New virgo boy doesn't text me for days

I met a 21yo virgo guy out one sat night & cos I wasn't exactly sure if I was interested him would have inadvertently 'played hard to get' on the dance floor. I ended up kissing him briefly & he held me while we waited for a cab.. We went back to mine & only kissed/cuddled. Sunday we hung out all day - his mates popped in and we chatted with them then that afternoon we went to their place for a BBQ.. Things were great - he held my hand in the grocery store, and we lay all over each other/cuddled up infront of mates, he called me baby/girl - from what I perceived - he was totally stoked to have me. That night we spent the night apart - just texted each other to say we'd had heaps of fun, etc.. Monday he text me thru day - but he asked a few times - why I wanted him (virgo self-criticism?)I went to his that night on his request & we ended up, after much persuasion on his part, sleeping together. Tuesday was the same. I had told him that next year I have time off work to travel and am going to do a ski season in Canada - when he knew this he'd said why did he have to meet me now, when I'm leaving.

The following night we just text msgd one another as it was an unspoken assumption we needed a proper nights sleep.. However, on thursday I texted him (the first time i had initiated the contact - ok yes i was hooked on this cute virgo) & asked whether we could have sleepovers that night. He said he had his mates over & not that night - I was taking my time to text him back - so as not to be too eager & he thought i was shitty at him for not wanting to see him & then was like 'baby i miss you... i want to cuddle you.. etc you can come over now' - but i ended up just stayin home cos didnt want to be 2nd choice. he also said that he didn't I left it friday & saturday - waiting for him to text me and he didn't - on sat night i went out & hoped i would see him but he didnt go out so i texted him to say i only wanted him and none of the guys out were as cute as him.

Sunday morning - he texted me at 7am asking whether his mate hit on me or if i picked up followed by lol xxxx - he was much different however in his manner - usually he'd texted me with affectionate names such as girl/baby and with xxx but these didnt have anything like that. I said i was cranky that he hadnt text me all day fri or sat & he replied that i hadn't text him either. i also asked if we could hang out and go to the beach - but he said he was busy with his dad. see next msg.. to get 2 point

ok.. so.. during these messages i asked him numerous times if he was interested or i was wasting my time.. he wrote a msg sayin he didnt wanna get burnt - that i'm sexy as & fun - but I'm leaving.. ' i txt bak to say that we should just have fun & he never replied to it - later i sent him another text asking 'so when you gonna take me out to dinner boy?' to which i got no response.

On Monday - he randomly text me saying he'd seen me at the shops previous night, but i hadn't looked at him - again he said he was nothing special when i said that i wish i'd seen him, & then i told him he's gorgeous as & then he again asked why I think he's so good - that there's heaps better out there & he wants to keep hooking up but he'll fall for me & its pointless (cos im goin o/s)

I text him back to say 'who cares about the future (its still 4 months away) & that we should just have fun & get to know each other' & didn't hear back from him all day.. Later that night I sent another one to say 'you have me bad - i can't stop thinking about you & don't worry about falling for me - as I've already fallen' & again - still didn't hear back. So, i left it - didn't text him again.

He finally wrote back saying 'im shocked. i don't know what to say or think' & i replied - i didnt mean anything too deep just that fallen for the fun we'd had the previous wkend & that would like to have more fun with him & see if it leads further & if not enjoy his company in mean time.. Again - no reply.

Tuesday he texted me 'hey girl wat u up to' and that i was coming over to his for sleepovers & was all back to normal calling me girl again, etc.. so i went over & it was slightly weird cos hadn't seen him for a wk & had a chat about the fact that Im not someone who will go o/s & sleep around - if i was with someone then i will be thinkin of them whole time & said that's what i did last yr in europe with a guy i wasnt even officially with. (im a taurean - i possess a lot of qualities he should like as a virgo) I asked him wat he thought - but he didn't give a lot away - he just said he had a lot to think about. Again, left wed morning after a fun night & then didnt hear from him..

So... I wanna know:
1) Is he interested? - Yes, he's cold at times - but then also affectionate too
2) How long will he be like this for (wks/months/yrs?) - I'm used to a guy wanting to text me thru the day to see how i am to show me he's thinkin about me or to find out when he can see me next
3) Will

You're sending him mixed signals ... you can't do that to a Virgo and expect him to be able to go with the flow of things .. his mind won't allow him to just wing it when his heart may be invested.

