azleo733
@azleo733
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My bf is a virgo, i a leo. He is comparing me.
he sounds like an great catch! Don't you dare let him go! *epic eye roll*
Posted by KittenLaRouge
he sounds like an great catch! Don't you dare let him go! *epic eye roll*
Well is this normal for a virgo? Part of me wants to think he is showing me these girls so that i will see that that is what he COULD have but instead he wants me... IDK
Lol he is talking shit he is not serious he just want to see if you would actually change yourself that's why he said your so cute when you are mad.
Stop showing you are offended be like oh she is hot and change the subject he will never bring it up again.
Or you can ignore him when he says stupid shit like that and he will stop.
But don't take it seriously he is testing your jealousy.
Stop showing you are offended be like oh she is hot and change the subject he will never bring it up again.
Or you can ignore him when he says stupid shit like that and he will stop.
But don't take it seriously he is testing your jealousy.
Virgos are VERY good at bringing people down a notch. It's a mild form of sadism in a way..
Look, the idea here isn't to leave this man. If you do so, you will replay the same dynamic with another man and you will wander through life without a clue. The dynamic is simple: He knows you're extremely insecure so he's poking at that insecurity. The lower your self esteem plummets, the more you'll cling unto him.
The reality of it is you're not VERY confident, nor do you have a full fledged ego.
"he is showing me these girls so that i will see that that is what he COULD have but instead he wants me... IDK"
This has nothing to do with the girls.
The whole idea here is to keep suffering until you have a humble moment when you realize you're not all that. Once you reach that point, you'll become real and will be able to form partnerships based on reality and not on the image you project. So let this man tear you down. In return you'll be a wholesome person for the next guy and not this fake persona you carry around. You'll have more to offer by being real than you think you have on the table right now.
Look, the idea here isn't to leave this man. If you do so, you will replay the same dynamic with another man and you will wander through life without a clue. The dynamic is simple: He knows you're extremely insecure so he's poking at that insecurity. The lower your self esteem plummets, the more you'll cling unto him.
The reality of it is you're not VERY confident, nor do you have a full fledged ego.
"he is showing me these girls so that i will see that that is what he COULD have but instead he wants me... IDK"
This has nothing to do with the girls.
The whole idea here is to keep suffering until you have a humble moment when you realize you're not all that. Once you reach that point, you'll become real and will be able to form partnerships based on reality and not on the image you project. So let this man tear you down. In return you'll be a wholesome person for the next guy and not this fake persona you carry around. You'll have more to offer by being real than you think you have on the table right now.
Posted by Damnata
Virgos are VERY good at bringing people down a notch. It's a mild form of sadism in a way..
Look, the idea here isn't to leave this man. If you do so, you will replay the same dynamic with another man and you will wander through life without a clue. The dynamic is simple: He knows you're extremely insecure so he's poking at that insecurity. The lower your self esteem plummets, the more you'll cling unto him.
The reality of it is you're not VERY confident, nor do you have a full fledged ego.
"he is showing me these girls so that i will see that that is what he COULD have but instead he wants me... IDK"
This has nothing to do with the girls.
The whole idea here is to keep suffering until you have a humble moment when you realize you're not all that. Once you reach that point, you'll become real and will be able to form partnerships based on reality and not on the image you project. So let this man tear you down. In return you'll be a wholesome person for the next guy and not this fake persona you carry around. You'll have more to offer by being real than you think you have on the table right now.
+1
Lmfao CC you are hilarious ^^^
Posted by CluelessCancer
She's basically telling her to humble herself to the Virgos level. To basically stop her shine, because it's not real, how de fuk does she know what's real, who is she? The realness queen.
gtfo
i've never heard such bammer advice in my life. A real man doesn't bring you down. if he feels like you're full of hot air and have nothing going on and it's not for him (some men like that) then he would just leave. He wouldn't sit there trying to punish you for being you.
Point flew over your head.
People telling her to leave him, yes that would work if she was confident. She isn't, it's really obvious from the OP. Not my problem if reading comprehension fails you.
Like throwing water to someone who says "I'm hungry! I need to eat!". Means jack shit to her if she's not in the frame of mind.
