Putting your heart back together

So Virgos what do you do to cope until you feel better if someone broke your heart? and how do you act when you face the one that hurt you?

Posted by virgodreamz
So Virgos what do you do to cope until you feel better if someone broke your heart? and how do you act when you face the one that hurt you?

heartbroken? Yet "this is not end of the story".

One person who broke my virgo sister's heart one year ago tries now to get her back. He has even apologized for his behaviour.

You know whenever I start a new job, I have bad feelings how the others are strange towards me. But experience has shown, give time, we will be friends and partners in sport club and things like that.

So focus on "THIS WILL CHANGE".
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ps: I know from my virgo sister that she enjoy analysing/discussing disappointments and maintaining negative feelings. PA knows what I'm talking about.

Virgodreamz,

I'm sorry to hear about the way your heart feels right now.

I'm a virgo myself and I know fully well how devoted I can be when I let myself love somebody...

You asked for ways to cope and ways to act afterwords...

As far as copying, I found that trying new things you are passionate about, traveling, living new adventures, and spending time with good friends is key. You might meet some awesome new friends in new places and have new memories to cherish, so I would register in some new fun classes, plan trips, and/or re-focus on something you always wanted to do but couldn't yet. In the meantime, I also re-fcous on my relationship with God too because I know he knows everything about me and yet He loves me deeply...I dont know about your believe systems, but there has to be someone or something that brings a sense of safety and trust to you, that is another place to go to mend your heart day by day.

As far as the way I interact with exes. I strive to not hold any grudges, no matter how bad things could have been or ended, yet I am smart enough to know if I can trust this person again or not. So it depends on who the person was and what happened before I decide to be friends with them eventually or not. All my exes are acquaintances and all of them know we are in okay terms now BUT not all of them are my friends, and none of them are my closest friends.

For me, once its over, it's over, and I need some time off. I can't rush into a friendship with any ex, unless they really weren't anything huge in my life (we dated briefly and with no feelings involved) because like I said before when I love someone....I really do love someone, so I can't move from that to just friends automatically, I was not wired that way, my heart needs time to heal and my mind needs time to ponder and meditate upon the whole experience.

Cherish all the good times, have a balanced view of the good and the bad, but I would encourage you to seek the peace your heart and mind need away from that ex for a while...and consider being 'friends' with your ex only if this is someone you can trust and someone worth that chance...and even then, take a very good time (the longer the better) to take care of yourself first. If you let in your life to soon (as a friend) it could get messy, complicated, and you wont be able to move on. Finally, remember (continues below)

...sometimes we need to let go in order to see things for what they were, if that love comes back to you after you have found happiness and peace in your heart again things could have a new chance, but if that loves is gone for good, perhaps it was never meant to be...at least not at this time. Also when you truly love someone you desire their best, their happiness. So many people are so selfish in relationships that they dont see that perhaps they arent the best person for that other person at that time...or ever, this doesnt mean any of them is not good enough, not at all, it just means they dont compliment and meet each other needs in the way they should for now or ever.

Give your heart a chance to rest friend, remember there are many things the world needs you to help with (so many things), volunteer in things you care for, travel, meet new people, read new things, learn from all the bad times, cherish all the good ones, and know that you are valued, loved, and uniquely beautiful...just as much as everyone else. Perhaps this door is closed for some clarity to come into your life or for some new door to open 🙂

All the best!

ABee

I try to maintain good relations with all my exs.

The same applies to people who broke my heart, which probably happened all of twice in my years.
I just occupy myself and remove my focus from them, and gradually adapt to the new niche they allow.

Hi Shaks,Dwelling,Virgogotme,ABee and Cajun

Thank you all for taking time to give me some of your advice (which really helps)
I'm actually going to keep all your words copied on my computer to help me stay focused while things are not so nice right now.

Thanks 🙂

"ps: I know from my virgo sister that she enjoy analysing/discussing disappointments and maintaining negative feelings. PA knows what I'm talking about."



Yes, I know exactly what you are talking about. Virgo's don't know, though .. I mean, they have no awareness that they are driven forward on negative energy .. they actually think it's positive energy.


Instead of being able to wipe a slate clean and start over ... they will actually harbor what went wrong with intentions of making it right ... but, still, it's this 'what went wrong' that they are focused on for change.



"So Virgos what do you do to cope until you feel better if someone broke your heart? and how do you act when you face the one that hurt you?"

What Virgo's usually do is carrying this around with them, and attempt to cover it up with something distracting ..... point is though, you have nothing to distract yourself from if you actually just let it go.

What act any way when in the presence of a person to whom your relationship is finished? Why still be hurt, to even have to 'act' a certain way?

Another person cannot hurt you if you aren't owning the feelings associated with the injury.

If you have a relationship with a person and it's over, then why still be hurt by it? It's done, it's over ..... if you are still hurt in front of this wo/man than it means that you are electing to carry this burden around with you instead of letting yourself live free without the pain.

This loops back around to point .... if you hurt in front of him/her eventhough you have the choice not to ... then you are measuring life according to this negative energy and what are you suppose to do to re/act within this negative energy.

People, for the most part, have this false belief that others are responsible for how they are suppose to feel.


If you are feeling like you have to behave a different way if in his presence ... then this is essentially, making a decision that this other person is going to be responsible for emotional well-being.

If in his/her presence .... you are on eggshells, you are exceptionally arrogant, you are unordinarily shy, you are anything that is different from your normal disposition .... then this means that you are awaiting upon his reaction/response to you, so you can behave accordingly.

That is putting a hell of a lot of your personal power over yourself into the hands of the person who hurt you .... don't you think?