HELP WITH VIRGO CRITICISIM

Why do virgo's critise, is it to highlight your behaviour/ways that they dislike and are indirectly/directly pointing this out to you for you to change this.

I don't know why Virgo's are critical,

But I'm critical because I like to sharpen my thoughts. I try to hear other opinions at all costs and thus know what others think.

I think this is going same to Virgo's too.

Normally, with my Virgo .. he only critisizes when he sees a flaw in someone else that he owns also and hasn't figured out how to deal with it .. once he comes to terms with himself and this particular issue, he never critisizes another for this same fault ever again.

So, from my perspective .. they critisize another as a means of therapy for themself.

I like to sharpen my thoughts

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Confused! How can one sharpen thoughts by making others feel bad??

May be by prompting arguments? I know Virgos get thrilled when the provoke others and excite other to get angry/argue!

i think they just cannot help themselves from ironing the crinkled personas(according to them) of others.

"i think they just cannot help themselves from ironing the crinkled personas(according to them) of others."


That's an interesting thing to say, Devil .. it would imply that persona's of the non-Virgo would be judged as needing ironing because they are crinkled.

Who's to say .. what is smooth and what is wrinkled of another person? Isn't it true that the only person we can change is ourselves and if we attempt to change another person to suit ourselve, then that would mean we believe our standards and set of prinicals are above the other?

Does this mean, then, that what you are saying is that you believe the Virgo to be the judge of others and that should be acceptable to the other person because the Virgo is more worthy of deciding what a persona should be?

What about acceptance? Isn't it true that in order for two people to flourish in a relationship that both have to be accepting of the other's flaws and attempt to find a common ground, rather than critique the other into adhering to their terms of relating? What should be accepted is found on common ground .. not one-sided.

"they just cannot help themselves"

Cannot help themselves? Someone has you believing this?

I guess since I'm a Pisces .. I then should be able to get away with lying because I can't help myself? Is this an acceptable flaw that should just be accepted, then?

according to them p-a,the way they see it,i was talking from their point of view,not saying that it is a right one.
according to them,they are the best judges,so hence all that nagging.virgoes are hardwired to find flaws,and when they do find them,they try to correct them.forgetting the fact that it is a flaw from their perception,which may not be a flaw at all,just another facet of someone's persona.

but i must make a clear comment,that the more matture a virgo is,the lesser the nagging.
all of them are not the nagging type,some are are very accepting.
i was talking in general terms earlier.

Well, I only know mine, for sure .. and he only picks at other people when he's feeling small in that particular area of his own life. If he's feeling secure in a certain area, other people can do whatever they want and he won't utter a word.

well, this is what i found out...at least for me...i just cannot stop "seeing" things and being intuitive about some others...i just can't.

while people from other signs live in their heads or dreams...and i do have times like that...i'm truly and honestly a realist sooner or later and so when i see things i just see things...and i have to choices i either say something or not.

we critize those we love and care for sure...those we have found a bond with...but we need to be careful how to do that.

i'm learning, as i get older, to just shut up many many MANY times...and give someone a chance to correct themselves or a time for me to chill...only when a behavior and 'thing' because repetitive is that i feel like i need to speak or i literally will die! haha..seriously...

maybe that's why dating girls from the 'air' group has been so good and bad for me...because it has tested me to my limits, but at the same time it has helped me to learn to be MUCH more chill than i used to and i'm more free-spirited in a certain level of any relationship.

i think its awesome that we are able to see flaws in ourselves and others...so we can correct things...but i think the trick is that sometimes, like devil said, we need to make sure that what we see in others it isn't based on our own parameters or "ideas" of what is good vs. bad...because believe it or not, everyone seems to act in ways that aren'r right and yet cannot be corrected no matter what we say, because in their side of reality it isn't something that needs change.

that's why i believe in free choice, self-growth, and only some level of criticism with HUGE amounts of understanding.

vll

"Confused! How can one sharpen thoughts by making others feel bad?? "

Easy. By making others feel bad, you get a this kind of response "they throw you everything they've got". Thus you get all neccessary answers for knowledge and unneccesary answers for fun. You hit two birds with one stone.

What else a person would want?

So is it true to say that Virgo's only criticise the one's they love or have strong feelings for!

no