Did Virguys like getting into your head...

It never fails, when I have completely removed any thoughts of my Virguy crush he contacts me. I have come to the realization that we may never be more than friends, but that doesn't mean my crush for him has completely dissolved and I think he knows that. BUT what gets me is that when I have gotten to that point where I have "moved on" mentally, he calls. It's not the simple fact that he's calling, because we contact each other from time to time, nothing serious, just joking around or him checking on me to see if I'm wasting the bosses' money...lol. It's what he says. Take today for example, I'm thinking about a new guy I just met, and there's some chemistry...so I am excited to see if the chemistry gets stronger AND if we're compatible. RING RING...it's Virguy calling:

Him: Hey, how you doing?
Me: Hey you!
Him: What are your plans tonight, you doing anything tonight?
Me: No plans just yet.
Him: You not going on a date?
Me: What? Are you asking me out on a date?
Him: Haha, yeah sure, all the way from up here...I'll be there at 8:30 to pick you up (we live a few states away)
Him: Are you in a serious relationship?
Me: Hold up...why are YOU asking me this question?
Him: Don't answer my question with a question? Now answer my question.
Me: Let me tell you a little tidbit about me...I'm an open book, however I must understand the reason behind the questions. So, why are you interested in knowing this particular issue about me?
Him: I need to know where I stand with you...
Me: Where YOU stand with me...whatever! But to answer your question...no, not in a serious relationship. I'm open to being in one and welcome it, but only with the right man.

Then he goes on a little rant about not wanting to have to lay hands on someone else...lol.

He ended the call saying he would call me later this evening (in a very cheery tone that had me raising my eyebrows, thinking...uhm, what did you sprinkle on your cheerios...lol)

I sometime think it's more about him just wanting to know if I'm still interested in him (get his ego stroked). I also wonder if it's the Virgo in him or is it a man thing to joke around about not letting him see another guy with me and why do some guy joke like that? Is this just to get the woman (me) thinking about him again.

Dang him! Dang him! Dang him! LOL

Don't fall for it, you're feeding the beast. 🙂

I'm thinking that they do like to get in your head, heart, pants... Methodical, calculating creatures!

Thanks guys!

It's all about keeping you hooked baby 😄

No problemos ImaBlvr. Keep us posted.

Why, Cajun? Is it purely egotistical?

Posted by Cajunspirit
It's all about keeping you hooked baby 😄

Why? Isn't it waste of both parties time? Or is it fun you virgo men? If it is, then why?

@MO...I'll keep you posted. After that last conversation, I've decided to let loose and have the fun he's having with me. We've had "the talk" a month or so ago, so it's clear that he's not wanting a committed/exclusive relationship. So, when he says stuff like that I just give him the "whatevers." But next time, I'll just go with the flow and have fun with it. Throw some of that same bs back at him...lol.

@Cajun...yep keeping me hooked...damn him! Let me get put the cot in the corner of my mind for him, because that's all he's getting...lol.

@VG...In a way I wish I could come to hate him, then it would be SO much easier for me to let go...BUT for whatever freakin' reason I get miffed, let it go, then here he comes and I'm back to smiling again...damn him! lol

@Scorporella...dealing with my emotions, while trying to see things for what they really are (being on the hook) is no fun at all.

Posted by Scorporella
Keeping someone "hooked" is merely a game. It's getting someone's ego stroked while planting seeds in the other persons head that there could be more to it, all the while, the one keeping the other hooked, knows there is nothing more to it. To the ones that do it, it's fun for them and they don't stop to think the person they are "keeping on the hook" may be hurting from being on the hook, depending upon how deeply they feel for the other one. Sure, "what if's" are fun to think about from time to time, but then reality rears its ugly head and leaves the one hooked hurting.

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Couldn't have said it better.

ImaBlvr, no hairy business with this guy, he's not taking you seriously. Go have lots of fun!!!!!

Posted by **StringsAttached**
Why, Cajun? Is it purely egotistical?

It may be.

Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl

Why? Isn't it waste of both parties time? Or is it fun you virgo men? If it is, then why?

FUN!

Posted by virg_goki
we have low self-esteem and you beautiful ladies keep us going.

now hate us even more. We love that

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😄

no i dont play wit people no time for it im to honest for that shit lmao.

Getting head? Yes.
Getting into your head? Why bother? That shit got old at like 17. Why not always be straight up and honest? Shit works wonders.
(My Virgoness)

Posted by RueLess
Getting head? Yes.
Getting into your head? Why bother? That shit got old at like 17. Why not always be straight up and honest? Shit works wonders.
(My Virgoness)

lmao.

virgos are ruled by mercury like gemini we are masters of mind games and wit virgos who use they're energy for bad do that shit lol.

Thanks again everyone.

@RueLess...I agree, grow up and man up. Teasing and flirting in the beginning can be kind of cute, but when it's been made known there's a genuine interest...either piss or get off (and stay off) the pot.