In love with virgo but confused.....in need of kno

I hope there is somebody out there who can help me out. One day I feel so confident and the next day I feel uncertain. I met this guy 7 mos ago. We were seeing eachother on a regular basis for the 1st 2 months and then all of the sudden, he just backed off. ( he always had a tendency to back off if there was any emotion between us, he'd take a 3/4 day break and be back) His reasons were he didn't want a committed relationship/ commitment phobia etc. I told him I still liked him and wanted to see him but that if dating around was what he wanted....dating is what I would do... After a month of dating....he was jealous and calling. That went on for awhile...and then about 3 mnths ago we had a talk one day and he told me that I was the only girl he had dated that he just couldn't seem to walk away from. He said he wanted to build a relationship with me and he wanted it to go slow.... now after 3 months of this , I will tell you "slow" is an understatement. I am in love with him without any doubts and I feel that he is in love with me too. He's just moving sooooo slow. I'm dying on the inside. Everything is so sweet but....
sooooo slow. What is the problem. help me understand the reason for going so slow— I also am seeing signs of possible soulmate....any advice or word of experience would be so appreciated.

Hi
Men have commitment phobias. Aferall it is a big sacrifice for htem to give up their independence for someone no matter how much they are into that person. Your man is definitely in love with you. He is going slow as he must be checking out every possible loop holes which could arise in a committed relationship and work out a possible solution _ IN ADVANCE. another issue could be that eh must be trying ot find in precise detail abotu your likes and dislikes so that eh can give you exactly what you like...while trying ot work around how best to help you to work along with you to sove the problems in your life. So ther eyou go. If you have patience you could be having a very warm hearted and kind man for a long term relationship.
Atll the Best

Hi Piscesgirl,
This is Dreamy-Eyez, a Pisces male. You know, I think you really need to play it cool, because if I was faced with someone like you that's displaying all these intense emotions after a few months, I would head for the hills. Why? Well, then the question will be is this love or infatuation? It's impossible to love instantly in some people's eyes. That's just my personal opinion. Now in your case, this guy all of a sudden wants you after seeing the threat of somebody else pursuing you. There is no doubt in my mind that you are a beauty. I say that you continue dating other people instead of waiting for this bonehead to make up his mind. He obviously doesn't know a good thing when it's in front of him. Piscesgirl, I say "MOVE ON!" If it was meant to be, then to you he will catch up. Dreamy-Eyez, out.

Hey PiscesGirl,

Virgo's are fine, don't stress about it. They just don't necessarily understand emotions the way Pisces do. Not that they can't feel - they can. It's just different. It's hard for the P/V combo because V's are so critical and P's are so sensetive. But, it works just fine once they learn to adjust to each other. Don't worry, just be patient.

Lots of Luck and keep smiling!

P-Angel

PiscesGirl -- As a Scorpio who has been involved with a Virgo male.... it's hard sometimes. I think you are on the right course - but please remember that this isn't going to be something overnight. Mr. Virgo is going to take his time - and your patience will wear a little thin - at times with him. I have known the one I am seeing for 8 years now... and we have been seeing each other for over three. He comes on strong, then backs off - even after all these years. I think their emotions are somewhat different than most. ANd they like to analyze and project what will happen. In a lot of cases it gets them hurt by doing this... but I guess it's their way. If you have started seeing him and it's been only a few months - you have to be patient with him. It's not that he can't feel emotions, but he wants to analyze them first. He's a planner so he wants to make sure that this will work. There is nothing for you to do. Be his friend and he'll like that - even tho' he may act like he doesn't. He will push you away from time to time - but it's only to see at what stage he's in.
Little Pisces - and Mr Virgo is cautious with his heart. He doesn't want to be hurt. He's sensitive and appears self-confident, but he has some insecurities. My advice is to let him work it out.....

Hello !

