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Can someone pls give advises ... I am in confusion...

I have recently became friends with a virguy he was in my fb for freaking years
and recently we started messaging and communicating via phone calls

Starting it was juz merely friend talking till late nights,
then slowly it became chating almost daily till morning and even messaging.
Starting he told me he can take in any jokes so we jokes almost everything but as days goes by he became critical and criticism kicks in, he became mindful of the words i used somehow it hurts him

After that he started to tell me he interested but he's hurt in past relationship and he will sing love songs to me ..I am really confuse cos I am holding onto my past relationship though me and ex have broken up but I have gave a promise to hold on even though my ex ask me to go and accept new love and for this the virguy knew too and he always advise me to let go cos he knew the hurt as he is a person who's divorce and he always advise me this burden I need not required to bear since not married yet...

We have small disputes here and there as I am a person who talks very direct even in message but I have always make my stand clear that I wish that this friendship will never cut or break..

After that we met he seemed very sweet but I was so shy that I really didn't converse much and I avoided all eyes contact and chosen to fell asleep and gave excuses that I have to carry 2 bottles of water (total approx: 3L) thus I was drained that I required to sleep and moreover I was on contact lenses and my eyes are tired. He's ok and he was also busy with his work. We chated while walking to the main road and he accompany me to wait for the cab and after that when I reach home I call him and chated even night reaches I still called him and we chated again...

Everything seemed gd and we even planned for the next meeting... but tis is TBC

Then 1 evening I messaged him on facebook stating I have straighten out and knew what to do he reply LOL ... when i tried to probe him why is he happy but he never drop any hints.. he keep advising me that the probs he shoulder is worst than mine and mine was juz a small issue... further on the messages he told me the world is darkness. I given him encouragement through the message stating that even no matter chances how slim we should not give up hope even if 1% of hope we should still preserver. I even gave him of me n my ex even though I know chances are slim or patching

*of patching but wont give up on hope since I have promiz to hold on till tis yr sep.
Even though my ex encourages me to go out meet new people...
After this message he went silent and around 1am+ he message me stating to me that the next day meeting he might be meeting me time will be advise later.

Frm morning till evening nothing came from him, so I messaged him and checking what the time of meeting. After the third message he seemed pissed, he ignore me totally. Since no response frm him I decided to go out with my friend.

After a day I message him and asked what wrong, he was pissed and stated if I can't understand the meaning of busy then no point keeping in contact. The quarrel was so bad that i eventually lashed out nasty words. After that we both went silent , but later when i cool down I still message to apologised but he no response from him.

After a few days, I dropped message again to apologised. He replied stating he never take it to heart. But ever since we seemed like strangers. Though when i message him he still responded but everything seemed distant and he seemed cold...

Any of you virguy explain to me why things turn out tis way.
I am really confuse... he is a september virguy / as for me I m september Libra....

my 1st time in here pardon me for any mistsakes thks 😄

He may has other things going on and he doesn't want to discus with you at the moment.

You keep throwing an ex in his face ... his best bet is to ditch you.


Any person who throws an ex in the face .... doesn't really deserve respect and consideration.


Now, let's see if you have enough wits about you to check that. I have a feeling that it will probably fly over your head.

P_Angel: i agreed with u. But the main conversation started out was i broke with my ex n i confided in him regards to my failed r/s and he have stated he will be alright for me to talk about my ex he is open with it since i find him to pour out my issues. That was the main objective of our tele-conversation.

As times goes by he started being sweet on n off n I always brush it off stating he is joking
Then he might ended up cold n gone but never for long. Then he will appear again. Every night we can be holding on phone for hours mayb frm 10am till 6am but nothing was spoken... half the time i will b hearing him singing or hear him grumbling over his work or else he will b juz showing concern abt how m i feeling...

I juz don't get it sometimes, he told me he can take all kind of jokes, in the beginning yes all kinds he will laugh etc. But as times goes by I tried to joke but he will go critical and stating my jokes hurt and I can't get it. But he will keep criticizing me till i cry but he don't get it.

And twice I made him angry and i drew a picture and sent him to apologise he forgiven.

But I don't get it why after meet up he arranged for 2nd meet up but he was the 1 mia and yet he became so angry. Yes I am partly in mistake cos in heat of anger I said he took me for granted, and he immediately flare even though he apologized. Then I juz drop a message explaining my stand and I apologized for my harsh words.

Nevertheless I did explained I apologise it doesn't mean that I am admitting I am at fault, cos fault will never be 1 sided it takes 2 hands to clap, I apologise cos I treasured everyting ; the friendship ; the bond. In everyting 2 person view are always diff cos we view, see thing and handle tings diff the only ting is acceptance.

He did replied its ok he won't take things to heart.

