status we discussed a night before, he just asks me if he can call me tonight, but common he'll be at the prom! I dont know what to say I feel weird that he's taking two girls to two different proms. Hows my reputation gonna appear? what if people will think they're hooking up and I'm permitting it. You know, I'm just in an awkward position. I know if he didn't like me he wouldn't have even appraoched me, asked to our senior prom, and then to be his girlfriend. I'm also worried a lil that he just wants to show off with me to other guys, because Im really good looking and I might appear to be hard to approach. My point is should I be worried about it even he's going with her just as friends?

Haha, nice to see my prediction come through.

Typical Scorpio fashion, you are possessive of him and worry what other people will think of his actions where you are concerned.

Worry not, if he says he is yours, more likely than not he is.

Well here's a problem: So we were talking on the phone and I ask him why he's asked me to be his girlfriend, and he says -"I dont know, I wasnt really ready but I like you, I wanted to give it a try. There are somedays when I wanna be in a relationship and then I start thinking of school." He's moving out to another school that is 4 hours away and he's probably moving to a new apartment this july. So basically from what he's been saying to me was, hey let's go out for now and have fun and then when i get what i want, we're done, but hope u dont get upset. Thats what it seemed to me he was thinking. He started to talk intimately and as much as I'd want to give it a shot with him, I don't wanna be hurt emotionally and morally. I feel I regret for accepting to be his girlfriend, I feel I have lowered my standards and if I say something now, my temperament would be forced to raise and then I'd have to cancel my prom with him, but the dress and everything else is bought, so it keeps me going with a flow. I know it's probably a short term relationship, since we're both starting college this fall. I'm sure people at this period of their year wanna stay single with no committment and especially guys. My question is - should I give it up to him? (I don't know Cajunspirit how you'd answer this since you're guy, you'd probably stand on my virgo's side and say yes, but what do u honestly think?)

I think you should go to the prom with him and have a great time.

After the prom, let him know you are only interested in a long term relationship and if he is not on board, you will not entertain the relationship further.

...I got lil mad inside because this wasn't mentioned to me before when he asked me to the prom. I, however didn't say anything, but pretended to be cool since we weren't yet dating. There goes a short pause and he says: "hey Im gonna be straightforward with this. . .would you go out with me? "Meaning like would you be my girlfriend?" I was lil shocked, surprised, and excited, which covered the earlier anger about taking another girl to another prom. So I said yes and it felt awkward because we both sort of became quiet.

Never trust gifts you get when they feel sorry for you.

DwellingOnMove,

Sorry I didnt really get what you were trying to say here, if you could try rehersing it again 🙂

And Cajunspirit thanks but I think I should look at the fact that he's only 18 and he's still an immature high school teen looking to lay down. This relationship probably wouldn't work anyway. So probably Im just gonna talk to him tomorrow in school face to face and tell him I want to end it and its best to stay single. Hopefully he'll still wanna go with me as friends to the prom. He's clearly and confidentially expecting me to give it up to him, but it's not what I think should happen. I'm not gonna keep him tied up to me. Sooner or later his friends will encourage him to brake up and pimp around so what's the point for this short term relatioship anyway haha. I'll just lose my respect and it's not what I need.

Hey there, thanks for response! No I wouldn't let that happen. I've been through manipulation already and I've learned from it. I'm just trying to interpret it into my practical life. The last guy I've been with was a much older cappy. I'm not gonna go through the same hell twice. The issue I'm facing is prom. I accepted to be his prom date and everyone knows it in school. He bought me a ticket and I dont want to cancel my prom and leave him on the ice. I have plans to go and buy a dress after few days. I just dont wanna insult him by asking out of the relationship. I would be comfortable to be single as well and it's not like Im crazy about him. I just liked that he was so sweet and nice. He might have deep feelings for me, but he might not be mature enough for it. He thinks he'd upset me if he'd have to end it, but it's not truth, I'd just feel awful for being used that way. But so far we didn't get intimate yet, so I dont really have anything to fear. I'm just hoping he wont cancel a prom date with me because most of the stuff from my part is bought. I'd feel anxious for the wasted money. I am thinking to talk to him at school tomorrow and just tell him -"hey, let's just be friends for now. we might have jumped too quickly just as you said. I'm not ready for sexual relations with you and if you wanna stay friends, that's just cool." What do you think of it?

That sounds good to me. You might also let him know you like him, just so he doesn't get too discouraged. But just remind him about how you will be parting soon and you don't want to be pushed into anything, just like him. He'll probably understand and be relieved (except a little frustrated because of course he wants to do it, but he'll live). Then just see what happens... be open to it.