Know how it's obvious she's insecure? She would've left already.
Posted by CluelessCancer
okay i wasn't looking my best and i knew it, but not because i was sick, but super lazy, anyways he said ya' i can tell your sick, im like what? he goes well you're not talking, i want to talk to you, you seem quiet, but he was basically saying i wasn't looking good, i got the gist.
Rude subtle jab.
not everyone can be a hot Virgo. Rolls eyes. He's too cute.
Maybe he knows you by now so he figured out if you were sick you'd have been more worried about it?
You complaining about rudeness..lmao.
And yes, not everyone can. Hotness is a tough cross on the shoulders of Virgo Men. Few people can pull it off.
I think damnata is saying a virgo knows when you are not being real so he makes you reveal your true self If he sees that your pretending to be this confident person when it's actually a facade.
If you were confident like you portray then your insecurities wouldn't show so easily when he is testing you.
but he is still a hypocrite because he himself is insecure and he wears a confident mask as well.
If you were confident like you portray then your insecurities wouldn't show so easily when he is testing you.
but he is still a hypocrite because he himself is insecure and he wears a confident mask as well.
^Yeah but he's working it to his advantage. It's in her advantage not to let this dynamic play out with the men she'll meet after they break up. If she learns something from it, she won't run into the same guys.
That guy is a grain of sand on the shore of life. She'll realize this once true confidence surfaces.
That guy is a grain of sand on the shore of life. She'll realize this once true confidence surfaces.
^ I think you make a good point because I have learned a lot from my virgo playing the same game with me. I took off my mask and now it is real. In return I made him take his mask off as well. 🙂
We don't even know if this guy is insecure or a player or anything.
You know the kind of people who get rich in financial schemes by preying on stupidity and greed. We can call them awful human beings all we want..meanwhile they play a fool for a fool and laugh all the way to the bank.
Just replace the "bank" part with "pussy" and there you go. Business as usual.
You know the kind of people who get rich in financial schemes by preying on stupidity and greed. We can call them awful human beings all we want..meanwhile they play a fool for a fool and laugh all the way to the bank.
Just replace the "bank" part with "pussy" and there you go. Business as usual.
Moon's in Leo tonight.
No wonder I'm feisty/frisky. Gotta love fire moons.
No wonder I'm feisty/frisky. Gotta love fire moons.
Jynja, I'm playing devil's advocate tonight.😛
Wholesome for better people to walk into our lives.
Posted by Jynja
If you asked me, OP already knows how to handle the shit, but is going about begging attention.
Cubs
smh
You folks are cute though when you're not on the edge of aquariums torturing fish 😄
11:11:11 PM
I'm a true Virgo.
If that message enrages the OP, good. It should enrage any self respecting woman who found herself in a less than ideal scenario.
I learn more from things that piss me off. The emotional reaction I have to them tells me there's something I should be addressing. I love DXP for that.
I'm a true Virgo.
If that message enrages the OP, good. It should enrage any self respecting woman who found herself in a less than ideal scenario.
I learn more from things that piss me off. The emotional reaction I have to them tells me there's something I should be addressing. I love DXP for that.
twisted minds virgos are.
Posted by DamnataPosted by Octoberbaby91
twisted minds virgos are.
This coming from a Scorpio?
Watch it, arachnid.click to expand
I can admit yes I am dammit!
but you virgos take it a notch to far.
ya'll think everything is a game and I mean that in the most literal way possible.
Maybe some of us are self protective in the extreme, therefore there's a tendency to push and pull til we're sure.
Most of us are not game players though. It's way too much mental anxiety. We just want to get to the core, the nitty gritty, the real person. We might not go about it in the most ortodox way but we don't set out to harm.
We're pretty simple, despite us believing we can play games in our mind if we so wished to. In the real world, we don't reenact it.
Most of us are not game players though. It's way too much mental anxiety. We just want to get to the core, the nitty gritty, the real person. We might not go about it in the most ortodox way but we don't set out to harm.
We're pretty simple, despite us believing we can play games in our mind if we so wished to. In the real world, we don't reenact it.
