I really screwed up with this Virgo

Wondering if there's even a small chance to recover with this Virgo girl. I'm a cancer....you'll see that in a second! I went out on date with this Virgo girl last Tuesday night. And I had an absolute wonderful time! We have a lot in common! I knew she was Virgo right away because she had called me 3 times before we first met and we spoke on the phone for 45minutes each time. After our date Tuesday night I took her back home, hanged around her house, helped her get one of her cat toys under stove out, using a golf club which I gave her to help her next time that happens. I scheduled a second date Saturday night but she called Thursday and cancelled because she had plans actually with one of her best friends to go see Amy Schumer Saturday night. Alright no big deal, but she mentioned hanging with other guys that Thursday night too and wanted to go out to dinner with them?!? Who does that? Not nice to say that to someone you're dating. I let it go, and tried rescheduling with her Monday night, she bounced around the question twice and sounded iffy about it. So today she snapchats me with her hanging with her friends. We start texting back and forth and I notice the online dating site we met, she had been active recently and I asked if we were still good for tmrw night......she didn't reply for 45 minutes. But I had seen she had been on Facebook recently. So I snapped at her and sent her a text: don't waste my time! She replies with "what?!?!" I reply with "Hun you hurt my feelings the other when I saw you on tinder the other night. And you bounced around the question twice about rescheduling. I've been stringed along enough times in my life." She replied with "I told you the other day we could do it Monday then i told you again when we were on the phone..... And I am at my bestfriends cookout which is why I didn't respond right away....yes I'm on tinder--that's how we met, I'm dating trying to find the right person and I didn't think we were exclusive and that ment I had to delete tinder. I had a great date with you and was looking forward to another-- but I do not like being disrespected or bossed, I'm not in the place to allow that. Also I think it's slightly petty that you deleted me off tinder and Facebook.....maybe we are looking for different things" I told her I was very sorry! I feel so awful and can't believe I did that! I deactivated my Facebook because I was afraid I would say something else I would later regret. I have emotional and jealous issu

Give her some space and go back to her
She might not allow it any more and in that case don't try. The ship has sailed, May be.

Issues. I've been stringed along so many times in my life. Mostly thanks to a Libra last year who I was friends with for 3 years and she screwed me over. I haven't gone on a second date with someone for a long time. I'm actually in good shape and look ok I guess. I'm not Channing Tatum but I look like Matt Damon I've been told. I've never snapped at a woman and I'm so embarrassed and ashamed of what I've done! I wish I could take it all back. I'm one of the most loyal and caring people you'll ever meet, but I have jealousy and emotional issues and I hate being a Cancer!!!

Posted by seraph
Since I'm already here I'll dig into this with you a bit.

Would you mind revealing your age or at least age range (as well as that — as best you can — for the Virgo)?

You want full birthday info or just age? I'm 27. July 7th, 1987. She is 24. September 8th, 1990

Well I respect your neatness and clarity. If you want time and location birth info seraph, let me know. I appreciate your time and help

Posted by Cancer2448
I'm a cancer....you'll see that in a second!

*braces self for some kind of emotional manipulation and unbearable clinginess*

Posted by Cancer2448
but she mentioned hanging with other guys that Thursday night too and wanted to go out to dinner with them?!? Who does that? Not nice to say that to someone you're dating

woah, you have issues with people having a life. seriously, who does that?

Posted by Cancer2448
she had been active recently and I asked if we were still good for tmrw night......she didn't reply for 45 minutes. But I had seen she had been on Facebook recently.

45 minutes?! How dare she? Civilization surely collapsed unto itself in that time.

Posted by Cancer2448
So I snapped at her and sent her a text: don't waste my time! She replies with "what?!?!" I reply with "Hun you hurt my feelings the other when I saw you on tinder the other night. And you bounced around the question twice about rescheduling. I've been stringed along enough times in my life."

You can kiss everything goodbye right then and there, if this chick is anything like me. Btw, your not so subtle "pity me, i am a victim" in the bolded part did not go unnoticed.

Posted by Cancer2448
She replied with "I told you the other day we could do it Monday then i told you again when we were on the phone..... And I am at my bestfriends cookout which is why I didn't respond right away....yes I'm on tinder--that's how we met, I'm dating trying to find the right person and I didn't think we were exclusive and that ment I had to delete tinder. I had a great date with you and was looking forward to another-- but I do not like being disrespected or bossed, I'm not in the place to allow that. Also I think it's slightly petty that you deleted me off tinder and Facebook.....maybe we are looking for different things"

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^Exactly what I would have said. Polite Virgo to English translation "woah, you are coming across as a lunatic. pls stay away. thanks but no thanks"

Posted by LillyBlossom
What's up with the "1 of 2" or "2 of 2"? Is that a new age thing?

lmao

I knew it in my gut, that i was possibly coming on strong. Ugh and I never listen to my gut feelings! Need to learn and start. I like to mention that she called me two out of three those times. But Virgos like to talk which I have no problem with. She kept texting me after the date and asked how was my day going etc for a couple days. Thursday is when it stopped, and I felt like I needed to give her space but I didn't want to be rude and leave her hanging.
So after reading everything you've said I'm getting the picture there's no way to recover from this...she's a lost cause.

Seraph I disagree on those 45 minutes being indication she was not into him. 45 minutes is a very fast reply for a Virgo.

I also don't think she is making him work for it. I think he made her run for the hills with that message he sent. Any interest she would've had would be greatly diminished or completely vanished.

The overblown reaction he had would be a nail in the coffin for me.

I like to point out she never replied until I sent that message. I did tell you all the last thing I sent her was that I was very sorry and I hope she would forgive me....that was 4 hours ago. She just sent me this 😢 so never mind everyone. I'm doomed for life, I'm always going to be single.
"I've been thinking a lot about this and I'm sorry to say, but I don't think it's a good idea if we continue this-- I really was excited about having another date with you...but after today there are a lot of red flags thrown up."

I'll admit I suck at contact. Especially when there's a lot I have to say..I just need to find the "perfect" expression of it. So yeah, time is warped for us mutables. We really mean well. We just have a lot to digest - virgo is connected with that activity.

Seraph I must say, you handled the young Crab exceptionally well.
I think I even learned something. 🙂

It's admirable to see an older male reach out to a younger male and school him.
We need more of this.

The Virgo date also gets points for setting her boundaries and later cutting ties.

This thread reminds me of just how delicate the early stages of dating can be.

Posted by Cancer2448

I haven't gone on a second date with someone for a long time.

That ^^^^ is the only thing you need to address.

Her being a Virgo, being on Tinder, having male friends ... non of that matters, and you are trying to make irrelevant shit matter so you don't have to look at the reality.

If you can't make it past first date with a person ... then YOU are the issue, not her or when she was born.

If you can't handle your jealousy or control issues ... then you shouldn't be dating at all, because it's your responsibility to get a grip on yourself. It's not her responsibility to morph herself to your emotional problems.

You can't make it past first date to secure a second one. That's the red flag waving.