Athena

Yes, I told him I like him. When talking of the relationship, he said he is kind of nervous about it, because he wasn't expecting to ask me. He had plans to go to another college which was just a few mins away, but then he got accepted somewhere else and he decided to go there. Well some would say at least he is honest but his intentions is what matters to me more. I figured he rushed into relationship because he thought that way I'll have it with him and then college would be a perfect excuse to end it because he got all he wanted and needed. But unfortunately I'll make a change in his perfectly planned schedule. 🙂 Thank you Athena!

...When talking of the relationship, he said he is kind of nervous about it, because he wasn't expecting to ask me. He had plans to go to another college which was just a few mins away, but then he got accepted somewhere else and he decided to go there. Well some would say at least he is honest but his intentions is what matters to me more. I figured he rushed into relationship because he thought that way I'll have it with him and then college would be a perfect excuse to end it

in my opinion he did not rush into any relationship.
he told something about it because you were emotional (hurt) and he wanted to be nice to you.
he also gave you more information so that you can calculate 2+2.
you did calculate 2+2 but you still keep saying something is wrong with him.
something is wrong with us (girls) when we are needy and super sensitive.
it happens to all of us sometimes in some periods.

what I wanted to tell you in my story was that I did not take it as a serious action when my Virguy wanted to introduce me to his sister. because it was not a well thought/planned action from him. It was a spontaneous reaction when he found me sad. He had pitty for me.

Hey thanks for getting back at me DwellingOnMove,

I didnt get emotional or hurt at all. Maybe that's just a period of my life where everything seems wrong for some reason, besides I'm still not completely over my ex. Things just might seem frustrating a bit and I'm just looking not to get used again, so that's why I've become cautious before jumping anywhere. My goal was to get over my ex, but now I actually seem to be liking the virgo guy and just dont want him to use it as an opportunity to get in my pants. Afterall, he was the one who started initiating everything, not me. I already know it won't last and I don't like him that much to try to make it work by all means. In fact even if I liked the guy a lot, I would do nothing to make it work. I think it has to happen naturally. If two people are comfortable with each other, no matter what then it's awesome! I just wanna relax and enjoy my life for a bit. I've put too much stress on myself. I don't need someone to make me worry. Now, at least I hope he'll wanna stay friends. Today I had a good opportunity to tell him what I think of it all, however I missed it and let him kiss me again like nothing was wrong. I might say he probably sensed something wasn't right, because during a kiss I was rolling my eyes to see if anyone's looking and I was being distant. Besides, we almost never hang out. We two live pretty apart from each other and both have busy schedules. It just stinks we couldn't even spend time like friends and now we're in a relationship status. I'm not quite sure if I should say something before or after the prom. I was thinking to play it cool and have a lil fun before prom so we can kiss in the hallways and people couldn't judge us because we're in a relationship. Lol

I need your advice on this please. It's been only a week of our "relationship" and today he asked me to take a break. He said he really likes me, but we dont get to see each other and to know about each other more. It's truth. Also, today I was a bit ignorant so I guess it added up. He asked me if he'll still get little kisses ( i thought to myself, hell no) He said he still wants to go to the prom with me and to go down the shore afterwards. Then I told him I felt the same way about the situation (even inside i felt lil insulted, i mean he asked me out and now he wants a break) he asked me if i'd alright and why wouldnt i be alright? Does it mean he dumped me or we both broke up. I told him i was glad he brought it up because i wanted to talk about it too. I was being cool and acted like im totally fine and uninsulted.

So what do you think, he actually really likes me like he said and really feels that he has to get to know me first and to hang out with me more or he just didnt wanna insult me?

People are weird, I need to take a break from life lol

Since I havent gotten my dress yet, do you think I should cancel our prom night?

you are the one who is being weird and who is confused. You continue contradicting yourself.

I am reading now for more than 16 months in different international Virgo forums.
To me the common denominator of the threads is that Virgos confuse people.
In the episodes people write here their Virgos neither can keep them nor set them free.
The virgo damaged person finalized the case. Not the Virgo.
Just on the contrary how it would go with a Gem.
Gem finalizes the let go.

Posted by CrazyDiamond
Since I havent gotten my dress yet, do you think I should cancel our prom night?

cancel.

well, I am living in Europe and do not know how important prom is for you girls over there.
If prom is very very very important to you, then better you go there than you let some confused one ruin your night.
If it is not that important and up to 15% of people do not go to prom at all. Then let it be.

Here a few possible choices for you:
you don't go and have little memory from prom.
you go and let him play the nice. you say to yourself this is all a fake for one night which people have invented to have weired problems.
you go and keep distance to him cause he gets on your nerves with his changing mind.
you go with him and hope something interesting will happen in that night. Like the world comes to its end or water falls upside.

