I give up! Please tell me....

...what it is with my virguy friend and me?

I have given him the full cancer treatment over the years, and every so often he will check my enthusiasm. And sometimes I scold him for being so uptight and he loosens up. We've told each other things that are so very personal, yet neither of us will give up on this friendship. I'm in a relationship, and not looking to compromise it. He's comfortably bachelor, yet keeps coming back for my company.

We make each other laugh, make each other cranky. I love him like I rarely find a friend to love, and from what I hear from his friends, I'm on his mind quite a lot.

What makes a 49 yr old virguy stick around for the illogical emotionality of a 44 yr old cancer gal? Why have we become ever closer friends in the nearly 4 years we've known each other?

Sounds like a great friendship.

Cancer and Virgo:

This is a sexually compatible pairing that produces sex, love and possibly marriage. Cancer is a water sign and Virgo is an earth sign. These two friends will bond for life on a sexual, spiritual and romantic level.

They will be both friends and lovers and find one another physically alluring and sensual. They might even remind each other of someone they had a crush on long ago. Virgo is supposed to be the virgin, but Cancer will laugh when they hear this. Virgo will be highly sensual in bed and Cancer will be elated. Cancer has been looking for you, Virgo. There is an element of surprise when these two signs merge in a relationship. There are also surprises and mysteries for both parties in this association. Cancer and Virgo are considered —lucky?? when together. Cancer rewards Virgo loyalty and together they can build a home and a family.

They will remain lifelong friends if the sexual relationship ends. Children will enter the picture eventually over time.

I just love this description.

http://www.compatible-astrology.com/cancer-virgo.html also gives a great insight.

For the end, I just hope that my friendship with the cancer I've met would last for so long.

So long as you both know where you stand, no problems.

I am at a point in life, where I only want people who care about me around me.

Posted by Cajunspirit
So long as you both know where you stand, no problems.

I am at a point in life, where I only want people who care about me around me.

I think that's a big part of it. We've had a few years to hash out the boy-girl thing, safely & sanely. Now we're in a positive feedback loop of sharing more of the 'scary' stuff, and so far so good. Cancer shell & virgo reserve make for some complicated song & dance when it comes to revealing ourselves, but it's been very rewarding. I like the feeling of security, that I can be more myself and know he's not going anywhere. It makes it much easier to let go of the cancer grabbiness and leave him space, and I think he accepts my caring (meddling?) in the spirit it's meant, not as a smothering attack. Also, his closest female friends are his 2 ex's, so I think I provide female closeness without that kind of baggage, more neutral maybe.


It's also very cool for find another person with intelligence and layered complexity. I have a leo guy-friend of nearly 25 years, who I love to no end, but he has limitations. Once when we were hanging out talking he said (about himself) 'sometimes still waters don't run deep'. Ugh!! I like deep!

Having him as a friend is a nice addition to my primary relationship too. Things I talk about with him, I'll hash out further with my partner, and vice versa. With her having so much virgo influence, getting to know him helps me interact with those aspects of her in a more constructive way.

Posted by 25thDecan
Yes...but...stay loyal to your mate. Lol

If you had a partner like mine, loyalty would never be in question. I've never had such a complete relationship 🙂
Cancer sun/virgo moon & rising must be a great combo with my cancer sun/leo rising/cap moon.