Moving on?

There seems to be a little distance between my virguy friend & I. We just haven't been getting together as much lately. Lots of changes in his job, and for me it's the start of busy season for farm stuff, plus I have been getting ready for & going on a big road trip.

Maybe things will settle back down, but I kind of get a vibe that this little disruptive period might be vg's 'escape hatch'. It's a lot simpler and less hassle for him to stick to his city friends, since they are so close and can do things at the drop of a hat. For me, I just can't drop things and run to town to have breakfast with them, etc. I have to plan ahead, and there is even less free time for me with planting season starting and a new pony to train.

There is also the fact that I'm not single. If he had romantic leanings, they aren't going to go anywhere, and even if I were single, I still have this life going on. So maybe he's done like people say virgos do, and reassessed the 'viability' of our friendship at the fairly intense level it's been at.

The sad part is, it is a lot of work in some ways to maintain this friendship, and as much as I have been enjoying it, it might be for the best to back it off a bit. As a cancer, I have a hard time with people who aren't strong enough to carry on solid relationships, but knowing VG, I don't think he has it in him to 'risk' that much of himself anymore. Poor guy has been through a lot for a middle-aged hermit, so I can't fault him for conserving his resources.

Anyway....we'll see. Maybe it's just a hiatus, and I should use the break to get more done and spend time with people on a similar path.

I did a community tank once. It was pretty cool, but then I bought a farm & the tank had to go.

VG is acting different now that his job has changed. Dressing nicer, and only hanging out with his new co-workers. He works in the new area 2 days, old area 3 days. The new department is higher profile, and as much as he complained about the move beforehand, I think he's liking it.

My cancerian sensors are telling me I'm yesterday's news, but we'll see. I decided not to make any overtures, since it's his turn anyway. If he doesn't, then he's moved on to his spiffy new coworkers. Which is fine, but I thought he was a little classier than that 😛

i agree. she's smitten. it's cute though.

I hope it's just a hiatus. :/

Posted by satori
I don't get this. Doesn't Sandyclaws have a partner and aren't she and the VG just friends?

That about sums it up.

I'm just curious about changes that I perceive in our friendship. Guess I'll draw my own conclusions based on observation. Since I can be a bit overwhelming to the less-sturdy personality types, I'm interested to see if all the job/schedule changes will provide VG an 'out' or if things will get back to normal in time. Can't think of anything that happened interpersonally to change things, so I'm puzzled.

Geez people, 99% of posts in all the astrology boards are people trying to figure out other people. You don't have to be screwing someone, or trying to screw someone, to be interested in sorting out interpersonal relationships 😛 Broaden your horizons a little bit 😉

How does your partner feel about you having such a deep emotional connection to this V, that it compels you?



Second .. can you clarify the below sentence of yours?

"As a cancer, I have a hard time with people who aren't strong enough to carry on solid relationships"

Because I should think that this kind of an emotional investment in a man who isn't your partner, is a woman who is criticizing another person for thier lack of commitment to a "taken" woman.



You are taken, you aren't in a position for a man to think of in terms of having a solid relationship with .... yet, you would judge him for this very thing, eventhough it's you who is displaying this very weakness.


this is a quality I hate in Cancer people and I don't know why they do it. Perhaps someone could explain it to me. You set him up by providing him with emotions to make him think you are so valuable to him that he must be loyal to these feelings ... all the while you hold him at bay by reminding him that he has to wait in line to truly have the all of you.


You are not available to even play this game ........ if he has half a brain, he would jump ship because it's pretty clear that you're playing with feelings here.