Linda Goodman wrote that being in a relationship is not the natural state for a Virgo... meaning that these people are the most likely in the Zodiac to end up as old maids and bachelors all their life. So I guess that Virgos, especially the men, are very careful in relationships.. And maybe your Virgo had some unpleasant experiences in the past,which are making hime even more cautious...
Anyway, keep trying, I'm sure that he'll relax in the end and stop being so cautious... good luck to you !

im sad i found my soulmate i know we connected from the first time we crossed paths spoke and talked so did he but i was with someone at the time so we never met and i was afarid to meet him i don't know why and its weird im a virgo virgo's build up this wall and rarely let anyone in and he was the first person i let go inside my walls and it felt so good and he let me inside his and at first it was werid cause i aint plan for fall for him but i felt connected to him so much and he did to me it was beautiful it was like the first time i could be the real me with anyone and aint care this was like 2 years ago we had crossed paths its like i never loved someone mind heart body and soul i love him unconditionally it was like so werid we never met each other but we felt the same way like we loved each other for each other.. he gave me news that he was moving from nyc where we lived to georgia and asked if he moved would i miss him and i hesitated and didnt say nutting cause he was drunk and acting silly and didnt think he remember but i said if i did what would it matter cause he was leaving he left with his mom out their his dad died when he was lil and his mom was always with him so he left with her cause he had no place to stay here and had no money and it's funny how i was starting to speperate from my than boyfriend it hurt me cause he was leaving but we kept in touch he hit me up like a month later or 2 after he left to ga and said he missed me and if i missed him im like yeah i cried when he left its like the one person that got to know the real me and felt as if he completed me just came and went we always stayed in touch and things i did me and he did him i hate myself cause as a virgo we are so critical sometimes and we dont realsie that we hurt others like we had got in this big fight cause when he moved its like he changed i sensed his change was due to his new surroundings and new people he met and i was right its like i new he loved me but was acting different around these new people me im the type i want to shout my love to the highest mountain he's afaird to do that cause what other people might think me i dont care what people think. i know deep down inside he loves me but that aint enough for me i want him to shout it out and he knows it but he still hasnt seen that for himself its weird as time passed i grew to miss and long for him more so when id call him he act all macho around his souppoused boys which by the way i told him u think they your friends they gonna betray you and hes like naw they my niggas so he was still acting unlike him and werid and one day i was fed up and said so many hurtful things to him its like i tend to judge him and not look at my ownself cause i aint perfect but i aint like how he was fucking up his life doing foolish things i always tried to instill positive reinforcement and he said if his dad was still alive mabye he would'nt be living a catoic life and what i told him happned months later im like i told you i wouldnt lie to you when i sense shit i be right i can sense when hes sad or hurting and i get sadd cause i hate seeing him like that cause i love him so much i wish we could be together cause we belong together but its like something always prevents us from it bad timing i guess so back to the fight he was acting all not like him it was like danny in grease acting all macho around his people when he loved sandy but aint never want to admit it.. so i got so mad and i said somethings cause he hurt me and i hurt him so bad he was thinkin crazy things and i hate myself for it cause thats when he really changed we never opned up to no one the way we did each other and hes was probally thinking the one person i least expected to hurt me hurt me and us virgos can be very critical. and when ever we'd fight he always be like im trying to be like his mom and it wasnt like that i just care for him and want him to better his life cause hes still young, but we never had big fights un

I wish i could explain my virgo...he was and is the same way! I had wrote somewhat of my virgo and decided to tell him what I wanted and it backfired right in my face..so I can say don't push him it will drive him away.

after I drove him away it only took a few days before I freaked out and threw myself on his mercy..he still acted kinda hurt and aloof...so heres what I did and it seemed to help...I asked him to meet me for lunch a couple of weeks ago and told him all I wanted to be to him and what a wonderful person I thought he was and my life is better with him in it and thats all I want.

he has been a perfect angel ever since..even better than that..calling,writing, bringing me lunch..he even prepared and cut up my dinner one night,I was stunned! it might be to soon to say but this must be the best approach..don't push him and be happy he's a part of your life.

im the virgo hes a different sign i feel it's like i pushed him away and i miss him everyday that passes imm praying he forgive me for hurting him and i love him so much he's the last person i'd want to hurt and i aint do it intentionally and whatever i said was out of pain and out of love so he can beter his life and i shoulda just listned and been there for him when he needed me instaed of being so critical and judgmental time heals all wounds so hopefully he contact me im just so sad but ill cheer up

and im happy he was part of my life cause i experienced something beautiful with him and i never had that with no one in my life