"Legends in our minds". Well it's a nice fantasy to counterbalance the martyrdom. Then the Virgo vanity appears.
But yeah, we're simple creatures.
But yeah, we're simple creatures.
Posted by Damnata
"Legends in our minds". Well it's a nice fantasy to counterbalance the martyrdom. Then the Virgo vanity appears.
But yeah, we're simple creatures.
simple wants we figure out who the fuck you are 🙂
@OP
Maybe you should tell your bf that if he wants to have comparison discussions he can direct the topic to himself and any male of his choice that exudes all the qualities he finds lacking within himself and that the discussion of your own appearance is now off limits.
Does your boyfriend ever ask to see an example of your ideal penis size for a man?
Is he interested to know if him getting the same 6 pack as Ryan Gosling would make him hotter to you?
Have you tried to "help" him by pointing out the benefits from facial and jaw implants so he can look more like your favorite porn star in order to be considered attractive by you?
It's pretty funny that he would say it hasn't been a month in and you are already having issues when it hasn't been a month in and he is suggesting
you alter yourself physically.
Why would you allow yourself to be with someone who shows that kind of disregard for you?
I would be less concerned about whether or not I'm attractive to him and if he will leave me because of it and more concerned about why someone who treats me in such a condescending manner would attract me to them and why I haven't left them. I think you should ask yourself what you did to give this guy the impression you give a fuck as to what he thinks you should look like.
People can say Virgos criticize because they love you and want to help you be better and blah blah blah but Virgos can also be very
insecure and operate based on their ill intentions. However, at the end of the day your BFs motivations don't even matter. He's treating you the way he's treating you because you're letting him. Maybe it's hard to tell someone to go kiss your ass when you feel attached to them but if you put some person above yourself they'll put themselves above you too.
Maybe you should tell your bf that if he wants to have comparison discussions he can direct the topic to himself and any male of his choice that exudes all the qualities he finds lacking within himself and that the discussion of your own appearance is now off limits.
Does your boyfriend ever ask to see an example of your ideal penis size for a man?
Is he interested to know if him getting the same 6 pack as Ryan Gosling would make him hotter to you?
Have you tried to "help" him by pointing out the benefits from facial and jaw implants so he can look more like your favorite porn star in order to be considered attractive by you?
It's pretty funny that he would say it hasn't been a month in and you are already having issues when it hasn't been a month in and he is suggesting
you alter yourself physically.
Why would you allow yourself to be with someone who shows that kind of disregard for you?
I would be less concerned about whether or not I'm attractive to him and if he will leave me because of it and more concerned about why someone who treats me in such a condescending manner would attract me to them and why I haven't left them. I think you should ask yourself what you did to give this guy the impression you give a fuck as to what he thinks you should look like.
People can say Virgos criticize because they love you and want to help you be better and blah blah blah but Virgos can also be very
insecure and operate based on their ill intentions. However, at the end of the day your BFs motivations don't even matter. He's treating you the way he's treating you because you're letting him. Maybe it's hard to tell someone to go kiss your ass when you feel attached to them but if you put some person above yourself they'll put themselves above you too.
Posted by azleo733
How do I approach him.
You're an idiot and deserve everything you have gotten from him ... you even deserve more, considering here you are wanting more.
It's a woman's job to have some fucking dignity during these times. Not you though, not the almighty Leo .. nope, she's a fool it looks like.
A person (in this case guy) is going to treat you exactly as you allow him to. You're still fucking there, you are still laying in his bed, you are still accepting his calls and texts ... that means you are showing him that he is allowed to treat you this way.
So, that makes you the problem, in that you have no fucking pride or decency ... because a real woman would NEVER allow herself to be such a weak douchebag.
Instead of holding your head high with integrity ... you are low, sniveling at his feet.
I have zero respect for fools like you.
Posted by CluelessCancer
tell him he needs to enlarge his penis size. when he talks shit to you, talk shit right back. if he leaves good.
Forget if it's normal, the real question is, how does it make YOU feel? I'll be damned if I let some immature pompous asshole compare me to his exes. If you've brought it up several times and he can't consider your feelings, why continue to waste your time? It's only been a month, walking away now will save you a lot of time and heartache.
