bren33
@bren33
12 YearsVirgo
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need help from Virgo male
So. Just leave him be, i get it, a test, is this sub consciously? This is the first male that did this, so no contact at all? Or send him texts every now and again. He did mention to me, since he has been out if the dating scene he is having trouble trying to allow time between myself and his son. He does text in the morning, every morning so just ignore it?
If he initiates a text every morning, respond back... But keep it light... Ya know have a good day... Hope work is good... Mention his work for bonus points...just short sweet and witty is really good. I will say something funny to my Virgo and he remembers for weeks... They are deep and delicious you gotta learn how to work them.... Oh damn... This makes me sad... I miss chatting with my guy 😢
Well i have learned to keep it about his work, as we work in similar fields lol he comes home on sunday and only for a week, i shouldnt mention about date night right, will he soon realize that he should spend time with me. The only thing i am worried about is that if he knows i will wait, then i am always going to be thrown to the way side and always become second to whatever he has on his plate. Since i will always be there.
I am sorry about u missing talking to ur guy i wish i could make it better for u
I am sorry about u missing talking to ur guy i wish i could make it better for u
bren... Aw thanks that means alot to me... I could be wrong but I think with a Virgo man it's gonna be on there terms (until you know how to work them anyway) I have found for some reason when I say "I need" he responds just how I like.... His children will always come first though IMO - mine is a First Deacon and damn close to a Leo... But Virgo Sun Moon and mercury!
No problem shescomendone....i like to help where i can. ok, so i have lots of good advice, but i still have two questions, how do i work him as in what can i do to make him respond to my advances better. i have tried your guys advice this morning and so far it has worked. but the texting has stopped and i know that i won't hear from him again until tomorrow morning. and all that i have described does this mean that he likes me? or, and here is the second question, how do i know that he likes me?
Posted by bren33
i shouldnt mention about date night right, will he soon realize that he should spend time with me. The only thing i am worried about is that if he knows i will wait, then i am always going to be thrown to the way side and always become second to whatever he has on his plate. Since i will always be there.
"He should? spend time with you. No sweetheart you have it all wrong.
He sees his child once a month and his son is PRIORITY #1 and always will be. If you can't handle second, move on. I'd bet my house the reason why he's not responding is because of your entitlement and demand issues. Another thing...if you choose to "always be there" for him, thats your choice and not his problem. Take responsibility for that choice and don't blame him for making that choice. Own it.
Posted by bren33
but i still have two questions, how do i work him as in what can i do to make him respond to my advances better. i have tried your guys advice this morning and so far it has worked. but the texting has stopped and i know that i won't hear from him again until tomorrow morning. and all that i have described does this mean that he likes me? or, and here is the second question, how do i know that he likes me?
FFS, leave him the hell alone and ALLOW him to contact you. He's already figured out you are a pain in the ass, either STOP or continue to make an ass out of yourself. If a Virgo wants you THEY WILL LET YOU KNOW THEY WANT YOU.
By the way...are you sure he's not married?
Posted by bren33
No problem shescomendone....i like to help where i can. ok, so i have lots of good advice, but i still have two questions, how do i work him as in what can i do to make him respond to my advances better. i have tried your guys advice this morning and so far it has worked. but the texting has stopped and i know that i won't hear from him again until tomorrow morning. and all that i have described does this mean that he likes me? or, and here is the second question, how do i know that he likes me?
You got to chill girl.. Let him miss your ass... It is so difficult but it works! It could be weeks before he wants to see you... Just maintain a little contact... Let him know your still interested Virgo has to simmer and think everything thru... Slow to act but if you really want him it will be worth the waiting... Maybe this is why the move slow... To make sure you really are interested... I don't know if they are all like this but the few in my life were... I'm playing this game ( for lack of better term) right now too....
Posted by Shescomeundone
You got to chill girl.. Let him miss your ass... It is so difficult but it works! It could be weeks before he wants to see you... Just maintain a little contact... Let him know your still interested Virgo has to simmer and think everything thru... Slow to act but if you really want him it will be worth the waiting... Maybe this is why the move slow... To make sure you really are interested... I don't know if they are all like this but the few in my life were... I'm playing this game ( for lack of better term) right now too....
TRANSLATION: Get in line for the booty call and wait.
Posted by LetltB
By the way...are you sure he's not married?
i know that he is not married.
ok done deal i will let him be, advice well taken from all areas of the msg board. i took the advice this morning and it did work. i do believe now i am trying to hard. just that the other guys that i have been dating in the past, were not like this and unfortunately i have been off the dating scene for way to long.
thanks guys for the comments, it was a eye opener.
B
thanks guys for the comments, it was a eye opener.
B
It's tough for a single dad who works away that much to have a personal life. And even more tough on relationships.
I think you should evaluate for yourself whether this is something you're willing to work around. While he's at work, you're going to be alone for three weeks out of the month. So the week he is home subtract 75% for time with his son. Unless you work nights and can see him while the boy is at school, you're looking at seeing him for only 1-2 days a month. Is that enough for you?
Don't worry about what he is or isn't doing, but look at it from YOUR prespective and determine if this is actually something YOU want.
I think you should evaluate for yourself whether this is something you're willing to work around. While he's at work, you're going to be alone for three weeks out of the month. So the week he is home subtract 75% for time with his son. Unless you work nights and can see him while the boy is at school, you're looking at seeing him for only 1-2 days a month. Is that enough for you?
Don't worry about what he is or isn't doing, but look at it from YOUR prespective and determine if this is actually something YOU want.
Posted by truecap
It's tough for a single dad who works away that much to have a personal life. And even more tough on relationships.
I think you should evaluate for yourself whether this is something you're willing to work around. While he's at work, you're going to be alone for three weeks out of the month. So the week he is home subtract 75% for time with his son. Unless you work nights and can see him while the boy is at school, you're looking at seeing him for only 1-2 days a month. Is that enough for you?
Don't worry about what he is or isn't doing, but look at it from YOUR prespective and determine if this is actually something YOU want.
wow, never of looked at like that, when you look at it that way its a huge eye opener. the kicker is that i work two jobs one day and one nite (weekends only) which makes it equally as hard. so what might be one or two days, if they fall on a weekend turn into no days. 😢
well now i have a lot to think about while i am at work tonite. But it works out so perfectly cause when i am actually in a full blown relationship i don't want to see the person all the time, no even close to that. Guess i am just confused myself on what i want, and what i need.
on the up side i did learn a lot about the virgo personality, traits, and habits. thanks guys
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then when he came home i picked him up and we finally shared our first kiss, among other things and he said that it was perfect and that he is happy all that stuff.
then he stated that we were going to go on our first official date, (go to a resturant, etc dance and that) then he had his little boy all week and when we made plans his ex informed him that he would have his little boy again. which is fine i understand that he doesn't want confront her, cause i don't like confronting my ex about stuff.
so he went back, but this time, he is very distant, only texts every morning then thats it. if i don't text him then i will not hear from him. i asked him if we could have our date nite, and all i get is probably. His texts are not of substance, and i have to either call him or it just doesn't happen.
what i am asking is, is this normal? from what i have been reading it is, but i am not sure, or should i just move on, back off?.
please help
virgo in trouble.