quick question.....

... are virgos by nature usually possessive? Do they have the tendency to turn a bit psychotic if they don't have their way?

Posted by Mars.In.Aries
... are virgos by nature usually possessive? Do they have the tendency to turn a bit psychotic if they don't have their way?

Yes!

virgos arent possessive, thats more up capricorn or scorpio's alley. virgo are too detached from people and life in general to be possessive. they are however highly controlling and feel the need to have everything under their strict order. so if they feel you are becoming a bitt too out of their control they may try to bring in the reigns. you may be misconceiving that as possessiveness?

Of course, we can't overlook Aries.In.Aries other testimonies about her Virgo when she described how she fucks with his head and thinks it to be perfectly fine to embarrass him in public, and then reward him with pussy when he finally caves into her .... so, remember all those things when you answer her question because what she is calling "psychotic" is more likely him defending himself against the emotional abuse she inflicts upon him.

Aries.In.Aries


I meant Mars.In.Aries .. obviously.

yes...but most are naturally psychos so not sure how to tell the diff

Posted by P-Angel
Of course, we can't overlook Aries.In.Aries other testimonies about her Virgo when she described how she fucks with his head and thinks it to be perfectly fine to embarrass him in public, and then reward him with pussy when he finally caves into her .... so, remember all those things when you answer her question because what she is calling "psychotic" is more likely him defending himself against the emotional abuse she inflicts upon him.

yes..... I'm the quisessential femme fatale.

I never did these things that you claim...... I'm actually going through a very difficult situation with somebody that I care about and means too much to me. Fuck off with your tirade against me.

Posted by wgamador
That is our worst quality.
I remember being possessive once I knew i was going to be left behind. sad.

I don't want to leave him behind..... but if he continues to act this way, trying to control rather than trying to sort it out and make things better, then he will be left out of my life permantely.

He's angry right now.... I don't know how to get that message across.

Posted by Ccdarling
Not a Virgo myself but definitely true. When they do not get their way they become very possessive, jealous, and neurotic. I say possessive because sometimes they are even jealous of your same sex friends or freedom.

hmmm........

Posted by zen
virgos arent possessive, thats more up capricorn or scorpio's alley. virgo are too detached from people and life in general to be possessive. they are however highly controlling and feel the need to have everything under their strict order. so if they feel you are becoming a bitt too out of their control they may try to bring in the reigns. you may be misconceiving that as possessiveness?

okay, so maybe possessiveness isn't the right word. And if he's trying to bring in the reigns, then he's doing it in a very aggressive manner.

I live with his best friend, and he thinks that he can fuck with me because of that. I talked to my roommate about not having him come around for a nit of time so that I can have my space away from him, and he agrees with me in leui of the situation why I called things off.

Virgo thought he would still have access with me that way, and when I told him that he's not welcome at the house for the time being, he tried to tell me how things were going to be. I asked him to just let it go and to leave me alone and leave my private space alone. He texted my roommate, my roommate told him the same thing, now I'm a bitch for "ruining" his friendship, and every little thing is my fault.

He's trying to flip the script on me. He's trying to gain control of the situation. But now that I know the truth, he can't manipulate me. And now I'm blocking access to him. And now even his brother and his friends are telling him how much he fucked up, and I know he hates the exposure, but he's the one who did this, not me. I'm re-acting to his actions, and communication has always been a problem with us.

I've put in my efforts when things went wrong. But even my loyalty has my limits because he betrayed my trust.

Posted by Ccdarling
Yeah they tend to try and make you out to be the bad guy, while they are the guilty party. Not always but have had this happen a couple times with a Virgo. They make it out as they have done nothing wrong and you are just tripping and crazy. They like a woman they can control, who will sit at home while they go out and have a good time. Cake with all the toppings!!!! While not all are like this there are quite a few who I have known that are.

... *grin* 😄

As nice as that sounds, I still think we would get tired/bored of it.

Yes, I can be possessive, I probably am most of the time.

I believe my girlfriend should be mine and nobody elses.

Women who do this well tend to be Water and Earth signs.
Women who do NOT do this well tend to be Fire and Air signs.

maybe you can compromise? i forgot that you lived with his friend. i mean, i would sorta be pissed too if someone cut off access to a close friend of mine based on something that doesn't relate to me and my friend. i mean, the issue is the two of you and to drag a third party into it isn't fair.

HOWEVER, you didn't exactly drag did you? you live with the guy and i can imagine that it's difficult to come home and see the virgo chillin in the spot when you're trying to get over and away from him.

maybe you can tell him that right now, you need some space but you respect their friendship and that on days when they will be hanging out at the house, you will need advance notice so you can be elsewhere...with the agreement between you and your roommate that he's to skee-daddle before you get home? i'm not saying that you have to leave your house and go to the park or something but treat like you're in a dorm situation. roommate is bringing over sex. you don't want to be in the room with roommate and sex. so you leave while sex is there and return after sex is gone.

my point is, they were friends before, they're going to be friends after and eventually your roommate will resent being in the middle. i don't think your roomy deserves that do you?

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Posted by Ccdarling
Yeah they tend to try and make you out to be the bad guy, while they are the guilty party. Not always but have had this happen a couple times with a Virgo. They make it out as they have done nothing wrong and you are just tripping and crazy. They like a woman they can control, who will sit at home while they go out and have a good time. Cake with all the toppings!!!! While not all are like this there are quite a few who I have known that are.