Posted by azleo733
This is all coming from a usually VERY confident and proud Leo..
If that^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^were true, you wouldn't have wasted one second with a guy who treats you this way.
You have taught this Virgo it's ok to treat you like shit. That would be your problem.
Are you proud of that?
Excuse me, I want to throw up. This thread is YUCK!
Posted by DamnataPosted by CluelessCancer
She's basically telling her to humble herself to the Virgos level. To basically stop her shine, because it's not real, how de fuk does she know what's real, who is she? The realness queen.
gtfo
i've never heard such bammer advice in my life. A real man doesn't bring you down. if he feels like you're full of hot air and have nothing going on and it's not for him (some men like that) then he would just leave. He wouldn't sit there trying to punish you for being you.
Point flew over your head.
People telling her to leave him, yes that would work if she was confident. She isn't, it's really obvious from the OP. Not my problem if reading comprehension fails you.
Like throwing water to someone who says "I'm hungry! I need to eat!". Means jack shit to her if she's not in the frame of mind.
Know how it's obvious she's insecure? She would've left already.click to expand
I find offense in the comment "the fake person you carry around." I am by NO MEANS fake in any sense. I am not insecure until someone starts pointing out flaws that I have never really noticed because I was happy with my appearance until my significant other decided that I needed to be informed that he could do better than me. I was obviously DEBATING leaving him, I was wanting to know how to bring this up to him so I could fix our issue before jumping the gun and ending something with potential.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by azleo733
How do I approach him.
You're an idiot and deserve everything you have gotten from him ... you even deserve more, considering here you are wanting more.
It's a woman's job to have some fucking dignity during these times. Not you though, not the almighty Leo .. nope, she's a fool it looks like.
A person (in this case guy) is going to treat you exactly as you allow him to. You're still fucking there, you are still laying in his bed, you are still accepting his calls and texts ... that means you are showing him that he is allowed to treat you this way.
So, that makes you the problem, in that you have no fucking pride or decency ... because a real woman would NEVER allow herself to be such a weak douchebag.
Instead of holding your head high with integrity ... you are low, sniveling at his feet.
I have zero respect for fools like you.click to expand
First of all, watch your mouth with me. Second of all, I have been best friends with this guy for almost 4 months before we dated. We have been together for TWO WEEKS SO PLEASE continue to tell me how stupid I am for "sticking around" for a whopping 14 days. EXCUSE ME for trying to salvage something with POTENTIAL and trying to fix a situation and come to a sense of equality. Numb nuts...
Posted by LetltBPosted by azleo733
This is all coming from a usually VERY confident and proud Leo..
If that^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^were true, you wouldn't have wasted one second with a guy who treats you this way.
You have taught this Virgo it's ok to treat you like shit. That would be your problem.
Are you proud of that?click to expand
When I first posted on this site all I wanted was for some virgos to shed some light on why he is doing this, but instead all I have gotten is people insulting me and looking down on me for just tyring to save a relationship with someone I care for. He is not usually like this and even before we dated he was always very sweet and understanding and told me how much he valued me on a normal basis. So the change in character concerned me. You people think you are so much better than everyone else. Am I proud of trying to solve problems instead of run away from them? Hell yes I am.
Posted by azleo733
I am not insecure until someone starts pointing out flaws ...
... that I have never really noticed ...
... because I was happy with my appearance
It's obvious to me that you don't have any valuable self awareness .... you don't notice your own self because you're focused on looks. You think if you look good, then it doesn't matter that you aren't aware of anything else.
He probably sees it too and just fucks with you because you're too stupid to know any better ... since you don't really fucking pay attention to self.
Posted by azleo733
Posted by P-AngelPosted by azleo733
How do I approach him.
You're an idiot and deserve everything you have gotten from him ... you even deserve more, considering here you are wanting more.
.... trying to salvage something with POTENTIAL
click to expand
rflmao
You're just a toy, for entertainment purposes ... obviously.
And why not?
You're too dumb to know this is happening, and even Virgos get bored and need to laugh.
