I wish I didn't hate spontaneous planning so much

because then I feel like I miss out on things. But if someone doesnt give me a day or two notice about wanting to do something, I usually get annoyed and I'm unable to participate because it doesn't "fit" into my schedule. For example, this aries that likes me calls or texts me at the most inconvenient times to get me to come hang out with him. I want to just strangle him for trying to disrupt my flow. Unless I'm the one throwing out the spontaneous ideas (which I do at times), then it's not okay to do so towards me unless I'm told in advance.

Ironically, me being spontaneous is still me kind of planning to be spontaneous in advance. Lol, what a mess.

i am the EXACT same way.. never really thhought this linked to astrology but i guess, now i see it could be a virgo thing. but yea, i have like my own routine and my own schedule and i stick to it, everything is a plan that has been made in advance and has to be kept through till the end. if somebody calls me wanting to make spontaneous plans, i politely tell them sorry, im busy. it's when they get upset about it (and i have quite a few friends like this) and say stuff like "omg come on lets just grab a coffee" or "why are you too busy for me" and so and such. that really pisses me off. its like leave me alone, i am not your mommy. stop obsessing and move on lol

i just dont understand why, if people want to make plans with you they cannot just do it a good few days in advance, so i can at least write it into my schedule. sorry but i dont have the time and im not going to bother making the effort, to clear a spot for you if you call up and expect to meet somewhere for a drink in 30 minutes. does not fly with me!

Posted by valeria25
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Ohhh A lot of Aries are all about "action" and think later.

You should tell him how you feel; he'll, hopefully, appreciate it if you told him honestly that it makes you nervous. 🙂

Oh yeah, I know. I have many aries friends, and except for one (who is my roommate and best friend), many of them are all about the action and the "now." The funny thing is, I don't even plan for the future. I never know what I'm doing later, so I always try to leave things open and plan for the now. But if you disrupt my "now," I'm going to get upset since my "future" is usually free. I'm not even into the aries much, but I wouldn't mind hanging out with him. I think he is starting to realize that to be with me, you have to be wary of your timing.

I started this topic when the cancer I care about just called me randomly to come over and hang out with him. Now, I would have absolutely loved to, but I have a lab I need to go to that I can't skip. I would have made the exception for him if this was a class I could push to the side. Luckily, he didn't seem to upset when I told him.

But seriously, as much as I do fun things, I can't break my schedule 95% of the time. It makes me uncomfortable and usually I'm pretty busy. While I'm sure a lot of people do this, I do think it's a strong virgo trait to always stick to the "plan." It keeps them balanced, and any sort of break from it sort of zaps the virgo's energy.

I'm that way too...I think cancers like predictability and stability, and for me personally, I like to be prepared for what I'm doing. And sometimes I just have my head in a zone and don't want to leave it.

My leo friend was merciless in trying to shake up my routine, and I still have shudders when I turn people down, remembering the hassles I got from that guy.

I like planning ahead 😉

Hahaha as much as I hate spontaneous plans, I hate turning down people even more. It makes me feel like I'm disappointing said person, and I don't enjoy that at all.

I am the exact same way. Someones spontaneity can throw a wrench in the whole works. If I have advance notice, I'm cool as a cucumber.

Didn't a Virgo start a thread in here a couple weeks ago about how the virgo thought other people were boring?

Posted by Jason2213
I've sort of gotten used to it. If its some random thing and I have the time then I'd be like, "Okay!"

If its however something like a doctor's appointment then I'd be like, "Why the eff did you not tell me this a long time ago?!"

Yeah, same. For example, it was like 10pm on a weekday, and I was finishing up some HW when a friend of mine texted me to come over to hang out since a friend of ours was visiting. Now, I told him no straight up until I figured I could finish my homework within an hour and get a ride over there. Which I did. So I can be pretty flexible, but I honestly only went because another friend of mine was going too.

I can make exceptions if I know I can work the spontaneous event around my schedule, but if not, that's when I'm "STOP ITTTT!"

Either way, I'm capable of spontaneously initiating something too but only when I know everyone else isnt busy.

So I'm a control freak. I admit it. It's even on my profile. Embroidered it on the back of my cape. No sense in trying to be happy fun girl if I'm not feeling it.

I generally give my friends windows of time when I'm available for something to do. I'll put it on my facebook and often something will happen that way that wasn't pre-planned.

how does being a control freak make someone boring? and, if i could plan my own death, i most certainly would. :]

I'm happy hating spontaneity 🙂

I feel there needs to be a good balance between organization and spontaneity. A guy who is completely spontaneous turns me off; while he seems fun, it seems he has no sort of control or stability, and that makes me uncomfortable. I appreciate the person wanting to be with me, but I have a life, too and sometimes I just can't blow things off to make time. And it's not like I'm always saying no; simply give me an advanced notice if I haven't already said I'm free.

Also, I have a hard time thinking on the spot, so things just thrown at me really throw me for a loop.