SELFISH OR SWEET

So me and my virgo boyfriend have been on a break for about 1 month. We had a bad fight and he said he needed time. We have been dating for about a year. By the way I am a pisces. Well he has been unemployed for about 4 months and it has been very trying on our relationship. I think he was just overwhelmed but he has been calling me this week telling me that he misses me and that he loves me and that he is sorry for not appreciating the amazing woman i have been to him. That i have been his support system through out this entire time and it would have been so much harder without me and that he thanks me for being by his side. Well long story short he called today to ask me out on a date tomorrow night. Unfortunately I already had plans, my friends engagement celebration. So we decided to go out after i get out of work. He called me back to say that he was going to be honest, that he was disappointed that after not seeing me for a month that i could not see him. That he understands its for a good ocassion but if it was a normal night out with the girls he would have liked it if i would have canceled. that my friends should be understanding that i havent seen my boyfriend in almost a month. at first i agreed with him but then i feel like wait i didnt ask u for a break, u asked me. u cant just waltz in and out of my life and expect me drop everything. u should be understanding and wait until i have time. i know his intentions were out of him missing me but a part of me feels it is very selfish. but i am happy he is back 🙂any words of advice?

I told him and he agreed and saw where i was coming from. He just wanted to see me but realized how it could seem selfish. So problem solved! 🙂

But we are all adults aren't we? So you can SAY MORE.

Of course we can be sure. It is anonymous. Very difficult for someone to track back what has been written. Heck, as you know I've written about a Virgo guy and he can't check it out since I'm writing in English. I live in Norway but I'm an American. Sure he can read English but he wouldn't know I've written about him. Oh, I have still contact with him which is very surreal.

Mystical

I can handle the big guy so I'm not running anywhere.

You go Dy. I love the pun that goes on on the Virgo board. It's hilarious. Sometimes when I've been a little down I've just had to read what you and Strings have written and it cracks me up. This is one the reasons I've become so fascinated with Virgos because of the way you Virgos say things. The Virgo guy in my case just cracks me up. You know the odd thing is he speaks to me in Norwegian which I fully understand and I speak to him in Norwegian. One time when he was drunk he spoke English to me and I Norwegian to him. Talk about a turn around.

Yeah well, I have no idea what the future holds so I can't say. The whole thing is a mystery to me. Nothing I ever thought would happen to me but then again most things happen for a reason. I just haven't figured out the reason yet.

No, I'm not a Virgo.I'm an Aquarian. I totally agree with you in quoting Paul McCartney, "Maybe I'm Amazed".

I am completely amazed by this Virgo guy to say the least. I guess there is a reason why he came into my life. I just haven't figured that out yet or if I'll ever be able to.

You are very lucky to have found happiness with Deb. I think the reason why it's working for the both of you is because you both were ready and the timing couldn't have been more perfect.

Dy,
"Maybe your relationship with your VirGuy is going to take this crazy path..."

Wow, I couldn't have said it any better. Thank you. You could be very right. I'm very stable and well he isn't stable right now. I know I'm the one who can knock some sense into that thick scull of his but I don't want to do too much now. Right now he's sewing his wild oats like the EMIV Virgos do. One day he will get tired of that I'm sure. More than likely I would have moved on by then but one can never say never. I'm not giving up though but I can't wait forever and he has to come to the realization to grow up.

Yes, timing is everything. I just seem to always fall for guys when the timing is off. I got a knack for that. Either they are bad boys (which I always attract) or the silent types which aren't exciting enough. I would love to get with someone in the medical field as I'm educating myself already in the medical field. I'm always friends with guys but sometimes there is always one who catches my attention and then I pull back because I get a little scared emotionally. I have to stop that. Therefore with this Virgo guy I've gone full force and learnt a lot in the mean time.

Dy,
"HE may never come to realize that fact; but, if he does, and if you're ready for him..."

Very true. He has told me he just gets through the day. I don't even think he knows himself what he wants. I'm going to be his friend as I feel that is what he needs because he is so mixed up. I'm not going anywhere which I think he knows. Ready for him? That would be completely shocking to me if he ever made up his mind. He drifts from time to time.

Dy,

Very true. I'm a very logical person in everything I do, except once and it's been with this Virgo guy. My logical thinking went right out the window so now I've experienced that. I didn't like it at all. Therefore I have my logically thinking right back where it should be. I'm finally at peace and not going to worry about the what if and what ever. It's been crazy. Therefore I hope if I ever meet another Virgo guy, he won't be as mixed up as the one I've encountered.

Dy,
"Sorry, shouldn't watch The Simpsons and type on DXP at the same time!!"

There's the Virgo humor again. The Simpsons were very popular here in Norway also. Cool show.