Need some Virgo help

Ummm...I think he needs a lesson in tough love...stop worrying about what's going on with him...he's an adult and should learn to verbalize his feelings instead of disrespecting you...it's one thing to throw a tantrum...it's another thing to tell someone you hate them...sounds like he's tired of something though...

Not a virgo but had enough experience with virgo men, maybe i can shed some light on your situation.

First off, I live in the Midwest where it's cold and snowy too. You are using the wrong washer fluid. There is washer fluid that is made for 30 below zero.
Get that your washer fluid won't freeze up.

Now about your virgo guy....it's been my experience most virgo men are mutable and have this need for control. It's not just control of you, it's more about control of their emotions. And when they feel out of control of a situation, they get angry and say things that are hurtful. They don't always understand that this type of behavior is hurtful to the person they are yelling at because to them, it's more about maintaining a balance of control and not having to deal with issues that take them out of their comfort zone.

He also sounds very immature. When I mean immature, i'm not just referring to age etc. He's not very emotionally equipped to deal with anything that threatens his safe haven or whatever is realm of security is in his mind. Virgo's are constantly reworking thoughts in their mind to determine better, more logical solutions. When they can't fix something/someone or can't understand it, it makes them insecure. Some virgo men have more of an emotional capacity than the one you obviously are dating.

Honestly, he has issues with his emotions. And you will never be able to change him or do anything that will give him more capacity to be empathetic. He has to grow up and act like a man. It's been my experience that some virgo men as yours can be manipulative and despite him being the irrational one, he acts as if he's the victim.

You will NEVER be happy with this man because he doesn't have the capacity to love and cherish you in the manner you deserve.

If you really want a clearer and more thorough window to understanding virgo men (not all but the ones that fit into your situation), read this link. You will see yourself in this. Hopefully, you also get some resolve and stand up for yourself.

http://www.keen.com/CommunityServer/UserBlogPosts/MsLisaM/Virgo-Men/624708.aspx

CC, let him teach you how to cook. who knows, it may come in handy IF and WHEN you ever find a man to marry someday. 😉

besides, cooking is actually fun if you have someone you care about to cook for. cooking for one is boring, but it's better than eating processed GMO garbage every day.

turn on some music you like and get busy. you'll be fine. start with simple things like baked chicken, spaghetti, meat loaf, roast etc.

I can understand his paranoid comment about putting his life in danger. Right or wrong, it makes sense for him to want the car to be at full perfomance.

However the rest of it is just out of control emotion in anger.

Step back and don't engage his anger moods. Not your cross to bear. You don't have to pull him out of them, he'll do it by himself. The only support you have to extend is telling him you're there to listen and to support him if he wants to talk calmly.

I've seen Virgos act like that when something in their life put pressure on them and all that anger got expressed at their partners. Might be his work, might be him quitting smoking. Oh you said he hates his job..that's probably it. He's probably having some sort of existential crisis and you're getting the brunt of it.

Again, do not delve into his moods. Don't carry resentment, just don't go there with him emotionally. Step away from his moods and focus on your life.

Posted by Damonica
Okay so I am dating a Virgo Man. We have been together for almost 6 years. For the past few weeks he has been a real a@@! He has just been mean and hurtful at times. The other night we were on our way to the moves and my windshield was dirty, because it snowed the day before and the roads were wet. It is also 10 degrees outside so my windshield fluid is a block of ice. He wanted me to pull over so he could clean the windshield, and did not ask very nicely I might add. It was a dark back road that people on a norm like to do 80 on. The side of the road were non existent do to the snow, and I just didn't feel all that safe pulling over. There is a parking lot for a boat launch at the end of the road so I didn't feel it was a big deal. He totally over reacted, starting yelling at me and calling me names. He said he hated me and was leaving me cause I can't drive and he was sick of me putting his life in danger. At no point was anyone's life in danger. Might I also add I have never had an accident, or driven crazy he just thinks I drive to close to the side of the road. You know so not to side swipe a passing car, if that makes me a bad driver so be it! We get to the movies and he is fine, and acts like nothing ever happen. This morning everything was fine we were laughing and joking. I asked him if he could check the air in my tier when he got home from work, and he starts freaking out on me again! He was again calling me names, and telling me to do it my self, cause I don't do anything. He also started yelling at me to wash the car. It's -4 out who washes the car at that temperature— The water would just freeze on the car! Again 5 minutes later he is telling me I'm being mean to him, and to stop being mad at him. This is not like him at all I know there is clearly something wrong but he hates talking about his feeling. I am hoping for some advice how to pull him out of his head and get him to talk to me. I can't take much more of this crap.

You seem familiar.

Posted by Damonica


He has just been mean and hurtful at times.

He totally over reacted, starting yelling at me and calling me names.

He said he hated me and was leaving me cause I can't drive

I asked him if he could check the air in my tier when he got home from work, and he starts freaking out on me again!

He was again calling me names, and telling me to do it my self, cause I don't do anything.

He also started yelling at me to wash the car.

Again 5 minutes later he is telling me I'm being mean to him, and to stop being mad at him.

I can't take much more of this crap.

Apparently you can take this crap and abuse. Ever think of asking yourself WHY? Do you realize the reason why he is getting worse is because your inaction by remaining with him is telling him this treatment toward you is just fine. You are giving him permission to treat you this way. Again...WHY?

Posted by Damonica

He quit smoking in Jan.

Whatever you do ... make sure you stay the Princess who is entitled. After all, we wouldn't want you to be understanding of how hard it is to quit an addiction .. because that would be considerate and Princesses don't do consideration, unless it's catering to them.

Posted by Damonica

He quit smoking in Jan.

Whatever you do ... make sure you stay the Princess who is entitled. After all, we wouldn't want you to be understanding of how hard it is to quit an addiction .. because that would be considerate and Princesses don't do consideration, unless it's catering to them.

oh, and btw ..... since you are driving with a frozen windshield, then you ARE putting his life in danger, as well as everyone else on the road.


But, whatever you do ... make sure you don't use the correct fluid, because Princesses usually don't like doing the right thing ... unless of course, it's catering to them.

Posted by Damonica

For the past few weeks he has been a real a@@!

Quoting just in case you try to backtrack and lie.

Because we wouldn't want you to look any more stupid than you already do.