WOAH guys ! I guess I was being misunderstood. I've decided to give him a chance and to see how it goes. I should of mentioned the details I guess that we're both being busy and our schedules just can't interact. I do like him but I'm not so much in like that it would be hard to let go. I've become aware with guys since long ago and I can control myself when it's needed. I'm just confused of why he asked me to be his girlfriend if he was still thinking it might not work out since he's moving away and then a week later he asked me if it was cool to take a break because he doesn't see me and we dont hang out at all. He said he really likes me and wants to get to know me first and then go out and see if it works out fine. He clearly stated that he really wants me to go to prom with him. I told him I'll be cool to go as friends if he doesnt wanna go with someone else of course. He said- "no no not at all, I really really wanna go with u and then to go down the shore with us too." He said it felt great n stuff.
What confused me is that he asked me if he'll still get little kisses in school, so is he taking a break because he actually wants to get to know me first or he's just simply not ready for a relationship and wants to swing around before settling or he likes someone else and simply being nice. I'd be interested to hear opinions about this.

I already told him I'll go to prom with him and people often go as friends here in USA. I mean he bought me a ticket as well. I don't think he was wasting my time, he was always the one to give attention and to seem to wanna get to know me. Maybe I didnt show him enough attention and thus he thought it wont work out. He's very popular in school and has bunch of friends, meanwhile I'm more reserved and can trust a few people only.

SO either way he likes me as he said and was simply being practical with this because he actually wants it to work out or he was just playing. Because i totally understand and I agree that in order for it to work, we'd first need to get to know each other as friends and then start a relationship. I was just always thinking that if a guy really likes you, he'll disregard of how much time he spends with you and even if you live on opposite pole of the earth, he'll still wanna make u be only his. Or maybe it's virgos. I really appreciate him for giving me space when I needed it. But then again why ask someone out and then a week later request to take a break. It doesnt make much of a sense. I think he's confused, Im just not sure about what, about whether he likes me or if it would work out with his schedule. I found out he had noticed me and liked me since our middle school and he only decided to approach me after 5 years. I never even knew who he was. It's just weird. And he also told me he really cares about me and put those headlines on facebook such as, "but what was once love he wishes my come 2 b only if she would truly see what she ment 2 me". Or really I dont know. I'll just go with a flow, but I'll let him know that he cant mess with me.

I think you and he understand each other very well, and it should be possible for you to just keep being honest (as you have been). Trust your gut and don't let others sway you with their opinions or how things look.

I believe that he is confused, very confused, but Virgos often are. I know for myself that is a major drawback of almost everything I go for - be careful what you wish for, you just might get it. I get very enthusiastic about things and go for them full force, only to get tired of it eventually or discover the drawbacks or that it wasn't what I thought. It's like you are pushing as hard as you can on something and suddenly it gives way and you fall flat on your face. But Virgos are also steady, and also realistic, so if it's something I decided I wanted I usually stick with it even if it's not everything I thought. He probably didn't think it through what he really wanted with you, he just wanted you, and now it's working out he is faced with what does he really want, which is a different question, and you are facing it too.

You and he are both starting your lives, so it's really no time to get attached to somebody. Yet the temptation is especially strong to do so because everything is going to be changing and you sort of want something to hang on to. But all that's normal. It seems like you and he really do like each other, and down the road it can be more. You will still see him on holidays I assume, and you can keep in touch.

I think you should definitely go to prom and have a great time, even go to the shore afterward, but if he wants more and you don't, just remind him that you and he don't have that kind of relationship (at his request).

You will always remember it and you deserve it after working hard in school!

(My daughter went with some random guy, but he was really very sweet and attentive. She got a fabulous dress, and had a good dinner and an ok time otherwise and anyway, she went to prom!)

Athena

Thank you Athena for such a clear insight!

You're right that he's someone I wanted to hang on to. In fact, my major goal was to get over my ex who totally destroyed me emotionally and I was hoping maybe the virgo guy who appraoched me will actually care about me more than about my looks. It's so difficult to trust guys and to spot them whether he just wants to "do" you or he considers you way more than that. Everything was fine until virgo became more intimate with me, I just thought - Woah honey, back off, I need time for this! He's a sweet, friendly and nice guy but he's also kinky and has dated girls that look like from porn megazines. At least, I'm glad he didn't wait until prom to ask for a break Because I might as well have done more with him. But now, I believe he's just a teenage guy and I need someone older for a relationship. There're so many guys I still have to meet so there's really no point to settle down and especially when things have not been thought through. What I really need from guy is a respect and genuiness. My ex didn't have that, he totally disrespected me, tested me and my patience and dated other women. He just flipped it the way to destroy me inside. He was capricorn by the way.

My reaction was totally unthoughtful when he asked me to be his girlfriend and maybe later he felt that neither I nor he were ready for this. . .