Posted by azleo733
..... trying to salvage something with POTENTIAL ....
And it's not even that you said that ^^^^ it's you didn't know not to
Posted by azleo733Posted by LetltBPosted by azleo733
This is all coming from a usually VERY confident and proud Leo..
If that^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^were true, you wouldn't have wasted one second with a guy who treats you this way.
You have taught this Virgo it's ok to treat you like shit. That would be your problem.
Are you proud of that?
When I first posted on this site all I wanted was for some virgos to shed some light on why he is doing this, but instead all I have gotten is people insulting me and looking down on me for just tyring to save a relationship with someone I care for. He is not usually like this and even before we dated he was always very sweet and understanding and told me how much he valued me on a normal basis. So the change in character concerned me. You people think you are so much better than everyone else. Am I proud of trying to solve problems instead of run away from them? Hell yes I am.click to expand
So it was an insult to hear in a roundabout way that you are better than being treated like shit?
If I had said:
"hey, chase that guys ass down, he doesn't mean to treat you like shit, it's just the way he is and you'll get used to it"
Would that make it better?
I have deep affection for Leo's so I'll take it easy on this thread.
AZ this isn't just a Virgo thing, the behavior can be applied to any astrological sign.
You cannot salvage a relationship when one person is consciously attempting to tear the other down.
You've already expressed how his behavior makes you feel and his reaction was less than apathetic.
He's toxic. You cannot fix it. You cannot change it. You cannot appease it. You can only take it or leave it.
If you choose to take it/put up with it you'll lose yourself. The wonderful self you've been developing since the day you were born.
He has low self esteem thus he must bring you down beneath him so he can feel good about himself. He must tear you down so low that you'll begin to make him feel important, make him feel good about himself as you beg for his approval.
He can then convince himself he's better than you because YOU NEED HIM. He's managed to covertly convince you're not good enough, you you're a loser and the benefit of that is you'll cling to him, you'll beg for his approval, you'll need him, you'll make him relevant by NEEDING him. He's the needy one, he's the one with low self esteem or he would not be covertly aggressive in bringing you down just to lift himself up.
Any man that does this to a woman is a loser. Do not walk. Run!!
AZ this isn't just a Virgo thing, the behavior can be applied to any astrological sign.
You cannot salvage a relationship when one person is consciously attempting to tear the other down.
You've already expressed how his behavior makes you feel and his reaction was less than apathetic.
He's toxic. You cannot fix it. You cannot change it. You cannot appease it. You can only take it or leave it.
If you choose to take it/put up with it you'll lose yourself. The wonderful self you've been developing since the day you were born.
He has low self esteem thus he must bring you down beneath him so he can feel good about himself. He must tear you down so low that you'll begin to make him feel important, make him feel good about himself as you beg for his approval.
He can then convince himself he's better than you because YOU NEED HIM. He's managed to covertly convince you're not good enough, you you're a loser and the benefit of that is you'll cling to him, you'll beg for his approval, you'll need him, you'll make him relevant by NEEDING him. He's the needy one, he's the one with low self esteem or he would not be covertly aggressive in bringing you down just to lift himself up.
Any man that does this to a woman is a loser. Do not walk. Run!!
Posted by P-AngelPosted by azleo733
I am not insecure until someone starts pointing out flaws ...
... that I have never really noticed ...
... because I was happy with my appearance
It's obvious to me that you don't have any valuable self awareness .... you don't notice your own self because you're focused on looks. You think if you look good, then it doesn't matter that you aren't aware of anything else.
He probably sees it too and just fucks with you because you're too stupid to know any better ... since you don't really fucking pay attention to self.
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I find it amusing that you think you know who I am and what I realize versus what I do not. I know for a fact that I am as unique as they come when it comes to women. I know that I am an amazing girlfriend and will make an amazing wife to someone someday. Yes, I do pay attention to looks because in these times if you are not attractive to your mate, they WILL leave you and or cheat on you with someone who they are attracted to. So, I want to be attractive to him because, hate to break it to ya, personality doesnt get you jack shit anymore. Especially not with men. They look straight for physical attraction.
