Hard times dealing with scorpio friend

I'm a virgo, and I wanna ask for advice from virgals on how to deal with scorpio friend. I just happen to have a friend who is ultra sensitive. Being a virgo, I don't like drama which is unnecessary emotions.

So I have scorpio friend, I've known her for almost a year but she gets overly attached. And yes, clingy. She's having hard time understanding my situations and I'm having hard time trying to understand her emotions. I'm an architecture student and i'm quite busy, and she expects me to be there for her so that I can listen to all her crushs all day long. She have a circle of bestfriends shes trying to introduce to me, from what i see is shes trying to make herself the centre so that she wont be lonely. And whenever I dont reply to her I'm going to go through this situation where i have to explain myself.

Theres alot more things that she goes on and on about but this is one of them. not replying to her.

I know this is quite childish, and yes I'm young and 18. I want to keep her as a friend minus the drama. I think she kind of stuck in her high school days while I've moved on and trying to focus on my future. Pls reply while considering the fact that i'm young and yes situations like this does exist.

Posted by summer00
She have a circle of bestfriends shes trying to introduce to me, from what i see is shes trying to make herself the centre so that she wont be lonely.

^I don't see that at all. She probably introduces her best friends to you because since you guys are friends and she's friends with them too...she'd like for all of you to be friends and a part of the same circle. I see it as the normal thing to do in a friendship. That's quite an assumption you're making there on someone you labeled a friend.

As far as listening to her crushes...with friends there's always moments when someone will talk too much about something the other person finds boring or has no interest in..but it's part of the friendship.

From what you're saying, the problem is time. One idea I could see here would be to ask her to email you the developments on her love life, so you can read when you have time. I assume most conversations take place in phonecalls or face to face and you don't have time. Emails could help with that, so there are fewer phone calls, on more important matters. If you care about her friendship, find a middle way.

Posted by summer00

I just happen to have a friend who is ultra sensitive. Being a virgo, I don't like drama which is unnecessary emotions.

I don't have anything to say regarding this specific situation ... rather, in general.

One thing that Virgos fail to recognize is that they are often the cause of the drama. In the Virgos determination to avoid dramatic situations, to do this, they often have to ignore important people and circumstances. When people who care about you are feeling ignored by you, they will become overbearing, over sensitive and cause riffles in their relationship with you, to get your attention.

Hopefully, once you mature, you will begin to understand that to realize that a lot of the drama can be avoided by caring enough to be present.

Posted by Damnata

Posted by summer00
She have a circle of bestfriends shes trying to introduce to me, from what i see is shes trying to make herself the centre so that she wont be lonely.

^I don't see that at all. She probably introduces her best friends to you because since you guys are friends and she's friends with them too...she'd like for all of you to be friends and a part of the same circle. I see it as the normal thing to do in a friendship. That's quite an assumption you're making there on someone you labeled a friend.

As far as listening to her crushes...with friends there's always moments when someone will talk too much about something the other person finds boring or has no interest in..but it's part of the friendship.

From what you're saying, the problem is time. One idea I could see here would be to ask her to email you the developments on her love life, so you can read when you have time. I assume most conversations take place in phonecalls or face to face and you don't have time. Emails could help with that, so there are fewer phone calls, on more important matters. If you care about her friendship, find a middle way.

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You're right I could be wrong, thats just an assumptions but what made me think that way is because I've met few of her friends but when I'm trying to be friendly with her friends to avoid awkwardness she would be jealous. and yes I might not have as much interest on that thing she's on about. Mostly texting and sometimes skype because shes 3 hours away from me.

Kids my age mostly dont use email to communicate and she certainly not gonna check on hers. And its nothing as serious as love life. Its just her crushes like if she run into the guy she likes, the movie shes watching when I barely have enough sleep. And today she said I changed. Its just really frustrating that I had to explain my schedule, projects stuff to convince her that I'm not ignorinf her I'm busy.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by summer00

I just happen to have a friend who is ultra sensitive. Being a virgo, I don't like drama which is unnecessary emotions.

I don't have anything to say regarding this specific situation ... rather, in general.

One thing that Virgos fail to recognize is that they are often the cause of the drama. In the Virgos determination to avoid dramatic situations, to do this, they often have to ignore important people and circumstances. When people who care about you are feeling ignored by you, they will become overbearing, over sensitive and cause riffles in their relationship with you, to get your attention.

Hopefully, once you mature, you will begin to understand that to realize that a lot of the drama can be avoided by caring enough to be present.

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Make so much sense. What do you suggest I do? Like I want to keep this friendship. I keep on telling her I'm busy but she assumed I'm ignoring her. I'm too busy to be as excited as i used to whenever I'm replying to texts.

Posted by summer00
And its nothing as serious as love life. Its just her crushes like if she run into the guy she likes, the movie shes watching when I barely have enough sleep.

See, you see this as trivial but for her it's important to chat away with a friend. And if it's important to her, and you care about her...then this should be taken seriously and catered to.

I get you have a busy schedule. Just show her the schedule and explain when you are available. Tell her she can text you while you're busy but you won't have time to reply fast. And that there are also going to be times when you turn into a hermit - it's a space Virgos need to recharge. Just don't leave her in the dark and don't get irritated. Nothing she does is malicious or some drama she's bringing into her life..it's just she gets excited and that overwhelms your energy levels.

Posted by Damnata

Posted by summer00
And its nothing as serious as love life. Its just her crushes like if she run into the guy she likes, the movie shes watching when I barely have enough sleep.

See, you see this as trivial but for her it's important to chat away with a friend. And if it's important to her, and you care about her...then this should be taken seriously and catered to.

she gets excited and that overwhelms your energy levels.

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Thats exactly what I'm feeling right now. Maybe its just me, like I don't see why people see things as a problem. Like she said I changed and I dont think me not replying to her text lately can be such a problem.

I've tried explaining to her about my schedule but she seems to be forgetting it and thought I was ignoring her. And I had to start all over again. Is there any other way?