... *grin* 😄

As nice as that sounds, I still think we would get tired/bored of it.

Yes, I can be possessive, I probably am most of the time.

I believe my girlfriend should be mine and nobody elses.

Women who do this well tend to be Water and Earth signs.
Women who do NOT do this well tend to be Fire and Air signs.

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hey now!!!!! That's jumping the gun!!!! I was all his and nobody else's, until he was talking to somebody else. So obviously he didn't want me to be his.

And for the record, I have no problem giving up control and allowing a man being possessive over me (in fact I welcome it) but there can't be that struggle. It has to be on equal terms, not because he can control me.

Shoot, I'm still his, if only he even took a break to realize that.

Posted by Ccdarling
Yeah they tend to try and make you out to be the bad guy, while they are the guilty party. Not always but have had this happen a couple times with a Virgo. They make it out as they have done nothing wrong and you are just tripping and crazy. They like a woman they can control, who will sit at home while they go out and have a good time. Cake with all the toppings!!!! While not all are like this there are quite a few who I have known that are.

I'm not into generalization either, but the bottom line is, when you've done something wrong, you've done something wrong. If you fix it, it can get better. If you harbor on it, continuing to play games( the blame game at this point) then things aren't going to be fixed, then are going to snow ball into other issues. I refuse to go there with him. I still respect him, even though he did shitty. Yes, he didn't cheat on me, but he was off trying to establish an emotional connection with another female.

That just plays into my insecurities..... then I start asking how long he has done this, how many, yadda yadda yadda..... I find that a very common Virgo trait is avoidence. This is actually something that is infultrating in many areas of his life, because he would rather avoid, then confront. And I'm an Aries, so I would rather confront and conquer than avoid. The only reason why an Aries would avoid something is because they know what type of action would spur out of us. I'm trying to avoid getting ugly with him, even though he is being ugly to me......

If only he would admit and step up to his fault, take the responsability of the matter, and have it in his control, then I would have so much more respect for him. Instead, he wants to act like a child.

psh. it's easy to get virgos to admit doing wrong. you've just got to make a game of it.

of course virgos can be possessive.

but his behavior doesn't sound like virgo behavior. it sounds like the selfish and irrational behavior of a drug addict. yeah, some of the tendencies are firmly virgo. but most (sober/non-fucked up) virgos have too much dignity to do what he's doing.

oh gawd.... the other girl contacted me via facebook. I ended up giving her my number saying that if she had questions, I have answers. She called right away, and we ended up talking for 3 hours!!!!

She's actually a really cool person. She's moving here next week, so we're actually going to meet up for lunch one day. I told her everything. She's hurt, but she needed to hear what I had to say, and I had to hear what she had to say. So funny how women can sense each other out. Things happen for a reason..... what puzzles me is this..... why would he be so sloppy— I mean, he had to of known that one day her and I would talk. He would leave shit up on his facebook page for her to see and for me to see, so it's not like he really made it a "secret" to those who know what's going on.

She said that she texted him that she was going to send me a message, and he encouraged for her to communicate with me. Expect I think he thought he had her around his finger and that she would take his side. Except the moment she heard that I wasn't fighting for him, she started to question why I wasn't being aggressive, and that's when she realized the grand scheme of things......

Wow..... this boy is full of drama!!!! I can't believe the amount of dog crap he allows to pile up in his life. I still don't understand why he is being sloppy.... he plays games, so there is a reason for it. He's not that stupid, unless he truly believes that he is the master of manipulating women.

TS: yes, I agree with what you said, and that's exactly how I'm treating it. I've told him to stay away from the house for a while so that we can have space from each other. Truthfully, his friend (my roommate) doesn't even want to hang out with him, because he thinks that he's created a bunch of drama and he doesn't want to hear it.

^^^seen this sooo many times before. the question now is, which one of you is going to keep dealing with him...or will both of you continue?

Posted by tubbyscubby
^^^seen this sooo many times before. the question now is, which one of you is going to keep dealing with him...or will both of you continue?

I'm done... he's out of my life. She's free to deal with him how she sees fit now that she knows the truth. She said that she's going to talk to him today. She's more emotionally involved with him since I won't give him the time of day nor will I listen to his bullshit. I'm sure he will emotionally tangle her up even more. What choice does she have— She just packed up her life to move here, and now shit is blowing up in her face. I feel for her..... she's in a rough spot. But we had our talk. She came to me, and I was honest with her. My hands have been cleaned about the situation and I am no longer involved in that bullshit......

I hope she does the same..... she's smarter than I thought, and I have respect for her.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
yes we're possesive, but we are fully aware of when we are being possesive and thats what makes us different from other signs 😉

What's up PIMP!!! (Looking at the new avatar) hah 🙂

shaka kinda looks like Ohno ice-skating kid...... or is it just me—

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
yes we're possesive, but we are fully aware of when we are being possesive and thats what makes us different from other signs 😉

You guys can also be ugly, spiteful little fuckers too..... lol. Def. don't like it when someone has you figured out. Usually it's you guys who figure people out. But when the tables turn..... oh boy!!!!!!!!!!!