My Virgo Dilemma

Im in a complicated situation with my (former) virgo, and would like to understand a virgo's point of view in this situation.
My virgo and I were really acquaintances that became really good and close friends, the situation was like this for a good year, but i always felt that he wanted more, he was always interested what i was doing and was possessive as a friend ( he did not like me mentioning other guys and would put them down if i did).
Well, for you guys too understand the situation better.. we'r in uni together and during summer we go back to different countries.
Well last summer, he met this girl and had a summer relationship with her ( we were still friends so totally fine), and then when we were back in uni, we resumed our friendship and talked daily.. we got along so well it was perfect.
Then 2 months after summer, he mentions he wanted to tell me something but couldn't because he was worried. i knew he wanted us to get together but i didnt push it.
fast forward 3 months later he finally asked me out, and we were a couple. problem is he insisted on keeping us a secret from our friends (we'r in a group of 6 friends, one of them happens to be his brother), which made getting together difficult, and also since he left asking me too late it happened to be at the beginning of our pre final lab exams and then finals. so it was a stressful time for us both.
due to all these factors, we couldnt get together as frequently as we wanted to, which led to arguments.
Our relationship in every other way was perfect (or seemed to be to me), he was attentive, he was the first one to say i love you, he kept on telling me not to ever leave him, he wanted to be together etc etc, he was demanding attention-wise, and i loved giving it, but because of my past experience was the cooler one in the relationship ( i really didnt want to scare him off ), so we planned that that summer (3 months long) i'd be spending it all with him in his home country, we planned accomodation, talked about stuff we'r going to do and also we planned a romantic vacation to the caribean, it was exciting and brought us alot closer together, but then last minute i had to pull out, i had to go back to my own home country, and it was devastating.. it devastated us both.
initially he said he couldnt deal with us being apart, and he was gonna miss me. then we thought bout going on a break (just for the summer, to breath and think) which he seemed reluctant to do.

I'd like to add that he did end up telling his bro (only) which was a BIG step for him, which i appreciated. also that in our relationship he was possessive, he didnt even like me talking to guy friends that much and that was also a cause for arguments. but after every argument, he was attentive and sorry and was always the one that started witht he making up.
anyway when summer came around, and with alot of thinking on his part, we decided to go on a break, i played it really cool, it seemed it affected him more. Now i wish i didnt, being apart made me realise how much i miss him, and i know im in love with him.
at the beginning of the summer, he seemed to ask wenever we talked why i dont message him or talk to him, and i'd be like im busy (i was on holiday), and again i came off cool (another mistake).
to clarify the terms of the break , was we go away and do our own thing in the summer no strings attached, ( he has repeated he'll be good, and i always said he shld have fun and not to care , MISTAKE lol) and after we get back we get together and work things out and work on our relationship.
well after not talking for a month, it turns out hes back with his ex0girlfriend from the previous summer (id like to point out that she never stopped messsaging him whilst we were together, telling him she loved him and wanted him back and missed him, even when he was like im with some1 i love, he tld me this, her response was i'll break up any relationship u have bcoz i love u so much, i think she was a leo)( i didnt care much, bcoz i felt he rlly did love me and he sed so himself, on numerous occasions saying hes gonna cut her out, but he was nice and pondered alot and didnt want to hurt her)
well it turns out this summer they got back together, and at first i thought it was some kind f fling, then i really missed hima nd loved i sent him an i love you message, he responded back immediately saying i shldve told him this and shldnt have kept this from him and continued on saying he was a horrible boyfriend and our relationship was disaster bcoz of this. and then he disappears and again i dnt wanna push him and leave him to it ( id like to add previous to my message, he was always asking bout me and wat i was up to and guys i was seeing, i went out with 3 guys, and seemed a lil jealous bout it all).
so he disappears, and then he messages and we talk a lil bit, a lil awkwardley and so it happens i had a date that nite ( it was innocent, friends set us up

and he flys off the handle, i left and then after the date to clear the air i email him and say it was all innocent, he answers back and says it doesnt change anything and that him and his new girl (previous ex girl) are pretty close and goes on to tell him how he sleeps with her, whcih hurts alot, but i feel like hes acting out, is this true?? is it bcoz i hurt him he feels he needs to hurt me?? and have i hurt him??
so since then ive vowed never to message him and let him think, since its 2 weeks til we get back to uni and then i dont know wats gonna happen. and he hasnt messaged.
so wat do u guys think should i hope for a reconcilation or move on— do u think he still loves me?? or shall i take it at face value hes moved on.
oh by the way, hes told me that the gril hes with now it wnt ever become that serious, bcoz theyr so far and he doesnt like long distance relationships. so wat is he doing?? just a lil fun— help me guys, i know its all complicated

I understand that we come of pretty immature ( and we were to an extent), but we went with being really close friends that knew everything bout each other to a couple, and personally that frightened me, i valued our friendship and was always worried that our relationship will ruin that (and it looks like it has). And altho it mite not sound like it but he is a nice guy, he has a good heart and his intentions i believe r right its just his actions dont always translate that well.
i don't kno if i can move on til he tells me to ( we were always honest with each other), and i have this hope that wont die out and i have a feeling (a strong one at that) that he feels the same, but hes just trying to process all the madness.