I want to help....

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Truvirgo72
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want to help......Mr. Aries calls three days after ourlast conversation....When he proclaims he would do what he can to help and I said I want your best and he states sometimes your best isn't good enough for some people.....I don't know he seem unsure at first.....I told him in the first conversation before I'm sacred and don't want to raise my child alone and that it should be a healthy loving enviroment a child should be subject to.....so, does the phone call means he agree and want to play his part.......I'm still said because there has been no real conversation about us making it work....So I have been kinding having this facade that I don't want a relationship with him....just him to do his part as the father.... but deep down inside I do want us to be together.....our conversation was great....he made me laugh the whole time...as if he knew thats what I needed....and we talked for hours......I asked serious questions about the baby.....his response would be their you go with the questioning me again....then he would respond with humour...but as the same time answer my question....I love him to death but I'm so afraid to let him see it in me thinking he will crush me.......


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Truvirgo72
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I can see were brahn is painfully coming from.....No,i'm joking and there is some truth to what everyone has said so far.....But my heart is speaking the loudest....I know its selfish of me at this point to be thinking of myself now and not my unborn child...It just hurt to see him so unsure.....when at first he seem happy about the pregnancy...and to answer MAM question I guess I have considered the fact of raising my child alone....financially I have to say I don't know if I'll ever be able to give my baby enough....but can supply basic needs.....and being a virgo we tend to handle responsibilty very well (seriously)....so I guess I'm trying to say I have been hoping for the best but preparing myself for the worst.... Thanks everyone for your input
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cappysweetie
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You're better off raising the child alone then raising the child with a man who don't want to take repsonsiblity. That is what he sounds like to me, a man running from responsibility. You may still want him right now, but you won't when you see him contiously running from his responsibility once the child has been born. I know it hard, but there are better people to raise children with out there. He needs to make up his mind, and YOU need to get over him, unless he comes back telling you that he wants to do the right thing.

Brandon knows his stuff, you should take his advice 😉
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menaremysteries
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Friend of the court girl!..I'd be willing to bet you that if you serve him with paternity papers or he suspects it he will be back in a jiffy! I'm not suggesting you warn him before you do it..because you will open the door for excuses.In addition that will tell you something key about him...Do you really want a man who is only around because he doesn't want his wages garnished not because he wants to be a substantial part of his childs life or your life. You don't need that right now. His actions in the last 3 months has given you data...no 3 hour phone call is going to make up for 90 days of being absent. He has lived his life freely for the past 6 months with no type of consequence to his action (not saying your baby is a consequence) but take a minute to how much your life, activities and body has changed in the past 6 months. He has not had to experience any of the things you have and hasn't given you any incling that he cares to. If there was any moment for him to step up and be a man this was it. If there was any moment for him to try and fix the mistakes he made the 1st time this was it. Instead he ran. I'm not trying to be harsh I'm suggesting you take care of you. Your child needs to have support and stability right now. You will find someone who is worthy of all the love and compassion you have in your heart to give.....in 3 months that will be your child and later on you will find someone who loves you with the same love that you give. This man is not it.