kc75
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Need Advice - Can't Work Out the Virgo Ex
Understanding Virgo and Pisces Relationship Dynamics
Virgo and Pisces share a deep emotional connection but face challenges due to their different communication styles. Virgos tend to be practical and reserved, while Pisceans are more sensitive and intuitive. Healing and rebuilding trust require patience, clear communication, and respecting boundaries. Focus on personal growth and giving space to allow natural reconciliation to occur.
Posted by kc75
....... how long I should wait before contacting her again (she handles rejection badly and even though I am the dumpee she will not come to me) ........
She will not come to you because she broke up with you, and so therefore chooses to end the relationship with you.
There is no how long you should wait to contact her, as if to suggest that you're suppose to .... because you're not suppose to contact her. She doesn't want to be your girlfriend, so this means you are suppose to move on and not be thinking about calling her.
I would say that she was testing you during that 5 hour talk.Did you hear what she was saying?Was there a repeating topic of converstaion that kept coming up?
I'm sure it was the mortality conversation that she was having with herself;is a 1000% happy with her life,if her father didn't complete his bucket list,may be she is off to complete hers? Maybe she wants some time to process everything.
(As a P.S. we hate hate hate our business splashed across the 'net like that.If you really knew her,you'd know she'd be cringing inside,knowing that her friends and family were reading about the inner workings of her relationship.You saw it as a celebration,she saw it as an invasion of privacy.
I just used that as an example of how each of you percieved a situation.I think that right there maybe be the heart of the matter.Virgo and Pisces are polar opposites,so sometimes thats what attracts you together but that can be what can ultimately tear you apart.Re visit that converstion,something in there must have been a clue.
Have there been any boundaries that you have crossed?If you think it's no big deal,it might have been a deal breaker for her,now she is just acting on what she said it was.Since you know her friends,they might be able to shed some light on this for you.
But wait 'til she contacts you.Are you a guy that can follow instrctions well?Most Pisces I know will try to eneter another door other than the one marked entrance just to see if they can .If she said give her space,give her some space.Let her come to you. Meanwhile keep yourself busy.Good Luck
I'm sure it was the mortality conversation that she was having with herself;is a 1000% happy with her life,if her father didn't complete his bucket list,may be she is off to complete hers? Maybe she wants some time to process everything.
(As a P.S. we hate hate hate our business splashed across the 'net like that.If you really knew her,you'd know she'd be cringing inside,knowing that her friends and family were reading about the inner workings of her relationship.You saw it as a celebration,she saw it as an invasion of privacy.
I just used that as an example of how each of you percieved a situation.I think that right there maybe be the heart of the matter.Virgo and Pisces are polar opposites,so sometimes thats what attracts you together but that can be what can ultimately tear you apart.Re visit that converstion,something in there must have been a clue.
Have there been any boundaries that you have crossed?If you think it's no big deal,it might have been a deal breaker for her,now she is just acting on what she said it was.Since you know her friends,they might be able to shed some light on this for you.
But wait 'til she contacts you.Are you a guy that can follow instrctions well?Most Pisces I know will try to eneter another door other than the one marked entrance just to see if they can .If she said give her space,give her some space.Let her come to you. Meanwhile keep yourself busy.Good Luck
So your both female, I am assuming your more of the what they call "butch" in the relationship.
Your story plays out shockingly similar to how my Virgo reacted. I made a bad mistake like you did with the blog soon after we broke up and that ended up solidifying it in her mind that she made the right decision breaking up. I think with Virgos they basically are giving you permission to see other people as quickly as you want so do that until they are ready to talk again.
I talked to alot of people on here who are Virgos and it seems with them that you gotta give them space and leave them alone for a while. You gotta get your mind off them until they fully forgive you and see you have changed, trying to intervene and forcing them to hear your side or agree with you is pointless and just digs the hole deeper.
and Virgos are not really good at getting back to you after you have broken up even though they are very responsive when they are in love with you.Just got to accept that fact she is pissed off and you gotta back down and humble yourself.
Well, she did end up replying to my email:
"Thank you for you birthday wishes.
I am happy that you are doing well and in awe of your commitment to develop yourself further. It was lovely talking with you on Sunday.
I sincerely wish you the best of everything."
Any thoughts?
"Thank you for you birthday wishes.
I am happy that you are doing well and in awe of your commitment to develop yourself further. It was lovely talking with you on Sunday.
I sincerely wish you the best of everything."
Any thoughts?
well kc75,uhmmm,uhmmm,that is a not helpful statement for the state of your relationship.Yeah,it's not so good.It a standard Virgo let down.Sorry for your loss.Remember her fondly and Good Luck in the future.Once again the clues were in your 5 hour break up.I've done that very thing,a marathon conversation to let you know what isn't working and that neither person is going to be able to overcome what is wrong.Good Luck.
Oh....really? The 5 hour conversation we had on Sunday wasn't our break up. We talked after 3 months apart and it felt lovely. We both expressed that we still loved each other, weren;t interested in looking for someone else, she kissed me twice, continued to talked about my looks and was touching me and evrytime I tried to leave she ekpt on talking and wanted me to stay. We both are aware that right now a reconciliation is not possible because we have to work on ourselves but surely there may be some hope for the future??
