Love letters

Virguys,

In a troubled relationship, has a love letter received ever made you realize something positive about your relationship to the point of persuasion and possibly reconciliation?

Can you please describe—??

What's your general feeling about letters in such cases?



ltvm

If the letter isn't full of a bunch of mush, I think they would be useful and effective with anyone. A lot of people are better at expressing their thoughts through writing than talking. And it allows you to think through more.

Thanks for the feedback, Virguys. I'm one who is better at the letters if it is something emotional that I'm talking about and I want to get the whole story told.

You're welcome. 🙂

StringsAttached! I'm happy to read your message because I just delivered my heart and soul in a letter to my Virgo last night.
ltvm

StringsAttached,

As time passes, I'm more and more believing that I was just kidding myself and he has been feeding me a bunch of bull. I don't know...maybe my friends are right. Maybe he just wanted to get me then leave me in mid air as some kind of payback, but the letter should explain a little on the matter. But it may not make any difference.
He said he would call, he didn't call. He said we were going out, he didn't show up. He said a few more things have to happen before this can work...do I think anything is going to work at this point? I do not.

That's okay. He's got the letter. I do not have any pride left, anyway, so who cares.

Ironically, he says he doesn't want to hurt anybody's feelings. W h a t e v e r!

"But, the way you act towards him will trump every other form of communication..."

Thank you, Dyyyyyyyyyyyy....

"But, the way you act towards him will trump every other form of communication..."

Unfortunately, the one I know ran scared. I've gotten the silent treatment. I'm better off though. He really must be a one-off type of Virgo.

Hi Mystical,
Well, there hasn't been a lot of space yet, as it hasn't been that long since you messaged him; I think you said a week or 2 only. Everytime we make contact, do we have to start all over from the beginning again? Like Mother May I or something? I think you are still finding your own space or groove right now, like me. Well, heck, what do I know? I'm the one asking a trillion dang questions. LOL
Hang tough, (and don't give up the V-ship)
LTVM

LTVM,

I do think each time we contact the Virgo guy everything starts all over again. They know then we are still around. I'm doing better today. Don't worry about asking so many questions. I've done it myself and I'm still doing it today. I've been very active on the different boards all day. I got a cold and was home today. The internship at the hospital, working at the food-store, papers due, and being emotionally drained by Virgo guy has taken a toll on me. I don't give up until my body forces me to and then I get a cold. I think I'm like SuperWoman who can handle absolutely anything.

Well, I did send Virgo guy a text on Sunday night (stupid I know but there was a reason for it). I wanted him to know that on Wednesday (tomorrow) I'll be having my evaluation at the hospital as I'm already halfway done now. I'm so nervous because I'll finally get some more insight if I'm going to pass. I have a good feeling but you are never sure until you hear it. This is why I told him about it and hoped he wish me luck and have me in his thoughts. Well, duh, still no response from him. No good luck, no nothing. It didn't surprise me either because this is the way he's been for a while now. I'm really giving up now. I should have done it before but now I've had it. He isn't worth my time. His intentions are to be rude and immature and he's doing a hell of job. I thought he'd care enough to at least acknowlegde something as important to me but he doesn't.

V-ship? I like that. Never thought of that. Anyway, I'm a survivor. I'm going to keep my dignity intact and walk away. I just don't know how I'll handle it if he pops up again. I'll probably be like ice towards him just to prove a point.

LTVM,

Good luck with hanging tough with your Virgo guy. Forgot to write that in my post. Give it time and space.

Mystical,

I can sure understand the toll you mention.

Why not concentrate now on your eval and take good care of yourself? That's real important. Make making yourself feel good a priority, whatever it takes...visits to the spa or whatever...It's your responsibility to yourself.

Whatever will be will be and it WILL be good.

Meanwhile, I forget where I read this but "Good things happen when preparedness meets opportunity." I'm not sure that's exactly how it goes. Applies to everything.

I don't think you mean it about being like "ice," do you? You are probably on the roller coaster today. Nothing wrong with caution, though.

This is for both of us: the old serenity prayer. There are only so many things we can change and usually they are all within ourselves. You've already mentioned the strengths you've experienced. Now hang onto them and nurture them. If you love him, you have to be willing to let him go with love. If something else happens between now and when he decides to return, then, it was meant to be that way. Try not to put up the wall at any toll. I say it since my wall kept me from truly enjoying 7-8 of the past years with my V. He was right there the whole time, and I couldn't see him. But after awhile, don't restrict yourself from exploring someone new who attracts your attention, either.