But ever since everything seemed hard to revert, I don't even dare to message him cos I scared I will piss him off. And alas I pluck my courage to drop him message, I thought he will ignored but no, he did reply, explaining me to that he hardly sleep etc cos he busy with work and ask me not to worry. Or else he will just tell me he is still the same nothing changed.

Can anyone virguy or any virgo point of view, able to tell me is there any attraction from his point of view toward me?

my ex is a saggi ....

in facebook the virguy didn't block me when i msg him if its like some sort of conversation as long is not close ending he will reply but juz slow...

if i message hi - he will reply... if i message how r u - he will reply...
but if i message some sort of gd night - sure no reply...

but the only ting i wanna know since he did response does it mean that tis frienship still on going or at any point of time he is interested?

Or totally there's no interest he juz msg for the sake of message?

I wish to hear frm the point of view ... plz advise me....

LeoVeen: its hard i m not the 1 playing mind game and i hate it... and i can't take mind game omfg ... and he gotten berserk cos i have said take tings for granted -.- ||

i realli wish to know will he come back T.T any virguy can tell me... or should i juz let it go ?

Posted by cassie86

its hard i m not the 1 playing mind game and i hate it... and i can't take mind game omfg ... and he gotten berserk cos i have said take tings for granted

You ARE playing mind games ....

Posted by cassie86

Starting he told me he can take in any jokes so we jokes almost everything but as days goes by he became critical and criticism kicks in, he became mindful of the words i used somehow it hurts him

I am really confuse cos I am holding onto my past relationship though me and ex have broken up but I have gave a promise to hold on ....


... I am a person who talks very direct even in message ....

... I was so shy that I really didn't converse much and I avoided all eyes contact and chosen to fell asleep and gave excuses that I have to

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He couldn't handle something you said, regardless of what he thought he could handle ... but, you are ignoring that, so that you can bitch about how he isn't tolerating words you apparently forcing on him. If you weren't forcing him to hear it, then there would be nothing to compel you to come in here to get validation on it.

You admittedly are holding onto the past, and by you saying that you went to him to dump your relationship bullshit onto him .... so assuming that your thoughts are in chronological order, even after he informed you that your words hurt him ... you just ignore it, to continue purposely hurting his feelings.

Then you say you're a direct person ... then turn around and say you were shy and avoided eye contact and chose to fall asleep on him with an excuse ready. Which is a complete contradiction.


so, not only are you gaming him ... you come in here and attempt to play us ... which is a feeble attempt ... which leads to .....


If you actually thought that any person would believe your bullshit, then you're probably not a player ..... just dumb as fuck.

Are you a Taurus?

Oh, a Libra ... of course.



It's a hit or miss with them, no inbetween apparently .... they're either exceptionally bright, or dense as fuck.

i did consult in another virgo guy whom i know at work n showed him the messages of which we 2 communicated as i wanted to seek remedy as i do treasure the friendship between this virguy too

And the words that is hurting him is not regards to my ex issue or my past r/s.
Our conversation is either him picking my faults criticsing me and wanting me to improve but after that when i pick his and in a joking manner he became unhappy.

And lastly I didn't play any games with any of u all
I am direct in talking as in juz purely normal talking but as long as its not matter to the heart.

At my stand I did say from start I never wanted a r/s due to something i encountered and thus i rather keep holding on to my ex or i rather stay single. And the whole issue virguy knew very well he totally knew every single shit that i have went through, he heard me cry etc through out. And I did tell him if I have a choice I rather choose a forever friend (soul mate) who truly understand than a bf or a husband who can't guarentee much and in the end might leave.

He was a divorce so he understood what i meant too. The only thing I don't get it why along the way he knew my stand but suddenly calling me sweet stuff n telling me sweet stuffs. Then after that telling me not interested in r/s cos is hurting and after that telling he girl to enter or not to enter his life is matter of his choice. Sometimes I really don't get it, does it means he treat me as a friend, more than friend or what ?

During meeting he was sweet, gentleman. No physical contact at all.
As usual he does the talking n singing n me juz sitting 1 side tongue tight and not sure want to talk. He came over and check on me if I am ok and later he found me kept staring at cupboard as I never dare to face him and knew from the very start so somehow or rather there's no eye contact at all.

Then a few days later we planned to meet but he mia. And after that we quarrel somehow, and now we seemed to be strangers. In the quarel he said/ somehow explained he wanted space, and now I am so afraid in messaging him. I wanted to message him to ask him why he turned cold etc I wanted to know what he is tinking in his mind I have so many question to ask him but I never dare to ask cos I am really scared in ruining the friendship and I have other worries of which I not sure how to react....


If anyone or any virguy can pls help me out, how am i suppose to go about from here. I am really at lost. I am