Posted by tiki33
I have deep affection for Leo's so I'll take it easy on this thread.
AZ this isn't just a Virgo thing, the behavior can be applied to any astrological sign.
You cannot salvage a relationship when one person is consciously attempting to tear the other down.
You've already expressed how his behavior makes you feel and his reaction was less than apathetic.
He's toxic. You cannot fix it. You cannot change it. You cannot appease it. You can only take it or leave it.
If you choose to take it/put up with it you'll lose yourself. The wonderful self you've been developing since the day you were born.
He has low self esteem thus he must bring you down beneath him so he can feel good about himself. He must tear you down so low that you'll begin to make him feel important, make him feel good about himself as you beg for his approval.
He can then convince himself he's better than you because YOU NEED HIM. He's managed to covertly convince you're not good enough, you you're a loser and the benefit of that is you'll cling to him, you'll beg for his approval, you'll need him, you'll make him relevant by NEEDING him. He's the needy one, he's the one with low self esteem or he would not be covertly aggressive in bringing you down just to lift himself up.
Any man that does this to a woman is a loser. Do not walk. Run!!
That was the exact kind of advice I was looking for. Thank you.
starters, this:
Posted by azleo733
This is all coming from a usually VERY confident and proud Leo..
....contradicts this:
Posted by azleo733
When I put two and two together i get :
He is not physically attracted to me (hence why he can shut me down so easily)
He would probably be more attracted to you if you change yourself (get more tattoos and enlarge your boobs)
OR He will end up leave me for someone more his type.
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I find it interesting that you felt the need to even state you were confident in an effort to convince us of this. If you possess a particular trait one doesn't have to state it. It will be reflected in their actions.
The fact that you haven't been together very long, but you've allowed this man to get into your head so easily also suggest the confidence isn't actually there. It appears you've mistaken "confidence" with ego stroking because how you feel about yourself is based purely on the feedback you receive.
So, "the best way to approach him"? He's irrelevant and should have been left behind a long time ago. The best way to approach this is work on addressing the lies you're telling yourself.
Posted by Damnata
Virgos are VERY good at bringing people down a notch. It's a mild form of sadism in a way..
Look, the idea here isn't to leave this man. If you do so, you will replay the same dynamic with another man and you will wander through life without a clue. The dynamic is simple: He knows you're extremely insecure so he's poking at that insecurity. The lower your self esteem plummets, the more you'll cling unto him.
The reality of it is you're not VERY confident, nor do you have a full fledged ego.
"he is showing me these girls so that i will see that that is what he COULD have but instead he wants me... IDK"
This has nothing to do with the girls.
The whole idea here is to keep suffering until you have a humble moment when you realize you're not all that. Once you reach that point, you'll become real and will be able to form partnerships based on reality and not on the image you project. So let this man tear you down. In return you'll be a wholesome person for the next guy and not this fake persona you carry around. You'll have more to offer by being real than you think you have on the table right now.
Virgo, what the many f*cks? Having fun while bestowing the knowledge again I see.
you're f*cking with the OP the way you've written this.
Posted by azleo733Posted by DamnataPosted by CluelessCancer
She's basically telling her to humble herself to the Virgos level. To basically stop her shine, because it's not real, how de fuk does she know what's real, who is she? The realness queen.
gtfo
i've never heard such bammer advice in my life. A real man doesn't bring you down. if he feels like you're full of hot air and have nothing going on and it's not for him (some men like that) then he would just leave. He wouldn't sit there trying to punish you for being you.
Point flew over your head.
People telling her to leave him, yes that would work if she was confident. She isn't, it's really obvious from the OP. Not my problem if reading comprehension fails you.
Like throwing water to someone who says "I'm hungry! I need to eat!". Means jack shit to her if she's not in the frame of mind.
Know how it's obvious she's insecure? She would've left already.
I find offense in the comment "the fake person you carry around." I am by NO MEANS fake in any sense. I am not insecure until someone starts pointing out flaws that I have never really noticed because I was happy with my appearance until my significant other decided that I needed to be informed that he could do better than me. I was obviously DEBATING leaving him, I was wanting to know how to bring this up to him so I could fix our issue before jumping the gun and ending something with potential.click to expand
Posted by tiki33
I have deep affection for Leo's so I'll take it easy on this thread.