Take care of that cold (feed a cold).
ltvm

Ltvm,

Thanks. I'm getting better with the cold. I must have caught it from some one at my part-time job as last week he was coughing up a storm. I didn't get too close to him as I didn't need a cold on top of everything that has been going on with me. Well, I've been using nose-spray, blowing and coughing deeply. I've been coughing so deeply, my diafragm has had a work out that's now sore. Anyway, I'm glad to be getting over it. Hadn't had a cold in over 9 months so I was so pleased with myself, then bam.

Yes, I am concentrating on myself right now. It's not an easy task because I'm such a people person. I don't give up until there is no other choice and even then, I don't like giving up.

Well, regarding being like "ice" if Virgo guy returns, I can honestly say, he's making it very easy to become like that towards him. Nobody likes to be ignored. Okay, if someone is busy for a time, then give the respect that is due. Don't ignore a person. Sure he called me in July and said what he did. That doesn't mean he has to ignore me for all this time. It's his choice to act that way. That is why it's my choice to become like "ice" regarding him if and when he thinks it's time to pop up again. You see, I can detach very easy to people who cut too deeply. I never forget a person who has done me wrong. Just as I never forget a person who has been very fair with me as I'll be just as fair with them. Like with Virgo guy, he was awesome for a long while. Then something happened with him (in July which I don't know) and he's doing whatever. I will not be contacting him anymore as it's no use. I've tried and tried to reach him but to me he has a heart of steel with no feelings at all. He's like ice. This is why I have no problems being the same to him. However, it does hurt with his actions but there is a quote "with every action there is a reaction". I just hope, one day, he'll be decent enough to tell me what lead him to disconnect from me. I am happier though without him but there are still questions I have regarding him. I've let go as I have to. He hurt me and for no reason. It's taught me not to become bitter towards him, but instead thank him because I won't have anymore heartache regarding him.

Oh, yes, I do look forward to meeting someone new. I've got a lot to give. Right now very busy with everything but Mr. Right is still out there. Good luck with your Virgo guy.

Don't give up. You never know what can happen.

Mystical

Happy Birthday, Dyr!
The first letter went well, thanks to you. 🙂
I saw him tonight briefly and his old beam of a smile was back...gave him a 2nd letter. This one filled with truths about how it came to pass that the brick fell on my head when I knew and said I love him after 9 years. (Heck it has been 9 years...I have stuff to say right now. (And I printed out his and my Astrotest Portrait, Love & Sex portraits, a one year forecast, and a Partner Portrait for the both of us together. There were a few small downers in there, but....okay well, actually, the year forecasts said I would lose a relationship I didn't want to lose. And his said that he will end one to clear the road for his wonderful future. I included it as I wanted him to read all of the rest too, which was so good for him! I told him there are striking semblances, although you must read with a grain of salt. Many positives were in it for him, besides. I still accept that if he needs to move on from here without me, I will accept it. I also shared my same portraits with him. When I left, he kissed me and made little circles on my back with his fingertips. Oh, how I have missed those little circles so much. 🙂 I explained what and why the astro print outs, that I used them in trying to help me understand some of his ways. No kidding, we were meant for eachother. But then, I should have known that 9 years ago. (Consistent, don't give up, and actions speak louder than written words. I think I got an "A," thanks to you. I'm not forgetting everyone here, either. Everyone, you are my confidants when I'm in trouble and I will never forget it how I came on here bewildered, then suddenly I had a plan after all of your inputs. Thank you. I'm still waiting. If I finish my "Waiting for R------" piano music soon, then I will see how to go about putting it on my profile. Might need your help. If you use html to do it, I can do it from my website, I guess—? Oh yeah! I have my profile up, so go look, y'all. Tell me if you see anything between me and R that looks good or maybe a suspicious problem. I really don't know astrology. It sure has helped me, though, and my beliefs are about as fundamentally Christian as they get. But I do believe God made the universe. I won't depend on the astrological predictions 100% , but I will surely tell people in relationship problems to consult astrology. Dyr you are on your way to a beautiful new life and I am so happy for the 2 of you.

Wishing you a year of happiness with kazillion years to follow, LTVM

Posted on the wrong thread....

Mystical...hope you are feeling a LOT better today. Well, I wrote a 2nd letter, much different from the first. I needed to get it to him so I took it to him at work...he's never home except to sleep. So anyway, the whole thing is progressing, but I'm never sying to him "come over" or anything like that. It has to be from HIM. HAS to be. I'm waiting. Hugs,
Ltvm