I don't know if this Virgo likes me...

Are Virgos very private people? Since there was a recent tragedy in his family, I don't want to pressure him and give him some space.

Our short history is that we used to chat every day (online) for over two weeks before we met up. I know because of this recent tragedy, hes under stress. He still chats with me online but not like before... I gave him my phone number to call me if he wants to talk but he never acknowledged it. Maybe hes shy or cautious and just prefers online chatting... I don't want you to think I'm crazy or impatient but still I'm in the dark as to what he thinks of me...

You know I'm going through the same thing....Not exactly the same we didn't meet online but my guy also just had a major tragedy a few months ago and would withdraw from me and then resurface. Additionally I know that a lot of virgos are very shy...at least he is when it comes to expressing how they feel without seeing how you feel first and the fact that he's going through a tough time right now probably makes him want to withdraw. I by no means am not an expert on what to do but I can tell you that if you show him you care and you're thinking of him if he likes you and cares about you he will respond. It may not be when you want it but he will. Maybe send him an email saying you were thinking of him or if you know what he's going through and maybe have experienced something similar send him something a website, book etc that could help him cope. You may (if you feel comfortable enough) share your experience with this type of situation and how you dealt. Most importantly just don't take it personally! I still have a problem with this because I am outgoing and like attention from whoever I'm dating and I have to check myself daily and put myself in his shoes to not get offended from the silence. What I have learned from these message boards is that silence usually means they are thinking or trying to deal with something. If his tragedy was life changing like my guy's was then it's a day to day maintaining thing. I guess what I'm saying is just be there for him....and give it time. When he does heal and gets back to somewhat normal he will see that you stuck by him

Usually like most people in a tragedy you don't want to share how you're feeling with someone new generally the healing process involves being around people who knew the person in the case of death...like family.

Thanks for your understanding. One thing that adds to my confusion is because that was our first face-to-face meet. It was a very recent death in his family (2 weeks) so I don't want to be too in his face. He has shared a picture of his dad with me and shared some of his feelings about it... So, I'm glad he was able to do that. I don't want to send him too many emails because I don't want him to feel obligated to answer me or obligate him to chat with me (even though I do). I just want him to know that I'm thinking of him... When I chat with him, I keep it light and fun. I don't want him to think of sadness, I don't know what to say about it. Isn't it wierd? I haven't experienced a loss like his but I can feel his pain... I just don't want to scare him off either.

I think you are being really awesome about it...

If you truly are interested, stay in touch, sending him little notes here and there...to keep him remembering you but something short and nice.
Text messages could be good...or short IM messages when he's gone...but just once in a while you know...that will give him his space and yet a reminder of you.

If he truly likes you, he will come to his senses and try to reach you back again little by little.
If after a while he doesn't...then it may mean he isn't ready to invest more right now...
Go with what he can give, give it some time, and see where it goes...

You deserve to be very happy too.

I'm not a virgo man. I'm a 26 year old female and I too lost my daddy. I can tell you one thing from my experience. Losing someone that is that close to you changes every aspect of your life. I will never be the person that I was prior to my dad's passing 2 years ago. A part of you dies too, and everyone that has continued on with their regular life seems so foreign at a tragic time. So you will be foreign for a while, especially if you weren't that close to begin with.
My advice is stay in touch with him by email (since that was the mode of your initial connection). He will probably not be on that very often, but you can send him a Just thinkin of you card (just one though). 😉 He may be a while, but if he knows you are geniune I'm sure he'll come around again. My prayers are with your virgo friend.

Thanks I appreciate your help alot! I'll just take it as it comes (but secretly hope he still thinks of me!)...