AZ this isn't just a Virgo thing, the behavior can be applied to any astrological sign.
You cannot salvage a relationship when one person is consciously attempting to tear the other down.
You've already expressed how his behavior makes you feel and his reaction was less than apathetic.
He's toxic. You cannot fix it. You cannot change it. You cannot appease it. You can only take it or leave it.
If you choose to take it/put up with it you'll lose yourself. The wonderful self you've been developing since the day you were born.
He has low self esteem thus he must bring you down beneath him so he can feel good about himself. He must tear you down so low that you'll begin to make him feel important, make him feel good about himself as you beg for his approval.
He can then convince himself he's better than you because YOU NEED HIM. He's managed to covertly convince you're not good enough, you you're a loser and the benefit of that is you'll cling to him, you'll beg for his approval, you'll need him, you'll make him relevant by NEEDING him. He's the needy one, he's the one with low self esteem or he would not be covertly aggressive in bringing you down just to lift himself up.
Any man that does this to a woman is a loser. Do not walk. Run!!
+100
To azleo733:
Irregardless of his sign, he does not sound like a gentleman at all.
Yes, Virgent have a tendency to be picky or criticise but if they care about you, they would usually compromise or be distinctly aware of their own ways and soften the blows. Besides so, the ones that are decent would give constructive criticism, and not insults such as his, where his statements have no intended purpose to help you be a better version of yourself. If he finds as many faults as he does about your physical appearance, you will never satisfy him, if you have any amount of confidence and self respect, you would place him squarely in the trash bin.
You are forcing an impossible situation here, one that would end up in disaster, whilst you go hurting yourself.
Irregardless of his sign, he does not sound like a gentleman at all.
Yes, Virgent have a tendency to be picky or criticise but if they care about you, they would usually compromise or be distinctly aware of their own ways and soften the blows. Besides so, the ones that are decent would give constructive criticism, and not insults such as his, where his statements have no intended purpose to help you be a better version of yourself. If he finds as many faults as he does about your physical appearance, you will never satisfy him, if you have any amount of confidence and self respect, you would place him squarely in the trash bin.
You are forcing an impossible situation here, one that would end up in disaster, whilst you go hurting yourself.
+1 LadyScorp
Also if he wanted a woman with more tattoo's he would be with a woman with more tattoo's. If he wanted you too have bigger boobs and more tattoo's he would have picked that kind of woman.
For him to pick the complete opposite woman of what he's accustomed to and then passively berate you for not having the physical attributes he likes points to him being a complete douchebag.
For him to point out certain body parts, certain elements of a persons persona and expect you to be that or have more of that is completely unrealistic and absurd. He can like what he like but the fact that he covertly minimize and devalue you and you stay bothers me.
You cannot be anyone but who you are. As long as you love yourself, love your boobs his opinion means nothing, an opinion is like an asshole, everyone has one.
Men who pretend to be nice in the beginning only to turn into Satan once the woman has formed an emotional bond is the ultimate betrayal in my personal opinion.
I don't know how you can resolve this situation without eventually completely dropping this guy.
I also agree with kitty, if he can dish it, he can take it, start pulling out large penis photos and ask him to change his penis size, start with John Holmes--google him, I think he's about 13 inches, also ask him why his muscles aren't bigger like "The Rock", also ask him why he doesn't have Mark Zuckerberg money, be just absurd as he's being, he'll either stop the behavior or move on because he can't take it as much as he's dishing it.
Also if he wanted a woman with more tattoo's he would be with a woman with more tattoo's. If he wanted you too have bigger boobs and more tattoo's he would have picked that kind of woman.
For him to pick the complete opposite woman of what he's accustomed to and then passively berate you for not having the physical attributes he likes points to him being a complete douchebag.
For him to point out certain body parts, certain elements of a persons persona and expect you to be that or have more of that is completely unrealistic and absurd. He can like what he like but the fact that he covertly minimize and devalue you and you stay bothers me.