I know we both have very strong and intense feelings for one another.
I know we both have very strong and intense feelings for one another.
Posted by kc75
Oh....really? The 5 hour conversation we had on Sunday wasn't our break up. We talked after 3 months apart and it felt lovely. We both expressed that we still loved each other, weren;t interested in looking for someone else, she kissed me twice, continued to talked about my looks and was touching me and evrytime I tried to leave she ekpt on talking and wanted me to stay.
You should have stayed or at least made plans to met again soon.
We both are aware that right now a reconciliation is not possible because we have to work on ourselves but surely there may be some hope for the future??
I know we both have very strong and intense feelings for one another.
We both are aware that right now a reconciliation is not possible because we have to work on ourselves
You've just answered your own question.You want an assurance of when.Only she knows for sure.She'll contact you when she is ready.
She breaks up with you.
You bug her, so she conceded to talk to you ... then after soothing your feelings, she blows you off.
You insist on bugging her more .. she tries to ignore you .. then finally answers you to blow you off again.
And you are seriously sitting there with your finger up your ass, wondering when it's ok to contact her again?
How dense can you be?
You bug her, so she conceded to talk to you ... then after soothing your feelings, she blows you off.
You insist on bugging her more .. she tries to ignore you .. then finally answers you to blow you off again.
And you are seriously sitting there with your finger up your ass, wondering when it's ok to contact her again?
How dense can you be?
Posted by VulcanLass
well kc75,uhmmm,uhmmm,that is a not helpful statement for the state of your relationship.Yeah,it's not so good.It a standard Virgo let down.Sorry for your loss.Remember her fondly and Good Luck in the future.Once again the clues were in your 5 hour break up.I've done that very thing,a marathon conversation to let you know what isn't working and that neither person is going to be able to overcome what is wrong.Good Luck.
These are pretty good, accurate statements to how Virgos act.
My question to Virgos, if u love someone so much and care about them, why is it super easy to let them go when you feel the relationship has failed? Why does the other party usually always feel offended?
Is the person who loved you for a long time suppose to just cut their losses and move on and not take it personal? It makes me feel if u date a Virgo you should always have a little black book of numbers somewhere in case something goes wrong. That once u have messed it up with a Virgo you should basically just throw there number away.
Yet I feel that would super offend a Virgo if u had that black book, or would it?
oh and I ask this just to better understand the Virgo mind during a breakup 🙂 I feel my previous post came off to attacking.
Posted by HighTidePosted by VulcanLass
It a standard Virgo let down.Sorry for your loss.Remember her fondly and Good Luck in the future.Once again the clues were in your 5 hour break up.I've done that very thing,a marathon conversation to let you know what isn't working and that neither person is going to be able to overcome what is wrong.
These are pretty good, accurate statements to how Virgos act.
1)My question to Virgos, if u love someone so much and care about them, why is it super easy to let them go when you feel the relationship has failed? 2)Why does the other party usually always feel offended?
3)Is the person who loved you for a long time suppose to just cut their losses and move on and not take it personal? It makes me feel if u date a Virgo you should always have a little black book of numbers somewhere in case something goes wrong. That once u have messed it up with a Virgo you should basically just throw there number away.
5) Yet I feel that would super offend a Virgo if u had that black book, or would it?click to expand
1)Because the relationship HAS failed.Whether it has run its course,the issues were too big,they never got resolved or the issue was a deal breaker that the other person specifically knew would cause us pain,and deliberately went there,it's time to call it a day.Obviously some differences can't be surmounted ,we Virgos recognize that and refuse to be a party to a dead or dying relationship.
If the couple is spending more time in the throes of drama and tears,isn't there something wrong with this picture?What is the point continual fighting with someone?It is exhausting.And for what?For us to accept all your assshat behavior.We are not children nor second class citizens in a relationship.Alot of people make the mistake that because we are laid back,quiet,non combative,agreeable that we are suppose to just sit there and take the crap sandwiches that people want to feed us.We figure you're an adult,why should we draw a line in the sand for a lover that is suppose to love,respect,care about and have supposedly taken the time to know us?You disreguard us because we aren't forceful with our truths?It can out of our mouths,we thought you were listening—??
Obviously,there is a fundamental problem here.A lot of Virgos are at the other end of the spectrum and try a
and fix it
2)Who has walked away from a relationship excited and un offened.That's what restraining orders are for.
3)If you issue can't be resolved,if you knew you had them going in and it doesn't work,then sometimes you are more toxic by staying in the relationship than recognizing there is a time to cut your losses.
4/5)Love has no guarrentees,(P.S. if you keep the black book,you are expecting failure,looking for a soft place to land ,when the heat gets high and there no time for self introspection.
2)Who has walked away from a relationship excited and un offened.That's what restraining orders are for.
3)If you issue can't be resolved,if you knew you had them going in and it doesn't work,then sometimes you are more toxic by staying in the relationship than recognizing there is a time to cut your losses.
4/5)Love has no guarrentees,(P.S. if you keep the black book,you are expecting failure,looking for a soft place to land ,when the heat gets high and there no time for self introspection.
