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Help with a virgo guy. SO...about a month ago. I met this virgo. We have mutual friends and they invited us both out for dinner. After dinner we all went out for drinks ... needless to say it was a fun night, and ended with he and i staying over at their place. Nothing much happened in bed ... we are both slow when it comes to physical intimacy ... but we kissed. He told me then that he had been interested since the first time he saw me months ago, but had been afraid to talk to me. He said, to show me this he wasn't going to kiss me any more but wanted to take me to dinner the next night. We ended up having a late brunch with our friends, and not going to dinner. But, he emailed me the same day, saying that he would like to see me. This led to weeks of sheer bliss ... we saw each other everyday ... he told his family about me, we talked about our future ... it moved super fast, but felt perfect. Then one day, he got really distant ... I asked him what was wrong. He told me that he had gotten a letter saying that he wouldn't graduate (grad school) if he didn't shape up, and that with only 3 weeks of school he couldn't afford to not give all his attention to his work. He said this was the time of year, where he shuts everything out....everything, and that he couldn't balance the intensity of our relating and school. I told him I understood ... and asked if it was just a timing thing. He said that we would be fine.

After this - nearly all calls from him stopped. He always immediately responded to any texts I sent. And sometimes we would text back and forth for hours. We had one other conversation where he clarified the situation for me ... and just said that he was really worried about disappointing me. I said that I would wait for his contact so that he didn't feel any pressure. But, I invited him to my art show ... which was a big deal. He said that he would try and make it. He didn't. He forgot. Our mutual friend came, and when he saw our friend all dressed up and asked where he'd been. When he realized he missed the show. He texted me and apologized. I waited a day to respond- but when I did, I said that the show was great and that I was a little sad he missed it, but that I understood. He explained again how sorry he was. I said that I could put myself in his shoes, but that it was getting hard to not think he is blowing me off. After this comment, he didn't respond. He has never not responded. After 30 min - I called him. No answer.

12 words....Back off. Go about your business until he is done with school.

I don't have any problem giving him space .... I'm just worried that he is just not interested anymore ... but using the business of school as a cover. It's really hard to tell. And ... if I messed things up with what I said about blowing me off.

he's beating himself up with your last text. just let him be he'll come around if he knows your worth. 🙂

Yeah he's blowing you off .. it's obvious, why does someone have to tell you that?

Posted by libra08

just let him be he'll come around if he knows your worth.

What the fuck —?


she jumped in bed with him first night, and it wasn't even a date, it was mutual friends inviting them .... they didn't fuck, but she would have if he hadn't been withholding. I realize that then it blossomed into something more respectful .. but, that doesn't change the point of her worth.


Virgos are not good with emotions and this is due to them staving off feelings. They think that they can think how they feel, and of course they are human and will indeed fall prey to emotions just like everyone else .... only, once the rush of the feeling subsides, then they shrug off the emotional burden (you) and go back to their robotic life of trying to secure material gains.


However, a time will come when a Virgo will decide to have a relationship, and by decide, I mean that literally ... they think they can think life .... so a partner will be by decision, not by feelings. When you jumped in bed with him, and him you, that was by feelings, and that is what will drive him away.

When he does decide for his partner, it's doubtful it would be with a person like you who could sit all day and text him .... if you could do that all day, and you could jump in bed with him wthout a relationship .... then he wouldn't likely decide upon you.

You should go find someone else.

Even if he wasn't a Virgo, doesn't matter what sign he is ... you shouldn't wait for a person who isn't even your partner. And if you do, then the person will likely think you are clingy.

P-Angel ... I didn't JUMP into bed with him actually - and i have been celibate for 9 years .. so its not that kind of situation, actually - and in the 3 weeks we were hanging out everyday - all we did was kiss. So .... I don't know about all the emotional stuff - but surely this isn't an issue of him not respecting me.

and ... we don't sit around and text all day .. there have been a few friday evening, long texts - we are both supremely hardworkers.

but thanks for the advice nonetheless.