gold digger?

my scorp and i have been together for about a yr and half. recently, ive been feeling frustrated to hear him talk about what expensive parts he had bought for his motorcycle, this and that how he's gonna make money blah blah. we've had problems before and we pretty much skipped christmas and our bdays last yr. lately, ive been feeling that he should buy me things once in awhile like a purse or even little things when he goes shopping. im just tired of hearing him brag about what thigs he got and such. and i feel that guys should always pay for dinner and stuff and i will too, once in awhile. what do you women feel about this? am i being a gold digger? i just feel that's what guys should do for girls. it's not like i want a car or jewerly per say.. i mean i love him a lot and all but sometimes it could be a way of showing that he cares about me.. in a way.
should i feel bad about expecting these things from a guy that im with?? no harsh comments p ls just askin for opinions.

my scorp and i have been together for about a yr and half."

"recently, ive been feeling frustrated to hear him talk about what expensive parts he had bought for his motorcycle"

"we've had problems before and we pretty much skipped christmas and our bdays last yr"

"lately, ive been feeling that he should buy me things once in awhile like a purse or even little things when he goes shopping."

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My opinion is mixed on this .. one side can see where you are feeling, while the other side sees that you shouldn't be feeling like this.

A problem that arises in many relationships, and Virgo is nortorius for it .. is that the endure, for the sake of the partner. It appears to me that this problem has been on for quite some time, since birthdays were skipped and yours had to have been last Aug/Sept .. so, this isn't a recent event. By you allowing this to happen within the partnership, you've actually helped in setting the terms of the relationship to non-verbally say, "It's ok to forget about me with buying gifts."

I see this very condition happen in my husband on a continual basis ..

In your account above, you used the words, "recently", and "lately" to describe your NEW feelings about this .... which indicates that he hasn't really done anything wrong by not buying you anything, rather, you're feelings of not approving are effecting how you feel .. when in reality, you have always felt this way, and just kept silent about it, rather than voicing it.

You said ... "getting tired of it" .. so this indicates that you have indeed been unduring something you don't like or approve of, but, has just gone along with it and allowed him to do it to you. A person doesn't get tired of something that is new .. they get tired of something that is old.

So, since you feel slighted, I would agree that you are being so .. while on the other hand, I would say that you really have no right to.

For if you had a right .. then it should have been voiced a year and a half ago. But, since you've allowed yourself to be kicked for a year and half now with something you didn't approve of .... then I can't stand on a side to say .. he's neglecting you, or being mean to because he's not .. he's simply living within the terms of the relationship as what he thought has been approved of by you this whole time because you never opened your mouth to tell him otherwise ... so, he believes he is doing right by you.

What I do find both curious and not surprised about ... is that your feelings are still mis-placed about this .... eventhough you have an awareness of what is going on ...

"am i being a gold digger? i just feel that's what guys should do for girls."

You say that you just feel like guys should do for girls, yet, you lived a year and half instilling in him otherwise, by NOT voicing your difference about this and allowing him to co-exist in the relationship with him not doing for you.

That's a contridiction of feelings/actions ... they aren't matching. If you did INDEED care about how you were being treated to the point of getting tired of it, but NEVER voiced it to him, then this is ultimately having a contridiction in feelings/actions.

Then say ... "am I being a gold-digger" ... which indicates that you still cannot grasp the concept in which you have created this monster yourself ... so are now trying to find a definition in you for having these feelings (which have present all along, or you wouldn't be getting tired of it), by means of making yourself feel guilty for having them.

You have so programmed yourself to foresake your own self-worth in what you deserve as good treatment of you .. that to recently start having these feelings of neglect are making you feel guilty to say that if you want for something then it's being a gold-digger.


You're a very, very confused young lady .. however, I'm really not surprised in all this, for it's rare day indeed that a Virgo actually communicates properly with their partner when it comes to their needs in life and them critisizes their partners intentions/affections when the Virgo need isn't being met, eventhough it was communicated in contrary by feelings not matching actions.

To answer your question .. no, I don't think you're a gold-digger .. I think you are very confused about what a gold-digger/normal human being with needs really means, though ... there appears to be an askewed/twisted translation in these two .... since you would even ask this question right after explaining how ignorant you've remained for a 1 1/2 to be treated this very way with your approval of it, by means of not disapproving.

I do believe at this time, you should be forthcoming in how you feel and NOT JUST COME IN HERE TO MOAN about it like so many Virgo women do when they feel upset with the treatment of her man, just so you can have the ability to keep pretending in his presence that this is okay ... for this seems to be a very disturbing pattern for Virgo women.

They will come in her, vent off frustration ... then go back to man with a continued blind-eye, which is only creates the situation of them getting upset again ... because the issue at hand was ignored, instead of faced properly.

"im just tired of hearing him brag about what thigs he got and such."


Knowing Scorpios .. it's highly probable that when he brags about money he's spent on his motorcycle, that there is an ulteriour motive. Scorpios are extremely manipulative, gko .. don't EVER forget that.

They rarely voice anything unless there is a reason. They fully grasp the concept of "cause and effect", and will purposely say or do things to you, or around you with an intention of getting you to comprehend something.

I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if this man didn't even spend all this money on his bike ... but, is testing you and your self-esteem by SAYING it to you, to see what you are going to do about it.


Scorpios test .. oh my god ... if you lay yourself at a Scorpios feet to be his mat ... s/he will walk all over you purposely, with intentions of getting you to stand the fuck up.

I think the same. Sounds like your saying his interests are his main priority..does he have some resentment towards some emotional situation you two are involved with and is behaving accordingly to that? Emotional detachment? It's a passive form of anger to withdraw attention or just not show appreciation if theirs been abrasion in your relationship thats not resolved.

It could be your language of love is different from his however it sounds like you are not happy in your relations with him as a whole so I see it as to focus on what problems you had prior between you two? Sounds like thats the root of the topic in question and were the story is.

No need to feel bad about desiring some sort of appreciation for being part of someones life. I mean the thoughtfulness should swing both ways. But you are saying you want to be someones shiny pearl, who doesn't want that light from someone in their life, its normal. You see the need now for it for yourself to feel present in his life now thats all. It's not superficial.