Relationships are a serious matter to a Virgo when the potential is present for thier hearts to be invested.

"he asked a few times - why I wanted him (virgo self-criticism?)"

I wouldn't think this was self-criticism .. rather him trying to determine your intentions with him. He's going to view you and the potential relationship through a microscope ... and wiegh everything you say and do, to see if there is a balance. So, if you send him mixed signals .. his radar will surely pick up on the fact that something isn't right with this picture.

For example ... you wanted to sleep over one night and he said that night wasn't good for him because he was having friends over. Then when he was available to spend time with you, you backed off from him because you don't want to be second choice.

Second choice? Does this mean he can't have friends if he's to be with you?

Anyway ... you texted him to say that he's the only one you want, and all the other guys aren't as cute as him.

All of that ^^^^^ is suggesting to him that you are looking at being with him in a serious light ... you want to be first in his life, you tell him he's the only one.

During communication through texts for a couple days, you ask numerous times, if he is interested in you, or, are you wasting your time with him.


Again, that ^^^^^^ is sending him the signal that you are seriously interested in being in a relationship with him.

He expresses his concern about being burnt ... for him to express this is a clear indication that he is hestitant about your intentions with his heart. For a person who is sure, won't express this kind of concern. So, there must be red flags waving on his end, as he analyzes your intentions with him.

Then once he voices this concern about being hesitant because of the burn-factor ... you start responding back saying such things as ...

"we should just have fun"
"I text him back to say 'who cares about the future"

Then turn around and say .... "you have me bad - i can't stop thinking about you & don't worry about falling for me - as I've already fallen' & again" ..............

Those are probably red flags to him .. to make him think he is all there is .. then say you don't care about the future, you just want to have fun with him ... then tell him you have already fallen for him.

He wrote back ... shocked, didn't know what to say or how to reply. And that's because you have sent him to completely different messages. One is serious, the other is frivilous. You explain to him what you meant, and your explanation implies it wasn't deep.

Still, though, he must want to attempt to see where this goes because he's still in contact with you and asking you questions about your intentions with this relationship .... because he has told you that he has a lot to think about.



You can't play around with a Virgo like this, confused Taurus, and expect him to just go with the flow of ..

I want you .... I just want to have fun
you're the only one for me .. I don't care about the future


Virgo's don't work that way. If you want him to look at you with real interest, other than sleep-overs ... then you're going to have to present yourself as if your emotions are stable, you're going to have to have relationship goals ..... and most definitely, you CANNOT flip flop back and forth between making him think you are all into him and he's your only man you want to be with and then tell him you are just in it for the fun.

You have seriously confused this man.

hmm ok.. man i am so into him - but cos ive only known him for a wk don't want to be too full on - but also want him to know how i feel which is why i've sent the strong ones - i guess that makes sense that i may have confused him - but i am also so confused by him! cos he's young & has never really had gf's i don't wanna be all 'i want you and i to be forever'

From talking to other girls he may not be that faithful til he is def with someone - i've spoken to girls he's been with & they said he's only after one thing & that they've hooked up & then he's been with another girl the next night. Why am i interested still? They've also said that he's a great guy & others have said that he speaks highly of girls unlike other guys.

is there anyway to get him to tell me how he feels and whether he's interested? or will i have to wait until he decides. Even this wkend I am going away & he said 'you'll pick up down there anyway' to which i've said that all i will do is want to be with him & think the other guys have nothing in comparison & its a girls wkend. Is this ok to say?

A week is like a nanosecond to a Virgo .... because they are so cautious and have to thoroughly analyze everything .. it's not uncommon for a girl to wait months and months and months for him to open up.

So, the first order of business is to find your patience .. because a Virgo man can't be rushed.

Secondly .. if I were you, I would think seriously about the below comment that was told to you, as it relates to any impressions you may be giving him ...

"& they said he's only after one thing & that they've hooked up & then he's been with another girl the next night."

If this is true of him, then sleeping with him this early on will likely make him think you are just another roll in the sack.

If this is true of him ... then your prudence would likely speak volumes.