These are pretty good, accurate statements to how Virgos act.
My question to Virgos, if u love someone so much and care about them, why is it super easy to let them go when you feel the relationship has failed? Why does the other party usually always feel offended?
Is the person who loved you for a long time suppose to just cut their losses and move on and not take it personal? It makes me feel if u date a Virgo you should always have a little black book of numbers somewhere in case something goes wrong. That once u have messed it up with a Virgo you should basically just throw there number away.
Yet I feel that would super offend a Virgo if u had that black book, or would it?
How committed is one,then? Using it as an escape hatch no.(she pissed me off,let me call someone...).
Me ,I prefer to start fresh,an ex is an ex for a reason.
My question to Virgos, if u love someone so much and care about them, why is it super easy to let them go when you feel the relationship has failed? Why does the other party usually always feel offended?
Is the person who loved you for a long time suppose to just cut their losses and move on and not take it personal? It makes me feel if u date a Virgo you should always have a little black book of numbers somewhere in case something goes wrong. That once u have messed it up with a Virgo you should basically just throw there number away.
Yet I feel that would super offend a Virgo if u had that black book, or would it?
How committed is one,then? Using it as an escape hatch no.(she pissed me off,let me call someone...).
Me ,I prefer to start fresh,an ex is an ex for a reason.
Thanks for the honest responses Vulcan, they have helped me alot, and probably the OP.
I know in the relationship with my Virgo that my biggest problem is that she was my childhood crush and fit this certain mold for me that I totally adored when I was a kid.She was like my Winnie Cooper. Once I met up with her in my late 20's and after she had a failed marriage and 3 children, she now came with what some people call "baggage". She was still fundamentally the same person I always loved, yet I was constantly at war in my mind with who she was then and who she was now as a person. I felt like when I was finally coming to terms with her past, accepting little things that bothered me, it was at that moment she decided to end it.
Looking back she never judged me for my past, yet I judged her all the time. I feel like I was too gungho about getting her to see things my way and that all the mistakes she made was because someone wasn't hard enough on her.I hadn't had any kids and I was graduating college with no real baggage to my name like I was better than her now when it came down to it. I was on a high horse and didn't even realize how insensitive I became as a result of me trying to "save" her. What was done was done and I should have just accepted that is who she was now and that she loved me unconditionally and always had. She never made me feel ashamed of the things I did in the past, but I did with her and it makes me sad because I really loved her more than anyone on this Earth beside God.
Though I was very angry at my Virgo and it was the hardest year of my life getting over her,she did help me realize I had been brutal with my love and that I needed to be a better man if I wanted a woman as wonderful as her to stick around and be by my side.
The following video pretty much sums up the Cancer Man who had a relationship with a Virgo Woman.
I know in the relationship with my Virgo that my biggest problem is that she was my childhood crush and fit this certain mold for me that I totally adored when I was a kid.She was like my Winnie Cooper. Once I met up with her in my late 20's and after she had a failed marriage and 3 children, she now came with what some people call "baggage". She was still fundamentally the same person I always loved, yet I was constantly at war in my mind with who she was then and who she was now as a person. I felt like when I was finally coming to terms with her past, accepting little things that bothered me, it was at that moment she decided to end it.
Looking back she never judged me for my past, yet I judged her all the time. I feel like I was too gungho about getting her to see things my way and that all the mistakes she made was because someone wasn't hard enough on her.I hadn't had any kids and I was graduating college with no real baggage to my name like I was better than her now when it came down to it. I was on a high horse and didn't even realize how insensitive I became as a result of me trying to "save" her. What was done was done and I should have just accepted that is who she was now and that she loved me unconditionally and always had. She never made me feel ashamed of the things I did in the past, but I did with her and it makes me sad because I really loved her more than anyone on this Earth beside God.
Though I was very angry at my Virgo and it was the hardest year of my life getting over her,she did help me realize I had been brutal with my love and that I needed to be a better man if I wanted a woman as wonderful as her to stick around and be by my side.
The following video pretty much sums up the Cancer Man who had a relationship with a Virgo Woman.
Posted by HighTidePosted by VulcanLass
well kc75,uhmmm,uhmmm,that is a not helpful statement for the state of your relationship.Yeah,it's not so good.It a standard Virgo let down.Sorry for your loss.Remember her fondly and Good Luck in the future.Once again the clues were in your 5 hour break up.I've done that very thing,a marathon conversation to let you know what isn't working and that neither person is going to be able to overcome what is wrong.Good Luck.
These are pretty good, accurate statements to how Virgos act.
My question to Virgos, if u love someone so much and care about them, why is it super easy to let them go when you feel the relationship has failed? Why does the other party usually always feel offended?
Is the person who loved you for a long time suppose to just cut their losses and move on and not take it personal? It makes me feel if u date a Virgo you should always have a little black book of numbers somewhere in case something goes wrong. That once u have messed it up with a Virgo you should basically just throw there number away.
Yet I feel that would super offend a Virgo if u had that black book, or would it?click to expand
Hah! And you're a Cancer man? YOU are the MASTERS of black books!
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