SeeingRed
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Question for the Virgo older sisters? ;)
Hey there SeeingRed,
Sorry I'm not an older Virgo sibling but in fact a younger to an older Cappie sis.
One thing you have to know about Virgo is that "meddle" is our middle name irrespective of our place on the 'sibling chain'. Older, middle or last, we are in your business whether you want us to be or not. lol. We feel it is our duty to keep everyone in line and potentially keep them from making 'bad decisions'. This is especially true for family and friends. We are bossy, our way is always right, and we are extremely critical of everyone and everything so, if you have that boyfriend or girlfriend that we don't approve of, ten times out of ten, we WILL make it known, and usually, in less than subtle ways...
The good news however is that all of the criticism and pragmatism really does come from a good place. Honest. We genuinely want people to do well and be the best that they can be because 'perfection' is our motto and we are constantly striving for it ourselves (yes we know perfection is just an illusion but we reach for it anyway). We're wired to "call it how we see it" as we have no desire to beat around the bush. The words may be harsh and the criticism might cut really deep and while we feel that it really is for your own good, oddly enough, this is what usually gets us into trouble. We always think we know what's best for everyone around us and we can often be found dispensing unsolicited "self improvement" advice much to the chagrin of that helpless 'subject' we've decided will be our pupil for the moment.
As a younger Virgo sibling to an older Cappie sis, I can't tell you the countless arguments we've had because I stuck my nose where it didn't belong. She sees me as meddling but I see it as helping. This is usually where the Virgo is misunderstood. Although we're not perfect (we just think we are), we want everyone to do the right thing because we always want to do the right thing.
Sorry I'm not an older Virgo sibling but in fact a younger to an older Cappie sis.
One thing you have to know about Virgo is that "meddle" is our middle name irrespective of our place on the 'sibling chain'. Older, middle or last, we are in your business whether you want us to be or not. lol. We feel it is our duty to keep everyone in line and potentially keep them from making 'bad decisions'. This is especially true for family and friends. We are bossy, our way is always right, and we are extremely critical of everyone and everything so, if you have that boyfriend or girlfriend that we don't approve of, ten times out of ten, we WILL make it known, and usually, in less than subtle ways...
The good news however is that all of the criticism and pragmatism really does come from a good place. Honest. We genuinely want people to do well and be the best that they can be because 'perfection' is our motto and we are constantly striving for it ourselves (yes we know perfection is just an illusion but we reach for it anyway). We're wired to "call it how we see it" as we have no desire to beat around the bush. The words may be harsh and the criticism might cut really deep and while we feel that it really is for your own good, oddly enough, this is what usually gets us into trouble. We always think we know what's best for everyone around us and we can often be found dispensing unsolicited "self improvement" advice much to the chagrin of that helpless 'subject' we've decided will be our pupil for the moment.
As a younger Virgo sibling to an older Cappie sis, I can't tell you the countless arguments we've had because I stuck my nose where it didn't belong. She sees me as meddling but I see it as helping. This is usually where the Virgo is misunderstood. Although we're not perfect (we just think we are), we want everyone to do the right thing because we always want to do the right thing.
Continued...
We really have a knack for seeing a situation inside out and helping others avoid the pitfalls but the challenge for the Virgo is to learn to keep shut and wait for someone to ask us what we think or what are our ideas on how they should deal with a situation. It also wouldn't hurt to soften our approach. Let's just say our 'delivery' can really sting. You will find that many therapists, counselors, mentors, psychologists, and self-help personalities etc, are born under the sign of Virgo. This is because we really do make great advisors due to our excellent analytical skills and desire to serve. Our opinions are usually respected and people know that they can always turn to us for help. Again however, it's our blunt factor and 'no holds barred' approach that can be a real turn-off and discourage others to seek our involvement in matters where we could be of great help.
So yes, we can be very critical of our siblings especially if we share a close relationship with them, and however the sibling's disposition in the relationship is affected due to the critical opinion of the Virgo, I guess is all relative. It's really up to the sibling to decide. My sister respects my opinion so much so that many of my 'criticisms' definitely inspired her to make changes in some of her relationships whether they were platonic or romantic. It all depends. Our criticism is not necessarily deliberate. For a Virgo, criticizing is like breathing. It's just how we do. lol. All in all, because we are always thinking and processing almost all of the time, perhaps it can be deliberate. Personally there have been more than a few times when I deliberately criticized my sister in reference to a relationship.
This is just a general rule btw as all Virgos may not operate this way.
We really have a knack for seeing a situation inside out and helping others avoid the pitfalls but the challenge for the Virgo is to learn to keep shut and wait for someone to ask us what we think or what are our ideas on how they should deal with a situation. It also wouldn't hurt to soften our approach. Let's just say our 'delivery' can really sting. You will find that many therapists, counselors, mentors, psychologists, and self-help personalities etc, are born under the sign of Virgo. This is because we really do make great advisors due to our excellent analytical skills and desire to serve. Our opinions are usually respected and people know that they can always turn to us for help. Again however, it's our blunt factor and 'no holds barred' approach that can be a real turn-off and discourage others to seek our involvement in matters where we could be of great help.
So yes, we can be very critical of our siblings especially if we share a close relationship with them, and however the sibling's disposition in the relationship is affected due to the critical opinion of the Virgo, I guess is all relative. It's really up to the sibling to decide. My sister respects my opinion so much so that many of my 'criticisms' definitely inspired her to make changes in some of her relationships whether they were platonic or romantic. It all depends. Our criticism is not necessarily deliberate. For a Virgo, criticizing is like breathing. It's just how we do. lol. All in all, because we are always thinking and processing almost all of the time, perhaps it can be deliberate. Personally there have been more than a few times when I deliberately criticized my sister in reference to a relationship.
This is just a general rule btw as all Virgos may not operate this way.
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