You cannot be anyone but who you are. As long as you love yourself, love your boobs his opinion means nothing, an opinion is like an asshole, everyone has one.
Men who pretend to be nice in the beginning only to turn into Satan once the woman has formed an emotional bond is the ultimate betrayal in my personal opinion.
I don't know how you can resolve this situation without eventually completely dropping this guy.
I also agree with kitty, if he can dish it, he can take it, start pulling out large penis photos and ask him to change his penis size, start with John Holmes--google him, I think he's about 13 inches, also ask him why his muscles aren't bigger like "The Rock", also ask him why he doesn't have Mark Zuckerberg money, be just absurd as he's being, he'll either stop the behavior or move on because he can't take it as much as he's dishing it.
Obviously, that guy is a douche. And the most sad part is that he knows that he is hurting you but wants to see you down about it just for the sake of the game. Now as Tikki said, Go, RUN !
Not all Virgos are like that just ignore the ""virgophobics" here, one of my bff is a leo and she is with a virguy and they are SO good together, he treats her very well, idolizes her and most of all RESPECTS her. The dynamic you are in is a bad one, regardless of his astrological sign. He has a lack of maturity that I deplore, but girl I hope this won't stop you from keep on shining !
Talk to him, tell him aaaall he has done and close door, put a lock on it and goodbyye ! ( try the silent treatment maybe ?)
He will regret this for sure, I mean only people with emotional instability have the need to put others down, that is miserable and be sure to tell him the Blunt truth about it
Go find a real man and NO, this is not a typical Virgo behaviour, we are very respectful people and once you disrespect us, you are not Worth our time anymore. If you really love him and still want to make it work, make him understand that this is a lack of respect and that you won't tolerate his shit any longer. Be ready to go, just in case
Hope it helps and good luck ! x
Not all Virgos are like that just ignore the ""virgophobics" here, one of my bff is a leo and she is with a virguy and they are SO good together, he treats her very well, idolizes her and most of all RESPECTS her. The dynamic you are in is a bad one, regardless of his astrological sign. He has a lack of maturity that I deplore, but girl I hope this won't stop you from keep on shining !
Talk to him, tell him aaaall he has done and close door, put a lock on it and goodbyye ! ( try the silent treatment maybe ?)
He will regret this for sure, I mean only people with emotional instability have the need to put others down, that is miserable and be sure to tell him the Blunt truth about it
Go find a real man and NO, this is not a typical Virgo behaviour, we are very respectful people and once you disrespect us, you are not Worth our time anymore. If you really love him and still want to make it work, make him understand that this is a lack of respect and that you won't tolerate his shit any longer. Be ready to go, just in case
Hope it helps and good luck ! x
Posted by azleo733
ie "Babe, I saw this porn today and this chick had a pistol tattoo on her hip.. You should get one. So hot."
Your response should have been...
" Oh, so you dig porn, too? Have you ever had the opportunity to check out the impressive package of Lexington Steele? 11 inches of hardcore pleasure! We will order in, watch Lex the Impaler 😉 and discuss the hip tattos, then...OK boo-boo."
He will stop contacting you because he can't mold or control you.
This is how a true confident woman permanently gets rid of an annoying insect.
"Babe, I saw this porn today and this chick had a pistol tattoo on her hip.. You should get one. So hot." This guy is seriously immature and none too bright. Raise the bar, hon. You don't need this shit. Chemistry without compatibility will only lead to tears and a hit to your self-esteem. Reclaim it by kicking this turkey to the curb. Show him how to treat a lady by walking out that door and not looking back. He'll respect you for not tolerating his shit but more importantly you'll respect yourself by not letting a man treat you this way. Not worth it. Sooo not worth it.
He sounds like an abusive, insecure asswipe that enjoys hurting you. Very typical virgo person. If it persists i suggest you find someone else to date. You are who you are ans deserve to be appreciated for such. If he cant do that, use his own medicine against. Be hurt, spiteful, and mean spirited so that he understands what it feels like to hurt by someone he cares about. What ever you do: DO NOT STAND FOR HIS ABUSE.
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